Taureans.. what makes you fulfilled in your relationship?

I am saying "your" relationship cause I'm not looking for answers that reflect one's "wishes" in a relationship or "what they wanted to happen" from their ex that could have prevented a break up..

Let's be real people 🙂 what fulfills you in your relationship?

I am asking this bec. I don't feel fulfilled obviously, but I'm wondering if it's my problem and life is not fulfilling to me anyway in all other areas in my life (career, family..etc) or if it is just not meant to be..

I never cared for this statement "fulfilled in a relationship" it implies that one is there to complete you, and I doubt i agree with that. Nobody is going to give you everything you need 100% , and I personally don't think you should judge your relationship on just that or even mostly that.

Its easy to say I need someone who stimulates me mentally or someone who is passionate physically. But what I've found is that its a feeling that can't be described that is most important. Without trying to define something, I can just close my eyes and wonder... how does this relationship make me feel? (and this is an overall question of depth, not in the moment after he just did something stupid question.)

I normally let that feeling guide me.

Posted by Astrobyn
I never cared for this statement "fulfilled in a relationship" it implies that one is there to complete you, and I doubt i agree with that. Nobody is going to give you everything you need 100% , and I personally don't think you should judge your relationship on just that or even mostly that.

Its easy to say I need someone who stimulates me mentally or someone who is passionate physically. But what I've found is that its a feeling that can't be described that is most important. Without trying to define something, I can just close my eyes and wonder... how does this relationship make me feel? (and this is an overall question of depth, not in the moment after he just did something stupid question.)

I normally let that feeling guide me.

you partially got it.. "I can just close my eyes and wonder... how does this relationship make me feel?" is what I'm looking for .. what is it making you feel? This is what I wanted to hear but you didn't say it still .. I am not speaking of a situation or an act.

Posted by Impulsv
Seek within
Yes problem is urs
Otherwise everyone will fail u in a matter of time
If u seek adventure be that don't expect the other person to fufill for you.
It's about sharing a journey

It's true... everyone fails me in life

Posted by Impulsv
Example what do u feel is missing in ur relationships?
Passion? If so
Are u that passionate person or are u sitting around waiting for the other to make it happen
If u are acting in passion in ur relationship u wouldn't feel it missing

I used to be... until I felt i'm giving more in the relationship. I then started reflecting instead.. cause then I don't feel disappointed as much

Posted by TxOgal

Posted by Astrobyn
I never cared for this statement "fulfilled in a relationship" it implies that one is there to complete you, and I doubt i agree with that. Nobody is going to give you everything you need 100% , and I personally don't think you should judge your relationship on just that or even mostly that.

Its easy to say I need someone who stimulates me mentally or someone who is passionate physically. But what I've found is that its a feeling that can't be described that is most important. Without trying to define something, I can just close my eyes and wonder... how does this relationship make me feel? (and this is an overall question of depth, not in the moment after he just did something stupid question.)

I normally let that feeling guide me.

you partially got it.. "I can just close my eyes and wonder... how does this relationship make me feel?" is what I'm looking for .. what is it making you feel? This is what I wanted to hear but you didn't say it still .. I am not speaking of a situation or an act.

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I think its about letting your subconscious do the math for you. As a Taurus I need someone who is dependable and if i'm not feeling secure that will show up in how i feel overall about that person. All those things that are important to you will add up naturally, if you trust your instincts

I have a gem moon so i can sit around all day and ponder logical points back and forth all day, but that never tells me what i really want to know.

Posted by Vixen2
I have 3 very close Taurus relatives that all echo this same sentiment:

"If you don't work hard, you don't get to play hard".

They value hard work and dedication...particularly in relationships. They know it's never easy and takes effort but that effort needs to be put in and if you aren't able or capable then they will move on and find someone else who is and happily share their abundance with.

It's funny I feel that I'm the one on the other end.. the one who will move on

mm I'm really still wondering for more input about what makes a taurus fulfilled.. I don't want to end up talking about my relationship cause there is noway that I will deliver the whole thing properly .. so I'd rather get everyone tell me their own part about fulfillment.. more direct 🙂

Posted by Astrobyn
I never cared for this statement "fulfilled in a relationship" it implies that one is there to complete you, and I doubt i agree with that. Nobody is going to give you everything you need 100% , and I personally don't think you should judge your relationship on just that or even mostly that.

Its easy to say I need someone who stimulates me mentally or someone who is passionate physically. But what I've found is that its a feeling that can't be described that is most important. Without trying to define something, I can just close my eyes and wonder... how does this relationship make me feel? (and this is an overall question of depth, not in the moment after he just did something stupid question.)

I normally let that feeling guide me.

You complete me

Posted by bawlikestogomoo

Posted by Astrobyn
I never cared for this statement "fulfilled in a relationship" it implies that one is there to complete you, and I doubt i agree with that. Nobody is going to give you everything you need 100% , and I personally don't think you should judge your relationship on just that or even mostly that.

Its easy to say I need someone who stimulates me mentally or someone who is passionate physically. But what I've found is that its a feeling that can't be described that is most important. Without trying to define something, I can just close my eyes and wonder... how does this relationship make me feel? (and this is an overall question of depth, not in the moment after he just did something stupid question.)

I normally let that feeling guide me.

You complete me

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haha I can imagine @Astrobyn 's "face palm" !!

Posted by TxOgal

Posted by bawlikestogomoo

Posted by Astrobyn
I never cared for this statement "fulfilled in a relationship" it implies that one is there to complete you, and I doubt i agree with that. Nobody is going to give you everything you need 100% , and I personally don't think you should judge your relationship on just that or even mostly that.

Its easy to say I need someone who stimulates me mentally or someone who is passionate physically. But what I've found is that its a feeling that can't be described that is most important. Without trying to define something, I can just close my eyes and wonder... how does this relationship make me feel? (and this is an overall question of depth, not in the moment after he just did something stupid question.)

I normally let that feeling guide me.

You complete me

haha I can imagine @Astrobyn 's "face palm" !!

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Um, do you realize that we are in love? Robyn and I go far back. Back in the days of ICQ, AltaVista, excite, etc.

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Posted by TxOgal

Posted by bawlikestogomoo

Posted by Astrobyn
I never cared for this statement "fulfilled in a relationship" it implies that one is there to complete you, and I doubt i agree with that. Nobody is going to give you everything you need 100% , and I personally don't think you should judge your relationship on just that or even mostly that.

Its easy to say I need someone who stimulates me mentally or someone who is passionate physically. But what I've found is that its a feeling that can't be described that is most important. Without trying to define something, I can just close my eyes and wonder... how does this relationship make me feel? (and this is an overall question of depth, not in the moment after he just did something stupid question.)

I normally let that feeling guide me.

You complete me

haha I can imagine @Astrobyn 's "face palm" !!

Um, do you realize that we are in love? Robyn and I go far back. Back in the days of ICQ, AltaVista, excite, etc.

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I do love baw!

this thread is getting cute.. lol

Posted by Taureye
I ask myself and my gut is this someone i really see myself ending up with and depending on the answer its all or nothing. As long as i know i'm sure of the relationship then that's all i need.

Seems fair enough .... it's just when you dont know what your gut is telling you, there is a problem lol

Consistency and friendship are highly emphasized.

Yes! Consistency and friendship are important. Slightly different than consistency, security is also important to me. Understanding, not in terms of sympathy or accepting, but knowing that we "get" each other. What I have learned in the past year is I also need someone that is willing to put in effort when needed and not just rest on the fact that we have always been secure together. Also new to me, I need physical passion. Fulfilling sex is not that same as passion.

@Lostbull- Sex is just words. But physical passion is important only when I open up and feel comfortable..  I don't like be touched really just by anyone, not even my mom..

. Security is important but in order to split the friendship to companionship, I believe stability is important, and I need to know and I ask tons of questions of stability rather than security. Weird I know.

Firstdecan, what you said about security vs stability is dead on. That is actually a much more accurate word to describe what I was trying to say. They are different. I can certainly have a fun time with someone that brings no stability. A little bit of that now and than can keep you on your toes. Still, without stability, I immediately know it is just dating and fun, not a relationship.

I also don't like being touched by most. Someone just laughed at me the other day because I had a nasty look on my face. They asked, "what's wrong?" I answered that I didn't know why people always feel the need to touch me. The person I was talking to was shocked to know I was talking about my mom!

Now, I am just now leaving a 15 year relationship, married. We never had that passion. I thought I was content. I was wrong. Now, a touch with passion behind it makes me feel alive.

Lol fun times hmm @busyeyes88.. Lmao!

If looks could kill@LB..Lol.

@Lostbull- Do you have cancer rising or a water rising sign? Because I do & my expressions give it away when something is bothering me or pissing me off. and I get those sayings what's wrong with you. I'm like nothing. Smh lol.

@TxCatFish- First of all, do you like catfish fish fries? It's bomb bay. It's a fish fry with catfish dipped in beer batter, with french fries, and fried butterfly shrimp. Yummy.

Secondly- What did you do to get on a Taurus bad side? Don't lie either..

@OP- When I hear fulfillment the only thing I can think of is school, career, job security, and more traveling. I don't hear that word often.

Fulfilling something in regards to love. Hmm just being yourself, working on yourself, being in tune to nature, comfort, safety, compassion for you and others. Idk.

What makes me feel fulfilled in a relationship?

When the other person makes me want to rip his clothes off, challenges me mentally and will be a witness to the rest of my life.

-Sun Taurus, Moon in Gemini, Venus in Aries! 😉