lamish
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Unable to understand,? how to..
Cooperate. Is that a euphemism for obey?
Agree to disagree.
If you come near me with that attitude and negative shit to any Taurus they are going to look at you sideways, and cross-eyed, not take you seriously, and walk away.
If you come at a Taurus proper first and want to work shit out then do it in a way to make her see why she is wrong. We are smart peeps dude. So if you talk to calmly and let her know the problem she may work it out with you. But controlling and negative shit you bow down to me if I see ya.
If you come at a Taurus proper first and want to work shit out then do it in a way to make her see why she is wrong. We are smart peeps dude. So if you talk to calmly and let her know the problem she may work it out with you. But controlling and negative shit you bow down to me if I see ya.
See this where I should delete and type, type and forget to delete and hit send instead.
Is this relationship really making you happy?
take a good long look in the mirror and tell me what you see
Posted by lamishyou are not as nice as you think you are
Hey. I've just got a damn question... how to deal with people if you are in a relationship with a taurus woman and dislike something.. it is key to communicate, right? So how to fucking make her understand that she is not always right and I want her to think that some things may not be as nice as she think it is,
some things I might dislike but she not, how to make her understand and co operate?
I see dead people. ?
If you are addressing any situation as an "I'm right, you're wrong" it's not going to be resolved, regardless of her sign. Why not sit down, free of distractions and tell her (without crazy emotions), this is how I feel when you say or do xxx, it might not be your intention but that's how I feel when it happens. I love you and I want to resolve this, please tell me why you feel so strongly about xxx.
It's in the way you adddress it and going into it with an open mind, recognizing that you or both of you could be wrong. Find out the underlying reasoning and come to a compromise, that's what relationships are about, understanding and compromise...not trying to find a way to shove your opinions into the other person.
P.S. The reason most relationships fail is because needs on one side or both are not being met. I had a great counselor one time who recommended the book "his needs, her needs". Try doing this questionnaire with her (separately then discuss the results together):
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forms/enq.pdf
It's in the way you adddress it and going into it with an open mind, recognizing that you or both of you could be wrong. Find out the underlying reasoning and come to a compromise, that's what relationships are about, understanding and compromise...not trying to find a way to shove your opinions into the other person.
P.S. The reason most relationships fail is because needs on one side or both are not being met. I had a great counselor one time who recommended the book "his needs, her needs". Try doing this questionnaire with her (separately then discuss the results together):
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forms/enq.pdf
Did you think he was nice? His words are powerfully perceived as too much. Just let it go. I would let it go if someone didn't know how to talk to me. Be mature and compromise the both. Or just let her go if you don't she will.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428It's obvious that his aggressive nature probably haults any mature communication before it starts. However, some people were never shown how to communicate effectively in a relationship. I think anyone can change the way they are if they care enough about the relationship to want to be happy more than they care about being "right". That's really the decision.
Did you think he was nice? His words are powerfully perceived as too much. Just let it go. I would let it go if someone didn't know how to talk to me. Be mature and compromise the both. Or just let her go if you don't she will.
I know so far I don't hear from him anything good. All negative.. I wonder what the problem is now as to why she must be wrong or right about— Or what the problem is now really?
Except he doesn't know how to handle the bullette. We're simple creatures.
Treat us right and with positive vibes, and patience we can change. For the one.
who decides what is right and wrong ?
We do.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Agree with this one wholeheartedly. I have seen a bull make 180 degree change when their heart is in it and they are spoken to with respect and love. As a gem with Taurus moon I can say that's definitely the way to get me to see my part in things as well, but really I would think that would apply to any rational person who loves their partner anyway. Most people would react negatively or shut down completely when a problem is addressed with hostility.
Treat us right and with positive vibes, and patience we can change. For the one.
Posted by lamishThat seems unnecessarily cruel...
I want her to think that some things may not be as nice as she think it is
I'm so calm and I would talk it out truly. Before I throw the towel down. But usually I let them talk, listen, then approach it. If it is too much always and never change not just me but the guy as well since no one is perfect and it's two sides to both sometimes it's just a better thing to let go soooooo early on.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Basically it's playschool argument.
The stubbornness comes in at the way he's coming at me with that tone of bullshit spewing like you aren't perfect either and neither is she. Lol.
Wanna play games. I like catch me if you can.
The thing is, I spoke to this girl for three years as freinds just to see how she is, so I choosed wisely but as we have now been together for one year, We all have had our ups and downs, no biggie. But the thing is that on the latest 1-2 months she have changed somehow, I do not know if it is because of her friends or whatever it is, But she was more religious before and is not now,
belviie me, when there is a problem between us, I would take her nicely sit down, and explain it in depth so good with no hard words or anything and I really do it in a kind way but sometimes, I assume and think but not sure,
She thinks in a discussion like a child, she thinks oh I'm so bullheaded Im not gonna let him win? And Im like wtf, we are supposed to meet halfway and be a team, try to find not your solution, not mine, a solution TOGETHER. but it feels like she havent really learned or something that way of thinking... Im fighting with it as Im suffering because sometimes she does things that I dislike and the sad thing is that, IT FEELS like she doesnt even watch my opinion or care... and she think she does but I dont feel like it. So it just feels like she cant god damn get it into her head sometimes... I really dont know how to make her realize I've been doing so many kind things, I have not tried to trick her in someway and I have always thought of the things together and tried to do our best for each other. IF I had said something to her, it is mostly out of respect because I care about her...
belviie me, when there is a problem between us, I would take her nicely sit down, and explain it in depth so good with no hard words or anything and I really do it in a kind way but sometimes, I assume and think but not sure,
She thinks in a discussion like a child, she thinks oh I'm so bullheaded Im not gonna let him win? And Im like wtf, we are supposed to meet halfway and be a team, try to find not your solution, not mine, a solution TOGETHER. but it feels like she havent really learned or something that way of thinking... Im fighting with it as Im suffering because sometimes she does things that I dislike and the sad thing is that, IT FEELS like she doesnt even watch my opinion or care... and she think she does but I dont feel like it. So it just feels like she cant god damn get it into her head sometimes... I really dont know how to make her realize I've been doing so many kind things, I have not tried to trick her in someway and I have always thought of the things together and tried to do our best for each other. IF I had said something to her, it is mostly out of respect because I care about her...
And it also breaks me down when I fuckin love her from moon down to earth and I would do anything for her but it feels like she is loving in a more "natuuural" way like u taurus ppl say u do, and it feels like she is doing it on a hole other level...
If you are referrin to somethin she is doin with others. Then you dont need any reason beyond the fact that it bothers you. Either she accepts that its not cool and respects your boundaries, or you 2 need to break up. Dont compromise who you are for someone else. Thats where these dumb Sagittariuses get the idea that they can turn whoever they want into a cuckold LMAO
Posted by palehooves
you're the type of person that shouldn't date a taurus, breh. we're too strong willed for you. well maybe any woman who values herself and her freedom is. but meh.
Astrology doesnt justify immaturity and an inability to acknowledge when youre wrong. "Strong willed" aint got nothin to do with bein close minded and self centered. Sorry to tell you. But you Taurus need to be shoved off your high chairs because you may not be all Ego like Leos, but you are stupid and stubborn about bein stupid.
I will tell you bluntly right here and now. In ANY relationship, it is a 2 way street. Give and take. You have to be willing to respect the other persons boundaries otherwise you shouldnt be with them at all.
If somethin bothers a person and its somethin like flirting or touching or whatever. You cannot try to play ignorant and like you dont know how or why that might bother someone. So respect it, stop doin it, and get over yourself. You aint gonna die if you have to become that much more entwined and exclusive with a person. Other people dont seem to have a problem with this.
A normal healthy couple has plenty of exclusivity and privacy between themselves. Its normal and healthy for you to restrain yourself for the sake of your relationship. Otherwise you are missing the whole point to relationships and need to stop fuckin with em altogether.
Yeah it was nice said of you, now here is the problem,
I choose with this girl, Spent much time and I have grew up not to fuck around with people, therefore I want to choose one(her) and be with her the rest of my life. She do have good sides but as I said also bad, I feel that she disrespect me and doesnt pay attention so much to my opinion... so specstheMasta, what u suggest?
It would be so hard for me to leave but Im like suffering? Dunno 😢
For example, if I would say, I honestly dont like that you wear that shirt, it makes you look bad...
she would be: I can have it if I want to, why do u have these jeans i hate? then im like wtf... I didnt say YOU MUST remove it, but where do you value my opinion, u goes off offensive? It doesnt work like that.. if she would tell me she doesnt like something I do, I would say ok baby lets sit down and discuss how we can somehow meet eachother at the middle ....
I choose with this girl, Spent much time and I have grew up not to fuck around with people, therefore I want to choose one(her) and be with her the rest of my life. She do have good sides but as I said also bad, I feel that she disrespect me and doesnt pay attention so much to my opinion... so specstheMasta, what u suggest?
It would be so hard for me to leave but Im like suffering? Dunno 😢
For example, if I would say, I honestly dont like that you wear that shirt, it makes you look bad...
she would be: I can have it if I want to, why do u have these jeans i hate? then im like wtf... I didnt say YOU MUST remove it, but where do you value my opinion, u goes off offensive? It doesnt work like that.. if she would tell me she doesnt like something I do, I would say ok baby lets sit down and discuss how we can somehow meet eachother at the middle ....
I think you both may have relationship issues that go deeper than astrological sun signs. Maybe you'd both be happier in relationships with others?
Thinking that a Bullette is wrong and needs to change is a major mistake. No Taurean woman wants to hear this. No Taurean, period, wants to hear this. Change is hard for us and we need to be convinced, cajoled, gently persuaded, that we may be wrong about something.
Your attitude that she's flat out wrong is going to offend her and make her more obstinate.
Thinking that a Bullette is wrong and needs to change is a major mistake. No Taurean woman wants to hear this. No Taurean, period, wants to hear this. Change is hard for us and we need to be convinced, cajoled, gently persuaded, that we may be wrong about something.
Your attitude that she's flat out wrong is going to offend her and make her more obstinate.
Yeah but I dont approach her with an attitude like, hey ur wrong. I do it in a more kind way and she have admitted that as well that she realize much more things and the meaning of it that Im saying, she realize it more now than b efore
When you suggest something and she goes against it immediately agree and take her side don't even repeat anything just say your right go ahead. Let her face plant several times. When she asks for your opinion just say, do you really want my opinion ? You'd be surprised how doing nothing will work.
Let the bull charge. Then quietly observe the results with no expression. You'll thank me later.
Wow man thats pretty intresting that you are saying actually. May I ask what horoscope are you?
But isnt it like... if she gets how she wants she will just be happy and normal and continue to do it? which will just make me lower
And yeah if in that case as you say, it happens that lets say.. some day she ask me in a situation about my opinion? if i say that: do u really want my opinion? and she says yes.. then what? then she continue with her way
Posted by lamishYou give her your opinion if she starts again. Then wink at her and say don't lie when I ask you a question. You didn't want my opinion.
And yeah if in that case as you say, it happens that lets say.. some day she ask me in a situation about my opinion? if i say that: do u really want my opinion? and she says yes.. then what? then she continue with her way
Posted by lamishIf someone has enough opinions and suggestions well they are bound to be right. Grow a pair. Pick your battles. You may not care about the drapes but if it bothers you stand up and draw the line. You don't tiptoe around a bull, and you don't play with one either. When you are strong about something it's not right or wrong it's what you feel. That's not right or wrong. Look the bull head on when you feel strong about something if it isn't important fuck it.
But isnt it like... if she gets how she wants she will just be happy and normal and continue to do it? which will just make me lower
Posted by lamish
But isnt it like... if she gets how she wants she will just be happy and normal and continue to do it? which will just make me lower
Man up. It's about how she gets her way. It's pure control. I have a remote control to my TV. I lose it all.the time because it does whatever I want do I don't give a damn about it. Don't be the remote.
Posted by lamishSagittarius sun. Virgo moon. Scorpio ascending.
Wow man thats pretty intresting that you are saying actually. May I ask what horoscope are you?
Posted by NobleSagSo what do you suggest in a situation when she has her way and opinion and I got mine?Posted by lamish
But isnt it like... if she gets how she wants she will just be happy and normal and continue to do it? which will just make me lower
Man up. It's about how she gets her way. It's pure control. I have a remote control to my TV. I lose it all.the time because it does whatever I want do I don't give a damn about it. Don't be the remote.click to expand
because most of the times I tell her we should meet halfway but its ok im not bullheaded so u can gave your way.. or
I really fight for it until she admits ok we can have your way but she really is angry about it and then when i get that confirmation i tell her its ok u can have it your way because then i feel atleast she respected it but dunno
Posted by lamishPosted by NobleSagSo what do you suggest in a situation when she has her way and opinion and I got mine?Posted by lamish
But isnt it like... if she gets how she wants she will just be happy and normal and continue to do it? which will just make me lower
Man up. It's about how she gets her way. It's pure control. I have a remote control to my TV. I lose it all.the time because it does whatever I want do I don't give a damn about it. Don't be the remote.
because most of the times I tell her we should meet halfway but its ok im not bullheaded so u can gave your way.. or
I really fight for it until she admits ok we can have your way but she really is angry about it and then when i get that confirmation i tell her its ok u can have it your way because then i feel atleast she respected it but dunno
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If it's something that bothers you enough to post here then you need to show the bull some teeth. A little fire never hurt anyone. If she gets angry but it's important to you fuck it. You need to set some borders up man. Anger and pouting is an initial response to control loss. If you matter to her then she will learn. Maybe you don't give a fuck about a green couch, but you can't stand her big headed ass friend and don't want to be around her. Tell her friend and her dueces and dip out. Zodiac or not if you don't show a need for respect your not going to ever feel like you get any and it's already over. Pick your battles but don't ever let something slide that really matters to you. Be respectable but be firm.
Posted by lamishWhat are some of the things you don't like about her and the things she does?
Yeah it was nice said of you, now here is the problem,
I choose with this girl, Spent much time and I have grew up not to fuck around with people, therefore I want to choose one(her) and be with her the rest of my life. She do have good sides but as I said also bad, I feel that she disrespect me and doesnt pay attention so much to my opinion... so specstheMasta, what u suggest?
It would be so hard for me to leave but Im like suffering? Dunno 😢
For example, if I would say, I honestly dont like that you wear that shirt, it makes you look bad...
she would be: I can have it if I want to, why do u have these jeans i hate? then im like wtf... I didnt say YOU MUST remove it, but where do you value my opinion, u goes off offensive? It doesnt work like that.. if she would tell me she doesnt like something I do, I would say ok baby lets sit down and discuss how we can somehow meet eachother at the middle ....
You don't like that she goes out
You don't like that she is not religious enough
You give her unsolicited opinions about her wardrobe
You don't like that she won't do what you tell her to do
What else?
Now I'm gonna say this. Don't date someone and expect them to be other than who you meet before you moved in on them and started dating. People change on their own. Not because you get pissed about things. Don't ever expect that from anyone. That's common sense not zodiac.
Posted by NobleSagIf you do that. It makes a person feel like you never really cared. We all want acceptance for being us. You take that away and you have problems home slice.
Now I'm gonna say this. Don't date someone and expect them to be other than who you meet before you moved in on them and started dating. People change on their own. Not because you get pissed about things. Don't ever expect that from anyone. That's common sense not zodiac.
No, hold up. She used to be more religios and she was the one who got me more religious and serious.. She went out 1-2 times a year, but now she have been like 4-5 times these 2 lates months and thats what I mean she have changed— I dont know if its her friends that influence her or what the problem is..
I dont try to change anyone, I accept her for the one she is but as I said, she is not the one she used to be, she used to ask about my opinion when she said can I go out? Of course.
Now its more like, 5min before she is going out, text msg: hey im going out bla bla and Im like standing there like .... ? ok I guess I dont have anything to do with it as she already made her choice.
She constantly interupts me when we discuss and I would say that it is lack of respect because she doesnt have the patience to shut her mouth while I speak? and she alwayds wants to be right etc etc etc... It is not how it used to be some months ago
I dont try to change anyone, I accept her for the one she is but as I said, she is not the one she used to be, she used to ask about my opinion when she said can I go out? Of course.
Now its more like, 5min before she is going out, text msg: hey im going out bla bla and Im like standing there like .... ? ok I guess I dont have anything to do with it as she already made her choice.
She constantly interupts me when we discuss and I would say that it is lack of respect because she doesnt have the patience to shut her mouth while I speak? and she alwayds wants to be right etc etc etc... It is not how it used to be some months ago
It's not like I force her to be religious? Hell no, that is supposed to come from the heart but I'm like trying to show that I am trying to do my best and also that I care about her, she should also try but it feels like she doesnt want to and she have also started to focus on some more unserious thing which doesnt really fit me.. and no im not changing anyone, but fuckin meet me half way??
Posted by lamishIf you want a partner you talk to them like a partner. Tell her what you really want to say. Sounds like you miss her and want to spend time with her. I'd bet 12 cents that's what she needs to hear. I'd also gamble my lighter the conversations are routine and dull. Women need to feel wanted. You need some Barry White and 3 hours of body exploration time home slice. Your fire could use a log. I think you should just look in the eyes and tell her you miss her badly and you want to spend real time together not in the house. I bet you get laid but I don't have anything else to gamble. Good luck. May the Sag be with you.
It's not like I force her to be religious? Hell no, that is supposed to come from the heart but I'm like trying to show that I am trying to do my best and also that I care about her, she should also try but it feels like she doesnt want to and she have also started to focus on some more unserious thing which doesnt really fit me.. and no im not changing anyone, but fuckin meet me half way??
I'm gonna end on this. When you commit to someone. That's your best friend. You need to talk. You need to show her you need her. In a relationship there's no halfway. Sometimes it's all the way for both, or maybe one goes further for the other. It's never 50/50. It's 100/100 but when it's not you make sure she sees you go all the way for her. Sometimes they need to know what you are willing to do for them. Sometimes they want to show you without asking. That 50/50 shit is a myth.
Posted by lamish
No, hold up. She used to be more religios and she was the one who got me more religious and serious.. She went out 1-2 times a year, but now she have been like 4-5 times these 2 lates months and thats what I mean she have changed— I dont know if its her friends that influence her or what the problem is..
I dont try to change anyone, I accept her for the one she is but as I said, she is not the one she used to be, she used to ask about my opinion when she said can I go out? Of course.
Now its more like, 5min before she is going out, text msg: hey im going out bla bla and Im like standing there like .... ? ok I guess I dont have anything to do with it as she already made her choice.
She constantly interupts me when we discuss and I would say that it is lack of respect because she doesnt have the patience to shut her mouth while I speak? and she alwayds wants to be right etc etc etc... It is not how it used to be some months ago
You need to break up. Accept that she is not the person you want. I'm sure she is realising you are not the person she wants. It shouldn't be this hard.
And yeah, permission to go out? Are you her dad?
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