Taurus feeling not good enough—

So I've been dealing with my taurus guy for about a year and half now.Although I've
never questioned that he liked me (most guys I meet do I'am a libra btw 🙂 I always
wondered if he actually wanted to be with me. So he really poured his heart out to me
and told me that He loved me and is in love with me (and has been for a while) and I'm
everything that he could ever want and that he wanted to be with me;but he keeps his distance
because he thinks I'm too good for him and that I wouldnt "settle for less for someone like him"
and that I deserve better. This is crazy because he's the one person that I ACTUALLY want to
be with. I dont know why he feels this way or even how to make him feel differently because I
feel whatever I say to him isnt going to be enough. I feel horrible that he feels this way and
I dont want him to feel insecure because I want to be with him but part of me feels that these
thoughts might always be in the back of his mind. I dont know, but I'm willing to do whatever
it takes to make things work out between us.

Just wanted some insight, what do you guys think?

Sorry that came out wierd...I new on here LOL 🙂

Awww. How sweet!! Don't worry about his statement too much. The best advice I can give you in dealiing with a Taurus male is to ALWAYS be honest. A taurus guy like him probably is a bit in awe with your charm and social grace. I know I am. I always feel a bit inadequate when talking to a Libra because they are SO free and easy with their words. You are probably very attractive as well as funny. Taurus men LOVE those types of women. MOST taurus guys do not have the sharp and FAST mind that you have so that is intimidating for us. If you want to make him confident about you and the way you feel for him THEN SHOW IT. The biggest mistake that Libras do in a relationship with Taurus is talk about their love but fail to express it physically as much. Especially as the relationship gets more settled. If you want your Taurus happy, then give him affection. Not just verbally. If you really like him, SHOW IT. Taurus men, more than any other sign, NEED and CRAVE physical attention. Not overbearing physical love just stuff like holding hands, loving smiles and light massages. In a relationship, kissing a lot is a must.

And always be ready to converse with him. A taurus usually has a slower mind so when you talk to him, ask him his opinions and give him time to think. Be patient.

Thanks TAURdeFORCE I'll take your advise about showing him.I
dont want to lose him over something that can be fixed,cause
he means to much to me to let go so easily. I've been patient
this long I can hang in there. 🙂

Sounds like insecurities. Honestly, you seem to express your feelings to him verbally. But for a Taurus, verbal expressions of love must be accompanied by actions. I'm sure this is for most relationships though, but i think it's a MUST especially for Taurus'. Otherwise, we feel insecure and feel you may not be interested. When insecurities happen, at least for me, it becomes very hard for me to give it my ALL even though secretly deep down inside I want to. So, what have you done to show all this love you speak of is my question to you? It's rhetorical but yeh---Like Libras we feed off romance but persistence and consistency is key. Once complacency in the relationship is apparent. We start doubting.

Posted by TAURdeFORCE

A taurus usually has a slower mind so when you talk to him, ask him his opinions and give him time to think.

I disagree with this Taur.... we're very quick witted and very intellegent when we decide it's time to speak. We just take precaution in what we say more than anything. At least, it is for me.

intelligent*** I fail. BAHAHHAHAHA

"For Tauruses, when 'our money is funny' we have a tendency to isolate ourselves from other people."

Wow, that is so true (at least for me). While growing up in high school & college, there would be people who wouldn't have any money, but yet, they would still want to go out and party - eat, drink & be merry, but expect us (friends) to support their habbit. I am, the exact opposite. If I don't have money to pay, I'm not playing. Why the f@ck is that such a difficult concept! Also, I love to treat my friends & family to dinner, travels, etc; however, I do NOT like others to do that for me. Even if it's a kind gesture, it makes me very uncomfortable (I'm not talking about dating, I'm talking about friends or family).

habbit = "habit" (OY!)

Whatever happened to the glorious art of the picnic in a beautiful country setting? In all seriousness there are so many wonderful things to do that don't involve that paper. Or not much of it.

Posted by venusianbull
Whatever happened to the glorious art of the picnic in a beautiful country setting? In all seriousness there are so many wonderful things to do that don't involve that paper. Or not much of it.

Indeed VB! But, remember, you are a woman and are thinking from a woman's perspective. Not to say men aren't or can't be creative, but that (typically) isn't their strong suit. Trust me, I've done picnics (indoor and outdoor) for men, and they have eaten (figuratively & literally) that ish up! HOWEVER, for men, it's sometimes difficult for them to think of WOW types of trips/events, that don't entail a lot of cash o'la being spent. I don't want to paint a broad brush, because I'm sure there are some men who are creative and such, but I'm the person my male friends come to for ideas for gifts, trips, etc to impress their girlfriends, mistresses & wives. So, with that being said, he may feel that (if $ $ is the case in this OP) he can't provide the "things/stuff" to her that he would like to provide. Just a thought...

Understood on all levels. Men get so wrapped up in thinking we want 'things', when really the best things of all just come from the heart. Ahhh the juxtapositions of male and female thinking, eh?

Posted by venusianbull
the best things of all just come from the heart

Absolutely! That's why the expression, "It's the thought that counts" is so important to remember. I'd rather someone do something or make something that they KNOW I love; versus just going to some jewelery store to get some random thing that means nothing, and don't get it twisted, I like baubles too, but it's the end all be all for me. It's called being thoughtful. I had a guy I dated briefly in high school who was in a group w/one of my cousins. He could play the piano like nobody's business. Well, he created a tape (yes, tape as cd's weren't out then 🙂 ) for me with ALL of these wonderful songs and at the end of the tape he played a song on the piano that he wrote just for me. Sorry, money could NEVER buy nor trump that experience and the way that I felt everytime I played that tape (over, and over, and over again 🙂).

That should have been "it's NOT the end all be all to me." (DAMMIT, I NEED AN EDIT BUTTON)!

—! THOSE are the things that matter. Just so simple, even something like "I was thinking about you today." Take a hand when walking, stroke a cheek, a gentle kiss on the neck.
Music, gahhhhh. Is there one single way to shoot straight to the heart of Taurus? "When WORDS FAIL, MUSIC SPEAKS". Mission accomplished and direct hit with that one, he wrote you a song, and you never forgot it. 🙂
What girly girl doesn't like a good sparkly? I am a self professed crow. Case in point, many moons ago when I was engaged to Mr. Scorp I was presented with a 1 carat honey. Not huge by some standards, but it had presence. Amazingly enough I did not crash into a telephone pole driving in the sun. That flash is soooooo alluring. *mental shake* Anyhooters! I didn't like it one bit. Too big, too much, always caught on everything, ick. Flash forward to engagement and subsequent marriage to Mr. Virgo *waving scented hankie to 2 years ago der..>🙂*. Again I was given a rather lovely princess cut ring. Would you like to know what I did with said ring? I swapped it for a white gold 1930s wedding set and had garnets and one widdle .10 diamond set in it. Why? For starters, I frigging LOVE older jewelry, and for two, I don't like big f*ck all stones and high prongs. So, the point here is two-fold. ONE, that 'one month salary' horse shit can take a flying leap at a rolling doughnut, and TWO..where was I again? Oh yehhhhh. There isn't one really just a share. 🙂

Posted by Aphrodite Bull
if the park doesn't have loose crackheads roaming around, lol

*snicker * Sorry, I had to laugh at that one! I just had this instant picture of a couple enjoying a wonderful afternoon picnic, then some random crack head wanders up asking for a sip of their wine! LOL!
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Posted by Aphrodite Bull
To VB & USCtaurusGal-

I have always told men, women are simple (yet they seem to think that we are such complicated creatures).

We want your TIME
Or we want your MONEY

It's that simple...

I will agree,
Romantic picnics are so much better.

Great food
Great company
Great scenary (if the park doesn't have loose crackheads roaming around, lol)

PRICELESS!

MzLibra10 may have to expose that Venus artistic side of her

Definitely! Make suggestions that are easy to nonexistent to wallet and show that man it's HIM you want to be with, not his debit card!

Posted by USCTaurusGal

Posted by Aphrodite Bull
if the park doesn't have loose crackheads roaming around, lol

*snicker * Sorry, I had to laugh at that one! I just had this instant picture of a couple enjoying a wonderful afternoon picnic, then some random crack head wanders up asking for a sip of their wine! LOL!
((back to OP))

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LMAO

"Oh darling, remember when we had that beautiful picnic and that man shuffled up reeking of Rumplemintz? And then when he asked for a dollar, I couldn't contain my joy that the day was complete. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!"

— VB 🙂 you are the best, evah'!

Rumplemintz!!!!! LMAO!

*I just spurfle my iced green tea *

ROFLMAO!! Bout shot Columbian coffee out my nose envisioning it typing it. 😉

I forgotsdeded my widdle —, because I wuv my Bulls.

Am I the only one that wants to lick a jewelry case in the shops because there's all that fire and flash on display under those cold white lights? I don't fink so. 😄

— ^

I like the simplest things. Curled up on the couch or in bed in someones arms, just listening to their heartbeat. In front of a fire. Playing outside in the autumn leaves or walking in the rain. Slow dancing, feeling the press of a body and a cheek on your hair. Midnight skinny dipping mission at the lake. None of these things cost a red cent, unless you throw in a bottle of wonderful wine, some good cheese and French bread.

Heheheheeee Aphrodite. 😉