Taurus girl no logic (Page 2)

We are messing up the OPs thread with a bunch of stuff that has nothing to do with nothing.

If/when I want to talk about the Taurus I will. Don't follow me around threads mentioning my situation with him. Concern yourself with you own relationship that's "going places" and learn to be happy, goodness.

Lock a Taurus down? LoL

I'm not trying to lock anyone down or be locked down, hence the reason I have yet to be in a relationship. You've always gotten me and my situation completely wrong, but continue to think what you want.

And nope I'm not a Taurus, but I will always respond to situations involving my sign, which is why I'm here.

Posted by lnana04
It's not strange that she's doing things with her boyfriend

It's strange that you are in this situation as the side guy with expectations of how she should behave with her actual boyfriend.

Exactly

Ok I just wanted to post her answer, after I asked her what is going on she posts such pictures and at the same time makes pretty serious stuff with me. She said: Weeeell from pictures alone you can judge a lot of things, yes we make pictures together, yes we have been at the sea together...but I told you I can not leave something just like that...It is obvious that I feel something for you, but until I clear that up for myself I can do nothing, thats it..

So I just told her, ok be happy and clear yourself up

Taurus women don't respect weak men...Ive never been weak with her, but as I see from this case obviously taurus women respect men who cheat on them like crazy. Interesting

Redoctober2000...first I never entertained her it was always mutual, yes I knew she has a boyfriend but I had also one. After that we continued the contact, we are colleagues after all and she was doing as I said 80% of the contact, and I never asked her out on a date or something like that. We were seeing each other at work and we were writing on viber and she was unable to not hear from me even for one single day. I thought that her relationship is at the end and even moreso when the last month we started being physically intimate and she also suggested coming over at my place to spend the night with me and she was cuddling in me the whole night. I don't think it is weakness that I didn't talk to her right at the next morning...ok so when are you going to leave your boyfriend? But it doesn't mean that I would put up with this situation after seeing those pictures. And come on people this is life it is not a perfect world. I've been in such situation, I left my girlfriend of 7 years because we had a lot of problems and in the end I even had almost no feelings for her but it is just me who knows how painful the process was and how difficult it is and it doesn't happen overnight. It is never just black and white and it is much easier to write it here than to be in such situation yourself. I know that probably just thinking about this is very painful for her also, this is her only serious boyfriend and she is 27, this makes it even harder for her probably...but that doesn't mean that I would wait for her of course.

fknnerd...I would never do something like that, moreso he is not an angel as she told me she caught him cheating several times and I am 100% he keeps it the same way. I think he washed her brain becaus Iv heard her saying...well all men are like this, like this is something absolutely normal. But whatever..

@Mystery84,

Good for you.

You did the right thing.

I applaud your efforts for telling her how you felt and giving her an ultimatum.

...And good for you for sticking to your guns when she presented excuses.

The POS that she's with with continue to cheat.

And she will procrastinate a million different ways before she leaves that relationship.

The loyalty and procrastination with Bulls sometimes, I don't know if it's a gift or a curse for us.

She will eventually see the light, shes' a Bull after all.

But when she does.

Don't look back.

Let it be her karma.

Her regret.

Thank you taurusbull, well I had no other choice after what happened between us recently. The bad thing is we work at the same place and it is almost impossible to have no contact at all. Although I ran into her these days and she is not talking to me either so great 🙂

If she comes to me in the near future and says I want to be with you, it was really hard for me to end the relationship and to make this change I am sorry and bla bla, something like that... do you think I should cut her off entirely? I mean you think she wouldn't be sincere on her part or?

I doubt this would happen but I don't rule it out 🙂

Posted by mystery84

If she comes to me in the near future and says I want to be with you, it was really hard for me to end the relationship and to make this change I am sorry and bla bla, something like that... do you think I should cut her off entirely? I mean you think she wouldn't be sincere on her part or?

I doubt this would happen but I don't rule it out 🙂

Yes.

There will be sincerity on her part.

However, stick to your guns.

Cut her off entirely.

This will be a life learning decision for her.

Next time...

Avoid procastination.

Let this be her biggest regret.

Don't create gray areas for us.

We're receptive to black/white, all or nothing attitudes.

"she will also remember what you did and she will be done with u BOTH. You continue to be a gentlemen ; be courteous and polite if you have to interact with her as you work with her but other than that no interaction whatsoever. Through this manner the Taurus will gain respect for you. "

I HAVE to ask this......... Why should he give a fuck about winning her respect though? She's CHEATING on her boyfriend & she has accepted his cheating in the past. I would have no respect for her, I wouldn't be worried about her respect for me. My impression of her would be that she's weak and untrustworthy.

What the Taurus is doing could be considered vindictive too.

Ok, first things first: enough of the Venus in Gemini bashing; I have it, and I have NEVER cheated on anyone I was in a serious relationship with. Sorry, just had to throw that our there...

Your Taurus girl is clearly not getting things she needs/wants from her boyfriend; hence, the reason she keeps spending so much time with you. But she doesn't know what she wants, which explains why her "principles" prevented her from going all the way with you. I think in this kind of situation, there is no middle path available. If you want to be with her, you must insist she permanently end things with her BF. If you don't want to be with her, you need to cut her off entirely; otherwise, her behavior is just going to continue.

Speaking of "principles," that sounds more like Gemi behavior, ha ha! See, we should all have a sense of humor about our signs ; )

Posted by mystery84
fknnerd...I would never do something like that, moreso he is not an angel as she told me she caught him cheating several times and I am 100% he keeps it the same way. I think he washed her brain becaus Iv heard her saying...well all men are like this, like this is something absolutely normal. But whatever..

This story is ridiculous...

But honestly my Taurus friend is close to "emotionally" or maybe even physically cheating on her Virgo.. But I'm not going to put her story all the way out there like that. I am telling her though that that's not the right way to go...

What I can't understand is that she's cheating. How do you know HE cheated? By what SHE said? The CHEATER? Lol

I only say that because my ex tried to say I was cheating. I wasn't. Never did. I actually caught him at a woman's house. He went through my phone for 2 HOURS and found nothing. Nor did he even have any actual proof of it..

She sounds like a user to me. That's horrible. And this dude is taking her on trips and stuff... And anytime she gets the chance she's staying with you?? Geez.

She needs to just end it if she's not happy. Doesn't anyone have ANY MORALS? ugh

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Posted by lnana04
@Redoctober2000, I didnt know people get married with the mentality that nothing lasts forever.

And why are you so concerned with what's going on over here? Even If he has no interest in me, why does that interest you? I don't come on this board thinking about Redoctober2000. Get off of me, please. Find some other entertainment.

Of course no one enters a marriage thinking that but unfortunately these things happen... One is hardly going to stay in a relationship if for eg it is abusive... But once again you are talking shite and thinking you can give good advice.

You are not a Taurus and you have struggled for four years go try and lock one down... But yet you think you can come into the Taurus board and preach to someone else when you can't even lock one down leg alone get one to even contemplate marrying you!! Smh!

It's you who are on the wrong board... Advise people if you have the right experience which you don't....

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I thought Inana04 posts on this particular thread were pretty good and helpful to the OP. Everyone is making the same valid points to OP. He's barking up the wrong tree with the Taurus girl and excusing her behaviour.

Posted by Redoctober2000

Posted by RiverLee
"she will also remember what you did and she will be done with u BOTH. You continue to be a gentlemen ; be courteous and polite if you have to interact with her as you work with her but other than that no interaction whatsoever. Through this manner the Taurus will gain respect for you. "

I HAVE to ask this......... Why should he give a fuck about winning her respect though? She's CHEATING on her boyfriend & she has accepted his cheating in the past. I would have no respect for her, I wouldn't be worried about her respect for me. My impression of her would be that she's weak and untrustworthy.

Because you are not the OP. The OP has feelings for her.... Life is not so black and white.... I sense the OP has feelings for her and may forgive her in the long run should she get the opportunity to change and prove herself..

You are young. You have not experience much of life... Taurus may be black /white but and advanced Taurus can also see "grey"...

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But I'm not young at all lol & I've experienced plenty out of life. If making excuses for cheating makes me advanced than I'd rather not be, because despite my Gem moon & Venus, cheating IS a very B&W thing for me, personally.

If someone is willing to cheat/lie/sneak to be with me than I know that they have it in them to cheat ON me which means that they are untrustworthy & selfish, only considering their feelings & what they want. While at the same time deeply wounding the other person. Immediately I know that those aren't respectable qualities.

Ahhh I see. I was mistaken.

"she will be done with u BOTH. Through this manner the Taurus will gain respect for you. She has no respect for you right now. She needs to lose you from her life permanently so she can feel what she stands to lose. If she is meant to be with you in the end.... She will be. "

^^^^^^^

It's just that this doesn't sound like advice on how to maintain a civil work environment but more like how to stay in good graces with a lying cheating snake.

BTW, I don't advocate for telling the boyfriend that she's cheating ONLY because 95% of the time the person being cheated on makes excuses for the cheater & you become the bad guy, not because I think it makes a person vindictive to tell. If you've ever been cheated on, you know that one of the worst feelings is knowing that other people know & no one had the balls to clue you in so instead you walked around looking like an idiot.

Hey thank you all for your comments, appreciate all of them. Well since the moment I wrote her to be happy and clear herself up which was more than 10 days ago we didn't write each other even one word, and we bumped into each other at work several times but just once we were alone, I asked her hey what's going on and she barely replied "nothing" and that was it. I wanted to show her that I am not mad at her or not talking to her at all or something but I kind of sense like she is playing the one who is being hurt and is avoiding contact. Or she just doesn't care, but its really hard for me to believe this is the case after all that happened between us. So currently no one is writing even a word and we haven't even seen each other since more than 6 or 7 days. I had no intention that we don't even talk to each other but I am doing nothing in this situation.

This whole situation is doomed from the start. They were both in a relationship when all this began.

I'd put an end to this before you get destroyed emotionally. She's not leaving her guy. If she was really into you, she'd have done it already.