T man….I am so disappointed.

It takes a lot for me to get disappointed with people, I try to see the best in them, offer support/ help/solutions, give love, whatever.
So when T man told me he was going through extremely harsh complications in his life specially to do with finances and money, and he needed to take things SLOW I was so sweet and understanding….I actually give him ways to exit my life but he said that although he couldn't offer me "more" at that particular moment, he could see me in his future and wanted to see me soon and make up for the time that I would have to live off his crumbles…."But please", he said. "Don't put more pressure in the pressure cooker"

Since is was LDR anyway, I just got on with my life and left the ball in his court. He messaged me, he 'missed' me, he sent Xmas gift+card saying he is "looking forward to see me soon", "lots of love", called me pet names…

I remained collected, polite. Did my best not to pressure him, didn't complain about lack of communication any longer. Kept it all low key, short and sweet.

Yesterday I realised that he probably banished me to his 'restricted list' on Facebook. It means that I no longer can see what he posts and I can't see his friend's list…..

I am extremely puzzled and also pissed off TBH.

The only reason I have FB is because I don't want to lose contact with some friends, specially the ones abroad.
I don't have any photos there, my profile photo is not real, my name is spelled differently too. I have everything on high privacy settings for the 'public'. I don't post nothing, don't share anything, never press the 'like' button. I mainly go there to check updates of a few family members and that is it. I don't even communicate with those same family members via FB. I use other means.
Now, T man insisted on me adding him to my FB when we met. I explained to him I am not big on it, but he wanted so much to the extent that he got my phone during a dinner date and convinced me to add him using his charming playful way…I guess he wanted to noise around…guess what? He found nothing interesting because my FB is dead.

I have no idea when he banned me from being his 'friend' and reduced me to a 'restricted friend' but I am sure I could see his updates before on my news feed. Also, not long ago I searched from one of his friends on his lists because I wanted to see a video on his wall (he is a filmmaker).

Anyway, the point is…we had a pact to be real to each other. To not lie. To tell the truth. But to me feels that he is hiding something.
I bet he went on travelling during the holidays but still wants me to believe on the whole "I am busting a gut here, I work so hard" BS.
Yep, he thinks I am that naive. Or could be OW, he could well be dating somebody else, but I doubt he would post photos of them two together there.
Fair enough if he doesn't want me. Fair enough if he doesn't want a LDR. But why string me along, talk about a future, say that he miss me, send me stuff

through the post…
Why?
So dishonest and fake…

Well, everything that I need to forget about him for good and kick 2106 with a new mindset.

I know, I am not trying to say that it is happening because of his star sign. I am not saying all taurus are like this.

I posted here because all the other stories about him are here. It all started with curiosity when I first met him. My 1st bull!
Now this is how it ends.

But honestly there was no need for all this. I was clear from the get go. I said: "Let's be real. Let's be honest to each other"
He totally agreed.
Fucking dirty liar.
It is disgusting.
More then losing him I hate the feeling of losing faith in yet another human being.

I treated him with so much love and respect.
What have I done to reserve this?
I feel so stupid.

If I remember from your other posts, open communication is an issue in your relationship. There's lots of assuming on your part, but no communicating. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think this is at least partially right from what I remember.

Did you calmly ask him about the fb thing? I don't really see how there's anything to lose from asking. If it ends up being another misunderstanding, then finding out through asking is much better than finding out after giving him the cold shoulder or acting spiteful towards him.
And if you ask him soon, you can ask him to make everything visible to you, which means if he's really somewhere else, there's a better chance of finding out now rather than him making everything visible to you after he's already back (if he did go anywhere).

Open communication is an issue for him not for me!
That is how the whole "I am too busy to communicate with you right now" started. "Please take those crumbs I have to offer now and I will give you the whole cake soon"
I believed.
Now I actually have to hold my head high and use some pride.
He doesn't want to keep communicating. He doesn't want me to see some stuff on his FB.
Those are facts.
And I have to work with the facts.
It is a LDR.
He is not available for me.
He doesn't want to communicate with me.
And he isn't being honest because he is hiding me from his FB.
So instead of reaching out I will quietly swim away.
My self esteem will suffer if I start asking questions, demanding explanations etc...

They're not facts. The facts are:
He wants to take things slow. You think he doesn't want to communicate.
You think you're unable to see some things on his fb and think that he may have actively done that.

The reason why your 'facts' are not facts is because you are assuming and you haven't asked him. Asking him might not give you the truth, either. But, it has the possibility of doing so. But, you're free to believe what you want. I've seen many of your posts about this guy, though, and it seems it always comes down to your doubt of him (EDIT: unhappiness may be a better term than doubt) and you...and then the relationship continues. If you say you're done, then be done.

Scenic I really appreciate that you are try to open up my mind and give me another perspective.

But I really believe that he done the FB thing on purpose. There is no other explanation. As I said, I am not big on FB so I had to go in do a research on FB to understand why I can't see his friends list or his new posts. I can see his publics posts but not the posts he choses to share with his 'friends'…I don't give a shit about whatever he might be sharing, I think FB is ludicrous anyway. The problem is him blocking me = hiding something = not being honest.

This guy is keeping minimal communication with minimum effort possible. He told me not to pressure him. He told me he doesn't have mind space for a relationship right now…
(Oh, but yeah he misses me a lot and he wish I was there and he is looking forward to see me in the future)(—)

Then I go contact him to ask why I seem to be blocked on his FB.
I will few so low doing that.
An maybe that is the problem right now. I can't be myself in this thing because he put a break on me.
Stagnant waters.

There is other explanations. Have you ever accidentally added a friend on fb or changed your settings only to have them come out differently than you wanted? Maybe not since you don't use it much, but it happens. How can you even tell that he's hiding posts from you? There'd be no way to know if he is doing that. And from what I know, you can't hide your friends list from just one person. I may be wrong on that last one, though.

You're just choosing to believe what you want and not even trying to verify whether it's true or not. It's obvious that you're either done with this relationship or too hurt to see any other possibilities besides the one you believe.

I think you have every right to feel how you do and want to break up with him, but you also have to admit that you're making a lot of assumptions.

I really hope you're actually done with this.

When you you go to your privacy settings there is a box there with all the pictures of your friends. You click on the friends you want to restrict and they will not be able to see your friends list or the posts you share with your friends. They will just see the info that you open share with the public.
I wasted time and energy earning this yesterday. So I restricted him too hahaha. It won't make any difference anyway since I don't post anything and I doubt he is interested in my friends.

No, I never done the other thing you mentioned, I don't pay attention on FB.
At least my Venus Aries in under control, years ago I would have deleted my account after leaving a passive aggressive inbox.

Yes I admit I am having assumptions, but I feel uncomfortable confronting him since I feel so distant and disconnected. His own doing.
I just don't feel the energy spent on this fling is worth it any longer. Now what do I do with my beautiful feelings? Will direct them to my own self. I can do with some more self love.

Thanks for trying to help.

Saturn in Leo. Keep my pride. I know I did nothing wrong, did my best and went in it for valid reasons, no hidden agenda.
Didn't work out. Fine. I ail learn my lessons and move on.
Thanks for letting me vent.
I love this place.

Posted by Scenic
They're not facts. The facts are:
He wants to take things slow. You think he doesn't want to communicate.
You think you're unable to see some things on his fb and think that he may have actively done that.

The reason why your 'facts' are not facts is because you are assuming and you haven't asked him. Asking him might not give you the truth, either. But, it has the possibility of doing so. But, you're free to believe what you want. I've seen many of your posts about this guy, though, and it seems it always comes down to your doubt of him (EDIT: unhappiness may be a better term than doubt) and you...and then the relationship continues. If you say you're done, then be done.

I agree with this 100% .