Taurus apology

To make a long story short(or try) I talked to a Taurus(may 5) from July-September. We hung out twice. The second time we hung out he tried to hook up/kiss me, and I declined. He immediately drove me home.He never contacted me again. He was a customer at my job...I stopped seeing him for about a month and then he started coming every day.When he comes in we don't speak unless he says thank you and I say you're welcome(I work at a deli). Valentine's Day he comes in, takes his sandwich and walks away..he didn't say thank you. Later that night around 7 he texts me regarding the incident on September "Hey I just wanna apologize for the way a acted, I was being and asshole" I said it's fine and that was it. He didn't show up at my job for a week. Than today he comes in and has a conversation with my manager being really outgoing and friendly while staring at me, but he doesn't say anything to me. What gives? Why apologize after all these months then not speak?

he sounds embarrassed.

Why would he be embrassed? Cause he tried and she rejected..lol..it happens..hm ignore him alot.

Keep it casual and just communicate with what you want or not into only when you have a moment by yourselves.. And you will get an honest response..

After not being able to take my mind off the situation, and texted him asking why he sent that text after 5 months. he replied "Two Reasons:I felt bad about the way I treated you and I think that I like you" He said he wanted to hang out soon, but didn't tell me anything he had planned. He also never initiates contact still..just like he used to do. Should I just wait? I don't wanna seem pushy or annoying.

The good old Taurus 'soon...'

Posted by mgmtlove
After not being able to take my mind off the situation, and texted him asking why he sent that text after 5 months. he replied "Two Reasons:I felt bad about the way I treated you and I think that I like you" He said he wanted to hang out soon, but didn't tell me anything he had planned. He also never initiates contact still..just like he used to do. Should I just wait? I don't wanna seem pushy or annoying.

don't wait. just continue doing whatever you were doing before. once he can finally come round to working out his feelings then he'll get in touch. until then, shrug it off, roll your eyes and don't waste another minute on it.

Well...we planned two hang outs. One last week, and one today. He cancelled both times. :/

Posted by mgmtlove
Well...we planned two hang outs. One last week, and one today. He cancelled both times. :/

did he give you a reason?

Posted by jeane

Posted by mgmtlove
Well...we planned two hang outs. One last week, and one today. He cancelled both times. :/

did he give you a reason?

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Both times he was 'exhausted'. He said we could hang out at his place and I said that's fine..30 mins passed so I said,"Never mind, I'll just see you at my job or something." Then he starts sending me all these paragraphs about what are we gonna do at his house? Sit there in silence? How he doesn't want a girlfriend and he only loved one girl and it didn't end well. How he's more honest than most guys...I told him let's not hang out because we're clearly looking for two different things. He agreed then continued to text me. He said the conversation wasn't going anywhere so he said goodnight and I said bye. Then he got annoyed saying "this is why girls don't like me..I guess I should just lie and be scum like every other guy..but fair enough bye bye" Why would I continue talking to him if we don't want the same thing? I told him I understand where he's coming from and I don't hate him..so why should we keep talking? I'm confused.

Posted by mgmtlove


Both times he was 'exhausted'. He said we could hang out at his place and I said that's fine..30 mins passed so I said,"Never mind, I'll just see you at my job or something." Then he starts sending me all these paragraphs about what are we gonna do at his house? Sit there in silence? How he doesn't want a girlfriend and he only loved one girl and it didn't end well. How he's more honest than most guys...I told him let's not hang out because we're clearly looking for two different things. He agreed then continued to text me. He said the conversation wasn't going anywhere so he said goodnight and I said bye. Then he got annoyed saying "this is why girls don't like me..I guess I should just lie and be scum like every other guy..but fair enough bye bye" Why would I continue talking to him if we don't want the same thing? I told him I understand where he's coming from and I don't hate him..so why should we keep talking? I'm confused.

do you think he envisaged that you would still be friends?

Jesus, he just sounds complicated, indecisive, and a bit passive aggressive.

I mean, you either want to meet up or 'hang out' or you don't. It's pretty black or white... Or not as it seems.

The whole thing just sounds like hard work. You guys met up, he was a bit of a tit. It ends. Five months later he apologises for being a tit and says about meeting up which you agree to. Now he's acting like a bit of a fanny!

I've had this before with a few guys and I end up just looking blankly at them with an 'I don't get you' look on my face.

The look usually looks like a serious case a constipation... Not attractive but as soon as I dump it I feel much better :-)

Posted by jeane

Posted by mgmtlove


Both times he was 'exhausted'. He said we could hang out at his place and I said that's fine..30 mins passed so I said,"Never mind, I'll just see you at my job or something." Then he starts sending me all these paragraphs about what are we gonna do at his house? Sit there in silence? How he doesn't want a girlfriend and he only loved one girl and it didn't end well. How he's more honest than most guys...I told him let's not hang out because we're clearly looking for two different things. He agreed then continued to text me. He said the conversation wasn't going anywhere so he said goodnight and I said bye. Then he got annoyed saying "this is why girls don't like me..I guess I should just lie and be scum like every other guy..but fair enough bye bye" Why would I continue talking to him if we don't want the same thing? I told him I understand where he's coming from and I don't hate him..so why should we keep talking? I'm confused.

do you think he envisaged that you would still be friends?

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I guess he just doesn't want me to hate him. But I told him I didn't and said goodbye..yet he got annoyed. I'm just leaving him alone. I don't know what he wants.

Posted by AgentP911
Jesus, he just sounds complicated, indecisive, and a bit passive aggressive.

I mean, you either want to meet up or 'hang out' or you don't. It's pretty black or white... Or not as it seems.

The whole thing just sounds like hard work. You guys met up, he was a bit of a tit. It ends. Five months later he apologises for being a tit and says about meeting up which you agree to. Now he's acting like a bit of a fanny!

I've had this before with a few guys and I end up just looking blankly at them with an 'I don't get you' look on my face.

The look usually looks like a serious case a constipation... Not attractive but as soon as I dump it I feel much better :-)

Yeah lol, it's not worth all the effort. It seems like he just wants to go through a bunch of women, Ilet him know I wasn't willing to be one of them.

Well he shipped you home initially as you wouldn't put out after five minutes! Then he tries his luck by contacting you again. Apologises which is fine but then his actions don't match his words which, to me, renders his apology entirely meritless.

If he was genuinely sorry then ok and if he genuinely wanted to meet up then ok. However, he's going about it all odd and confusing.

He initially only wanted a hook up I assume and he has said he doesn't want a relationship. That's fine but meeting up to get to know someone doesn't equal instant relationship. If he's testing the water with the whole 'what will we do at my place, sit in silence?' thing then he's just going about this all wrong or clearly his tactic is not working with you and he's getting annoyed.

Why is it so hard to say 'hey, you wanna meet up maybe fri or sat, go for a beer or bite to eat?' Then keep to that plan, go out, get to know each other, spend a bit of time with each other, and take it from there.

How old is this guy?

He sounds immature to me.

Posted by mgmtlove

I guess he just doesn't want me to hate him. But I told him I didn't and said goodbye..yet he got annoyed. I'm just leaving him alone. I don't know what he wants.

i don't know how much more patience you have with him but if you were willing to stay in touch maybe ask him what he expects from you. perhaps you have some middle ground in common.

you did tell him that there isn't enough to sustain any kind of involvement and agreed at the time, however since changed his mind. there may be some value in asking him how he perceives the situation you find yourselves in.

or you can just leave him alone and leave him to sort himself out. it just depends on if you can be bothered really.

Posted by AgentP911
Well he shipped you home initially as you wouldn't put out after five minutes! Then he tries his luck by contacting you again. Apologises which is fine but then his actions don't match his words which, to me, renders his apology entirely meritless.

If he was genuinely sorry then ok and if he genuinely wanted to meet up then ok. However, he's going about it all odd and confusing.

He initially only wanted a hook up I assume and he has said he doesn't want a relationship. That's fine but meeting up to get to know someone doesn't equal instant relationship. If he's testing the water with the whole 'what will we do at my place, sit in silence?' thing then he's just going about this all wrong or clearly his tactic is not working with you and he's getting annoyed.

Why is it so hard to say 'hey, you wanna meet up maybe fri or sat, go for a beer or bite to eat?' Then keep to that plan, go out, get to know each other, spend a bit of time with each other, and take it from there.

How old is this guy?

He sounds immature to me.

He's 22 soon to be 23..Lol
I don't remember the whole text but it was something like "What are we gonna do wen we hang out at my place?Sit there in silence? We don't have to have sex but you wouldn't even take your shoes off acted like you didn't want to cuddle I tried to kiss you and you just turned away"
Basically bringing up old stuff that I already explained that I was nervous and I don't know him enough to be up on him.

Posted by jeane

Posted by mgmtlove

I guess he just doesn't want me to hate him. But I told him I didn't and said goodbye..yet he got annoyed. I'm just leaving him alone. I don't know what he wants.

i don't know how much more patience you have with him but if you were willing to stay in touch maybe ask him what he expects from you. perhaps you have some middle ground in common.

you did tell him that there isn't enough to sustain any kind of involvement and agreed at the time, however since changed his mind. there may be some value in asking him how he perceives the situation you find yourselves in.

or you can just leave him alone and leave him to sort himself out. it just depends on if you can be bothered really.

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I agree. I've been asking him all the questions while he put in no effort. He can figure out what he wants, he seems confused.

Sounds to me like he just wants a shag but hasn't a clue how to go about it all. Maybe he likes you but just is too young to get with the programme about how this stuff rolls!

He's 22... Awww bless him...

He sounds like a passive aggressive Cancerian I went out with a long time ago!

If you can't be bothered with his shit then just leave him alone. If he can't even take you out for a drink or whatever then what hope is there? He arranges stuff, cancels, then spends the night texting bullshit to get some reaction out of you and when he doesn't get it he gets annoyed. He needs to man the fuck up!

But he's 22... Awww bless... He don't know his arse from his elbow.

Luckily you sound like you do so just do what makes you happy.