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Hello, I have a question about a taurus girl. We know each other since two years when she came at my workplace. The problem is we were both in relationships. My relationship had lots of problems and she also said that hers is not ok and that in the past she caught him cheating several times....long story short almost two years past and neither of us broke the contact, we see each other and write to each other almost every day in the last year. I broke up with my girlfriend also an year ago. Two weeks ago we kissed for first time and from that moment she is in my room after the end of the workday almost every day. We kiss we hug it is intense. She writes to me almost every day on viber and many times until 12, 1 in the night. The problem is she is still with her boyriend, another problem is that they live in an apartment on loan because they are both from another city and work here. Several days ago she proposed to come at my place any day from the week, because we were talking about that a lot of times on viber and I did invite her when she is ok. So she came at my place and also spent the night at my appartment. We watched movies, held hands and cuddled the whole evening and night. I tried to move it forward towards sex but she hesitated so I didn't insist. Several days after that she wrote that she is sorry that nothing happened and it is not that she doesn't have the desire but it is her principles and she can not do it the first night no matter how long we know each other. Which is ok for me. The strange thing is that several days after she came at my place she was supposed to go on a vacation on the sea with her boyfriend. She is there now and I see she puts almost every day romantic pictures of them both on instagram, I dont have instagram but I saw these. The first day she posted the picture and minutes after that she started to write me on viber and sending me lots of kisses as there is nothing wrong. I can not even get it how she writes to me while she is with her boyfriend there somewhere. I tried to be a little cold and short because I don't like it when I know she is with him. The problem is that everything she does has absolutely no logic for me. How can she come at my place just days before she goes on a vacation with him, and just days afterwards she puts all these romantic pictures with hearts and kisses and at the same time writes to me like always with kisses and everything....This is her first serious relationship since she was teenager but they have separated lots of times and are more serious since more than two years when they started to live together. What do you think tauruses is she playing bad with me or is she trying hard to keep me as her back up plan or something else. She told me several times before thar she is very indecisive, one minute she wants something the other she hesitates, probably related to her boyfriend. She has moon virgo, venus gemini, mars cancer. I am a capricorn. Thank you all!
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Venus in Gems...LMAO!

Mystery84, learn to master the art of communication.

You're taking a passive aggressive role in this scenario and giving her a free pass to play the field and have her cake and eat it too. I agree with Honeybunnie, call her out on her BS.

My gut intuition tells me you were planning to cut her off without any explanations.

Playing spycraft on instagram and being short and cold with her says it all.

Have that talk with her FIRST.

Tell her how yu feel, stand your ground, and inform her that you have no intentions on waiting for her.
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The only reason that I still endure this situation is because it is really hard where I live financially and more so for a girl to search for apartment and live on a loan alone. Also the fact that she is not leaving me alone, she initiates contact and writes or comes to see me in 80% of the cases. Last but not least our physical and much more intense contact is from less than a month and she came at my place the last week. I wanted to give this some time to naturally evolve rather than after our third kiss to start asking her whether she intents to break up with her boyfriend. But you got it I have been passive agressive with her so many times in such situations. When she makes something or I see something I don't like I become very cold and distant to her with the idea that she will know what the problem is, and she knows me so well and always senses even on viber when something is wrong. And I don't do it because I don't want to be like a wussy that always mumbles about her boyfriend or about our situation. I am sure she knows what I am not nappy about. But I didn't expect to see these things after what happened between us in the last month. There is absolutely no logic in this girl no matter how confused or indecisive she is. The thing is I can't talk about these pictures because she knows I dont have instagram.Also do you think it will be a good idea to confront her about her boyfriend so soon arter we had intimate contact. I know that you tauruses don't like to be rushed or pressured. As to venus in gemini, it scares me a little but mine is in sagittarius which I head somewhere is the second worse after gemini haha. But Im not unfaithful.
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You were stalking.

Don't be embarrassed. We stalk too.

TELL her about the pictures you saw on Instagram.

Being upset about her having a man does not make you a 'wuss.'

You have every right to feel some type of way.

What is it with Capricorns and vulnerability? LOL.

A Taurus can always pick up on a Capricorn's vibe.

Earth signs just have a telepathic way of communicating with one another.

However, open, honest communication is still important.

She can sense you're upset, she just does not know why you're upset.

LOL, she probably has no idea you're checking up on her on social media.

You mentioned that she initiates contact 80% of the time.

My guess, you only initiate 20% of the time.

With probable reason of course, she is still living with her man.

True, we don't like to feel rushed or pressured, but we ALWAYS want to know how you feel or what you're thinking.

Give her that respect by telling her about herself, and give yourself that closure before you close that door permanetly.
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Idk, we are very afraid to show ourselves vulnerable in front of other people and mostly in front of people we care about 🙂 Earth wigns have a telepathic way of communicating, unfortunately her boyfriend is virgo 🙂 Yep I dont make a lot of the contact because she is in a relationship. Although I told her in the past that I like her and I want to be with her. But sometimes I just dont see her leaving this guy, do you tauruses ever leave your partners? If she is unable to leave him after infidelity and messing with other women, what other reason would there be. You say you dont like to be rushed or pressured bur want to know how the other feels. Ok so how should I react in this situation and what should I tell her. And do you think I should close the door permanently.
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You should leave her alone...

She's using you for attention and affection. She is posting pictures to try and paint this perfect picture of her and her current boyfriend when in reality he is not meeting her needs or she would not be messing with you.

But if she can do that to him, she'd do it to you too. Just remember that..

Is it likely that she'll leave him? No. Is it possible? Maybe....but it's closer to probably not. She's going to do what she wants on her own time and that is not a person I'd want to wait around for. In the end it is up to you, but she doesn't sound worth it to me.
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Posted by mystery84
Ok so how should I react in this situation and what should I tell her. And do you think I should close the door permanently.
When she initiates contact,

Accept her invitation.

Invite her over.

Tell her someting along the lines of this...

"I am not comfortable with this current setup. The living situation with your man has me feeling some type of way. I saw some pictures with the both of you on Instagram, don't ask me how I found out, that is not important.

I do not want to be emotionally invested in someone who clearly isn't available. You wil have to cut him off permanently, if not...it's GOODBYE. Consider yourself blocked! I don't have time for games. I already told you that I want to be with you. So what's it going to be?"


If she presents excuses, cut her off permanently.

You have every right to put her on the spot, to lay that pressure on. Your heart is on the line, not hers.

I agree with Jeane, if a Taurus woman leaves on her own terms, you will be waiting FOREVER until she leaves this Virgo.

If she decides to leave him and be with you.....

Then you will have to figure out what to do about her living situation.

After all, she's a Bull, and we are all about security.
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Ok so how should I react in this situation and what should I tell her. And do you think I should close the door permanently.
When she initiates contact,

Accept her invitation.

Invite her over.

Tell her someting along the lines of this...

"I am not comfortable with this current setup. The living situation with your man has me feeling some type of way. I saw some pictures with the both of you on Instagram, don't ask me how I found out, that is not important.

I do not want to be emotionally invested in someone who clearly isn't available. You wil have to cut him off permanently, if not...it's GOODBYE. Consider yourself blocked! I don't have time for games. I already told you that I want to be with you. So what's it going to be?"


If she presents excuses, cut her off permanently.

You have every right to put her on the spot, to lay that pressure on. Your heart is on the line, not hers.

I agree with Jeane, if a Taurus woman leaves on her own terms, you will be waiting FOREVER until she leaves this Virgo.

If she decides to leave him and be with you.....

Then you will have to figure out what to do about her living situation.

After all, she's a Bull, and we are all about security.
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Jeane or Jane? Lol
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I don't understand why Capricorn men often go after women who are taken.

Does the idea of sloppy seconds turn you on? I swear almost all my Cap acquaintances like women who are either older or taken.

Taurus broad is a player. Venus in Gem.
Not all VIG are "players"..

Cheating is not based on a "sign" ..

VIG has a "dual, mutable" that does not mean they cannot be faithful..

People need to take their foot of the gas and stop running VIGs down!!!!

Venus in Gemini is a red flag.
No its not!! Only insecure ignorant people will judge a person because it has "gem" placement. Its no different from a VIS or a sun in scorp!
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No different than a Sag sun?
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she wants to have her cake and eat it too. and you are letting her! female bulls will push boundaries so dont be a door mat and stand up for yourself! you deserve more! she cant sit on the fence she needs to dump him or you. sadly anything in gem likes fence sitting/hopping... just let her go. if she breaks up with him down the line and you havent found miss right whatever. dont plan on it and make yourself happy on your own and look for positive people to add to your life. only trouble and heartache can come from such situations.
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Reincarnation - I dont like to chase taken girls, this is my first time and that is why I dont know how to manage this situation. And I dont pursue her because she is taken but because I liked her, and in the beginning she didnt tell me she has a boyfriend I found out through facebook. Also I dont like older girls at all...all wrong haha.

Taurusgirl1977 - Ok this sounds really good. I intended to have such a conversation with her in the next couple of weeks if she continued to take no action about our situation and to say nothing direct. But now with these pictures I suppose that this conversation should happen immediately after she comes back from the vacation. And what do you mean excuses? I am almost sure what she will tell me, something in the line of...well I like you, probably that she wants to be with me, but it is still hard to make this change or again that she is very indecisive and needs a little time. At least something that wil neither reject me nor that she is fully ready to come to me. As to the living, she knows that she can come to my place, its another story how good that will be the last night to sleep in one bed with her current boyfriend and the other night at my bed. Idk if taurus can manage such a change.

I would like to thank you all for the help, I am really confused from so much time in this situation and probably can not evaluate what is wrong and what is right anymore.
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Cut her as off. You don't need to explain shit to her. She used you for attention because her partner didn't give her a lot of attention. I wouldnt want any part of someone that's in a relationship with someone else. The guy she with is serving her some purpose because she still around him going on trips. The few taurus that I seen that cheat it was because they needed a lot of attention and they will maintain this image in a unhappy relationship..until it's over...revealing the truth of the relationship. Just like she putting up a image that she's so refined by not sleeping with you ..but she can kiss on you and be affectionate while in a relationship. ..bullshit.
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I don't understand why Capricorn men often go after women who are taken.

Does the idea of sloppy seconds turn you on? I swear almost all my Cap acquaintances like women who are either older or taken.

Taurus broad is a player. Venus in Gem.
I agree with this..some of the caps men I known love the chase. Love the drama of the taken women. I talk to a few caps. And they admit that in there pass it excited them. Some of them are in settle down moDE now and not with this ..but I seen a few middle as caps still on that bullshit.
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Her guy is a Virgo?

I can tell you now....She's not leaving him. You are being used, and the crazy thing is, the more you allow it the less respect she will have for you. IF she ever leaves him, she'll most likely dump the both of you and move past the entire situation since you will be a reminder of him.

She loves her guy. She wishes he would do better, which is why she paints a pretty picture on the internet. Him doing wrong is why she gets close to you. That's why I say she'll drop the both of you, because her seeing you is tied to him.

My Cap dad is seeing someone that's taken, but she's his ex, and he has an aqua venus. Out of all the Caps I know, he is the only one that's like that. Now if the question was "why do all Cap males have mistresses?" Then we'd be talking.

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Inana04 ....Ok but why is she not leaving me alone than. She cant hold a day without seeing me or talking to me through viber. And why did she proposed to come and sleep at my place, it wasn't my idea. I did invite her in the past and she was positive at coming but right at this time it was whole her idea. And I thought she would come just for the evening so that we watch a movie but she said that she would spend the night also. Sometimes she makes remarks and we jokes how she should come and live at my place...and she is also positive. Also twenty or thirty minutes after she posted the first picture with him on the beach she writes me on viber with kisses and we were exchanging texts almost the whole evening. It doesn't make sense at all. If she uses me just for attention and loves her boyfriend why would she come to me on her own terms. She could be just fine to talk to me through viber and see me at the workplace for attention and that's all.
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She likes you, but she's not leaving her boyfriend.

Also, where is your logic in this? Why are you in this mess entertaining someone that's taken? You are playing a huge role in this, that also doesn't make sense, and you are blaming her for it as if you have no control.

Why don't you step ALL the way back, and tell her that you can entertain her when/if she becomes single. That's the logical thing to do. You waited until your relationship was over to entertain her, she should do the same.
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My only logic is that she has nowhere to go and she is more or less stuck in this situation to live with him. So I know that it will be very complicated for her to break up with him go somewhere else to live and start going out with me and then move at my place. I am not saying the she has absolutely nothing for him but especially in the last month when we were very physical I was thinking that is the main problem. And I just wanted to give a little more time and not rush it, and also their trip to pass by because I am sure that they arranged it months prior and it would have been stupid to tell her I dont want you to go or something like this. But I didn't expect at all to see such pictures, and on one of them she put a hashtag forevelove. It is very strange that the last summer she went with him again at the sea for a vacartion, we were close back then but didnt have anything physical or intimate like now. And I didnt see a single picture of them both anywhere. Now she puts them almost every day...this is crazy. Or maybe our situation brings them close together. I have no idea really.
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I don't understand why Capricorn men often go after women who are taken.

Does the idea of sloppy seconds turn you on? I swear almost all my Cap acquaintances like women who are either older or taken.

Taurus broad is a player. Venus in Gem.
That gal is a player. The decision to fool around behind her guy's back is made by the Taurus.

I know many Venus in Geminis who are faithful. It's about time people stopped abusing a single placement.



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My only logic is that she has nowhere to go and she is more or less stuck in this situation to live with him. So I know that it will be very complicated for her to break up with him go somewhere else to live and start going out with me and then move at my place. I am not saying the she has absolutely nothing for him but especially in the last month when we were very physical I was thinking that is the main problem. And I just wanted to give a little more time and not rush it, and also their trip to pass by because I am sure that they arranged it months prior and it would have been stupid to tell her I dont want you to go or something like this. But I didn't expect at all to see such pictures, and on one of them she put a hashtag forevelove. It is very strange that the last summer she went with him again at the sea for a vacartion, we were close back then but didnt have anything physical or intimate like now. And I didnt see a single picture of them both anywhere. Now she puts them almost every day...this is crazy. Or maybe our situation brings them close together. I have no idea really.

You can give thousand excuses for cheating, doesn't justify her act.

If she is a honourable girl and loves you or whatever she could have asked you if you can help her in anyway. It is much better than two timing,IMO.
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I don't understand why Capricorn men often go after women who are taken.

Does the idea of sloppy seconds turn you on? I swear almost all my Cap acquaintances like women who are either older or taken.

Taurus broad is a player. Venus in Gem.
Not all VIG are "players"..

Cheating is not based on a "sign" ..

VIG has a "dual, mutable" that does not mean they cannot be faithful..

People need to take their foot of the gas and stop running VIGs down!!!!

Venus in Gemini is a red flag.
No its not!! Only insecure ignorant people will judge a person because it has "gem" placement. Its no different from a VIS or a sun in scorp!

Maybe. I don't know.
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My Scorpio ex had cheated on all of his girl friends. And yeah, Scorpio Venus to boot.

Should I find a mutable placement to explain his actions? I know few other 'loyal' signs that cheat when they have a SAFE opportunity to cheat.

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I don't understand why Capricorn men often go after women who are taken.

Does the idea of sloppy seconds turn you on? I swear almost all my Cap acquaintances like women who are either older or taken.

Taurus broad is a player. Venus in Gem.
Not all VIG are "players"..

Cheating is not based on a "sign" ..

VIG has a "dual, mutable" that does not mean they cannot be faithful..

People need to take their foot of the gas and stop running VIGs down!!!!
How can cheating is not based on a signs, but still you are always said that sags are cheaters ?
Whatever— is this the sag board?
Lol so if we where in sag board then cheating will be based on a signs ??

And for sure sags will be cheaters because we are in a sag board hahaha 😛
Whatever... I can't be arsed...
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I know more Taurus peeps who have cheated than Sag...just like this girl on here. Paint this pretty picture, stay with their guy/girl, but are cheating the whole damn time while pretending to be a "good guy" or "good girl." And their partners believe them.. Because not them, not the "loyal Taurus." lol They will deny till they die. You know what that girl is going to say if her boyfriend finds out about OP?? "He's just obsessed with me, he was stalking me, I swear I never did anything with him, I would never cheat on you." He will just end up looking like another guy in her "harem." They will stay together. The end.
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Posted by mystery84
Ok thank youRiver Lee...so what do you think she is doing? Is it possible that she feels guilty of what she has done with me and now to move closer to her boyfriend.
In general, when people feel guilty about something they stop doing whatever it is that makes them feel guilty. So no, I don't think she feels guilty. I think it's possible that because her boyfriend cheated on her a couple times she's found a way to rationalize that it's okay for her to do the same to him.

I think this is more of a Gemini trait. Not to cheat, but to place thinking above feeling.

So for instance, in your situation, her boyfriend cheated more than once. Of course that feels bad but the bigger question is WHY? Why does it feel bad, why did he cheat, what did she do (if anything) that she thinks may have caused him to stray etc etc.... there's always a very deep analysis and introspection surrounding anything & everything.

As far as you go.... I'm sure she thinks you're nice and she probably likes the new attention BUT.... you're willing to participate in her cheating. You know she has a boyfriend. That would make *me* lose respect for you. She thinks if you would cheat with her, you would cheat ON her. That would make me think that you aren't a safe/stable person & she already has a cheater now, why would she want to go to another person willing to cheat?

I know that seems messed up because SHE is cheating too. BUT in her mind, she's rationalized it. Because her boyfriend cheated FIRST. He doesn't value her so why should she value him? He deserves it. He wasn't considering her feelings when he cheated so why should she consider his? BUT the boyfriend did nothing to YOU and you're willing to participate..... so that makes you a cheater just like him. Which means she has no respect for you.

In HER mind, she has a reason to betray this guy but YOU do not. You would be better off keeping things very strictly friendly. No more coming over, hanging out alone, no overnights, no hand holding or kissing. Treat her the way you would want someone to treat her if she were your girlfriend. Would you want some guy kissing your girlfriend? Having flirty conversations? Inviting her to move in with him? No I imagine you wouldn't so don't do it to another man.
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Lol interesting story. I was with a Cap, who started cheating on me with a Taurus-who had a bf. I ditched him and let him knock himself out wi her, she eventually left her bf (Cap wouldnt allow it any other way prob) and now they both cheat on each other. I wouldn't recommend ANYone to date someone who already has someone else. If they do it to them, they gonna do it to you.
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Well Ive done what Ive done only because I thought that everything between them is dead at least for her and she is getting the courage to leave him while getting more comfortable with me. And as I said before she is stuck living with him and it is close to impossible for her alone to move out and look for new place to live alone. On the other hand it will be really strange to come at my place without anything more intimate like at least a kiss. This is what I thought of course, what is in her head is whole other story. I know that what we are doing is cheating but I thought there isno other chance for something to happen.

Ok so I will tell her that as far as she can't give me what I want I will stop talking to her and she may contact me if she is single one day.
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Well Ive done what Ive done only because I thought that everything between them is dead at least for her and she is getting the courage to leave him while getting more comfortable with me. And as I said before she is stuck living with him and it is close to impossible for her alone to move out and look for new place to live alone. On the other hand it will be really strange to come at my place without anything more intimate like at least a kiss. This is what I thought of course, what is in her head is whole other story. I know that what we are doing is cheating but I thought there isno other chance for something to happen.

Ok so I will tell her that as far as she can't give me what I want I will stop talking to her and she may contact me if she is single one day.
I will agree with what others have said...she is just using your company to supplement what she feels is missing in her current relationship.

Honestly... would you want someone that hops from one relationship to another? There is no digestion, no mourning or healing. Just from one to next. It's like pulling a red tape ticket...which one is next in line.

If she was done with her ex, she would tell him, hey we are over, but I cannot move out so I'm here until I can get the hell out. I've seen a Taurus do this. They stayed because they HAD to, they stated the relationship was over and there was no bulls*it.

She obviously doesn't want the relationship to end, but also doesn't want you to leave because once again you are filling a void. You can choose to stay or not, but I hope those rose colored glasses are as thick as coke bottles... if you choose to stay.

I see you keep making excuses for her and want everything to turn out to your advantage, but... you know what...never mind.



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Your title says taurus girl no logic

There is logic and its clear...she is playing you!!!

Cut contact with her...

You can definitely communicate with her as to what she wants but i'm sure that she is gonna come up with some cheap excuses

I guess she doesnt have an idea that you are spying her on Insta

Best thing to do - send her one of those lovey dovey pic she posted and add a caption like "having great time eh? Good for you"

DON'T LET HER PLAY YOU!!!
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I respect every single answer from all of you. I have question, if she uses me for attention how come she wants to see me every day and writes to me every single day and night, that means that she receives zero attention from her boyfriend?

I have balls, I just can't give up easily when I like someone but in this situation I will cut contact with her this is out of question.

After the first evening of her vacation when she wrote to me its 5 days so far with no contact between us, that has never happened before. So I just wonder if I wait for her to contact me first and tell her everything or just write first.
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I respect every single answer from all of you. I have question, if she uses me for attention how come she wants to see me every day and writes to me every single day and night, that means that she receives zero attention from her boyfriend?

I have balls, I just can't give up easily when I like someone but in this situation I will cut contact with her this is out of question.

After the first evening of her vacation when she wrote to me its 5 days so far with no contact between us, that has never happened before. So I just wonder if I wait for her to contact me first and tell her everything or just write first.
Her talking to you all the times doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't give her attention... he probably does. She may still feel hurt about his cheating or he's not checking off all of the boxes that she wants.

She may not be writting you anymore because the vacation has sparked that "thing" between the two of them again. Vacations have a way of bring people closer together or ripping them apart.

It is up to you as to when you write her, I say you take charge and write when you WANT to write. Don't wait for her. YOU take charge of the situation. No point on waiting for her just for you to tell her it's not going to work. *shrugs*

Just my two cents.
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10 Years

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Inana04, where did you see that I am not listening. I said that I will cut her off, I have self respect and I would never stay in a situation where someone else is preferred over me. I just didn't see that coming after what happenned between us the last month. And as a matter of fact I just wanted to know what her actions mean from other taurus girls if the sign here matters, not what I have to do in this situation. I know that Id have to walk away. What tbird wrote made most sense to me actually, this vacation probably sparked something in her again, hence the reason she didn't write a word for five days.
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@newlove
9 Years

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Posted by mystery84
Well Ive done what Ive done only because I thought that everything between them is dead at least for her and she is getting the courage to leave him while getting more comfortable with me. And as I said before she is stuck living with him and it is close to impossible for her alone to move out and look for new place to live alone. On the other hand it will be really strange to come at my place without anything more intimate like at least a kiss. This is what I thought of course, what is in her head is whole other story. I know that what we are doing is cheating but I thought there isno other chance for something to happen.

Ok so I will tell her that as far as she can't give me what I want I will stop talking to her and she may contact me if she is single one day.


Fine she doesnt have anywhere to go right now...that does not mean she will go on vacations with her bf and post pics with him

Once she is single, you'll want her back? Are you serious?

She's going on vacations with some guy, messing with you at the same time...once she becomes your gf...she will be going on vacations with you and mess around with some other guy!

You got to know about her bf from FB...she wouldnt have told you otherwise...now the same thing is hapenning with Insta...

OP this is your life you will decide what to do
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lnana04
@lnana04
15 Years5,000+ Posts

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Posted by Redoctober2000
Posted by lnana04
He reminds me of the male version of Peitho lol.

This is just going to go in a bunch of circles.

OP you appreciate our advice but you are not listening. You want to understand something that doesn't make sense from a person you consider illogical. Good luck with it all
Sorry to burst your bubble but you are not really in a position to "have a go" or even "advise" the OP as you are still stuck with a "player" Taurus for at least the last 4 years and still ongoing!!!!
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Im not stuck with anyone.

You are constantly giving advise, but what relationship success have you had?

Like what do you have going for you where anyone should listen?
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lnana04
@lnana04
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Posted by mystery84
Inana04, where did you see that I am not listening. I said that I will cut her off, I have self respect and I would never stay in a situation where someone else is preferred over me. I just didn't see that coming after what happenned between us the last month. And as a matter of fact I just wanted to know what her actions mean from other taurus girls if the sign here matters, not what I have to do in this situation. I know that Id have to walk away. What tbird wrote made most sense to me actually, this vacation probably sparked something in her again, hence the reason she didn't write a word for five days.
That's good OP. I thought you were holding on, still trying to understand her behavior. I hope you find someone right for you!
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Posted by mystery84
Ok please I have another question. I saw a lot of people here wrote also about other similar taurus cases. How come the taurus is considered one of the most if not the most loyal sign of all?
Because they are loyal as all hell once they decide to be and if you don't disrespect them...if you do... all bets are off.

But... not every Taurus is completely loyal. Hell not every *insert sign* has the attributes that is related to that sign.
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@lnana04
15 Years5,000+ Posts

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Posted by lnana04
Posted by Redoctober2000
Posted by lnana04
He reminds me of the male version of Peitho lol.

This is just going to go in a bunch of circles.

OP you appreciate our advice but you are not listening. You want to understand something that doesn't make sense from a person you consider illogical. Good luck with it all
Sorry to burst your bubble but you are not really in a position to "have a go" or even "advise" the OP as you are still stuck with a "player" Taurus for at least the last 4 years and still ongoing!!!!
Im not stuck with anyone.

You are constantly giving advise, but what relationship success have you had?

Like what do you have going for you where anyone should listen?

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I have had relationship successes and have always had the men that I wanted as I currently do now with my Taurus thank you very much!!!

At least unlike you I don't sit and preach to other and not holding my own!!!

I wasn't preaching to him, and why are you concerned with what I'm doing or comparing yourself to me? Really, what is that about?

LoL, Interesting you view your past relationships as successes.

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