sjayblanco
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Excessive liking on social media
Social Media is the devil Bobby Booshay
Still never knew how you could tell what pictures someone was liking? Is there a way to check? Why go that far? Honestly I feel like it's too much jumping through hoops to keep one person in check.
What's done in the dark will eventually come to light... I just wait and see, no time to be keeping up with what they're doing all the time.
What's done in the dark will eventually come to light... I just wait and see, no time to be keeping up with what they're doing all the time.
It's a petty consideration, but I admit I felt a little bad when I got to know my boyfriend does it occasionally... he told me it doesn't mean anything and this is why he doesn't like my pictures. He says it's not special anymore if they have been liked by other guys. He would comment on mine, but not like lol. I managed to accept this argument, although I still find it odd
Men own the male gaze after all: a good looking woman cannot escape it
Men own the male gaze after all: a good looking woman cannot escape it
Posted by FragranceThis line sounds so... umm.. idk it makes me uncomfortable ?
He says it's not special anymore if they have been liked by other guys.
Posted by TeenaWhy? ?Posted by FragranceThis line sounds so... umm.. idk it makes me uncomfortable ?
He says it's not special anymore if they have been liked by other guys.
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Posted by FragranceLol! Idk... I mean I can't explain it well.Posted by TeenaWhy? ?Posted by FragranceThis line sounds so... umm.. idk it makes me uncomfortable ?
He says it's not special anymore if they have been liked by other guys.
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I'd understand if he didn't like it to start with...but he thinking your pic is not special anymore coz someone else liked it before ?....*blink*....?
Can I just say I am an excessive liker... It doesn't cost anything and it makes people feel good plus I am easily amused.... Y'all are reading way to much into it!
Posted by TeenaI also didn't explain well lolPosted by FragranceLol! Idk... I mean I can't explain it well.Posted by TeenaWhy? ?Posted by FragranceThis line sounds so... umm.. idk it makes me uncomfortable ?
He says it's not special anymore if they have been liked by other guys.
I'd understand if he didn't like it to start with...but he thinking your pic is not special anymore coz someone else liked it before ?....*blink*....?
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He means his "like" wouldn't be special... but the picture itself he likes (without a like) 😄
Go figure
Posted by FragranceHahah..that does make a difference.Posted by TeenaI also didn't explain well lolPosted by FragranceLol! Idk... I mean I can't explain it well.Posted by TeenaWhy? ?Posted by FragranceThis line sounds so... umm.. idk it makes me uncomfortable ?
He says it's not special anymore if they have been liked by other guys.
I'd understand if he didn't like it to start with...but he thinking your pic is not special anymore coz someone else liked it before ?....*blink*....?
He means his "like" wouldn't be special... but the picture itself he likes (without a like) 😄
Go figure
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True...like wouldn't mean anything. I mean he definitely doesn't need to necessarily like it to show that he likes it?
Posted by sjayblancoimo in certain situations for certain people yes.
Could it possibly ruin a relationship ?
Example: Instagram , liking multiple pictures of the same girl , isnt it disrespectful to the other partner ?
Personally I believe in a more closed relationship. Once I have a love I have no business hanging out or paying attention to other random women, except family.I'd expect her to be the same way, and if she wasn't I'd quickly leave her. Unfortunately even if she had a best friend since childhood that was a male I would up and leave her immediately before I'd try to change her relationships. Personally I just think too much and won't set myself up for disaster in the future.
Ok I DO have Instagram and I just thought of something. I have a few guy friends and if they post a lot, I will like their stuff cuz they are cool as fuck so it may look like I'm liking their shit cuz I like them when in reality I don't like them like that.. It may be same for the guy or nah idk but I agree with just deleting the Instagram. So it doesn't bother you. I hate to admit but it'd probably bother me a little too UNLESS I knew they were really truly just friends. I normally just like my mans shit but he doesn't fucking care. He likes lots of girls shit but girls post a lot more than men on there. We know this. We take 500 selfies and give not 1 shit
get a guy whos not on social media, and who most of the time just sleeps and works, they are still out there lol
Posted by sjayblancoI've seen it happen: girlfriend noticed how a specific girl was always liking her girlfriend's boyfriend's posts - and girlfriend began to suspect boyfriend was cheating.
Could it possibly ruin a relationship ?
Example: Instagram , liking multiple pictures of the same girl , isnt it disrespectful to the other partner ?
Posted by tizianiIt would be interesting for you to experiment and add your partners on social media and see if your stance changes.Posted by KoniuchaaThe only way I could see this being a problem for me is if they're liking time somehow cut into the time we spend together.
I don't know, many people like to say it's no big deal, but I'm sure if their SO was liking pics of the same man or woman non stop, they wouldn't like it.
Otherwise, I really cannot see what difference it makes. I never have my partners on social media. They can do what they like and, if anything, I hope they would feel like it's interesting enough to share with me if it's that important to them.click to expand
If my significant other was liking pics of the same woman over & over again, yes, u best believe it would bother me.. if it's just here & there then that's different
Posted by tizianiNo, I think experiencing any partner liking to any degree would be interesting enough. This is a dxpnet-level experiment, so correct procedures for a conclusive study need not apply.Posted by LillyPetalI doubt it'd be interesting, because then I'd have to deliberately pick partners who like to different degrees just to get a wide spread of results. And that's just forcing the issue.Posted by tizianiIt would be interesting for you to experiment and add your partners on social media and see if your stance changes.Posted by KoniuchaaThe only way I could see this being a problem for me is if they're liking time somehow cut into the time we spend together.
I don't know, many people like to say it's no big deal, but I'm sure if their SO was liking pics of the same man or woman non stop, they wouldn't like it.
Otherwise, I really cannot see what difference it makes. I never have my partners on social media. They can do what they like and, if anything, I hope they would feel like it's interesting enough to share with me if it's that important to them.
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I have only been using Facebook for like 2 years and only signed up because of a ex wanted me to (Leo) so she can do her meme sharing bragging shit.
It's simple I only like girls pics if We are dating/relationship. Even when I'm single I don't like girls pictures or status because I don't want people assuming/knowing who I'm possibly having sex with. I am private and don't like people in my business and it's all drama and people trying to figure out your life with what you post and do and I'm not with that.
I don't mind if a girl likes pictures etc unless it's all the time. I also take into account how they are on social media before messing with them.
It's simple I only like girls pics if We are dating/relationship. Even when I'm single I don't like girls pictures or status because I don't want people assuming/knowing who I'm possibly having sex with. I am private and don't like people in my business and it's all drama and people trying to figure out your life with what you post and do and I'm not with that.
I don't mind if a girl likes pictures etc unless it's all the time. I also take into account how they are on social media before messing with them.
Posted by tizianiI don't know what I was thinking even suggesting a libra do such a job...Posted by LillyPetalThere's no guarantee I would experience that with a partner. They might not even be into social media, much less liking anything. That's all I meant. If you were going to do an experiment like that, you'd have to get around and have several partners to make it worthwhile.Posted by tizianiNo, I think experiencing any partner liking to any degree would be interesting enough. This is a dxpnet-level experiment, so correct procedures for a conclusive study need not apply.Posted by LillyPetalI doubt it'd be interesting, because then I'd have to deliberately pick partners who like to different degrees just to get a wide spread of results. And that's just forcing the issue.Posted by tizianiIt would be interesting for you to experiment and add your partners on social media and see if your stance changes.Posted by KoniuchaaThe only way I could see this being a problem for me is if they're liking time somehow cut into the time we spend together.
I don't know, many people like to say it's no big deal, but I'm sure if their SO was liking pics of the same man or woman non stop, they wouldn't like it.
Otherwise, I really cannot see what difference it makes. I never have my partners on social media. They can do what they like and, if anything, I hope they would feel like it's interesting enough to share with me if it's that important to them.
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Social media is an irrelevant factor in ruining relationships.
In this case what matters is what liking pictures means for each of them.
For me it's different a photograph of a close friend, an acquaintance or a random guy/girl; and the content of said photo. As is different to say "I like that landscape" than "I like that ass", being the latter weird, tasteless and sometimes disrespectful.
However, that is never the problem, but a symptom.
In this case what matters is what liking pictures means for each of them.
For me it's different a photograph of a close friend, an acquaintance or a random guy/girl; and the content of said photo. As is different to say "I like that landscape" than "I like that ass", being the latter weird, tasteless and sometimes disrespectful.
However, that is never the problem, but a symptom.
Posted by SimsimiHaha. I get it , I get it.Posted by Teenalol you're my partner better be the first likerPosted by FragranceHahah..that does make a difference.Posted by TeenaI also didn't explain well lolPosted by FragranceLol! Idk... I mean I can't explain it well.Posted by TeenaWhy? ?Posted by FragranceThis line sounds so... umm.. idk it makes me uncomfortable ?
He says it's not special anymore if they have been liked by other guys.
I'd understand if he didn't like it to start with...but he thinking your pic is not special anymore coz someone else liked it before ?....*blink*....?
He means his "like" wouldn't be special... but the picture itself he likes (without a like) 😄
Go figure
True...like wouldn't mean anything. I mean he definitely doesn't need to necessarily like it to show that he likes it?
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Phew! I have one less thing to be worried about I guess. I'm not on any??
But honestly, I couldn't care less?
Posted by SoulI share the same view. For me, it's little to do with lack of trust, and more to do with demonstrating courtesy and self-control. It's one thing to window shop (we all do it), but it's another thing to publicly demonstrate that attraction. It's just not a flattering look, IMO.
imo in certain situations for certain people yes.
Personally I believe in a more closed relationship. Once I have a love I have no business hanging out or paying attention to other random women, except family.I'd expect her to be the same way, and if she wasn't I'd quickly leave her.
I agree with @tiziani that it all comes down to finding a partner who shares the same values and opinions on these regards.
Posted by TheSagLady_Neither. I'd slap both of them...verbally of course. Physical violence against men is a no no.
Questions like this got me wondering..
would u rather hv a man, who likes pic of girls on his own social media account
Or
A man who has an anonymous account (that u know nothing of) to do it
?
Every time I've had a married or committed man like my hot selfies or of another woman on FB, I knew right away that he's just not that into his gf and sooner or later he'll leave her and go hook up with one of the chicks whose selfies he's liking or whichever woman is entertaining his likes, if he hasn't done it already. Never been proven wrong except for one time, but this particular man stays with his woman but regularly cheats on her.
Don't be that ostrich.
Don't be that ostrich.
Hmm it could. One of my close friends (a Taurus/Scorpio Moon female) got in a huge fight with her boyfriend over his liking of girls' pics on Instagram. But that stems from a past experience where an ex met women through social media and cheated with them.
I've never had to deal with it though because any long term I was in happened to be with guys who didn't care for social media. Either they didn't have an account or if they did, they were rarely on it. I tend to not like a guy friend's pic unless it's with their family, their SO, or of a landscape while traveling out of respect for my Fiancé. I'm rarely on it though myself. I'd rather spend time with him or my family or friends. So that makes a difference.
If my Fiancé was constantly on his phone, rarely spending time and liked one person's photos over and over... it would be the fact that it took up his time and attention more than the liking itself.
I've never had to deal with it though because any long term I was in happened to be with guys who didn't care for social media. Either they didn't have an account or if they did, they were rarely on it. I tend to not like a guy friend's pic unless it's with their family, their SO, or of a landscape while traveling out of respect for my Fiancé. I'm rarely on it though myself. I'd rather spend time with him or my family or friends. So that makes a difference.
If my Fiancé was constantly on his phone, rarely spending time and liked one person's photos over and over... it would be the fact that it took up his time and attention more than the liking itself.
Spend less time on social media, learn to have a private life versus a public life.
Learn the ins and outs of handling both aspects of your life, to manage it so that you may have your peace.
It resolves all these silly issues.
Learn the ins and outs of handling both aspects of your life, to manage it so that you may have your peace.
It resolves all these silly issues.
Posted by FleshpotTotally lol. I'm one of the few who actually admit to being The jealous type upfront. The only type of person who would work for me is either the jealous type who has a small circle, or a person who isn't the jealous type with a small circle. Imo the more people in ones life the more room for drama.Posted by SoulI share the same view. For me, it's little to do with lack of trust, and more to do with demonstrating courtesy and self-control. It's one thing to window shop (we all do it), but it's another thing to publicly demonstrate that attraction. It's just not a flattering look, IMO.
imo in certain situations for certain people yes.
Personally I believe in a more closed relationship. Once I have a love I have no business hanging out or paying attention to other random women, except family.I'd expect her to be the same way, and if she wasn't I'd quickly leave her.
I agree with @tiziani that it all comes down to finding a partner who shares the same values and opinions on these regards.
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Posted by sjayblancoif its the same girl all the time, and someone he can actually connect with then I would say yes.
Could it possibly ruin a relationship ?
Example: Instagram , liking multiple pictures of the same girl , isnt it disrespectful to the other partner ?
if she isn't talking to him now, he is definitely trying to get their attention.
and private conversations could be a result.
I would be upset
me personally though id slowly fallback and wouldn't even say anything.
if they do stuff like that then its time to take a step back and assess it all
until im turned off and out. or until he notices hes losing me and steps up his game.
actions always.
Posted by SoulWhats your placements?Posted by sjayblancoimo in certain situations for certain people yes.
Could it possibly ruin a relationship ?
Example: Instagram , liking multiple pictures of the same girl , isnt it disrespectful to the other partner ?
Personally I believe in a more closed relationship. Once I have a love I have no business hanging out or paying attention to other random women, except family.I'd expect her to be the same way, and if she wasn't I'd quickly leave her. Unfortunately even if she had a best friend since childhood that was a male I would up and leave her immediately before I'd try to change her relationships. Personally I just think too much and won't set myself up for disaster in the future.click to expand
Posted by OrGasMeLol! I think i've heard side hoes say this. No offence btw! It just made me think.
Idk. I have men liking my pics all day long. Men who are married and in relationships. I just assume their significant other gets style -tips from stalking who their man is liking. I appreciate the men cheering me on and I feel like I'm really truly helping women out there to 'be better'
Yes it would piss me off, I would see it as a lack of respect. If it was continously or excessively (and pics of her herself) Social media can often show who a person really is deep inside.
Posted by OrGasMeI actually feel quite sorry for many of these women, they obv have alot of inner work to do but this ultimately does the total opp and just destroys them even more no doubt.Posted by LibraLovesHimPosted by OrGasMeLol! I think i've heard side hoes say this. No offence btw! It just made me think.
Idk. I have men liking my pics all day long. Men who are married and in relationships. I just assume their significant other gets style -tips from stalking who their man is liking. I appreciate the men cheering me on and I feel like I'm really truly helping women out there to 'be better'
Lol at men with side hos and women who are insecure enough to put up with it. Hahaha
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Posted by FragranceBecause it's a load of bullshit and really says how insecure he is...and how much he only cares about himself. While liking pics on social media itself is trivial...its the principle and sentiment behind what he said that should bother you. Doesn't like your pics because others guys like them? A man supports his lady regardless and is proud when other men pay her compliments...he doesn't get jealous. That means he thinks you're beneath him. Then he adds insult to injury by liking other women's pics...a blatant double standard. Trying to knock you down a notch to keep you in place with the subtle suggestion that they're better than you by liking the other pics. Manipulation...thats actually the real problem with stuff on social media.Posted by TeenaWhy? ?Posted by FragranceThis line sounds so... umm.. idk it makes me uncomfortable ?
He says it's not special anymore if they have been liked by other guys.
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Posted by FortunaI thought the exact same thing. But I'm not going to ruin something beautiful over likes on social media. Not now when he proved to me in many ways that I'm indeed special to him... he's just a sick, irrational, egoistic, possessive Scorp moon (love them though). Moreover, If I were to keep nagging him about it, he in turn, has the right to feel annoyed and eventually get resentful that his girlfriend fixates on bullshit.Posted by FragranceSo your boyfriend is the petty one. He can't even like your photos if another male likes them? Obviously it means something to him, if he goes through all that effort to avoid liking your photos.
It's a petty consideration, but I admit I felt a little bad when I got to know my boyfriend does it occasionally... he told me it doesn't mean anything and this is why he doesn't like my pictures. He says it's not special anymore if they have been liked by other guys. He would comment on mine, but not like lol. I managed to accept this argument, although I still find it odd
Men own the male gaze after all: a good looking woman cannot escape it
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I asked him again about it few days ago and he admitted what he did and the fact that he still cannot like my pictures doesn't make sense. Yet, it's been a month since I noticed he barely likes anything anymore.
Thanks for giving your honest opinion. I'm still digging into his psyche. ?
Posted by beautifulsoul74Thanks for your insight. It made me think it through, but I will have to disagree with some parts, as I know him better. Definitely a double standard, definitely jealous and his possessiveness reaches a pathological degree, which sadly makes me assume he has taken me for granted. "Oh, she's mine, why bother to like her pictures." However, he would get so hurt If I told him that... because deep down I know it isn't true.Posted by FragranceBecause it's a load of bullshit and really says how insecure he is...and how much he only cares about himself. While liking pics on social media itself is trivial...its the principle and sentiment behind what he said that should bother you. Doesn't like your pics because others guys like them? A man supports his lady regardless and is proud when other men pay her compliments...he doesn't get jealous. That means he thinks you're beneath him. Then he adds insult to injury by liking other women's pics...a blatant double standard. Trying to knock you down a notch to keep you in place with the subtle suggestion that they're better than you by liking the other pics. Manipulation...thats actually the real problem with stuff on social media.Posted by TeenaWhy? ?Posted by FragranceThis line sounds so... umm.. idk it makes me uncomfortable ?
He says it's not special anymore if they have been liked by other guys.
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I don't believe he thinks I'm beneath him. If it were so, I wouldn't be with him. Still, for some reason (jealousy, pride, insecurity, hell knows) he won't like my pictures and that's that. He even checks whether a guy who paid me a compliment once has liked it and it makes him angry if he has. -_-... Perhaps he views such kind of likes as an act of sexual objectification...
I'll keep in mind your reasoning though...
At the end of the day, I would probably be unhappy with a guy who wasn't possessive. We both got issues, so we might as well be together. ?
Posted by youngaliThis!! I'm with you on this!! Lusty people with no self-restraint are usually non-committal and shoppers for life. They are usually the ones who will be found in a relationship behaving like they're single when their partner isn't around.
depends on the type of pictures they like...
lusty people can't be trusted. screams lack of maturity, discipline and self control. ain't the type i can see myself growing with.
therefore, ain't the type i'd be interested in.
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