Some advice :)

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by AnnoyedCancer on Monday, May 26, 2008 and has 9 replies.

Understanding Taurus and Long-Distance Relationships

Taurus individuals value stability and emotional security. Building trust takes time, especially in long-distance situations. Open communication and patience are key. If the connection feels genuine, consider finding a middle ground that respects both partners' boundaries before making decisions to walk away.

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@AnnoyedCancer
19 YearsCancer

Ok guys.
Another Taurus, this one I do care about.
I met this guy on a random AIM through my friend (she was talking, I butted it, innocent.)
He got my AIM, and AIMed ever since then. Its been what? a week and a half?
The guy is amazing, we click INCREDIBLY. Ended up falling for eachother, and told eachother, when we hear music it reminds us of eachother, blah blah.
Problem is, he is 5 hours away at a university I happened to turn down.
Last night turned badly, because I was bothered by the fact that he said "I can't imagine a convo w/ you, gimme a call, I'll show you its always different."
He turns around to say "Nevermind, probably not a good idea to get any closer."
He asked if it bothered me, I said yes, I have never met a guy who has such high walls agaisnt me.
He is truly the most amusing and amazing person I have met thus far.
Extremely mentally stimulating, but is very negetive. Has guards up around me that would make the Queen jealous.
I feel like I'm wasting my time, and even though I didn't mean for it to happen it did, and now I am at a loss.
I don't know whether to take his suggestion and find a middle ground, or if I just call it impossible and walk away.
Advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks 🙂

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@Lady_M
20 Years10,000+ Posts

I think its the circumstance. He's at school (5 hrs, im guessing UCF)...away from you. Its only the logical thing to do.

He's right its always different in person...sometimes better, sometimes not as great. Try to hang out with him if he ever comes down there for the summer. Your putting alot into this too soon. Take our time and date others...just date.

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@AnnoyedCancer
19 YearsCancer

Hmm yes I know, and its UF.
I thought about visiting him and seeing how that would be.
I think I should just cool off, but the thing I don't know whether to just cutt if off completely, or just remain within contact.
Lol, yesterday something told me my emotions were out of wack, should have listened to it!

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@Lady_M
20 Years10,000+ Posts

aaah, gators suck 😛

You can remain in contact, but just be cool. No need to invest all your energy and emotion so quickly...especially in a long distance college type deal (ugh, trust me).
Dont go there to just visit him...

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@AnnoyedCancer
19 YearsCancer

Haha get you.
And hey! I know they do, but they are an excellent school!
Sounds like you've done the long distance.
Hmm, it would be a shame to lose such an interesting fellow.