Taurus girl giving mixed signals

About a year ago I met this taurus girl online on a local fitness forum. Somehow we started talking about our gym routines and energy supplements and soon shifted to more personal topics. We messaged back and forth everyday for hours.

After about a month I asked her out for a drink. She declined my offer saying that she hasn't sorted out fellings for her ex yet. In short, they were together for 4 years and the last 2 lived together. His stuff is in still in her apartment and they broke up approximately 3 months before we started talking. But a week passed and she tells me that she can't get me out of her head and that we should definitely have that drink.

Oh, and then the long-awaited "date". I wanted to impress her so much and acted out of the ordinary. I teased her a lot, and it's easy I came across as arrogant. One very very awkward date. At the end we hugged and wished each other luck in the future. I assumed it was the end. I didnt want to text after because I was affraid of rejection.

Fast forward two weeks of no talking, she messaged me out of the blue saying "when are you taking me for second coffee." Of course we met again. On the second "date" she looked amazing. I was overwhelmed and she sensed that. It went surprisingly well until the very end when topics of exes came aboard and she started showing me pics of him on her phone. And the way she looked at the pics-it felt like she still loves him. I was shocked and completely caught off guard. I tried to remain non reactive but I was mad. Has she friend zoned me and just wasted my time, was I post break up shoulder to cry on.... I don't know. And just to add that her ex comes from a wealthy family and I think that she's used to more luxurious life style which I ,at this point of life, can't offer. She used to work at his family restaurant during summer holidays and they travelled half of the world together. She's back at college now. And to add he's good looking.

Again after this second meeting, no contact and period of radio silence. She shortly afterwards deleted her account. Mind you, we haven't exchanged numbers or facebooks, which is a bit strange. After 5 months, in September, she came back online and I messaged her. She replied immediately, but something was off, I could sense that she was very pissed at me. She told me that she never contacts someone after months of silence and when she does, she usually asks them for money so she spared me. I think she wanted to provoke me with that money comment because she knows I don't like people who use their partner as money machine. The convo stopped. As it usually goes, shortly after I went clubbing and saw her. We both smiled and nodded at each other. No talking. Day after, I messaged her again and we started talking but flow of the convo was very passive aggressive and she said that I need to go back at thesilent mode again. Week after she deleted her acc.

Now shes online once more and I think of contacting her. I feel there is unfinished business between us. Any thoughts? I don't know what to do?

I'm 24 and she's 25. I'm cancer and she's taurus.

Nah. She needs to sort her mind and life out. Taurus have a hard time getting over people cause when they commit they\re in it for the long haul and their stubbornness comes out, they'll stay on a wagon til the wheels fall off so to speak. She's clearly being petty and rude to you probably because she feels wronged in some way or is mad at how the situation unfolded but you didnt do anything wrong. She was rude to you for a reason so I'd give her space. Don't message her. You deserve better anyway.

Stooopid.

Why are you mad tho?

Be mad at yourself for wasting your own damn time.

You knew she was freshly out of a relationship.

Maybe she's confused too

Posted by cheshire_cat

About a year ago I met this taurus girl online on a local fitness forum. Somehow we started talking about our gym routines and energy supplements and soon shifted to more personal topics. We messaged back and forth everyday for hours.

After about a month I asked her out for a drink. She declined my offer saying that she hasn't sorted out fellings for her ex yet. In short, they were together for 4 years and the last 2 lived together. His stuff is in still in her apartment and they broke up approximately 3 months before we started talking. But a week passed and she tells me that she can't get me out of her head and that we should definitely have that drink.

Oh, and then the long-awaited "date". I wanted to impress her so much and acted out of the ordinary. I teased her a lot, and it's easy I came across as arrogant. One very very awkward date. At the end we hugged and wished each other luck in the future. I assumed it was the end. I didnt want to text after because I was affraid of rejection.

Fast forward two weeks of no talking, she messaged me out of the blue saying "when are you taking me for second coffee." Of course we met again. On the second "date" she looked amazing. I was overwhelmed and she sensed that. It went surprisingly well until the very end when topics of exes came aboard and she started showing me pics of him on her phone. And the way she looked at the pics-it felt like she still loves him. I was shocked and completely caught off guard. I tried to remain non reactive but I was mad. Has she friend zoned me and just wasted my time, was I post break up shoulder to cry on.... I don't know. And just to add that her ex comes from a wealthy family and I think that she's used to more luxurious life style which I ,at this point of life, can't offer. She used to work at his family restaurant during summer holidays and they travelled half of the world together. She's back at college now. And to add he's good looking.

Again after this second meeting, no contact and period of radio silence. She shortly afterwards deleted her account. Mind you, we haven't exchanged numbers or facebooks, which is a bit strange. After 5 months, in September, she came back online and I messaged her. She replied immediately, but something was off, I could sense that she was very pissed at me. She told me that she never contacts someone after months of silence and when she does, she usually asks them for money so she spared me. I think she wanted to provoke me with that money comment because she knows I don't like people who use their partner as money machine. The convo stopped. As it usually goes, shortly after I went clubbing and saw her. We both smiled and nodded at each other. No talking. Day after, I messaged her again and we started talking but flow of the convo was very passive aggressive and she said that I need to go back at thesilent mode again. Week after she deleted her acc.

Now shes online once more and I think of contacting her. I feel there is unfinished business between us. Any thoughts? I don't know what to do?

I'm 24 and she's 25. I'm cancer and she's taurus.

It must be a Cancer thing.

@Cheshire_Cat....

I see a bit of passive agressiveness on both sides.

Insecurity on both sides as well.

Cancer: Afraid of rejection....so initiates minimum or very little contact/communication. Wants Taurus to be the aggressor. If she's interested.....then she should initiate this courtship.

WRONG!

Taurus: Hates being the aggressor. If I am pursued on a consistent basis, then I must have really held his interest. Lets see if he's interested, I am going to 'whip' out a picture of my ex and see if I could get a reaction out of him (BTW, most Bulls, we don't do that). Childish. Silence. No messages from you. Patiently waiting....now she's annoyed....pissed and uses passive aggressive tactics to get her point across.

CHILDISH!

I hope this explains your dilemma.

Unless someone decides to grow a set of balls.....

This deflated (anti-blooming) relationship doesn't look promising.

To sum it up Cancer....

You were wrong and she was childish.

If you want someone, go after them....or just leave them alone. Go hard or go home!

If she's feeling away about something, she should speak up, instead of resorting to corny indirect tactics to get her point across. If you're going to message the Cancer back, make sure your words have REAL power.