Sorry I'm back... (Page 2)

Posted by faceroll
things ended with the virgo for the final time. i was planning on leaving dxp and never coming back. then i realized i shouldn't let one person have that kind of control over me. so i came back. have since blocked the virgo. am looking forward to living a virgo free life. at least until i meet the next one. LOL.

Ughhhh Virgo. I'm feeling your pain, or disgust, or perhaps that's just my Virgo ex!

No you can't ever leave... Dxp has much to offer all!! Look at all the bullshit drama you would miss!!

Good for you for not letting one person have that control over you. Sometimes a break is good though. Sometimes you need to focus on your own shit rather than other people's shit!

I was tough with OP and I don't regret it. The thing though is that I suspect no matter what she reads she'll continue to be stupid because that's all she knows. lol. I would love to be proven wrong and hope she comes back in the future with a better attitude and clearly demonstrate that she's doing better but I'm not holding my breath. It's just impossible to get through people sometimes and I wasn't trying to be mean and hurt her, but by most accounts she was in the wrong and she needed to know that.

Maybe for some people having a kid is like going to a prom or walking from the bed to the couch but to the rest of us it's environment changing, life changing and something we've been taught is a major development in ones life cycle. Treating it like it's no big deal is faulty thinking and needs to be nipped in the bud, especially if that person already has a kid or is in the process of one coming. I know a lot of fuck ups and many of them grew up not when they became adults but when they had children and for someone not to evolve or grow after having one themselves points to a much bigger issue.

And btw there's nothing worse than an incorrect cunt.

I haven't read all of her posts, but she claims she ticked people off on here in the past, which makes me think people were not always so nice, or tried to talk sense into her before.

Yeah, she will most likely do what she wants, or more so, what she knows. Name calling will not change her environment or the reality around her after she logs off...it will not change her habits either. As adults, they will both have to live with their decision to have unprotected sex. She will have to get fed up and change for herself.

Posted by lnana04
I haven't read all of her posts, but she claims she ticked people off on here in the past, which makes me think people were not always so nice, or tried to talk sense into her before.

Yeah, she will most likely do what she wants, or more so, what she knows. Name calling will not change her environment or the reality around her after she logs off...it will not change her habits either. As adults, they will both have to live with their decision to have unprotected sex. She will have to get fed up and change for herself.

Right...

There it is ladies and gentlemen... The infamous 'I haven't read all her posts...' line...

The line that says even though I haven't actually read all her posts and therefore I'm only in possession of a very small part of the story, probably only the posts on this thread, I'm still going to criticise the shit out of the opinions of all the people who have actually bothered to read all of OP's posts and I'm going to fill in the blanks with my own assumptions and my own thoughts and draw my own conclusions based on two things... 'Fuck' and 'all'!

Heaven forbid you actually READ all her posts and base your opinions on the FACTS of the case. As much as dxp will allow, of course.

Must be my Libra Midheaven kicking in... I should have been a barrister in my other life...

Perhaps if you read more on her story you will be of the same or similar view as the majority of us... After all, not everyone can be wrong.

Ive read that she was married, seperated or divorced, in a custody battle, i believe, the Taurus is younger, stepped up and took financial care of her and her child, shes scared to leave because she feels the ex will get the child, the taurus admitted to chatting with his ex, she confronted him and he/they even went to counseling, he promised he wouldnt do it again, says he loves her one minute then dont the next, promises he will try to fall in love with her again. Now Im here. Ive probably got some things wrong and missed some details, but to me...ive read enough.

I know she doesn't work, and is financially dependant on the Taurus.

Posted by lnana04
Ive read that she was married, seperated or divorced, in a custody battle, i believe, the Taurus is younger, stepped up and took financial care of her and her child, shes scared to leave because she feels the ex will get the child, the taurus admitted to chatting with his ex, she confronted him and he/they even went to counseling, he promised he wouldnt do it again, says he loves her one minute then dont the next, promises he will try to fall in love with her again. Now Im here. Ive probably got some things wrong and missed some details, but to me...ive read enough.

you missed the part where they weren't sleeping together for 5 years, he cheated on her, fell in love with the other woman, went back to her out of a sense of duty, could no longer get it up because he was thinking about the latest thing. she was clinging on because she couldn't afford to leave and despite her telling him to go he insisted they should make a go of it for her child's sake. all while admitting his feelings were no longer in it.

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Posted by lnana04
Ive read that she was married, seperated or divorced, in a custody battle, i believe, the Taurus is younger, stepped up and took financial care of her and her child, shes scared to leave because she feels the ex will get the child, the taurus admitted to chatting with his ex, she confronted him and he/they even went to counseling, he promised he wouldnt do it again, says he loves her one minute then dont the next, promises he will try to fall in love with her again. Now Im here. Ive probably got some things wrong and missed some details, but to me...ive read enough.

you missed the part where they weren't sleeping together for 5 years, he cheated on her, fell in love with the other woman, went back to her out of a sense of duty, could no longer get it up because he was thinking about the latest thing. she was clinging on because she couldn't afford to leave and despite her telling him to go he insisted they should make a go of it for her child's sake. all while admitting his feelings were no longer in it.

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Yeah... Well summarised J! All important factors to the story... Which leads her to 'accidently' become pregnant...

Of course, we don't need to actually read any of her previous posts or background. We can just jump right in with a fluffy view and sit round the camp fire toasting marshmallows while singing happy songs...

Posted by whale09
That first page of reply... Seriously...

Pretty heartless isn't it? Insulting her like she isn't a person. Look, someone made a mistake, she needed a listening ear. Maybe some advice. Does that mean that it's permission to insult a person like she's nothing? Come on people. Try to be more encouraging. It's a forum, not freaking highschool drama where there is the hierarchy of mean girls.


And don't try to defend your own actions by saying she deserve the hard truth. There is no hard truth in what you typed. Only insults.

Read

Her

Story

All of it. Not just this thread.

Then you'll appreciate WHY we have taken the view we have.

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Posted by AgentP911

Posted by whale09
That first page of reply... Seriously...

Pretty heartless isn't it? Insulting her like she isn't a person. Look, someone made a mistake, she needed a listening ear. Maybe some advice. Does that mean that it's permission to insult a person like she's nothing? Come on people. Try to be more encouraging. It's a forum, not freaking highschool drama where there is the hierarchy of mean girls.


And don't try to defend your own actions by saying she deserve the hard truth. There is no hard truth in what you typed. Only insults.

Read

Her

Story

All of it. Not just this thread.

Then you'll appreciate WHY we have taken the view we have.

read her story.. still doesnt justify all that treetrunking..

therefore cant appreciate it. but lets leave it here. no more.

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Yes... Let's...

Awwwww much love coming through on the T board for AgentP911!!

I think I have a limited vocabulary so I make up for that by using swear words. Just kidding!

I re-read my first post on this thread. I didn't think it was that harsh at all. Not considering the background of OP's other posts. It was a moment where you look and think things cannot get any worse and then you read further only to find yourself shaking your head and thinking 'wtf did you go and do that for??'

Trust me, I've had moments like those where I think 'was that really my best idea?' but none which revolve around bringing a life into this world or anything particularly major. If all I'm guilty of is taking a chance and getting on a plane to see a guy which didn't work out then I'll take that thank you. In hindsight, I had a lucky escape from that dude but I got to see my mate and all worked out ok.

Big hugs people, big hugs...

I just remembered that they either censor or are not allowed to use swear words on the telly in the USA. Fuck, that's so boring! Everyone sits there being overly polite when here in the UK we revel in calling each other a cunt... To their faces no less! Thoroughly enjoyable it is too.

Posted by AgentP911
I just remembered that they either censor or are not allowed to use swear words on the telly in the USA. Fuck, that's so boring! Everyone sits there being overly polite when here in the UK we revel in calling each other a cunt... To their faces no less! Thoroughly enjoyable it is too.

P911 is the perfect example of why I'm so fond of our British counterparts or Poms as their known elsewhere in the world. Any woman who can use the word "cunt" as an insult or in a sentence deserves props. Here in the states depending on the woman Bitch will get you a slap, but Cunt will earn you a swift kick to the sack. Just another example of how our two countries differ, truth be known I reserve Cunt for only the most wretchedly mean spirited females and I have suffered the consequences for it immensely but it was worth it! LOL.

What's the equivalent of a hood pass on DXP? Taurus Pass!?

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Posted by lnana04
Ive read that she was married, seperated or divorced, in a custody battle, i believe, the Taurus is younger, stepped up and took financial care of her and her child, shes scared to leave because she feels the ex will get the child, the taurus admitted to chatting with his ex, she confronted him and he/they even went to counseling, he promised he wouldnt do it again, says he loves her one minute then dont the next, promises he will try to fall in love with her again. Now Im here. Ive probably got some things wrong and missed some details, but to me...ive read enough.

you missed the part where they weren't sleeping together for 5 years, he cheated on her, fell in love with the other woman, went back to her out of a sense of duty, could no longer get it up because he was thinking about the latest thing. she was clinging on because she couldn't afford to leave and despite her telling him to go he insisted they should make a go of it for her child's sake. all while admitting his feelings were no longer in it.

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Yeah, I did miss the part where they were not having sex. I also didn't know he physically cheated, I thought it was just emotional cheating and flirting with his ex.

I knew he kept going back and forth about his emotions and trying to figure out if he wanted to leave or stay. I find it odd that he couldn't get it up any other time but as he's "out the door" he's ready and able to have sex again?

I don't think the details I overlooked really changes my opinion and I still think she should keep the baby. Its a real mess of a situation but they are still both participants for whatever reasons. It's not a relationship Id personally advise continuing, but I don't think it's worth getting rid of a baby either. Idk, I've honestly known of worse.

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Posted by faceroll
lol the taurus board has done a lot of kissing agent's ass the past couple of days. lol at all of us.

It's not "kissing ass"... Just telling it like it is... If I see it.. I say it!

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Kissy, kissy, kissy AgentP's bottom!!

Posted by AnomalousBull

Posted by Lovelyisis
Abso-freakin-lutely love the judging & criticizing (mos def labelled it something else) by the saints and sinners on this board...LMAO!!!! Dxp has yet to fail me! 😉

Elusive Virgo.

Coming to the Taurus board and asking us not to judge is like someone standing in the road expecting not to get hit.

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You got that right Anomalous! This is EXACTLY the primary reason why wheneva I roll thru Taurus board I stay dressed in Kevlar body armor strapped on both sides! For some unknown apparent silly reason, Bulls think that when they come out the bullpen "striking" others...that folks are supposed to just lay there and take it and that they're not gonna get "hit" back...sometimes twice as hard as they dish! Love ya'll bulls to death, but I swear some folk mos def know how to return the blow and don't mind doing it with ease!!! 😉

I just wanted come back to this thread and apologize for taking some time out. I needed it.

But I do appreciate the feedback most of u took the time to post on this thread. As far as insults, that on those who post it. None taken here..

When I came to post stuff about my life here I was desperate, depressed, shocked etc.,.. Reading everyone and working on my personal level did help me a lot.

Ppl judge because it easy and not possible for one to know on thread where one is coming from. I come from a very dysfunctional family

Dad had affairs, mom fought for him and still does. I got molested, bullied in school, had dyslexia and I was a mess. I dropped out of school and after struggling for 3 yrs picked it back up and enjoyed music a lot but my family disapproved of it and then I came to USA to pursue my career goals and my family refused to fund for it half ways during the very first semester. I should have gone back but I didn't want to go back to my family and instead had found a love interest. I married him and he turned out to be a registered sex offender. Abused me for 5 yrs. Yes my choice was flawed. I came out of the marriage as a mom of a 3 yr old straight into a domestic violence shelter. And bumped right into my Taurus. I should have instead taken time out to figure myself. I was in counselling 2 yrs but my Taurus was always there so I didn't really live single and figure me out.

When I was in shelter I was in deportation proceedings. Simply because I was not able to fix my status after I married the American guy because he refused to work on my papers. His way of controlling me. He also called wrote petitions against me to USCIS and screwed my case up so bad that it took 10 years past divorce to get back my legal status so I could live here like a legal resident. I was needy. Didn't realize it but I was and so was my Taurus. He has low self esteem and he fills it by attracting and hanging on to ppl that need him. Yes, having a baby with him was the STUPIDEST move ever in all the time I have spend with this guy but I am firm that something positive is to come out of this too. My past life is not an excuse for my present mistakes. But my mistakes will definitely make me a better individual. I had the thought of aborting my baby for a few hours based on my emotional state of mind. But the truth is I absolutely love my baby and my girl and most of I love me and want to learn to love myself more each day. I was confused with my wishy washy Taurus and I still am but after a lot of arguments he gave me a clear idea of where I stand in his life and it helped a great deal because it has cut all my expectations from him.

He stated that he only cares for me and always has. He tried to love me but he could not get to that point. He has no idea what love is. He says he does not love anyone including his parents. ( that statement to me sounded he had some issues with him self emotionally ) I am not ready to be with him or marry him but he says he wants to marry me to save to child to be born out of wedlock and also to experience what it is like to have a child of ur own and if possibly his child will teach him to love and feel love. He wants me to love him until then and marry him and have his child.

While I respect his honesty, I feel it's not justified for me to take a chance at this and miss out on finding my peace in life. His infidelity has caused me to feel less about me. I believe in being kind and giving and I am certainly not looking for another relationship just yet or in near future. I wish to continue with my Taurus as a friend and forgive him but in the mean time give myself what I have deprived myself of for so long- self love. I choose to study work and raise my kids with proud momma, who after all the hurdles in life did not give up on herself or her kids 🙂 my Taurus I'm afraid will remain inseparable from me and my kids because he wants to just take care of us. That's his choice and he understands I owe him none and as far as my love for him, it's still there and probably will remain for a good while. Time heals, I have heard and experienced so... Thank you guys!

*Turns around and walks right back out*

Posted by AnomalousBull
*Turns around and walks right back out*

Right behind ya fella!!

Posted by AgentP911

Posted by AnomalousBull
*Turns around and walks right back out*

Right behind ya fella!!

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P911!

How's my only favorite Scorpio?

Posted by AnomalousBull

Posted by AgentP911

Posted by AnomalousBull
*Turns around and walks right back out*

Right behind ya fella!!

P911!

How's my only favorite Scorpio?

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Meh... She's ok.

You trying to make me feel special as there's no one else here or what?

How's my favourite bull?

Ps: feeling the accepting love here fella... Only favourite Scorpio... I made it!!

Posted by AgentP911
Ps: feeling the accepting love here fella... Only favourite Scorpio... I made it!!

Just giving compliments where they are due 😛

Frankly, you are the only Scorpio which I don't feel like stabbing to death with an icepick. lmao.

If their ever handing out Taurus Hood Passes in the future I will totally nominate you!

Posted by busyeyes88

Posted by AgentP911
Ps: feeling the accepting love here fella... Only favourite Scorpio... I made it!!

My only favourite scorp too!! Lol

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Awwwwww... Ok that's two votes for 'Team Agent'

Who's coming with me? Who's coming with me?

(Jerry Maguire... Goldfish scene...)

Posted by AnomalousBull

Posted by AgentP911
Ps: feeling the accepting love here fella... Only favourite Scorpio... I made it!!

Just giving compliments where they are due 😛

Frankly, you are the only Scorpio which I don't feel like stabbing to death with an icepick. lmao.

If their ever handing out Taurus Hood Passes in the future I will totally nominate you!

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You're getting generous in your old age...

This is refreshing considering most people probably want to stab me with an ice pick for various reasons.

I need to renew my pass, it comes up in November!