Update

I really thought long and hard and reread everything i wrote on here..and then thought about my situation...I decided to push my pride and hurt aside and stop being so upset with Vanessa..so today at work I just smiled and I could finally look at her the way I used to...she seemed surprised and although she still spending a lot of time with Nal I just ignored and accepted her choice...she still barley talked to me but I know that's based on my behavior of not talking to her..so I asked her if she wanted to go to the mall on Tuesday with me..she s leaving in a week for Europe and I wont see her for a while...she looked surprised and then said we see...so I said ok let me know...she then thinks and says "Im gonna call u after work" which confused me...so after work im on my way to a friends house and she calls me...

She starts with "whats up? you never replied to my fb messege then you IGNORE me all week...and now your fine..." I explained how I didn't want to fight never did and the fb messege I wasn't going to reply too as I never intended it to sound like I was belittling her and that's how she took it and I obviously wasn't getting my point across...and she calmed down a bit...I told her I feel the same for her but im hurt and I needed a little space and now im fine...she then said how ignoring the issue didn't make it go away and how just because I decided to ignore it didn't mean she was ok..I told her that she never brought it up so I thought it was ok etc...she then brings up Nal AGAIN and says again how im always talking about her etc..and how I hate her...its almost like she WANTED me to say I hated NAL..ive never written or said that..Nals behavior drives me nuts yes but I never said hate..anyway she starts again getting all fired up and my friends are bugging me...so I said "Vanessa I really have to go.."she then said " fine ill hang up now" and just as I was going to say lets talk later she hung up...I didn't respond again as s he just put all the frustration and hurt back in place, im just not seeing an up side to this..so Taurus is there anyway I can explain to her this has nothing to do with her? How do I show her this? how do you Taurus interpret her behaviour and have you ever behaved like this and why? Shes so stubborn on things I never even said...and sticking to it...I don't get this...I know shes angry but she s unnessisarily defending Nal and then literally confusing her behavior with mine...which is really weird...

Is there basically a way that's like a universal Taurus way to communicate? Shes confusing me and I know ive confused her..i want her to understand where im coming from not conform..how do I do this and show her this?