If someone shares you've hurt them/they're hurt--

In a non-accusatory/non-inflammatory kind of way... what would you do? How would you feel about it?

Would you respond or reach out to them right away? Would you retreat into a shell?



I'm wondering specifically if it came from a romantic interest (although maybe it'd be the same for friends/family/loved ones?).

Huh... that's really interesting. So if you felt their hurt was unwarranted, it's just a silent 'suck it up buttercup' kind of situation? Never considered that before.

Well that made me laugh, oh the joys of learning the Taurus language, with all its nuanced "silences"!

Not sure the hurt is unwarranted, but I'm open to considering it. In the meantime I'll be over here rubbing my butthurt and doing my own thing for a while 😛 The only person I know who's unfailingly out-stubborned me is the Bull, can't help but respect that 😆

He hurt me, as far as I'm aware I haven't hurt him. At first I wasn't sure if it was just me, so I chose not to share it right away. I'm a constant torrent of emotions, so I try to check myself first rather than 'unleash' it on anyone for any reason.

But as the weeks went by I found myself feeling no better, only worse. So I chose to open up the only way available to me at the time: through text. The least ideal and most awkward, fumbling method but I thought it was better to be open than not.

And unsurprisingly, I've been met with silence.


I agree though, two fixed signs (we both have double fixed suns AND moons) can make for a battle of wills, but it never came into play as I tended to be more flexible and he was always considerate and thoughtful in return. Never had a fight or conflict before, so I'm not entirely sure where to go from here.

The silence has certainly been giving me food for thought though.

My Bull has an Aries Merc and I have Leo Merc so we can both be pretty blunt and direct. Which is normally okay because -normally- I've been open right away about anything that bothers me. He's always been an open listener so nothing's been more than a tiny ripple easily calmed. But my actions were more the issue than his I'm realizing; this latest upset hit on a soft spot/insecurity of mine and I froze. My feelings were exacerbated the longer I didn't say anything until... the emotional confession dump happened.

He has a Leo Moon and Cancer Mars as well, so the sulking is something I'm all too familiar with, and I've noticed he tends to be really sensitive when it comes to me. I suspected he wouldn't take my confession well and thought it was best to give us both time to 'lick our wounds' and chill out before I contacted him again.

You're right though and I realized it at the height of my upset; if I'd just opened up right away like I had been my feelings wouldn't have escalated the way they did. My Scorp Moon, Virgo Venus and Cancer Mars can make things challenging sometimes: I see everything, notice even the slightest shift or change, overthink, zoom in way too close to details... and then am reluctant to open up and make myself vulnerable.

I'll contact him over the weekend and see where he's at. Hopefully hashing it out will help bring things back to normal. I know wrinkles happen regardless of signs or charts, but it's still rough >.< Thanks so much for taking the time to listen and offer advice though! Thought it'd be good idea to get an outside perspective 🙂