Sorry I'm back...

Hate to show my face here after ticking off so many people but had a turn of events recently. My Taurus was almost out the door ( he said he was still looking forward to find love ) after I get a job to take of me and my kid so he can leave but that twice sex with him in mid May caused me to get pregnant. While doing it I asked him about no protection and if he was ready for a child and he said he will see if that happens and basically he was not even completing the job because he was not in love with me or whatever. After he found about my pregnancy he was very angry and wanted me to abort it and when I refused he said I will destroyed his future with this baby. That just made me lose more respect and trust in him. I told him I will take care of the baby, he is free to go and I will never contact him again but after 1 day of being upset he is now saying he will live with me and take care of the baby and try to like me. I don't want him or to be liked by him. How do I make him leave me? I don't want to walk away without him agreeing for it because I will have to face him later when the child is born and want to be able to bare his existence without court issues like I have right now between my ex husband and our daughter. He is being very nice since over a week and it's putting my through guilt and fear because I still love him and I am too hurt..

Welp, the two of you are stuck together now smh. Maybe you shouldn't be so concerned with getting rid of him but more concerned with finding your own way. There is a big possibility you will have to take care of both of your kids alone, so brace yourself for it by figuring out how you will get out there and do it. Just focus on that for right now.

Drop him and file for child support. The fact that he suggest you get an abortion should tell you he doesn't care for anyone but himself.

Well that's going to end horribly. Nightmare on
Iya's street.

When he goes full on Bull mode, you will have nobody to blame but yourself. LOL.

The truth is, it's not your fault and it's not his fault, it's both of you who are at fault. You both made a decision to have unprotected sex. Own it! Don't be trying to place the blame on him for sticking his dick in you when you could have said at ANY time stop, we need to wear protection! Unfortunately he's stuck with you for a life time, even if you aren't together he's always going to have a reminder of you and vice versa. The best thing to do now is to not be together, do what normal couples who are expecting children do, but don't be living together or pretending to love each other when you obviously hate each other.

Staying together for the kids sake is worse than splitting up, because the child will have to grow up in a crap environment where their parents have drama. Let him be there for his kid if that's what he wants to do, but in the future keep your damn legs shut and have a little more respect for yourself. and above all else don't be so fucking shady.

Oh we have two people back for more replies...

This one@ OP is peaking my interest. So not only did you k inda not take our advice wholeheartedly, OMG. Wtf.. This is not how you keep a guy at all.. And you are still having problems. This angers me. I don't get angry easily...I am thinking about 100 seconds right now. On hold a second. I can't just follow Busy and AB. Cause I am speechless..

Iya,

You're a fucking idiot. Your life was fucked up before due to poor decisions and now it's proper fucked up due to more poor decisions.

You already have one kid and an unstable background with the previous partner and then you've been stewing in your current pile of crap with this dude.

Which one of you thought it would be a REALLY good idea to have unprotected sex?

For fuck sake, you can buy a condom for less than ??1 or 1 or $ 1. Why didn't you?

You were obviously behind the bike sheds entertaining the lads when that part of the biology lesson was happening!

Personally, I think you wanted to trap this bloke and get yourself pregnant and this bloke is too stupid (judgement from previous posts) to have engaged his brain before he engaged his penis.

Now you waffle on about getting rid of him. What help exactly do you think you will find from this forum?

Do you have a job? Do you pay for everything yourself or receive any welfare/benefits? Can you actually afford to bring another kid into this world or is everyone else going to have to saddle the responsibility just like you want everyone else to saddle the responsibility of your poor decisions? Is it even a good idea to bring another child into this world? Are you both stable enough and able to create a loving home between you?

Go and whinge to your psychotherapist about all this bullshit as I'm sure they'll be able to give you a much better shoulder to cry on and pander to your bullshit. After all, they've obviously done a marvellous job with you both so far.

You pair of fucking cretins!

Before you think the above is harsh, take a long, hard look at your life and your posts on here...

LoL@ the anger over someone elses life smh. Be glad its not yours and carry on.

Iya imho comes across as severly depressed. Taurus probably seemed like an angel in the beginning, especially being willing to stick by her through a dark time, but at this point he's contributing to her darkness so she's dragging him down with her, although I think they probably connected over something they had in common. She is so afraid of loosing him, even though he's not helping her condition.

This is not a situation for astrology boards imho.

It's not anger. There's nothing to be angry about. Certainly not over someone else's' life and certainly not someone on an Internet forum.

What you're getting there from me is total disbelief and exasperation that this person has gone and made her life considerably more uncertain and unstable by now justifying bringing a kid into the world.

No hun not anger, over this... It's sad and fucked up.. You want me to talk about it now maybe IT is this Saturn crap. .. Well Agent and others did just fine. Literally we all tried to help with advice.. Smdh.

Imho MOO...

Carry on. You are right it's not my situation to get mad or irritated is a big difference..

Posted by Binota
Thank you agentp911 for expressing this out since I felt that too, but mostly to OP that she's just a weakest person I ever seen.

You're welcome. I've not posted much lately as I've been busy but I felt the urge...

OP is lucky P-Angel hasn't been on here doing her charity work!

Well since I did not know who she was addressing. I was just making it crystal clear. It's disappointing..

Haha,

I didn't do it to keep him people...!
I don't go around having sex with men. I was molested several times in my childhood and that got me to the point that I couldn't have sex at all in 36years. It took me 5 years with my Taurus guy to have sex with him. Wish I never had but we were both positive to have child at the time.
I did not sleep with him after a couple times before I came to this forum because even though we tried he was never hard enough for me.
Yes I believe I am very depressed and severely weak!! I don't need to be in any relationship until I learn to love and respect myself first! Lesson learned the hard way.
I will do the sin of aborting this baby now and get rid of my Taurus ( he is so excited about the abortion and half way out the door already ) and just go hide somewhere under a rock where no one will ever see me again. Thanks for the insults! Hope it made your day... PEACE!

Excellent plan of action Iya!

Clearly both of you were not and are not ready to bring a child into this world. Certainly not with all the problems you cited over the last few months and years. Common sense must prevail at some point. It's bloody obvious!

Sorry to hear about your past Iya. Take all the time you need to heal. I think sometimes its thought that people can come in and make you feel better, but it rarely works that way. Good luck moving forward.

Its ultimately your decision, but *sigh* at the idea of aborting the baby. Please dont do that because of him. If your initial thoughts and feelings were to keep it then do just that. F $ ck him, seriously and wipe him completely out of your life if he cant handle a child. Its going to be rough, either way, but I dont see how the emotions involved in that process of aborting will help either. You can get assistance, if needed. Its like a panic over the thought of having children these days, when its not that serious. My granny had 13, in darn near worse conditions. None of them became adults wishing they were not born because they didn't have in the past.

Idk, again, your decision but really think long and hard on it.

I'd be very careful of saying anything that influences this person, Iya, in any way. Fragile and fucked up is an understatement. Sorry, nothing personal.

To have the baby because she may not be able to deal with the emotions an abortion might bring is just absurd. A baby is forever. She can't just have the baby and then cut out the guy because it suits her mental and emotional state at that time. That's not fair to the baby or the guy. Even if he's not interested now, he may be interested in the future. The future being anytime now and in years to come. The baby will be a constant tie.

A fresh start away from this guy without adding more baggage to the pot is the most practical and sensible thing to do. Decisions based solely on emotions without consideration or adequate foresight is what got her in this mess in the first place.

Im am careful about saying anything that influences her, but her first thought and instinct was to keep the baby and do what needed to be done to take care of it. She was willing to stand up and fight. If anything, she's been influenced by his reaction, which his influence over her decision will be something she'll have to live with forever along with the possible regret. Im just saying, maybe she should think of following her first mind.

Yes, a baby is forever, but if people waited for the perfect time to have them then hardly any of us would be here. He may be interested or not interested but I don't get the impression she would stop him from seeing the child. She just seems hurt by his reaction.

The decision to abort will also be based soley on emotion, but possibly not all her own. She's taking his into consideration as well. Im not trying to tell her what to do just suggesting to think long and hard about it.

Besides, there's no guarantee, at the rate they've been going, that they will break away from eachother now.

Iya,

That is a selfish love. you know from the start he cheated. yet you kept on talking he loves you like he said. then now what?

Those times we're here helping you that Don't Validate his cheating and you were afraid because you don't have job - so dependent.

now you're pregnant . That baby is your weapon so he cannot leave you.. you will suffer the consequences.

and please don't twist the story - it should be how can you leave him. Taurus won't go away. They are just there even my ex for decades , he won't go away. so who's going to put boundary? of course the person who has still capable of giving self respect.

nlnn @ Iya.

In fact make that a double nlnn_nnln!!!!!!!!!!!!

Posted by Lust
IYA, let me help you to declutter your mind right at this point, are you earning money enough to pay rent & foods for you & your kids? Or Are you planing to go back to the homeless shelter with your new baby? You have messed up so many times with your decisions & weak mental, now do NOT put this baby's future in jeopardy.
Huh, Mom is mentally unstable & Dad likes to sleep around cause Dad never satisfy. Very sad....

Exactly! This is what we aspire to nowadays because no one is allowed to say 'hey hold on a minute, how about you do NOT create life unless you are in a fit state to support it such as mentally, emotionally, and more importantly financially!'

People have a choice.

Posted by AnomalousBull
In fact make that a double nlnn_nnln!!!!!!!!!!!!

Feeling your pain fella!!

Pathetic, isn't it!

Everyone has shit, issues and problems but fuck me, this girl is proper fucked up!

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Posted by AnomalousBull
In fact make that a double nlnn_nnln!!!!!!!!!!!!

Feeling your pain fella!!

Pathetic, isn't it!

Everyone has shit, issues and problems but fuck me, this girl is proper fucked up!

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What really pisses in my wheaties is that she attempts to use allegations of child molestation as an excuse for why she does what she does then switches gears when she feels slighted and talks about how she's going to abort her baby which she points out is a sin as if not having sex with a man who she isn't married to and having a child out of wedlock aren't already sins. I'm not religious, but even I can see that conflict and lack of forethought in her statements.

I really hate these kinds of people, they think they can do whatever they want and there won't be consequences or repercussions toward them so they can fuck as many guys as they want and have as many babies as they want as long as they can go and abort them. Disgraceful, Selfish, Stupid little Slut!

Hopefully the next skeezy fuck she lets diddle her will have Ebola or an STD. Goddamn grow the fuck up and join the rest of us already.

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Posted by AnomalousBull
nlnn @ Iya.

What does 'nlnn' mean?

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Busy, look at the letters closely! Now take one of your hands and make a fist then extend one of the middle fingers and look back at the screen. LOL!

A Kiwi taught me this a long time ago. nlnn is left hand, nnln is right. 😛

This topic is still weird and fucked up. I don't know how to make a person feel better with this topic, I have did the best....... I would never put myself in a position like this, that way.. no way Jose..

I almost put myself in that situation when I was about 23 years old-24 and that would be , is having a baby with a cheater going to change anything.. SO I got on birth control at the age of 19 and it worked. No kids. And ever since that I remain super caution and single. Till one day it is my time ....but I am 34 so tick tick..tock..

Since I am Earth I try to let mother nature perks just handle my lightweight... and eventually find love.

Haha is that giving someone the middle finger. If so haha. Wow..

Posted by AgentP911

Posted by AnomalousBull
In fact make that a double nlnn_nnln!!!!!!!!!!!!

Feeling your pain fella!!

Pathetic, isn't it!

Everyone has shit, issues and problems but fuck me, this girl is proper fucked up!

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@AgentP911 ,

Tread carefully. Your posting on this thread with some self righteous attitude like you have the privilege to judge this woman for her actions. First, I would like to point out that women do not get pregnant by themselves. If the man was not interested in having children, he should have not allowed the opportunity to happen in the first place. Male birth control does exist.

Secondly, you are name calling a single mom who is also now pregnant.

I recall you coming on this forum begging for advice about traveling to another country to meet a man you never met, Paying for your own flight, disappointed To find that the dude thought so little of you that he did not even have the decency to pick you up from the airport and when you finally managed to get to his house, he was ready for you to go before you made it pass the threshold. Now who is pathetic? Your memory maybe short, but mine is not. Exercise a little kindness. There are ways to firmly get a point across without calling someone an idiot or pathetic.

Op,

How you got pregnant is between you and God. I would not waste my time explaining anything to the people on these forums or even the father of the unborn child. Learn to be more confident With your cirmcumstances. Raising a child is a noble blessing, even if you have to move on from this guy, you will be ok. Tons of children have been raised by parents with very little money and they turn out fine. The creator will provide. Just ask for it in prayer. There are resources available to single women with children. I agree with Inana, this forum is not well suited for th e situation you are in. If you say your are depressed, posting here will not help. Focus on raising your children and loving yourself.

@CreativeCap,

No need to tread carefully. Not self righteous at all. Just making observations. What else is this forum for!

Although I suggest if you want to misconstrue the events of my story to suit your attempt to try and be smart, and I say try because your case would have been greatly helped by getting the information right in the first place, then please do proceed but allow me to correct you:

1) there was no begging.

2) comments made were actually retrospective of my trip.

3) I had previously met the man in question and we had remained in contact for six months afterwards.

4) I never went to his house or met him at his house. It was never arranged to stay with him as he didn't have his own place and I didn't know him well enough.

5) I rented my own apartment in San Fran and in addition, I went and spent a week with a friend of mine in Santa Barbara.

6) I do not have a short memory.

7) I am not pathetic.



You are correct on the following:

1) I paid for my own flight. My holiday so my expense. Not sure who pays for your holidays, trips, or flights?

2) he was not at the airport to collect me. That was irritating. He apologised over the phone for the mix up and came by my apartment to see me and he apologised again.


I'm sure all your friendly advice relating to God will do OP the world of good... We need more people like you...

Now... I must get back to the real world...

wow. my comment would probably be hated but please get an abortion. We have enough screw up ppl in this world and this poor child has to suffer from poor decisions

Is adoption no longer a viable option?

hopefully my opinion will be viewed openmindedly but this is just my opinion. Adoption is just as hurtful as abortion. Even though the kids is in the care of another person, the child still suffers the most because once they become aware of the situation, they want to search for the parents and answers just to be torn apart again once they discover the truth. My friend was adopted and she did not know until she was 16 yrs old. Her foster parents gave her a wonderful life. Her foster parents tried to keep it a secret and she still found out. So she went out to search for her real parents and found out that her mom did not want to talk to her and her dad was a lawyer who did want anything to do with her. So she was hurt and scar times two. That's a truth that you can never break from. So I think adoption is actually worse than abortion.

I get where @hemisphere is talking about sorta.

Its like okay stick to having this baby regardless and make you realize she can meet a perfect step dad for whatever OP meets in life. That means a guy who doesn't mind other people's kids and raise and adopt because he loves Op, type of thing.. if she sparks a good connection and its mutual this time both people get what they want.. one gets the woman and a kid and the other gets the support and love and respect..

Assuming the baby's father is out of the picture for good.

Step parent's are cool. Nothing wrong with adoption..

Abortion as a form of birth control is pretty savage TBH. How about tried and true method of wrapping up or even better keeping yours legs closed and dick in your pants.

Hate to bring this topic back up to the top but...Is this for real? Do people actually live like this? I've read some of the aOP's other posts and this seems unbelievable. Just when you think it can't get worse, it does. Does anyone think this person is making this up and just needs attention? How do you go from not having sex for 5 years, to doing it twice and ending up pregnant after deciding to leave the taurus man who doesn't love her? Seems like a soap opera or novel.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Haha is that giving someone the middle finger. If so haha. Wow..

Yep! 😄

A Kiwi (New Zealand) taught me this a long time ago in a IRC room about 1998 - 1999.

Abso-freakin-lutely love the judging & criticizing (mos def labelled it something else) by the saints and sinners on this board...LMAO!!!! Dxp has yet to fail me! 😉

Posted by Lovelyisis
Abso-freakin-lutely love the judging & criticizing (mos def labelled it something else) by the saints and sinners on this board...LMAO!!!! Dxp has yet to fail me! 😉

Elusive Virgo.

Coming to the Taurus board and asking us not to judge is like someone standing in the road expecting not to get hit.

When I was a little younger I knew a guy who was "in love" with every single girl he had sex with. Despite having unprotected sex with three or four different women each night. HUGE Man whore of epic proportions. Last I heard he was being taken to court for child support by 30 different women and had contracted a deadly disease. His excuse for not using a condom was because it wasn't "Gods will" LOL!

Whoa, whoa, whoa let's not misunderstand he wasn't my friend! Just a guy I knew from the old neighborhood. I knew a lot of people, doesn't mean we were all friends lol. In all honesty the chicks he hooked up with were all hoes straight up. Most of them already had three or four kids and it doesn't make it right but at the same time like you said they were to blame as well.

His street name was "Top Gun" think his real name was Julian or something like that. Everybody called him Top Gun cause he looked nearly identical to Tom Cruise and all the women just swooned over him. Of course he wasn't the only one who did that kind of shady shit but he was the only example I know of that was so drastic. I used to know a lot of interesting characters. lmfao.

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Posted by AnomalousBull
When I was a little younger I knew a guy who was "in love" with every single girl he had sex with. Despite having unprotected sex with three or four different women each night. HUGE Man whore of epic proportions. Last I heard he was being taken to court for child support by 30 different women and had contracted a deadly disease. His excuse for not using a condom was because it wasn't "Gods will" LOL!

Was he a sag?

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I don't know, probably he was super slutty. lmao

That dude used to boast of being a "Dirty Ridah" lmfao white boy acting black.Comedy on many levels!

Totally with you guys on your views. Watch it though, some Cap asshat will come and pick on you for having an... Opinion!! Shock horror!! Taurus board and judgemental... Good one Anomolous!!

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Posted by Lovelyisis
Abso-freakin-lutely love the judging & criticizing (mos def labelled it something else) by the saints and sinners on this board...LMAO!!!! Dxp has yet to fail me! 😉

Elusive Virgo.

Coming to the Taurus board and asking us not to judge is like someone standing in the road expecting not to get hit.

Lololololololololololololo lololololololololololololo!!!!!!!!

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That was the one! Love it!!

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Posted by faceroll
agent that person earlier did a low blow with you. i was kind of shocked. i've never been able to tell if you like me or not but i like you. and i found that offensive. but by the time i saw that you had already put them in their place. ftw. 😄

I have to agree here too. I did find that quite shocking... I dont really understand caps... Too cool on the surface..

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It was a pointless low blow hit considering others were of the same or similar view yet I was honoured to be picked on. Sure, I don't mince my words and it can sometimes rub a bit but that's just life.

However, by all means take a blow at me but for fuck sake, if you DARE try to use my words or stories 'against me' then you had BETTER ensure the points you make are ACCURATE because I'm extremely careful with how I put something or with what I share. Everything I put is an honest and correct account as it stands at the time I make it. I do NOT fuck about with changing my story or portraying myself as something I'm not. Not everything is shared on here and I may sometimes share more privately or directly ask a person on here for a view etc.

That Cap prick can spend their time trawling through EVERY post I have ever made and will note that EVERYTHING I said is accurate and that their version is quite simply, a big bowl of made up bullshit with a shit stirring spoon sticking out of it. They can lick their own shit off the spoon too!

Glad it provided an element of entertainment though!

Scorched - yes, I think you're the bees knees so all good. I'll put you on my Christmas card list... See, you've totally made it now...!!

Posted by faceroll
hopefully we have sufficiently shamed that cap off of our board!

Hadn't seen it much over this way before. I won't hold my breath for a come back from it. What irritates is that this forum is designed for sharing views and opinions. Some will be more relevant than others, some more helpful, nicer, more accurate more palatable, fluffy, and some will even bring God into it as if that helps... But ultimately people share and can take what they will... However, for people to not expect that to happen... Is just odd to me.

Sometimes, and after reading OP's previous posts, they just need to hear it straight. Someone needs to tell her to buck the fuck up and look at reality. We ALL need a kick up our arses on occasion and making it 'ok' that OP is a walking disaster just fuels her pity party.

Anyway, what's with the name change and surprise return??

Ahahaha!!!

Wow, that was considered a low blow? The OP is and has been down for a minute and was called an idiot, amongst other names, and someone bringing up your past reminding you that you've had "moments" is considered a low blow? Really??

I dont consider that a low blow at all, esepcially not after what I consider was done here, which is kicking someone while they are down.

People just get their points across differently I guess. You were trying to be tough with the OP to wake her up, and CC was trying to be tough with you in attempts to tell you to cut the edge off. Life happens.

Posted by lnana04
Ahahaha!!!

Wow, that was considered a low blow? The OP is and has been down for a minute and was called an idiot, amongst other names, and someone bringing up your past reminding you that you've had "moments" is considered a low blow? Really??

I dont consider that a low blow at all, esepcially not after what I consider was done here, which is kicking someone while they are down.

People just get their points across differently I guess. You were trying to be tough with the OP to wake her up, and CC was trying to be tough with you in attempts to tell you to cut the edge off. Life happens.

No.

The Cap did not bring up my past.

The Cap fabricated their own version of what they thought was my past so it could used to make a point.

Total fucking fabrication. It was like reading someone else's story.

That's why it was a low blow. Don't miss the point.

Have you read OP's previous posts Inana04?

Those were shocking enough but all wished her well overall, and to get help, sort herself out, and get on with her life.

The she comes back essentially saying... whoops his dick fell into my vagina without protection and I don't know how it happened but now I'm pregnant and I've just gone and thrown an even bigger spanner in the works with my complete stupidity but it's ok as we had talked about having a baby despite having an entirely unstable relationship which isn't even a relationship.

At what point did OP only have herself to blame for bringing more unnecessary drama and heartache to her door?

At what point did she fail to understand how babies are made? I mean, she already has one kid. Perhaps she thinks the stork brings and takes babies away. Clearly she was absent from school during that human biology lesson.

The more you create an environment where this behaviour is acceptable or that consequences to actions do not need to be considered then the more you facilitate and enable someone to continue breeding that behaviour.

We were all nice and lovely to her first time round. Look where that got her! Up the fucking duff with a kid on the way and the bloke already on the way out. It may take two to tango BUT it is the woman left carrying the baby (or STI). Therefore, it's even more important to use protection especially when the bloke has been sle

Therefore, it's even more important to use protection especially when the bloke has been sleeping about as is the case here.

I wasn't being tough with OP. I just expressed my view.

Cap wasn't being tough with me. Cap was being a cunt. There's nothing worse than an incorrect cunt.