Help I need Advice from Taurus Males

Is this normal behavior for a Taurus male? Let me first set up my situation:

Met him online, we live 5 hrs away, emailed for 2 months before spending a weekend together. (emails average 1 - 2 per week, except a 6 week draught where he disappeared). So after our weekend (our weekend was really nice, he was so sweet, romantic, passionate, caring, made me feel beautiful) our emails seemed distant and then farther apart. then the 6 week disappearing act, then voila he appears back in my life after my heart was broken and my head was confused. He mentions getting together again, so I caved and jumped at the idea, it had been 4 months since I last saw him. I Just got back from an even better weekend with him where we talked more, he asked deep questions to try to get to know me better, he expressed how he appreciated my honesty and how I don't get manic if I dont hear from him for a week or so. I felt such a closeness there that I was so comfortable around him. It was truly a beautiful weekend, I saw a side to him that made me fall even more for the guy. We talked on the phone the night i got back and then a couple days later I emailed him my feelings about how uncomfortable I am dating superficially, I am not comfortable having sex with more than one guy, etc etc. Apparently in these 4 months he has not slept with anyone either, but then he says that he lives each day by day and doesn't know what tomorrow will bring. So he said he will write back more when he ponders my long email (basically in which I wanted to open the lines of communication with regards to seeing each other exclusively - or at the very least discussing it, even if not an option yet, discussing what that would mean to each of us, etc.

It seems as though I feel the same pattern coming on...distant feeling email, longer time in between and who knows if he will call (we just began the occasional phone conversations about a month ago). We really get along well together, we have fun, laughter, great passion, and we both have a major common philosophy in life. we are both in our 40's - me going through a divorce, him never married. He confuses the heck out of me and when I am with him I feel like he is really into me. But when we are apart I get the complete opposite feeling. What is all this about? Any ideas? Perhaps he is just emotionally unavailable or the cold hard truth is he is just not that into me....I cannot wait to hear his response to my email ( I will share )

Does he ever give an explanation to why he dropped communication for so long? (like P.O.W. camp, amnesia, coma, anything? ) This reeks of the standard lines guys use for how they are soooooooo into you when they're with you getting the goods but when they're not into you so much is when the convenience of you not being near makes it easy for them to just go about doing whatever they want with whomever they want and you basically don't exist for them. Guys will tell you whatever you want to hear because they know they have a better opportunity to score with you if they do. You're like some cute little toy they take down from the shelf, play with, and put back for another day when they want to play.

If a guy really is into you.......he'll make the effort and he won't wait epoch periods of time to get in touch with you. He'll call you because he wants to. He'll see you because he wants to. He'll find ways to let you know he cares because he does. He'll respect you.

I'm sure he really does like you and likes the time he spends with you. But you could be someone he simply entertains himself with until what he's really looking for comes along. But he doesn't even know what he's looking for probably and in the meantime......he'll just enjoy whoever whenever he can. These games men play suck that's for sure. We as women have to look for the signs and recognize them especially when our emotions are involved. Players love to play and I don't know enough about the guy or the situation but it sounds like a player is playing you.

I hope I'm wrong but it just doesn't add up to someone who genuinely cares for you. If he did........his actions would be much different.

Thanks Temple for the honest and insightful words. I used to think he was a player. I didn't ask about the 6 week drought (he is a teacher with a college prep school - very intense workload especially during that period of time), however I made it clear that it wasn't cool and left it at that. Now it seems as though he makes a point, even if he is busy, to email, text or call. He does have a very demanding job and during that six week interlude was his crunch time and then the holidays where he visited family on the other coast. It was also right in the begining of our "dating" - 2 months emailing, 1 weekend date, a few emails then the 6 week disappearing act. He is much different now, still noticing the turtle retreating his head back into his shell after our second weekend date together, but the turtle seems to be feeling safer to let his head out a bit sooner these days - I just got a short but sweet email where he explained whats up with him this weekend, and reading between the lines, that he is thinking of me - that's really all I need, to know he is thinking of me. He said he is still chewing on the BIG email, so when I get a response to the "exclusivity" topic I will let you all know his reply. Apparently it didn't scare him off, many men get scared off by the Piscean intensity of emotion, but not this Taurus!

I totally agree with you about a guy making me a priority, that will be left to be seen...he is moving slowly but I am optimistic that one of these days he will be able to open up to me more. In my heart I feel he is a good guy, and that he cares. The depth of his caring is unknown to me right now, but I hope to see it and experience it soon...will share...

thanks

Awesome. You're a Pisces...use your intuition. Taurus's move slow and taking that into consideration and the fact that he's increased his contact with you now maybe even sharing more with you is a very good sign indeed. I'm very happy for you!!!!

Please do let us all know how that letter is received when he does respond. In the meantime remain optimistic as you stated and I'm sure he'll be drawn to your positive attitude among "other things".

BEST OF LUCK !!!!!!!!!!!