feelings

do you express your feelings with your loved ones?

is this something that comes easily or do you struggle with it? if it is a struggle, how come? what are the things that keep you from saying how you feel? if it easy, do you express it often?

do you want to tell people how you feel but just can't or are you confident that the other ways you express yourself is enough?

i know there is a common belief that taurus people express their love through actions but for those that this applies, why so tongue tied? maybe you only reserve it for a select few.

and lastly, if you do want to get it out can anything be done to make it easier or is this something that really is for your mind only?

I have noticed that a bull showing how he feels is rare, doesn't mean it won't happen. But its not often, and if they don't get the same reassurance and reciprocation in return then they shut down. They can flirt but love has a way of making them toungue tied. Its rather cute

Posted by Hotbeefy
I have struggle with my emotions. Even that I want to show them that suddenly out of nowhere emotional block. 😐

If I do showed it and turns out they don't care, I shut myself down from them and learned of never showed them again.

Sadly that I suck how to say to them of how I feel.

thanks HB. i am trying to understand this a little better. your post helps.

i get the fear of rejection but what if you know you won't be rejected?

that you struggle with your emotions, you don't trust them? or can't recognise them fully?

have their been times that the emotion was there but like you said, they were blocked somewhere between brain and mouth?

i guess i am raising this thread because i know my partner struggles with it. deep down i am secure in his feelings for me but sometimes i will say something and it is like shouting in space. i get nothing. part of me can't help but take that personally sometimes. i figure if i can understand it, then perhaps i won't take it to heart as much. thanks.

Posted by jeane


thanks HB. i am trying to understand this a little better. your post helps.

i get the fear of rejection but what if you know you won't be rejected?

that you struggle with your emotions, you don't trust them? or can't recognise them fully?

have their been times that the emotion was there but like you said, they were blocked somewhere between brain and mouth?

i guess i am raising this thread because i know my partner struggles with it. deep down i am secure in his feelings for me but sometimes i will say something and it is like shouting in space. i get nothing. part of me can't help but take that personally sometimes. i figure if i can understand it, then perhaps i won't take it to heart as much. thanks.

sorry, i mean i express my feelings for him but i get nothing back in return.

Posted by busyeyes88
@OP. The tHe thought is in my head but I can't physically get my mouth to open up and say it. One incident I remember was when my.recent ex sag kissed me on the forehead and said 'I love you' I said nothing. We were cooking dinner together in the kitchen. I felt it but I did not physically know how to respond. We split up a few days after. But in the same breath I wrote him a beautiful poem expressing how I felt.. After we had split up...

thanks busy. that's helpful. 🙂

do you regret not being able to say something at the time?

actions do speak louder than words but sometimes the words aren't so bad either 😉 i don't want a 11 page declaration, single spaced with a 2.5cm margin. just a sort of 'back at ya' would do me fine.

but i don't seek to change him to my way of communicating, i want to meet him 'where he is at'.

Posted by Hotbeefy

Remind you, I have water dominant (fully Cancer dominant, except that I have Saturn dominant).
Also my negative nanny will be showing up too because I had a dream that made me vulnerable,

I pushed them away when it comes to fear of rejection, perhaps it's just me, as my though were mostly like those person irritates me, doesn't love me, something incompatible or I might be wearing red glasses again.. I would never know if this person likes me, but then again I did noticed something of them questioning if they like me (for example of the stare at me while this person is talking in the group conversation).
Yup, I admit that I have fear of rejection with personal reasons (it's not you, it's me)..

If I struggle of my emotion that I don't trust them or can't recognize them fully? It's both.. Mostly like I don't know how to respond to them. The worst part is asking me feedback of their outfit, creations, etc (because I can be straightforward of this opinion really hard but also taking forever to think about it..). Also I had the time that I went in live concert of one of my favorite artist.. when this artist appears.. suddenly I can't feel if I'm really psyched up or really happy..
But when I'm alone I can let my expression

hmmm. yes, i get it. do you think he might feel unsure of my feeling? i don't expect you to know the answer to that but could that be a possibility?

do you question the feelings of others into the relationship? i just wonder if i need to be MORE expressive in case the fear of rejection is playing a part.

we share the same moon though, wouldn't that make thing easier?

you've blinded me with science with orbs. i'm far too much of an astrological midget when it comes to those sorts of things.

here is where we disagree though, crying is not weakness! crying is strength. it is raw, pure emotion. it is here, i lay myself bare. flay me if you will. i will survive.

(but i do see your point of view 😄).

Posted by Hotbeefy


Not sure what his venus are. My venus is in Cancer and I love that someone is giving me security and knowing that I feel at peace with someone who are able to be trusted to. Not sure if he's touchy guy, but after my last relationship and about myself through birthchart.. I became detached of not wanting to being touched since I'm really sensitive and might blown away when it comes to touch (hug, embracing, hand grabbing, etc.)

But if he's shutting you down, then something did happen that you either:
- Not taking him seriously
- Neglected (if I said it right)
- Behind his back
- Manipulating him
-.. and many more that I can't think of..

his venus is in taurus. (Yes, neglected is correct!)

no, he is not shutting down he is just fairly silent when it comes to verbalising matters of the heart. for everything else he is on point.

Posted by clooneyyears
do you express your feelings with your loved ones?

lovers. sure.

is this something that comes easily or do you struggle with it? if it is a struggle, how come? what are the things that keep you from saying how you feel? if it easy, do you express it often?

easy.

do you want to tell people how you feel but just can't or are you confident that the other ways you express yourself is enough?

no i'm pretty upfront with them when i do feel them.

i know there is a common belief that taurus people express their love through actions but for those that this applies, why so tongue tied? maybe you only reserve it for a select few.

thru gifts?

and lastly, if you do want to get it out can anything be done to make it easier or is this something that really is for your mind only?

you can ask directly.

bloody hell clooney. are you a taurean unicorn or do you think your other placements make an impact?

maybe the solution is just to ask directly. eek! part of me is scared to hear the answer!

Posted by Hotbeefy

It depends of what decan of moon sign you are (either 1, 2 or 3.. I'm 1st decan since I'm between 1 to 10 degrees).

I know that crying is not weakness, but that's just my ego that I don't like to show.

Orbs is the wide range of how strong it is.. the 0 (aka exact) is the strongest while 8/9 is widest (weak)..

cheers for that! good to know!

we are both first decan sag moon. he is 2 degrees, i am 3.

Posted by Hotbeefy

Then what's his mercury? Venus is more affectionate when it comes to actions.. ask Ands since he has it, also Taureanlongname! 😉

mercury is gem. he can talk the deaf into hearing again when it comes to the superficial stuff but scratch beneath the surface and it is like he lost his tongue in a boating accident.

haha re: taureanlongname

Posted by Hotbeefy

Now THAT made me very curious since ScorchedEarth questioned about moon conjunct moon in synastry! How does it feel to have that?

it's not helping in this case!

we also share the same pluto - 9 degrees in libra for him, 11 for me.

it is strange though. magnetic yes. psychic? eerily so. and unnervingly he can see straight through me like no one has ever been able to.

Posted by jeane
do you express your feelings with your loved ones?

is this something that comes easily or do you struggle with it? if it is a struggle, how come? what are the things that keep you from saying how you feel? if it easy, do you express it often?

do you want to tell people how you feel but just can't or are you confident that the other ways you express yourself is enough?

i know there is a common belief that taurus people express their love through actions but for those that this applies, why so tongue tied? maybe you only reserve it for a select few.

and lastly, if you do want to get it out can anything be done to make it easier or is this something that really is for your mind only?

I'm reserved most of the time and contemplate things without a show. I've butted heads with my Capricorn Mother for as long as I can remember because I keep things to myself and she gets frustrated and tells me she can't read my mind. Same can be said for women I've liked or relationships I've been in.

The way I want something to come out during a moment, runs the risk more often than not of being misconstrued for something else entirely and thus it takes away from what I meant to express. Knowing this, I will more than likely refrain from attempting it in the first place.

It's kind of ironic as I'm a highly opinionated Bull and therefore have no qualms about expressing my worldly views on subjects at large. However when I'm attempting to express inter personal emotions or thoughts I get lost in translation frequently. I was taught that Physical Actions spoke louder than words and I always figured my actions would be enough but sometimes people expect feelings to be verbally expressed instead. This creates a conundrum for this Bull.

I should also note that when I speak to people, they often fall asleep which throws me off balance a bit. Example my Leo ex would always fall asleep when I spoke verbally and would tell me my voice is so soothing that it put her to sleep. Likewise with other people who didn't know me, if I talked in a group which is rare for me as I'm not a group kind of guy, they would all start yawning.

I used to take such offense at this and would go full on Bull mode, I do my best to avoid conversations on phones for this reason as well. There's been more than a few occasions where I've engaged someone over the phone about a subject such as Science and droned on for over twenty minutes before realizing the other person fell asleep. LOL!

I have a very hard time expressing my emotions to loved ones, and to friends, and especially my lovers. All my exes have complained constantly that I'm unaffectionate, and they all thought I didn't care about them. They all wanted me to tell them I loved them all the time, and talk about how much I love them, and why I love them, but I couldn't. I show my emotions through actions. If I hang out with you any chance I get when I have free time, buy you stuff, take you out to places, invite you out all the time, take care of you, text you at least once a day, then you know I have feelings for you.

Yes, this is because I'm a Taurus, BUT it has a lot to do with how I was raised. In my family, feelings were taboo. If we cried, we got yelled at. Saying "I love you" or giving each other hugs, and kisses was awkward, so we just didn't do it. It's quite sad. Children shouldn't grow up in a house-hold where this is taboo. Now I can't express my love because I feel like I'm bothering the other person. And I'm scared of coming off too clingy.

My boyfriend is a Taurus as well, and he has a hard time expressing emotion too, imagine how that is... 2 people who can't express themselves in a relationship lol we both only do so when we're drunk, or really mad lol. I'm getting a taste of my own medicine. I know it bugs him, and I'm afraid he'll leave me if I don't do something about it.

I want to tell people how I feel, but I can't. I feel too embarrassed, and almost feel weak when I do so. I don't want to feel this way, but that's just how I was raised.

Just to add, I'm pretty blunt in certain area's. I can tell you if I don't like something, or if I'm being treated wrong, I won't take shit from you and will tell you off (probably my Aries side, I'm right on the cusp). If I don't like what you're wearing, and you want my honest opinion, I'll give it, if I think you're doing something stupid, I'll let you know, but when it comes to lovey dovey shit, I can't express anything! I can't tell you I love you, or tell you how much you mean to me, and it sucks.

Posted by busyeyes88
@OP. I have to be really really really frustrated in order to cry. But I would always head straight for the bathroom and cry in there. My exes could sense there was something wrong but I could not cry in front of theM. I see crying as a sign of weakness.. my ex gem of many years back may have seen me cry once or twice in four years which was the length of our relationship. My rising and moon is in leo so I guess 'pride before a fall'?!! There's a huge ego involved with leo placements and I guess pride May get in the way...

I cried in front of my bf lat friday because I was so frustrated and pissed off, and I felt so embarrassed. I see crying as a sign of weakness too *sigh*

Yes and no. I almost never tell my family and friends how I'm feeling because I don't want to leave myself vulnerable if my feelings are deeply hurt. I don't cry in front of them either ill hold it until I can be alone cry. The only person that has seen me even close to crying is my mother but only bc she catches just as my eyes start to water or she can sense it at the very time I wish she would turn her intuition off.

As for romantic relationships they're held to a different standard I will share my feelings and let my eye water but all slows down if my feelings are deeply hurt and I want to seem like I'm okay when I'm not.

thanks everyone for your input. it's been very informative. i'll take all of this on board and make changes.

a word though from someone on the other side; sometimes a small word here and there goes a long way! it can be lonely when you're on the wrong side of the glass. a drop of water can be like an ocean to a person dying of thirst.

Yeah I have to say major reasons I don't express feelings is family background..

Another reason is I am a feeler, so if I feel something I express it pretty boldly and blunt straight forward and hope it's positive feedbacks and not negative...

Another reason if I like someone else I tend to open up alot...when I get hurt I shut down for awhile...I don't cry...I do get sensitive feelings more so than anything...I get butt hurt if I am made fun of then I get pissed and frustrated.. I am a lover not a fighter..people try to provoke it.....

I cry on movies if they are emotional....I detach my emotions too..I am affectionate and passionate with the right people..otherwise I have a poker face..once I open up and you do something wrong I shut down too..the first person I got told I was unaffectionate was Gemini.. guess my ex shut deep feelings..told him no but I have to trust you.. stupid....Gemini is the wrong person to move to after a break up..lol he was so critical and direct..

Posted by evalani290
@Jeane:

I had a relationship with a Libra,for 2 years. It didn't worked,he said "I can't keep up with you",he gave me an ultimatum,i had to let him go.
I have an attraction for air signs,maybe because of my Aries Venus,Mercury and my Gemini Mars and Libra Moon but i never felt that a Gemini or a Libra could understand me all the way.

My Taurus side,Capricorn rising,Scorpio Pluto and Saturn must be stronger.

i see no ultimatum in our future. i don't do them anyway. if things get that bad i just walk and save everyone the bother.

i'd like to think i am pretty good at understanding him, at least his motivations and intentions. communication can be a sticking point but everyone's input here has given me a greater appreciation of what he might be feeling about feelings.

like i said earlier, i don't need constant praise or verbal affection or attention. but i am expressive and he LOVES it. it's just i'd like a little bit of ear sugar too every now and again. i guess it is an expectation i will need to either let go of or directly ask him for it whenever the account gets in deficit.

Posted by jeane
do you express your feelings with your loved ones?

In the beginning, it's difficult....but then it gets easier with time, closeness, and trust.

is this something that comes easily or do you struggle with it? if it is a struggle, how come? what are the things that keep you from saying how you feel? if it easy, do you express it often?

It doesn't come easy. I struggle with it. Showing it seems effortless. I can look at him, touch him, sense him, feel him, be there for him, and nothing else is expected. When an emotional response is given, my thoughts are not prepared, I want to gather every feeling, emotion and thoughts I have, and just deliver it in a few quick words. I express myself better with poetry. It gives me the opportunity and flexibility to capture everything in a mouthful.

and lastly, if you do want to get it out can anything be done to make it easier or is this something that really is for your mind only?

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Be real affectionate, patient and understanding. The "I love you" will flow organically. Honestly, sometimes I feel as if it's held against me when I do not reciprocate it immediately. The other person's attitude or actions change, and the inconsistencies begin, causing me to delay any emotional responses.

Posted by AnomalousBull


It's kind of ironic as I'm a highly opinionated Bull and therefore have no qualms about expressing my worldly views on subjects at large. However when I'm attempting to express inter personal emotions or thoughts I get lost in translation frequently. I was taught that Physical Actions spoke louder than words and I always figured my actions would be enough but sometimes people expect feelings to be verbally expressed instead. This creates a conundrum for this Bull.

+100

My Taurus tells me all the time how he's feeling. He's cried in front of me a few times already. He had a really tough time growing up. His family never showed him love or affection 😢 Me being a Scorpio, when I love someone, I love them hard. I think he likes that and opens up to me emotionally. I've known him for 8 years now, so trust is there 100% . He always says I'm the ying to his yang 🙂