ladolcevita
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Why are Taurus so Hot and Cold?
I don't know if the responsibility should lie with the astrology sign or that particular person but it does seem to be a recurrent personality issue with Taurus men.
My ex Taurus is like this too. He says or acts like —can we be friends— but acts like an asshole. From what I observed in him in his mind he's like:
—If this hadn't happened, that issue might never have happened??
—Why did I reach this particular choice—
—How can I see what going to happen— "is the grass really greener? Can I find better?" ect and he/they all torture themselves. So out come the excuses and they just run away. Hot cold, hot cold, hot??_cold??_
Then he??ll just wallow in regret and recrimination when he should have been enjoying each moment with me and just be happy. is it any wonder why his life seems to lack happiness and fun?
personally I just moved on. I care about him but he is toxic, miserable and his presence in my life makes me unhappy. That's how I suggest any woman look at how to deal with this.
You can't be honest with a dishonest person and you can't be happy and have an unhappy person in your life...friend, boyfriend, lover or otherwise . Misery loves miserable company and a man that cannot or is totally unwilling to love you, have healthy amount of contact on a normal basis (bad at calling, texting, arranging to see you ect), cannot accept you for who you are and judges you, treats you badly/indifferently/inconsiderately is really not worth the tears.
If he wants to be friends it's probably because he wants to keep you in the harem/stable. Or he wants to mitigate the guilt for taking you for granted, or he wants a backup in case he's horny. Don't accept that. I didn't and I could be happier. Nothing is more important than how you feel
No matter what sign the man you care for is
My ex Taurus is like this too. He says or acts like —can we be friends— but acts like an asshole. From what I observed in him in his mind he's like:
—If this hadn't happened, that issue might never have happened??
—Why did I reach this particular choice—
—How can I see what going to happen— "is the grass really greener? Can I find better?" ect and he/they all torture themselves. So out come the excuses and they just run away. Hot cold, hot cold, hot??_cold??_
Then he??ll just wallow in regret and recrimination when he should have been enjoying each moment with me and just be happy. is it any wonder why his life seems to lack happiness and fun?
personally I just moved on. I care about him but he is toxic, miserable and his presence in my life makes me unhappy. That's how I suggest any woman look at how to deal with this.
You can't be honest with a dishonest person and you can't be happy and have an unhappy person in your life...friend, boyfriend, lover or otherwise . Misery loves miserable company and a man that cannot or is totally unwilling to love you, have healthy amount of contact on a normal basis (bad at calling, texting, arranging to see you ect), cannot accept you for who you are and judges you, treats you badly/indifferently/inconsiderately is really not worth the tears.
If he wants to be friends it's probably because he wants to keep you in the harem/stable. Or he wants to mitigate the guilt for taking you for granted, or he wants a backup in case he's horny. Don't accept that. I didn't and I could be happier. Nothing is more important than how you feel
No matter what sign the man you care for is
Posted by lcrc
I don't know if the responsibility should lie with the astrology sign or that particular person but it does seem to be a recurrent personality issue with Taurus men.
My ex Taurus is like this too. He says or acts like —can we be friends— but acts like an asshole. From what I observed in him in his mind he's like:
—If this hadn't happened, that issue might never have happened??
—Why did I reach this particular choice—
—How can I see what going to happen— "is the grass really greener? Can I find better?" ect and he/they all torture themselves. So out come the excuses and they just run away. Hot cold, hot cold, hot??_cold??_
Then he??ll just wallow in regret and recrimination when he should have been enjoying each moment with me and just be happy. is it any wonder why his life seems to lack happiness and fun?
personally I just moved on. I care about him but he is toxic, miserable and his presence in my life makes me unhappy. That's how I suggest any woman look at how to deal with this.
You can't be honest with a dishonest person and you can't be happy and have an unhappy person in your life...friend, boyfriend, lover or otherwise . Misery loves miserable company and a man that cannot or is totally unwilling to love you, have healthy amount of contact on a normal basis (bad at calling, texting, arranging to see you ect), cannot accept you for who you are and judges you, treats you badly/indifferently/inconsiderately is really not worth the tears.
If he wants to be friends it's probably because he wants to keep you in the harem/stable. Or he wants to mitigate the guilt for taking you for granted, or he wants a backup in case he's horny. Don't accept that. I didn't and I could be happier. Nothing is more important than how you feel
No matter what sign the man you care for is
So what youre saying is, he's hot and cold because he doesn't know what he wants? But we're already exes..so this isn't even a situation that asks for emotional commitment. I mean, it's not that hard of a decision: either be my friend or don't. lol.
And as a friend, I no longer expect him to contact me all the time (which he was actually very good at doing when we were together. We talked all the time.) But I also don't keep friends waiting for weeks on end for a simple two sentence reply. What he's doing is some mind
^ dont know why my comment cut off.
As I was saying.. What he's doing is some mindgame bullshit that you pull before a relationship begins, not after it's already ended so wtf is he doing—
I want to give him the benefit of the doubt, but at the same time I'm getting real tired of his bs. Might just end up dropping him as a "friend" altogether if this keeps up. Ain't nobody got time for this when it's not even a relationship.
As I was saying.. What he's doing is some mindgame bullshit that you pull before a relationship begins, not after it's already ended so wtf is he doing—
I want to give him the benefit of the doubt, but at the same time I'm getting real tired of his bs. Might just end up dropping him as a "friend" altogether if this keeps up. Ain't nobody got time for this when it's not even a relationship.
I think it's just an individual personality thing. I've dated two Taurus men in the past, and even though they had some of the same characteristics, they were totally different in their responses. They do have a jealous streak and love to test you from time to time. but from my experience, once a Taurus man is into you, he spares no attention, as they will want to spend as much time as possible with their lover.
However, as a Libra, the clinginess was a bit much for me. We love attention, but not to the point of over crowding. Space is a necessity for a Libra, and one of the guys I dated wanted to be up under me 24/7 and it was just too much, but they are very sweet, loving and dedicated men once they find the one.
However, as a Libra, the clinginess was a bit much for me. We love attention, but not to the point of over crowding. Space is a necessity for a Libra, and one of the guys I dated wanted to be up under me 24/7 and it was just too much, but they are very sweet, loving and dedicated men once they find the one.
Posted by ladolcevita
^ dont know why my comment cut off.
As I was saying.. What he's doing is some mindgame bullshit that you pull before a relationship begins, not after it's already ended so wtf is he doing—
I want to give him the benefit of the doubt, but at the same time I'm getting real tired of his bs. Might just end up dropping him as a "friend" altogether if this keeps up. Ain't nobody got time for this when it's not even a relationship.
I had one that did this, and it did turn me off and I walked away. The other one was just the opposite so that's why I say it's a individual thing. It may have a lot to do with his other placements as well.
shyt! Such a marker. Grrr. End it asap
Posted by ladolcevita
^ dont know why my comment cut off.
As I was saying.. What he's doing is some mindgame bullshit that you pull before a relationship begins, not after it's already ended so wtf is he doing—
I want to give him the benefit of the doubt, but at the same time I'm getting real tired of his bs. Might just end up dropping him as a "friend" altogether if this keeps up. Ain't nobody got time for this when it's not even a relationship.
yes i think you have got the right idea anyway
as LIb4Life said sometimes it's just better to walk. If he can't be a decent boyfriend then he??ll be a shitty friend. Relationships end for all kinds of reasons but the basis of every emotion is Love or Fear. If he's mind fucking you it's an indication he is not right in head. Whether it is a emotional or psychological disorder. There are people that are inherently good but do shitty bad things to people that love them.
Dropping the Bull as a friend doesn't make you a bad guy, just someone with self-respect. I found with my ex Bull he likes to put on a charitable martyr-like persona. —Its everyone's fault but mine?? —you don't care enough?? —why are you so selfish and not accepting what I think is best— —Why do people take advantage of me— —Why does this or that happen to me— —It's your fault this or that happened?? ect.
Truth is charity and giving begins at home (or to those close to you) but a lot of Taurus??s (including women) have a tendency to become unpleasant people when they are in a crisis and take the people that mean them the best for granted and go out of their way for those that could care less. I have a lot of bulls in my life and noticed this a lot. Insecurity is the key work I would think. Some of my bull friends/acquaintances/family do that. If they see you are on to their insecurity they run and don't like you. Even if you never say anything or call them on it. I guess it's like you??ve caught them living a lie. Sad really
Posted by ladolcevita
Let's just get this squared away once and for all. All the topics I see on here about people having trouble with their taurus men are about them being hot and cold. So can we just have an answer to this? My taurus ex is like this too. He said he wants me his life and to be friends and then we'll talk and then he'll disappear for weeks claiming he's "busy" (but seriously..it doesn't even take 5 minutes to answer an email..come on now) and then he'll come back and be really chatty again.
I thought Taurus were supposed to be definite about what they wanted?? At least that's what my ex used to be like. When he wanted me, he was sure about it and when we were over, he was also sure about it. So what's with all this hot and cold bullshit? Why do you guys act like this??
We just get busy with stuff, and a lot of us are one-track minded. We tend to focus really heavy on whatever we are doing at the moment, hence you say "he's really chatty" when he finally does contact you. When we're with you, its usually all about you and spending time with you. We're not great multi-taskers.
....plus we live in a different time dimension where everything moves a little slower....
How often are you expecting him to contact you?
This isn't a hot/cold thing really. He wasn't cold when he wasn't contacting you, and he didn't get hot all of a sudden when he did. I bet he was feeling pretty much the same about you the entire time. He's just not meeting your expectations for communication, but his feelings were probably fairly stable all throughout.
Posted by Catmilk677
TLS i think ppl just love you guts so much they want more but thats not really fair by how you put it.
I think a lot of people will typically see a bull as a good candidate for a best friend. Not that we're particularly interesting or amazing in any way, but they sense our steadfastness, solidity, etc. We're not very needy so we don't come at an energetic cost on their part. We seem passive and receptive, we don't initiate a lot and go with their flow and direction to an extent, and we don't rely lean on them or rely on them. They nominate us as the person they'd like to drag around to keep them company throughout the fulfillment of their life's dreams - sort of like a pet rock. And we love to feel needed so this works for a while. But then, we have to be someone else's pet rock and maybe they're more demanding or clingy than you are, or we want to follow our own dreams because being there to support you through your's wasn't really fulfilling us, or, we actually come into some real life issues and are in a really dark place and we just *know* your selfish ass does not have the desire or resources to be there for us, during this time. So it looks like we went "cold". We didn't. You just never really knew us or understood us as a real person, because you never cared to.
Now that may seem a little over the top, but there's a nugget of truth in there somewhere.
Posted by Impulsv
It more about Taurus wanting guarantees in life. Know 100 percent before their in n well we all know 100 percent does not exist. So instead of living life the opt to not even
Fully try. I asked the Taurus what he was looking for he answered with deer in headlights "I don't know."thus Hot n cold n I suspect I'm not the only one he's been like this.
Of course can be like that in relationships, afraid of risk, - but the OP is really talking about not having enough time/attention from a Taurus, when they are not in a relationship, but just friends. I've experienced expectations like this, after long-term relationships I've been in. The person will often just expect me to be there for them in the same supportive capacity I was before. Its hard to meet those kind of expectations.
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I saw it...lol.
So a 40 year old, who hasn't been in a relationship since 30, bc his first broke his heart....You say its sad that he's still this hurt over it.
Well, my first did the same to me really. I had planned on marrying her, bc once I'm "in love", that's it...That is the one, for life. So I had to go away for school and was totally capable of a faithful long distance relationship, but she freaked out, cheated, didn't tell me, etc. I had to find out from friends. A whole lot of drama ensued and finally, after the breakup, I was devastated.
I went into hiding for 5 years. Had severe depression, almost no contact with the outside world. I would just work out and read for like 6 hours a day to distract my mind. During that time, I was like borderline agoraphobic. I stopped seeing friends, family, etc. The devastation that losing love brings about in our life *is* sad, and is very real. I could not IMAGINE that I would ever love anyone else ever again.
The next girl did make the pain go away, much to my surprise, and I would never want to be with that first again, BUT, it was never the same. I could never give as much of myself ever again, never be as truly faithful in my own heart, and never really *believe* in love the same way I did at first. If you really love and bond deeply with another human being, they become part of you, and you should expect severe pain, psychological collapse, a long period of withdrawal and recovery, etc. when that bond is broken. Its not hard for me to see at all how that first love experience really can ruin a person, in certain ways, for life.
Posted by Impulsv
Yeah just like scorp can be misunderstood I think bulls are too lol. Their hot n cold may have nothing to do with u but being stuck on old love😢
Its not always being stuck on the person, but sometimes just severely damaged from the breaking of the bond.
You just never really knew us or understood us as a real person
Like I mentioned before??_—Its everyone's fault but mine?? —why are you so selfish and not accepting what I think is best— —Why do people take advantage of me—
because you never cared to
—you don't care enough?? mmmmmm 😐
TLS is right there is a bit of truth, and I don't think its OTT but Taurus people need to look at things from others point of view. Not so stubbornly from their own
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioThe user who posted this message has hidden it.
I could never give as much of myself ever again, never be as truly faithful in my own heart, and never really *believe* in love the same way I did at first. If you really love and bond deeply with another human being, they become part of you, and you should expect severe pain, psychological collapse, a long period of withdrawal and recovery, etc. when that bond is broken. Its not hard for me to see at all how that first love experience really can ruin a person, in certain ways, for life.click to expand
In any human relationship it's not healthy to assume EVERYONE is trying to take advantage, hurt or drain you. Don't look at it from that perspective. You??ll miss the one love that would have washed away that pain would have shown you what true unconditional love is. Don't be so —Fixed?? on that old pain. Let it go, learn from it and love completely with no fear 😄
I think ladolcevita is just saying don't make an offer of friendship if you are not really sincere. Words don't mean shit if actions say otherwise. And if you offer contact whether it is romantic or friendship enthusiastically don't be annoyed when the person reciprocates in kind! I??ve seen Bulls do this and push away people that actually genuine love them with no strings. There are no guarantees and nothing can be perfect. To expect that is unrealistic
The next girl did make the pain go away, much to my surprise, and I would never want to be with that first again, BUT, it was never the same. I could never give as much of myself ever again, never be as truly faithful in my own heart, and never really *believe* in love the same way I did at first. If you really love and bond deeply with another human being, they become part of you, and you should expect severe pain, psychological collapse, a long period of withdrawal and recovery, etc. when that bond is broken. Its not hard for me to see at all how that first love experience really can ruin a person, in certain ways, for life.
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Wow, that's really sad that one person can have that much control over your heart, mind and soul. Guess everyone is different, but it seems like you lost 5 years of your life that could have been spent being happy. I know heartaches and breakups can be hard, but I can't see given anyone 5 years of my life. My son could come close, but another human being..not even my husband....I can't see it. Life is to be lived and enjoyed and after you get over that initial hurt and pain, you have to move on knowing that there's something better for your life. That's how you learn..through experience and failure as with anything in life, but no one human being should ever have that kinda control over your emotions. I'm glad that you found someone to love you, but you said that you could never feel the same way about love again, so in actuality, this girl is being cheated because you could never totally give your heart at 100% again. Well, it is what it is, but I'm happy for you🙂
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Wow, that's really sad that one person can have that much control over your heart, mind and soul. Guess everyone is different, but it seems like you lost 5 years of your life that could have been spent being happy. I know heartaches and breakups can be hard, but I can't see given anyone 5 years of my life. My son could come close, but another human being..not even my husband....I can't see it. Life is to be lived and enjoyed and after you get over that initial hurt and pain, you have to move on knowing that there's something better for your life. That's how you learn..through experience and failure as with anything in life, but no one human being should ever have that kinda control over your emotions. I'm glad that you found someone to love you, but you said that you could never feel the same way about love again, so in actuality, this girl is being cheated because you could never totally give your heart at 100% again. Well, it is what it is, but I'm happy for you🙂
Posted by LIb4Life
Wow, that's really sad that one person can have that much control over your heart, mind and soul. Guess everyone is different, but it seems like you lost 5 years of your life that could have been spent being happy. I know heartaches and breakups can be hard, but I can't see given anyone 5 years of my life. My son could come close, but another human being..not even my husband....I can't see it. Life is to be lived and enjoyed and after you get over that initial hurt and pain, you have to move on knowing that there's something better for your life. That's how you learn..through experience and failure as with anything in life, but no one human being should ever have that kinda control over your emotions. I'm glad that you found someone to love you, but you said that you could never feel the same way about love again, so in actuality, this girl is being cheated because you could never totally give your heart at 100% again
amen to that 😎 love it xx
Posted by LIb4Life
I know heartaches and breakups can be hard, but I can't see given anyone 5 years of my life. I'm glad that you found someone to love you, but you said that you could never feel the same way about love again, so in actuality, this girl is being cheated because you could never totally give your heart at 100% again. Well, it is what it is, but I'm happy for you🙂
Its pretty common knowledge that Taurus will take a long time to get over relationships, sometimes as long as the relationship lasted. We take a long time to do everything. Healing isn't something you can always rush, just via a change of perspective, or some choices. And it isn't some clear path either. There are millions of methods on offer and none of us are given much guidance on what should or will work best for us as individuals. Sometimes much of the pain has to just run its course. And in that time of isolation, though I took a lot of damage there as well, I also learned a ton about my self, and what interests me - philosophy, art, spirituality, etc. I feel everyone should go through some period of asceticism and self-exploration, but it can be unhealthy as ultimately we're social beings. Sometimes pain prompts a period like this. Yes, I agree that my current SO is cheated. She says she's happy with what I have to give her though. We'll see....
I'd say it's a man thing. Go look on all the other boards on here and they all ask the same question but word it in different ways. Why is cancer man in shell? First everything is fine and then he disappears for a week. Why does Pisces man swim back and forth, why is Virgo man hot and cold? Why does Leo man need "me time" if we're in a long distance? ... here if you don't believe me :
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/im-confused-about-what-to-do-with-my-scorpio-man-4923172/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aries/aries-male-confusing-this-scorp-4793371/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/gemini/will-i-ever-hear-from-my-gem-guy-again-4919928/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/crab-shell-thing-4930227/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/leo/leo-men-why-do-you-ignore-people-you-like-4864867/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/why-do-you-guys-disappear-4921025/
You get the gist... IME when someone disappears woman or man it's for one of two reasons... or both....
It's because :
1) The person is just not that into you
or/and
2) The person being disappeared on never established any boundaries and therefore every time they leave and come back they are still taken back therefore they believe is ok, regardless of whether one communicates it or not. Because action speaks louder than words.
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/im-confused-about-what-to-do-with-my-scorpio-man-4923172/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aries/aries-male-confusing-this-scorp-4793371/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/gemini/will-i-ever-hear-from-my-gem-guy-again-4919928/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/crab-shell-thing-4930227/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/leo/leo-men-why-do-you-ignore-people-you-like-4864867/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/why-do-you-guys-disappear-4921025/
You get the gist... IME when someone disappears woman or man it's for one of two reasons... or both....
It's because :
1) The person is just not that into you
or/and
2) The person being disappeared on never established any boundaries and therefore every time they leave and come back they are still taken back therefore they believe is ok, regardless of whether one communicates it or not. Because action speaks louder than words.
Posted by Infinite8
Hugs TLS, you've had quite a journey. It would be nice for the latter part of your life to have a much more positive evolution. Maybe you have some Scorp energy to help you rise from the ashes to a more evolved human being? Either way, I'm sure you have it in you!
Thx. I am *sure* people have been through much worse in life, and handled it better...lol. And I don't sit around and sulk about this stuff, or really think about it often. But I do notice, through current relationships, how my past has affected me, and my outlook. In a lot of ways I've made better choices in women each time, but life, for me at least, isn't a fairy tale. I think a lot of people spend lifetimes trying to undo or overcome damage done in their past. By the time most of us become conscious, we've already been saddled with a lot of baggage.
icrc wrote: In any human relationship it's not healthy to assume EVERYONE is trying to take advantage, hurt or drain you. Don't look at it from that perspective. You??ll miss the one love that would have washed away that pain would have shown you what true unconditional love is. Don't be so —Fixed?? on that old pain. Let it go, learn from it and love completely with no fear
>>>>When you are the type that takes a while to get over a relationship, you're always going to be more cautious. And assuming anyone is going to love you unconditionally is IMO, a bit naive. IMO, romantic love is always conditional. The first condition is usually physical attraction or chemistry of some sort. Anyway, I don't *really* assume someone is trying to hurt or drain me, but I take my time so I can weigh that out. This is particularly necessary because, love and infatuation have a habit of bringing out the best in people. Its good to wait long enough to see what sides of a person come out, when the oxytocin/dopamine cocktails you've both been drinking are not as potent.
>>>>When you are the type that takes a while to get over a relationship, you're always going to be more cautious. And assuming anyone is going to love you unconditionally is IMO, a bit naive. IMO, romantic love is always conditional. The first condition is usually physical attraction or chemistry of some sort. Anyway, I don't *really* assume someone is trying to hurt or drain me, but I take my time so I can weigh that out. This is particularly necessary because, love and infatuation have a habit of bringing out the best in people. Its good to wait long enough to see what sides of a person come out, when the oxytocin/dopamine cocktails you've both been drinking are not as potent.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Impulsv
It more about Taurus wanting guarantees in life. Know 100 percent before their in n well we all know 100 percent does not exist. So instead of living life the opt to not even
Fully try. I asked the Taurus what he was looking for he answered with deer in headlights "I don't know."thus Hot n cold n I suspect I'm not the only one he's been like this.
Of course can be like that in relationships, afraid of risk, - but the OP is really talking about not having enough time/attention from a Taurus, when they are not in a relationship, but just friends. I've experienced expectations like this, after long-term relationships I've been in. The person will often just expect me to be there for them in the same supportive capacity I was before. Its hard to meet those kind of expectations.
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I definitely don't expect him to be there for me at the same capacity as before. We definitely talk much less than we did when we were together and that's fine and expected. I just find it ridiculous that you literally can't take 2 minutes to reply an email with 2 sentences and I have to wait for 3 weeks for a reply. Regardless of who he is, I find that ridiculous. My other friends would not be an exception to this either. I do not treat my friends this way and therefore think he's a shitty friend for being this way.
Posted by lcrc
I think ladolcevita is just saying don't make an offer of friendship if you are not really sincere. Words don't mean shit if actions say otherwise. And if you offer contact whether it is romantic or friendship enthusiastically don't be annoyed when the person reciprocates in kind! I??ve seen Bulls do this and push away people that actually genuine love them with no strings. There are no guarantees and nothing can be perfect. To expect that is unrealisticclick to expand
^ THIS. Thank you 😄
Either be my friend or don't. I hate in between wishy-washyness.
Also I've yet to get a definite answer for why they are hot and cold. Is it because they're still hurt? or because they have a one track mind and REALLY suck at multi-tasking?
Posted by ladolcevita
I definitely don't expect him to be there for me at the same capacity as before. We definitely talk much less than we did when we were together and that's fine and expected. I just find it ridiculous that you literally can't take 2 minutes to reply an email with 2 sentences and I have to wait for 3 weeks for a reply. Regardless of who he is, I find that ridiculous. My other friends would not be an exception to this either. I do not treat my friends this way and therefore think he's a shitty friend for being this way.
What happens a lot of times is that we will check your text message at a time when we really shouldn't, or really can't, reply. Like when we're driving for instance. We are so anxious to see what you have to say, we're basically risking our lives here. Then we file it away in the memory banks: "I will get back to her later". But then we get all these other texts, and your's is no longer all bold and up at the top, so we get caught up in responding to those, and we forget we needed to get back to you. Pretty soon we are exhausted from all this texting and we have to eat and take a nap. We will remember you as we're dozing off, without the strength to text at that moment and be like "Oh, I will get to her as soon as I get up". Then we oversleep, wake up to a list of other stuff we have to do, and it just always happens that each time we keep remembering to text you back, we're either busy with something, eating, or napping. Its very difficult! When we finally get back to you, we feel really bad, and that's why we give you 100% of our attention.
Posted by ladolcevita
Also I've yet to get a definite answer for why they are hot and cold. Is it because they're still hurt? or because they have a one track mind and REALLY suck at multi-tasking?
In your case, I think the latter.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by ladolcevita
I definitely don't expect him to be there for me at the same capacity as before. We definitely talk much less than we did when we were together and that's fine and expected. I just find it ridiculous that you literally can't take 2 minutes to reply an email with 2 sentences and I have to wait for 3 weeks for a reply. Regardless of who he is, I find that ridiculous. My other friends would not be an exception to this either. I do not treat my friends this way and therefore think he's a shitty friend for being this way.
What happens a lot of times is that we will check your text message at a time when we really shouldn't, or really can't, reply. Like when we're driving for instance. We are so anxious to see what you have to say, we're basically risking our lives here. Then we file it away in the memory banks: "I will get back to her later". But then we get all these other texts, and your's is no longer all bold and up at the top, so we get caught up in responding to those, and we forget we needed to get back to you. Pretty soon we are exhausted from all this texting and we have to eat and take a nap. We will remember you as we're dozing off, without the strength to text at that moment and be like "Oh, I will get to her as soon as I get up". Then we oversleep, wake up to a list of other stuff we have to do, and it just always happens that each time we keep remembering to text you back, we're either busy with something, eating, or napping. Its very difficult! When we finally get back to you, we feel really bad, and that's why we give you 100% of our attention.click to expand
lol I hope it's this because for a minute there I thought he was purposely avoiding me. He's having entire conversations with our mutual friend on Facebook. So I thought being "busy" was some BS excuse not to talk to me or something.
Posted by ladolcevita
lol I hope it's this because for a minute there I thought he was purposely avoiding me. He's having entire conversations with our mutual friend on Facebook. So I thought being "busy" was some BS excuse not to talk to me or something.
What sign are you?
Scorpio
Posted by ladolcevita
Scorpio
Ok, so don't take this the wrong way, but I find that Scorpios often freak out during those periods of silence, start investigating, maybe getting a little paranoid, etc. You have to learn to trust a little. Taurus folks are not really malicious. Chances are very slim that he's harboring anger, messing with your emotions, etc. You should talk to him about it if its a regular thing, and explain why/how it bothers you. He probably isn't aware.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by ladolcevita
Scorpio
Ok, so don't take this the wrong way, but I find that Scorpios often freak out during those periods of silence, start investigating, maybe getting a little paranoid, etc. You have to learn to trust a little. Taurus folks are not really malicious. Chances are very slim that he's harboring anger, messing with your emotions, etc. You should talk to him about it if its a regular thing, and explain why/how it bothers you. He probably isn't aware.click to expand
lol actually I was thinking the same thing. I know my scorpio tendencies cause me to read way too much into things sometimes. I don't think he has malicious intent, I really want to believe he's a good person at heart. I just am wondering if he's having second thoughts about being my friend and if so, should just be upfront about it so we both can just get on with it.
You Scorps take the friendship thing REALLY seriously. Like, it is an extreme loyalty and commitment you're looking for, so you like vet people out for this, always on the lookout for potential betrayal. But, with bulls, you have to learn to trust, because what you're looking for in a friend, we just are by nature. We're not used to being questioned on it....We are lazy though, so you may have to give us a kick every now and then....Main thing though is - if you guys are really friends, you should be able to approach him with questions like this, and not look for clues, speculate, etc. Friends are people you can be vulnerable with.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
You Scorps take the friendship thing REALLY seriously. Like, it is an extreme loyalty and commitment you're looking for, so you like vet people out for this, always on the lookout for potential betrayal. But, with bulls, you have to learn to trust, because what you're looking for in a friend, we just are by nature. We're not used to being questioned on it....We are lazy though, so you may have to give us a kick every now and then....Main thing though is - if you guys are really friends, you should be able to approach him with questions like this, and not look for clues, speculate, etc. Friends are people you can be vulnerable with.
I don't really get what you mean by this. Taurus just are friends by nature? So far my taurus isn't doing such a hot job at it. I have asked him about it but then he sent me back the exact same email that he sent before(literally just forwarded the same email) saying he was busy and would get back to me later, like some sort of automated reply. lmao *facepalm*.
Posted by ladolcevita
I don't really get what you mean by this. Taurus just are friends by nature? So far my taurus isn't doing such a hot job at it. I have asked him about it but then he sent me back the exact same email that he sent before(literally just forwarded the same email) saying he was busy and would get back to me later, like some sort of automated reply. lmao *facepalm*.
We're *loyal* by nature, steadfast, committed, not going anywhere, etc...Usually the case. I don't know the history between you and this bull, but you should just wait until he has some time to chat and express your concerns and expectations. I find that when Scorps are actually busy, they definitely expect you to understand.
Posted by Catmilk677
Lol! Actually busy. 😛
Yeah, sometimes you folks are too busy to talk, because you're all caught up in investigating us to see why we haven't been talking. lol.
ladolcevita,
Hey Scorp. It should be 1 x 3. Lol. when he disappear weeks... make it months.
I don't have problem with this bulls. They tell you specifically what stuff makes them busy.
I have taurus man too. Once he cancelled I don't mind it. I am busy as well. lol. He planned.
so whatever...
just chill lady.
Hey Scorp. It should be 1 x 3. Lol. when he disappear weeks... make it months.
I don't have problem with this bulls. They tell you specifically what stuff makes them busy.
I have taurus man too. Once he cancelled I don't mind it. I am busy as well. lol. He planned.
so whatever...
just chill lady.
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