I already posted this on the Astrology forum, but thought I would also post it here in case anyone else could help me, especially Taurus people, it would be wonderful.
So I'm a Pisces Sun, Leo Moon, Pisces Venus, Mars and Aquarius mercury.
There is this Taurus guy I love who has been flirting with me for the past year. He has asked me out, told me is falling for me, we've been on dates, he's tried to come up to my apartment at 3am one night for "tea" and so on, but I rejected that advance, but we've never kissed or been physical, though we almost have many times - a LOT of touching arms, legs, hair, faces etc.
He is from Kenya and we work in the UK. I live in New Zealand. I have to leave the UK in a few months, but would stay to be with him if he asked me to. When he was in Kenya over Christmas and I wrote him an email telling him that I loved him and would like to know what he's really feeling because I would stay if he felt the same way about me.
He never responded, until a MONTH later, when he returned to the UK and emailed me that he can't "reciprocate my feelings" (his words), because he actually has a long term girlfriend in Kenya and "they're rather serious".
No one in the UK who we know even knows this. Everyone thinks he's single. I was so upset and spoke to a mutual friend back in Kenya who said that yes indeed he has a girlfriend back in Kenya and they are actually ENGAGED and going to get married but keep putting it off.
I am so upset and shocked. I feel that if he really loved this girl he would be back in Kenya with her or she would be here. They only see each other twice per year for a week at a time.
I told him as much and said to him that if he felt nothing for me, he would have responded straight away and rejected me, rather than wait for so long and that showed he was unsure. He responded that we should just leave things.
What should I do? Should I try to pursue him even though he says he can't reciprocate my feelings? I just feel like he's in love with me, but he's just being responsible and honorable with her and that kills me. Whenever we are together there is so much chemistry and everyone we know thinks he loves me (they don't know I love him too), because of the way he acts with me.
I know he's lied to everyone, but I just want to be with him. I would never be with him while he still had a girlfriend, but should I ask him to break up with her?
Kia ora, Abandon ship, you know and I know the correct choice that must be executed. How much more do you wish to endure? If you do win him over, how long will your happiness last till he finds someone else hes going to fall for in another country?
He's emotionally invested with someone else, if he leave her for you that says a lot about his character which means he would leave you for someone else...your begging for heartbreak, he's in love with someone else despite what you feel for him, he's said himself to leave things and that he's quite serious with someone else...What more do you need to hear? He's not that into you at least not enough to jeopardize his current relationship. Plus Taurus men are stubborn, very stubborn unless it's his idea to leave his girlfriend there's probably not much that will sway him
"this Taurus guy I love who has been flirting with me for the past year. He has asked me out, told me is falling for me, we've been on dates, he's tried to come up to my apartment at 3am one night for "tea" and so on, but I rejected that advance"
Dude, this guy is engaged to be MARRIED! and this is the kind of behaviour he has with another woman he suddenly gets attracted to.
A taurean once told me that "taurus fall in and out of love quickly" which seems to be the case in point here too, obviously tomorrow he meets another woman he's gonna be wanting to be with her too.
Don't pine for him endlessly, taurus men have a certain something which makes us keep hooked into them, find what it is that gets it going for you, and find that is another man. Taureans can be too much of a hassle at times, (no offense guys). So just get a more fun, carefree guy who doesn't have a lover waiting for him back home.
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So I'm a Pisces Sun, Leo Moon, Pisces Venus, Mars and Aquarius mercury.
There is this Taurus guy I love who has been flirting with me for the past year. He has asked me out, told me is falling for me, we've been on dates, he's tried to come up to my apartment at 3am one night for "tea" and so on, but I rejected that advance, but we've never kissed or been physical, though we almost have many times - a LOT of touching arms, legs, hair, faces etc.
He is from Kenya and we work in the UK. I live in New Zealand. I have to leave the UK in a few months, but would stay to be with him if he asked me to. When he was in Kenya over Christmas and I wrote him an email telling him that I loved him and would like to know what he's really feeling because I would stay if he felt the same way about me.
He never responded, until a MONTH later, when he returned to the UK and emailed me that he can't "reciprocate my feelings" (his words), because he actually has a long term girlfriend in Kenya and "they're rather serious".
No one in the UK who we know even knows this. Everyone thinks he's single. I was so upset and spoke to a mutual friend back in Kenya who said that yes indeed he has a girlfriend back in Kenya and they are actually ENGAGED and going to get married but keep putting it off.
I am so upset and shocked. I feel that if he really loved this girl he would be back in Kenya with her or she would be here. They only see each other twice per year for a week at a time.
I told him as much and said to him that if he felt nothing for me, he would have responded straight away and rejected me, rather than wait for so long and that showed he was unsure. He responded that we should just leave things.
What should I do? Should I try to pursue him even though he says he can't reciprocate my feelings? I just feel like he's in love with me, but he's just being responsible and honorable with her and that kills me. Whenever we are together there is so much chemistry and everyone we know thinks he loves me (they don't know I love him too), because of the way he acts with me.
I know he's lied to everyone, but I just want to be with him. I would never be with him while he still had a girlfriend, but should I ask him to break up with her?
What can I do to win him over?