Slow Moving Taureans

I'm a Virgo Sun, Pisces Moon who normally finds herself with Libras. Couple months ago I met a Taurus Sun, Virgo Moon online who I feel really good things about, but I'm not quite sure where I want things to go or if he'll stick around, but I want to give this a chance. It's the most comfortable and connected I've felt with a romantic partner ever. What I thought was going to be a one-off thing between us, surprisingly turned into a few more dates.

He's an excellent communicator, very direct, everything I felt had been missing in past partners. At one point he told me he was hesitant about even meeting me and my willingness to let him make the final decision changed his mind. His phone communication is really inconsistent though and I have to wonder if he's really all that interested or fitting me in where it can work for now. Sometimes it was just weekends. Then there was the odd day during the week plus weekends. There's been some family issues he's told me about, a kind of flighty work life, and we've got a strange, but not awful Mercury combo. He went two and a half weeks before asking me out a second time, casually made conversation with me a solid week before we had a third and then now he's gone kind of cold again. My gut says this is unfamiliar territory and he's retreated. I've been willing to let him drive this to start and wondering how long I go on this ride before I myself put an official stamp on the end (something I wanted to do earlier and was told by a friend that I was doing it for the wrong reasons). I don't really want to though because I want to figure this out. I don't feel like I did something, because if I did, he would say so. This relationship isn't serious as it's new, but I sense that he's not going to pursue it fully unless he knows he really can.

I see a lot of talk here about Taurus being slow to move in matters of the heart. Are Taurus the prime zodiac who move the slowest when it comes to action or are there any standouts that can match them? I'd like to know if this is typical for just this type.

How many dates have the two of you been out on?

Just 3. Lots more texting because of schedules that didn't match, so I don't have much to go off beyond screen time (which sucks, but it happens).

How far do the both of you live from one another?

Same city, but its a little over an hour's walking distance between each other and neither of us own cars.

Ideally though I'd like to know if this kind of thing is only derivative of Taurus or if this is just a guy who hasn't quite figured out what he wants to do. (or both I guess)

Are there buses, trains, or Uber methods of transportation in the city that you live in?

This is the behavior of a single un-married man in the dating scene. If you meet somebody on a dating site more than likely they're dating. And hopefully you're not putting all of your eggs in one basket as well because men most certainly do not.

Men would rather tear their hearts out than to hurt a woman's feelings and admit to seeing others. But it sounds like he has a main woman, and is looking for a side piece. Or he could possibly be looking for someone special; however one Taurus I dated charged full speed ahead with dating me after two phone conversations -he didn't have any serious romantic entanglements. The other one with a main lover moved slower. Maybe he's different.

My bf is a Taurus sun with a Virgo moon. When we first started dating, he was pretty Inconisistent with his communication too. Sometimes we'd text once or twice a week... Took him a long time to actually make it official at first. He didn't really know what he wanted. Fast forward 3 years later, he's become consistent in his communication. He tends to become distant when he's stressed out. You mentioned your Taurus has some family issues, so he might just be stressed out about it, and that may be why he's extra slow in pursuing you. If you're an impatient person, then this relationship may bug the shit outta you. You have to be really patient with Taurus because we're very cautious people. You have to be EXTRA patient with a Taurus with a Virgo moon because he's also analyzing every little thing, and may feel insecure sometimes which will prevent him from making moves. What's his mars?

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My bf is a Taurus sun with a Virgo moon. When we first started dating, he was pretty Inconisistent with his communication too. Sometimes we'd text once or twice a week... Took him a long time to actually make it official at first. He didn't really know what he wanted. Fast forward 3 years later, he's become consistent in his communication. He tends to become distant when he's stressed out. You mentioned your Taurus has some family issues, so he might just be stressed out about it, and that may be why he's extra slow in pursuing you. If you're an impatient person, then this relationship may bug the shit outta you. You have to be really patient with Taurus because we're very cautious people. You have to be EXTRA patient with a Taurus with a Virgo moon because he's also analyzing every little thing, and may feel insecure sometimes which will prevent him from making moves. What's his mars?

My Taurus with a Virgo Moon was never inconsistent. He charged after the first few dates. It sounds like your Taurus was dating others in the beginning as well. (EVERY WOMAN CLAIMS OTHERWISE)! Six months later he asked me to move in with him! Prior to me he was with a cancer - they were married within 4 months of meeting, they stayed together 15 years and had one child. Prior to that he moved slow with other women.

I was inconsistent with my Taurus in the beginning, but we just clicked. He is the one going too fast if you ask me.

I hope after 3 years, you at least have a wedding date, an engagement ring, or live together. I didn't ask for any of the above; he wanted me and shows it. This week he got me a cup with my name engraved, he sent 100 daisies in a box with a vase fed ex to my job. Last week he purchased a Micheal Kors key chain with my birth sign emblem. The list goes on and on and on. I don't equate love with gifts he chooses on his own free-will. It gets on my nerves sometimes.

There are many threads about this and most of Taurus men who replied said they move in hard and strong when they are interested. Just go back a week or two many many people say the same thing about a Taurus who is in love.

Where you one of the people who asked this same question last week? It was posted several times this months.

If a taurus man is into you, it is just like a bull to red flag.

It really doesn't bother me for a man to see others with only three dates and a bunch of texting under us. We both still had our dating profiles up and knew about it. From the beginning though it was clear what we wanted from each other until he wanted it to evolve again. He had actually gone full speed on date one and I thought I'd never see him again after that.

He had mentioned to me in passing that I was "his main one", a sentiment that kind of caught me off guard, but I take that all on a rather casual front. I was confused at first that he still wanted to see me after an initial drop off, because no guy who wanted to continue pursuing me has ever taken that long. So that begged the question is this just typical of Taurus or does it fit in any other sign? I haven't been ready to go full speed ahead with anyone for a while so the casual pacing was sort of welcomed. My only hope would be he'd be consistent in his direct approach of what he wanted or didn't want from me.

His Mars is Gemini though, a bag of issues in it's self.

Posted by MoonDust23
It really doesn't bother me for a man to see others with only three dates and a bunch of texting under us. We both still had our dating profiles up and knew about it. From the beginning though it was clear what we wanted from each other until he wanted it to evolve again. He had actually gone full speed on date one and I thought I'd never see him again after that.

He had mentioned to me in passing that I was "his main one", a sentiment that kind of caught me off guard, but I take that all on a rather casual front. I was confused at first that he still wanted to see me after an initial drop off, because no guy who wanted to continue pursuing me has ever taken that long. So that begged the question is this just typical of Taurus or does it fit in any other sign? I haven't been ready to go full speed ahead with anyone for a while so the casual pacing was sort of welcomed. My only hope would be he'd be consistent in his direct approach of what he wanted or didn't want from me.

His Mars is Gemini though, a bag of issues in it's self.

Him telling you that you are "his main one", speaks for itself. You are in a pool of females, so his inconsistencies would be him weighing out his options.

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It really doesn't bother me for a man to see others with only three dates and a bunch of texting under us. We both still had our dating profiles up and knew about it. From the beginning though it was clear what we wanted from each other until he wanted it to evolve again. He had actually gone full speed on date one and I thought I'd never see him again after that.

He had mentioned to me in passing that I was "his main one", a sentiment that kind of caught me off guard, but I take that all on a rather casual front. I was confused at first that he still wanted to see me after an initial drop off, because no guy who wanted to continue pursuing me has ever taken that long. So that begged the question is this just typical of Taurus or does it fit in any other sign? I haven't been ready to go full speed ahead with anyone for a while so the casual pacing was sort of welcomed. My only hope would be he'd be consistent in his direct approach of what he wanted or didn't want from me.

His Mars is Gemini though, a bag of issues in it's self.

Him telling you that you are "his main one", speaks for itself. You are in a pool of females, so his inconsistencies would be him weighing out his options.

I didn't spot that but if I was telling a woman she was my "main one" it would be to hint at some reciprocation. I was dating a woman I met online once and told her that I'd hidden my profile, hinting that I wanted something more serious. She just said, "Why?" 😄 😄 I can't remember her sign but needless to say we didn't have any more dates.

Backs up my previous post that he might be uncertain about how serious you are about him.

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Amazing how those few words "his main one" can be interpreted completely differently from the opposite sexes.

This is all rather insightful. Thank you.

I will admit, I haven't been great at expressing verbal interest and I'm not the best with "cues". He's done most of the leg work and I was under the impression that's he wanted to "drive the truck" so to speak. So I took a backseat and let it happen because I believed that's what he wanted.

Posted by MoonDust23
This is all rather insightful. Thank you.

I will admit, I haven't been great at expressing verbal interest and I'm not the best with "cues". He's done most of the leg work and I was under the impression that's he wanted to "drive the truck" so to speak. So I took a backseat and let it happen because I believed that's what he wanted.

But you are attached.

U need to first get "detached" or things will never move in any direction.

You have too many messy intimate relationships going on at the same time. You have to ask yourself and him what his intentions were towards you knowing you were attached to someone else? From what I can gather from tauruses they abhor cheaters even those that do it themselves. This will not go long term. I personally don't think it will.

Concentrate on sorting out your life.

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Posted by MoonDust23
This is all rather insightful. Thank you.

I will admit, I haven't been great at expressing verbal interest and I'm not the best with "cues". He's done most of the leg work and I was under the impression that's he wanted to "drive the truck" so to speak. So I took a backseat and let it happen because I believed that's what he wanted.

But you are attached.

U need to first get "detached" or things will never move in any direction.

You have too many messy intimate relationships going on at the same time. You have to ask yourself and him what his intentions were towards you knowing you were attached to someone else? From what I can gather from tauruses they abhor cheaters even those that do it themselves. This will not go long term. I personally don't think it will.

Concentrate on sorting out your life.

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Uh...I'm not attached to anyone nor have I said so? Having a dating profile doesn't mean you have "too many messy intimate relationships" when the primary discussions online or for date one are "What's your favourite food?" and "What do you like to do for fun?". Nobody deletes an online dating profile after seeing someone more than once either.

Your question is; is he slow-moving because it's the nature of Taurus men, or he is slow moving because he's not interested.

In my experience with my Taurus brother and Taurus women, they move slow with revealing their feelings and emotions but their presence is consistent and persistent when interested.