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Okay there is a Taurus man I have been seeing..we are lovers but haven't had the exclusive conversation.

I don't hear from him as much as I'd like to, I really like him a lot. But have never been good at chasing men. I think he is used to girls chasing him... At any rate, I haven't heard from him and I grew impatient. We have snap chat accounts and I don't know how this happened but I sent a male friend a snap chat message "Hi Chris, this is Mary. What are you doing this weekend?" And somehow it went to the man that I likes snap chat.

I didn't see his response until I woke up the next morning which is earlier than he wakes up. He wrote "why did you send me this message? Do I know him?

I responded "Hi Mario, no you don't know him. I'm not very good at using this app. I'm really sorry..."

He immediately wrote back "it's ok"

I wrote back " I really want to see you but you're never available "

He said I'm almost always available, you said you tell me when you are free"

I don't remember that..but ok.

I said I've been waiting for you.

Anyways we decided to get together Friday but he has definitely pulled back.

I told him I can't wait to see him and again I'm very sorry, I hope you're not mad at me.,

He said I'm not mad xo.

I said "k xo"

Anyway my question is how do I fix this?

Thank you... I'm really looking forward to everyone's response. Thank you.
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Posted by ChoXtsy
I'm finally getting in my head that if a man really wants you,he's going to pursue you and be consistent with his efforts. I'm not going to say move on, but I feel like you energy could be better invested in someone else.
Thank you for taking the time to respond. He is on some level we usually somehow connect, I just mean talk of getting together.
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But I know what you mean and I kind of started to but I do like him I don't want to let go just yet it's only been a month or so ..

I messed up not him.
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Posted by Seraphlight
If he wants to be with you ..then he needs to claim exclusivity. He should have ..

He didn't.

What does that tell you?

You didn't mess up..it was an accident.




This is true. Some of us have been following this story and unfortunately been anticipating the 'my Taurus man has disappeared' type thread due to OP chasing the man. OP said she knew what she was doing and was in control...

Asking another guy out (in any context) and then saying to the Taurus it's because he's never around is just a no and looks bad. Bad as in you're getting some elsewhere and the Taurus isn't enough. He may not care as he's not that bothered about you (as the other person said, if that was her Taurus he'd have gone mad, same as mine, same as any guy who liked and cared enough about a lady) which may indicate your position... Which is likely to be in his 'harem'.

Let's hope Friday goes ok. OP apologised once. That's it. Bury it like it never happened.
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When you go out on Friday don't bring up what are we topic if you guys don't see each other often it will be ackward. Also we don't know if someone is interested either sometime you do have to be direct in what you want with Taurus so if you say I like this friendship and would like to see how it goes then remember you start as friends and no sex yet. Ask questions that pertain to what you need in this life or this friendship to transfer to relationship. It's only a month and you should know what he wants already.
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Posted by Season
Be calm. It's passed. Look forward to Friday night and make him know he's a man and you're a woman and WTF does snap chat matter anyway cuz it never happened.

In other words, please don't make yourself a martyr over this mistake. Libras often do that and Taurus despises it. You're going to be okay.

Good luck for Fri. Rock his world.
Thank you, it never happened also I have never been intimately involved with Chris we are just friends. One of my male friends said this is a good thing that this happened because it might take things to the next level. I admire his opinion he is a very smart attorney. But yes I'm going to act like it never happened. I wasn't flirting with this man just asked him what he was doing. I was mostly embarrassed.

My Taurus could very easily said I don't want to see you. He didn't...so that's good. I'm going to see him and make it up to him. if I hurt his feelings at all, I know he was developing feelings..
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When you go out on Friday don't bring up what are we topic if you guys don't see each other often it will be ackward. Also we don't know if someone is interested either sometime you do have to be direct in what you want with Taurus so if you say I like this friendship and would like to see how it goes then remember you start as friends and no sex yet. Ask questions that pertain to what you need in this life or this friendship to transfer to relationship. It's only a month and you should know what he wants already.
I thought Taurus were slow, we've only seen each other a few times and enjoying a nice chemistry and romance. I think he will be more forthright with me. I always thought after 3 months. You know. I'm going to see him more..until he forgets what happened.

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Posted by jeane
Agreeing with agentp here. We advised you not to sleep with him a month in. You confidently assured us you know what you're doing, your going to seduce him, you're going to get him addicted blah blah blah.

I don't see the point of advising you nevertheless, you've apologised leave it at that and meet as normal on Friday.
He said he wants to make me addicted to him..

Thank you I'm going to let this one go..you're right I apologized he said it's ok and he isn't mad. And in the big picture it was very minor and I apologized so hopefully that translates into me not doing the big things. But I think he is going to step it up a little now. Who knows..
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Just about a month...


I dated a Taurus and he was very possessive. That snap chat mishap would've made my ex lash out. But that's just my experience.

You guys are hanging out Friday. I say sit back and observe. Bulls like to take things slow. Take it from a Taurus moon.
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I definitely see a change in him. We aren't exclusive but we were showing serious like. Friday will tell everything...maybe he will show me more that he is interested?
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Posted by ChoXtsy
I'm finally getting in my head that if a man really wants you,he's going to pursue you and be consistent with his efforts. I'm not going to say move on, but I feel like you energy could be better invested in someone else.
Thank you for taking the time to respond. He is on some level we usually somehow connect, I just mean talk of getting together.
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Actions speak louder than words. He talks a big game but there's no follow through.

You didn't make a mistake. If anything, knowing you are talking to/hanging out with someone else should've lit a fire under his ass to step up to the plate. He should be wooing you and trying to lock you down.

Dude is nonchalant. Be glad that your 'mistake' showed you that.
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it's over
Are you Taurus?

Well he wants to see me Friday? I even asked him if he wants to make it another time. He said no Friday works..

We'll see what happens
yes i am THE taurus in the absence of busyeyes to answer for all your taurus male needs

he will cancel and say can we meet on mario i mean monday?

i'm jk
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Lol, well give me your honest opinion Mr Busy 😉

I enjoy the male take especially if your a Taurus. I don't think he really cares but it pissed him off...an ego thing...because when he wrote me back, I didn't respond for 10 hours but I didn't see the message.



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I'm finally getting in my head that if a man really wants you,he's going to pursue you and be consistent with his efforts. I'm not going to say move on, but I feel like you energy could be better invested in someone else.
Thank you for taking the time to respond. He is on some level we usually somehow connect, I just mean talk of getting together.
Actions speak louder than words. He talks a big game but there's no follow through.

You didn't make a mistake. If anything, knowing you are talking to/hanging out with someone else should've lit a fire under his ass to step up to the plate. He should be wooing you and trying to lock you down.

Dude is nonchalant. Be glad that your 'mistake' showed you that.

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No....don't agree sorry. I think he is being very observant right now.

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Posted by Seraphlight
If he wants to be with you ..then he needs to claim exclusivity. He should have ..

He didn't.

What does that tell you?

You didn't mess up..it was an accident.




This is true. Some of us have been following this story and unfortunately been anticipating the 'my Taurus man has disappeared' type thread due to OP chasing the man. OP said she knew what she was doing and was in control...

Asking another guy out (in any context) and then saying to the Taurus it's because he's never around is just a no and looks bad. Bad as in you're getting some elsewhere and the Taurus isn't enough. He may not care as he's not that bothered about you (as the other person said, if that was her Taurus he'd have gone mad, same as mine, same as any guy who liked and cared enough about a lady) which may indicate your position... Which is likely to be in his 'harem'.

Let's hope Friday goes ok. OP apologised once. That's it. Bury it like it never happened.

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We are brand new so it would be weird for him to go crazy. I'm not going to bring it up to him again and I'm going to let it go...I'm going to disappear until Friday. So I can get over my own guilt. I know he likes me..
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I'm finally getting in my head that if a man really wants you,he's going to pursue you and be consistent with his efforts. I'm not going to say move on, but I feel like you energy could be better invested in someone else.
Thank you for taking the time to respond. He is on some level we usually somehow connect, I just mean talk of getting together.
Actions speak louder than words. He talks a big game but there's no follow through.

You didn't make a mistake. If anything, knowing you are talking to/hanging out with someone else should've lit a fire under his ass to step up to the plate. He should be wooing you and trying to lock you down.

Dude is nonchalant. Be glad that your 'mistake' showed you that.


No....don't agree sorry. I think he is being very observant right now.

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Observing is passive. Where's his action?
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One possibility is that he is going to view this as

A) playing games

Or

B) you're speaking to a number of men.

As you have already slept with him, he may think that you are sleeping about. If he thinks this, it's unlikely to take things further than what they are now.

It's unlikely that this will spring him into action and further commitment. These guys want to be on certain ground before they take their steps. If they think they could lose in a competition, they are less likely to take part.

Your actions also have to match your words. He is formulating his opinion of you in this next period.

Like you plan, just move on from it and don't make a big deal out of it.
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I'm finally getting in my head that if a man really wants you,he's going to pursue you and be consistent with his efforts. I'm not going to say move on, but I feel like you energy could be better invested in someone else.
Thank you for taking the time to respond. He is on some level we usually somehow connect, I just mean talk of getting together.
Actions speak louder than words. He talks a big game but there's no follow through.

You didn't make a mistake. If anything, knowing you are talking to/hanging out with someone else should've lit a fire under his ass to step up to the plate. He should be wooing you and trying to lock you down.

Dude is nonchalant. Be glad that your 'mistake' showed you that.


No....don't agree sorry. I think he is being very observant right now.



Observing is passive. Where's his action?

Taurus is passive? I think he has water possibly cancer in his chart too

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One possibility is that he is going to view this as

A) playing games

Or

B) you're speaking to a number of men.

As you have already slept with him, he may think that you are sleeping about. If he thinks this, it's unlikely to take things further than what they are now.

It's unlikely that this will spring him into action and further commitment. These guys want to be on certain ground before they take their steps. If they think they could lose in a competition, they are less likely to take part.

Your actions also have to match your words. He is formulating his opinion of you in this next period.

Like you plan, just move on from it and don't make a big deal out of it.
Maybe he will ask me how many lovers I have, maybe he will start asking me questions? Maybe I thought he was a player? Maybe we will have a real talk. Maybe we will just let it go and have a wonderful time.

I would love to tell him He is the only one. That I thought that he was seeing someone else and he lost interest and I really want someone special in my life. I'm ready for that.

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You're doing that "I'm sorry" libra vullshit.

Just no.

You don't so the chasing, got it?
Okay no chasing, I'm not though but he does rely on me to make the first move.


This is "chasing" and it's what you started by pursing him and doing all the initiating
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To me chasing is acting desperate.
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When you go out on Friday don't bring up what are we topic if you guys don't see each other often it will be ackward. Also we don't know if someone is interested either sometime you do have to be direct in what you want with Taurus so if you say I like this friendship and would like to see how it goes then remember you start as friends and no sex yet. Ask questions that pertain to what you need in this life or this friendship to transfer to relationship. It's only a month and you should know what he wants already.
The OP has already had sex with him

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Damn oh well for future reference please don't do this.
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One possibility is that he is going to view this as

A) playing games

Or

B) you're speaking to a number of men.

As you have already slept with him, he may think that you are sleeping about. If he thinks this, it's unlikely to take things further than what they are now.

It's unlikely that this will spring him into action and further commitment. These guys want to be on certain ground before they take their steps. If they think they could lose in a competition, they are less likely to take part.

Your actions also have to match your words. He is formulating his opinion of you in this next period.

Like you plan, just move on from it and don't make a big deal out of it.
Maybe he will ask me how many lovers I have, maybe he will start asking me questions? Maybe I thought he was a player? Maybe we will have a real talk. Maybe we will just let it go and have a wonderful time.

I would love to tell him He is the only one. That I thought that he was seeing someone else and he lost interest and I really want someone special in my life. I'm ready for that.

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Perhaps. But don't underestimate how judgemental these guys can be.
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When you go out on Friday don't bring up what are we topic if you guys don't see each other often it will be ackward. Also we don't know if someone is interested either sometime you do have to be direct in what you want with Taurus so if you say I like this friendship and would like to see how it goes then remember you start as friends and no sex yet. Ask questions that pertain to what you need in this life or this friendship to transfer to relationship. It's only a month and you should know what he wants already.
The OP has already had sex with him


Damn oh well for future reference please don't do this.
Too late. We told the OP that. Only one month in and she already had sex with him. Now he has already "fallen back" ie not much contact in arranging to see her and she ends up sending messages to other men...

It's a little bit messy right now...
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TAURUS hate messy situations tbh.
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One possibility is that he is going to view this as

A) playing games

Or

B) you're speaking to a number of men.

As you have already slept with him, he may think that you are sleeping about. If he thinks this, it's unlikely to take things further than what they are now.

It's unlikely that this will spring him into action and further commitment. These guys want to be on certain ground before they take their steps. If they think they could lose in a competition, they are less likely to take part.

Your actions also have to match your words. He is formulating his opinion of you in this next period.

Like you plan, just move on from it and don't make a big deal out of it.
Maybe he will ask me how many lovers I have, maybe he will start asking me questions? Maybe I thought he was a player? Maybe we will have a real talk. Maybe we will just let it go and have a wonderful time.

I would love to tell him He is the only one. That I thought that he was seeing someone else and he lost interest and I really want someone special in my life. I'm ready for that.


Perhaps. But don't underestimate how judgemental these guys can be.

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I truly give people the benefit of doubt without judging anyone because no one is perfect so that's where actions speak, and passive observation comes in at. I have a fixed radar so it's very rare to get by me with things and I do it from afar and in your face too.
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I didn't read past the OP and several responses

I don't know any of the back story here



But, what I do know is that it's highly unlikely that you accidently sent a message of asking another man out to the guy you are wanting to like you more and pay more attention to you.

Coincidences like that don't really happen ... what does happen is that women do that shit on purpose trying to make one jealous, or trying to make them think you are more than you are.

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Posted by P-Angel
I didn't read past the OP and several responses

I don't know any of the back story here



But, what I do know is that it's highly unlikely that you accidently sent a message of asking another man out to the guy you are wanting to like you more and pay more attention to you.

Coincidences like that don't really happen ... what does happen is that women do that shit on purpose trying to make one jealous, or trying to make them think you are more than you are.





It was an honest mistake 🙂
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I'm finally getting in my head that if a man really wants you,he's going to pursue you and be consistent with his efforts. I'm not going to say move on, but I feel like you energy could be better invested in someone else.
Thank you for taking the time to respond. He is on some level we usually somehow connect, I just mean talk of getting together.
Actions speak louder than words. He talks a big game but there's no follow through.

You didn't make a mistake. If anything, knowing you are talking to/hanging out with someone else should've lit a fire under his ass to step up to the plate. He should be wooing you and trying to lock you down.

Dude is nonchalant. Be glad that your 'mistake' showed you that.


It's not really his business who she's speaking to. I thought they had a conversation that was far more stable than about 90 percent of the threads here. That much is encouraging.

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Thank you.. Yes it was pretty stable.

He could have said" we aren't exclusive you can talk to whoever you want" but he didn't..that says a lot.

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I would love to tell him He is the only one.

That I thought that he was seeing someone else and he lost interest and I really want someone special in my life.

I'm ready for that.




Why would you love to tell someone you barely know that he is the only one?

Why would you believe someone you barely know is the only one?

You said, "I really want someone special in my life" ... you did NOT say, I want HIM as the special someone in my life.

to be ready for it, and the way you are handling this ... sounds to me like you've already decided what you want, and are now looking for a man to fill that position.

so, that means the individual guy, for his own person doesn't matter. You have zero talk about his qualities, values and characteristics. It's as if you don't even notice what the man is worth.

You're ready to settle down .. and so you are now going to try and pin it on him.



.... because none of this makes sense otherwise. You don't sound like a woman enamoured with this man. You sound very superficial, and that it wouldn't matter who was on the other end, so long as someone was on the other end

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