TG trying to get me JEALOUS?(long)

Update about the tg??_its been about 7 months already and honestly I didn't think us hooking up was supposed to last this long. Around the 3rd month I was wondering if I should be worried about him having feelings cuz certain things we did weren't really what hookup buddies are suppose to do. Well, more things have happened since then. I started to watch his moves a bit more. But he got a 2nd job and started school back up again, but even though he seems pretty busy we still communicate with each other almost every day or every other day. Which is perfectly fine with me cuz I feel one or two days of not talking isn't a big deal. He still wants to see me about 2times a wk. But if I say I can't, he??ll just try and see me the next day. One day he came to pick me up and as I was putting on my seatbelt, he asked what kind of perfume I had on. I told him, and then asked why, he said —oh because u wear it every time I see u??. I thought maybe he hated it so I asked if that was a bad thing. All he said was —no, its not.?? I didn't even think he noticed that stuff. Even when I got a pedicure, he told me randomly my nail polish color was nice. Lol. Ill just say —oh yea thanks.?? He still stares at me a lot..but its whenever im not looking at him. I??ll turn my head to him, and then all of a sudden he just turns his head too. He mostly plays love songs in his car, and sometimes I feel awkward. Lol.
It's weird because I feel like maybe as time is going by that he feels more comfortable with me? He tells me where he's at when I don't ask, he almost always responds to my calls or texts and if he takes forever he??ll tell me sorry for texting late. He??ll ask what I'm doing every once in a while-not to hookup, but just to ask I guess. Sometimes I get the feeling like he wants me to ask him to go somewhere with me and my friend but he never actually says it so I won't really say anything either.lol. He started saying goodnight to me now? But I have my guard up because I know what this is supposed to be. I also noticed that when I'm texting someone, he looks over at my phone a bit. I was looking at shoes and he literally grabbed my phone out of my hand to see which ones I liked. I was like —uuh u don't just grab a girls phone like that buddy.?? But something started happening also??_..He started bringing up other girls. He's done it around the 3rd month I think. For awhile I really didn't care??_I would even bring up a guy

I would even bring up a guy that I thought was cute but whenever I did, he would just look down at his phone and act like he wasn't hearing me. But now, I feel like its gotten worse to the point where he literally puts it in my face. Almost like he's doing it on purpose just to get some type of reaction? So I eventually started telling/texting him that it's annoying. He texts back —oh why? You are not mine nor am I yours. We just hookup dork.?? So I told him that it wasn't about the fact of us not being together, it was just annoying to me in general when anyone does that. I also told him that he didn't have to explain what we were cuz I was perfectly aware of what it was going to be (mind u my guard is up). He sent me a pic of someone with a surprised face..then he just texted back —well its good that u know this is all it is.??

So me and my friend went out to the club and I told her about our convo. She was mad that he said that so she started texting him off my phone saying how hes an asshole and stuff. That's when we got into it kinda. I was pretty tipsy by then, so I texted him —oh so u wouldn't mind if I went on a date with a guy lol??. He said that he didn't care but that if I do go on a date to tell the guy that were hooking up and if it would be ok with him. I told him I was tipsy and that I was just annoying him cuz he annoys me with the things he says. Something in my head told me that I think he was getting a little mad that I said that. Cuz then out of nowhere he said something that really really pissed me off. I told him thanks for making me feel like shit. Two days later I was still so pissed about what he said I texted him saying he owed me an apology. But then he turns it around and starts talking about how were nothing more than what it is and why am I bringing it up again. That wasn't even the point of me being mad! He went way off there. I told him in big bold letters that I didn't care about that, it was about something else he said. I started cursing him out and he didn't really say anything , just let me get it all out. I told him he hurt my feelings and that he doesn't have to care in a bf type way just care in a dam human being way! So I ended it there and didn't speak to him for about a week and a half. That's the longest we haven't talked.

During that time me and my friend went to the beach one day and she took a pic of me tanning and my butt was in the shot. She posted it on ig and I knew tg was going to see it for sure. This random guy started commenting under it. Within hours tg started posting subliminal messages on his profile. I didn't pay too much attention to it, but I had a feeling it was cuz of the pic and how I wasn't speaking to him. Then the next week comes around, and my friend calls me out of nowhere saying how tg sent her a snapchat and it was him smacking some girls ass. I was so pissed I couldn't even say a word cuz I knew this fool went out of his way and done that on purpose! I mean I know what we are, but it's the whole point of him going out of his frikken way to put it in my face just to get a reaction out of me. It's just aggravating and I feel he thinks that he can say and do whatever he wants-hah, not to this sag girl! That night I texted him asking why would he stupidly go out of his way to prove something when he claims he doesn't care. He just was trying to make it seem like it wasn't anything serious. He even screen shot the names of the ppl he sent it to so I could see. Which happened to be his little guy friends and my friend was the ONLY girl he sent it to? KNOWING she was going to tell me?? *rolling my eyes* I told him he was a dick for even doing it in the first place and that I didn't care and to just go away. He goes —well why would u bring it to my attention if you didn't care huh. Riddle me that batman—
I tried ignoring his texts cuz I was out, but he wouldn't leave me alone. It was like he was happy or something that I was pissed off at him. Im still confused about it all cuz I just don't get it! The next few days he wouldn't stop texting me. I was out and he asked me what I was doing, and I told him. He told me where he was, that he wanted to see me but if I couldn't to text him tomorrow and to have fun. Have fun? He's never said that before.

I was tipsy, and I caved. Met him at his place, and it was very intense, passionate. Dam it he reeled me in with those big puppy looking eyes..ugh. After that he asked what I was doing the next day, I told him I had to get up early cuz I was spending the day with my friend for the 4th of July. He just said ok. Next day I didn't text him until about 5 or 6pm. Sent him a pic of some food I was eating and I wrote —jealous much—-he texts back —well there's girls around so no lol??. I mean, AGAIN with this?! I wrote back —oh yea tell them I said hi?? and didn't talk to him all day and just brushed it off. He texts me the next day like nothing asking what I'm doing and that he just got home from work. I guess I just tried to block everything out because I hate being jealous, but I just couldn't get passed it all, it just sent me in a rage all over again so I texted him saying the whole thing made me mad still and I didn't want to talk about it cuz I really shouldn't care. He just says ok. Next morning I tell him that I didn't think it was a good idea to hookup for awhile cuz I need some space. He just writes —alright..?? I'm not sure if he expected that cuz it seemed a little too easy.

So now I'm here, and it's been 6days. I feel like one of these days hes going to try and contact me but I'm not sure what I want to do anymore. I honestly was fine with everything, until he had to go and start trying to make me jealous. Plus I'm backing away from him because I don't want to start forming an attachment to him when that wasn't the plan. It's like he's forming it into that way as time goes on, but if he's going to hook up with some other chick whenever I get mad and don't want to see him then that's not where I want to go with things. So what's going on here? What is this fool trying to do? Did I make the right decision by backing off for awhile? I feel like he's trying to turn it around on me when its clearly him doing all this. I just don't why he's making it complicated?? He's only going to push me away cuz I can't deal with negativity like that.

Your situation sounds a little similar to mine, though I think we were a little more serious (talk of exclusiveness etc.). It's really all about your communication style s. You have to decide if you can put up with the way he deals with situations. But it shouldn't be a one way street, he should give as much as he takes. If he doesn't then you are probably best just keeping to yourself, getting on with your life and what will be will be.

And loose-types wonder why uptight-types are so very fearful of the whole FWB scenario...

It ain't natural. You guys were getting real-relationship feelings for each other, but fought 'em off, and are now both pissed. Maybe his feelings came stronger and faster. Maybe he was testing you to see if you'd like to DATE, you know, like an actual relationship. Guys (and girls) can be immature in this testing, by just seeing if you're jealous when they bring up someone else. Cuz too shy/timid/embarrassed (fear of rejection) to ask to date directly.

Obviously your answer is 'no'.

Emotions are never logical. Being human, emotions will enter into every relationship you ever find yourself in... you know, the ones outside of pay-for-hookers. You'll keep running into guys who eventually want attachment. The only ones who will NEVER want attachment are the ones who will, for no apparent reason, suddenly tire of you one day and move on.

This whole thing is just immature nonsense. Two people playing games, being fake, lying to each other and themselves. Whatever happens in this (and any FWB) to both of you emotionally, you deserve it IMO.

I can relate to this and I've noticed that maybe the male Taureans can't handle fwb situations. Really, I honestly don't see how anyone can.

I think your guy has been subtly hinting that he wants more out of this, but he's leaving the progress up to you, as if it's your call. I don't know why it seems the males do this?! He seems frustrated that you haven't asked for more.

Galacticfun89,

We don't assume if he is going to contact you unless you throw a word first and let's see how he respond.

*assumptions* don't work with a stubborn taurus.

and I see *harem*. lol.

-sighs-
This is a mess.
You're both playing games.
Either be open and honest with your feelings or end it.
Do not keep playing this childish crappy game with each other.

Posted by RainDancer88
I am so glad to see you back here GalacticFun89!!! (My twinsie 🙂)


Girl, listen, if you have feelings and you are ready to settle down with him (and I mean literally process that he could be the one) then quit playing games !! 🙂

He was super immature with posting shit about slapping another chick's ass... (that WOULD NOT fly with me) Put an end to that and say it verbally in a collected manner and leave it be.

I would figure out what you want, is it him? If so, tell him. Tell him everyday until you get a reaction. Be there, touch him, sing the love songs he plays out loud and flirt. He may break your heart but so the F what! If you want it. it should be worth the risk and in my humble opinion, a Taurus man will not just play around with the woman he is courting.

Let your cards show. Say everything you are worried about with confidence because the truth sets our soul free (being a Sagittarius this is important to us to speak freely about our feelings, despite our pride)

Glad to see you, these Bulls really give us a run for our money eh?? 😉 hhehe, my advice, be real, be YOU, and love being able to be truthful with your desires. He either will want you or not.


xoxo- Raindancer

OMG hi twinsie!!!!

Well I do appreciate everyone's comments about this, and after I read them I started to feel a little bad about not talking to him. So I texted him a few days, but I don't know. Hes confusing me..He just acted like it wasn't a big deal again. Me; (inserts sad face emoji)—Him; what happened—?Me; nothing..ur not mad? —Him; about what? —Me; about us not hooking up for awhile. —Him; No...

Ugh. Of course he would say no, hes got a back up whenever I dont see him! After that we were texting during the night. Right away he asked what I was doing, I told him I was out at a fashion show. He asked what I was doing after that, and I assumed he wanted to see me to hook up. I was going to spend time with family this whole weekend and I had to get up early so I just told him that. He was saying he had to get up early too; but I think he was being persistent in seeing me. I told him ill see him another day. The next day he texted me. I swear if I don't see him one day, he starts getting a little persistent in seeing me until I say ok or if im finally not busy. I was still with family eating, and then he tells me —ok ill just ask someone else since ur busy.?? ---OMG he f***ing knows stuff like that pisses me off!!! Right away I start feeling my skin setting on fire. Just knowing that he's going to hook up with the other girl was making me angry, and somehow I know its because he set it up that way on purpose. In my mind that makes me believe that he's trying to control me by making me jealous. That's one thing I don't do well with. So next day comes around and i started getting worried about me having feelings for him, and him hurting them I panicked, and I texted him saying that I don't want to hook up anymore. I said at the beginning I really didn't care too much about him or what he did, but now I do and I didn't like being jealous especially when he isn't mine. I also added that it was his fault cuz he caused it on purpose. Im not trying to get my feelings hurt. This time he didn't write me back. So I just assumed that maybe IM the crazy one and he really doesn't like me in that way and maybe that's just how he is. But then I posted the fashion show I went to on ig and he liked all my pics? Yea??_so I don't know. Im kind of relieved that I said what I said but now im just like whatever??_If something is suppose to happen then I guess it will. If it doesn't, then it doesn't.