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How did they affect your subconscious? My mother verbally whipped every one of her exes asses. Now no male can make me feel a shred of fear.

I've noticed that males that saw their father beat their mother have zero respect for women. It's what they been taught. People subconscious don't change


Aww… this is such a good topic. I was about to answer and then noticed it was for men only ☹️
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How did they affect your subconscious? My mother verbally whipped every one of her exes asses. Now no male can make me feel a shred of fear.

I've noticed that males that saw their father beat their mother have zero respect for women. It's what they been taught. People subconscious don't change

Aww… this is such a good topic. I was about to answer and then noticed it was for men only ☹️
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It's not for men only. I put it here because men don't typically have the guts to speak on it like women do.

You're welcome to share
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How did they affect your subconscious? My mother verbally whipped every one of her exes asses. Now no male can make me feel a shred of fear.

I've noticed that males that saw their father beat their mother have zero respect for women. It's what they been taught. People subconscious don't change


Aww… this is such a good topic. I was about to answer and then noticed it was for men only ☹️click to expand

It's not for men only. I put it here because men don't typically have the guts to speak on it like women do.

You're welcome to share
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So true 🥴🤌🏼🤌🏼

I hope they could prove us wrong and have some men with guts post on here.
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Posted by SkiesAfire
How did they affect your subconscious? My mother verbally whipped every one of her exes asses. Now no male can make me feel a shred of fear.

I've noticed that males that saw their father beat their mother have zero respect for women. It's what they been taught. People subconscious don't change

Aww… this is such a good topic. I was about to answer and then noticed it was for men only ☹️click to expand


It's not for men only. I put it here because men don't typically have the guts to speak on it like women do.

You're welcome to shareclick to expand

So true 🥴🤌🏼🤌🏼

I hope they could prove us wrong and have some men with guts post on here.
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We'll see
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I really don't know and can't tell much but all I know is my parents were strict with all of us especially my step dad and my biological dad and I've picked up on their mean habits only except I think I'm far worse than the both of them. I take no prisoners with people. Yeah I think I'm seeing both my step dad and biological dad in me. They pass all their genes to me. My mom was always weak she's too nice and soft who don't know how to put her foot down and lay down the law with people. I'm glad I didn't pick up any of her genes. I'm far from a nice one.
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I really don't know and can't tell much but all I know is my parents were strict with all of us especially my step dad and my biological dad and I've picked up on their mean habits only except I think I'm far worse than the both of them. I take no prisoners with people. Yeah I think I'm seeing both my step dad and biological dad in me. They pass all their genes to me. My mom was always weak she's too nice and soft who don't know how to put her foot down and lay down the law with people. I'm glad I didn't pick up any of her genes. I'm far from a nice one.


You're actually one of the most honest people on this site
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I really don't know and can't tell much but all I know is my parents were strict with all of us especially my step dad and my biological dad and I've picked up on their mean habits only except I think I'm far worse than the both of them. I take no prisoners with people. Yeah I think I'm seeing both my step dad and biological dad in me. They pass all their genes to me. My mom was always weak she's too nice and soft who don't know how to put her foot down and lay down the law with people. I'm glad I didn't pick up any of her genes. I'm far from a nice one.

You're actually one of the most honest people on this site
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I don't know how to be anything but honest. That what got me hated on by so many people. Being strict and honest. The one thing life has taught me is to stand up to bullies who wanna try and take you for granted.
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My parents were naive traumatized college kids that got proselytized to and sucked up into a cult. A cult that fell apart when the 2nd and 3rd (me) generations who were born into it started asking questions.

I had a long convo with my mother yesterday about this (we are very close). We were reminiscing about some of the people we know. Part of the reason cult imploded and there was a mass exodus (although cult still exists) is because the leader's son (also a leader) had been beating his wife and daughters for years. There were other things that came to light, pedo shit of course... what cult doesn't have that. But the catalyst of why shit started to become known was because he beat his wife so severely that the nurse in the cult who would be sent out to patch her up routinely actually had to take her to the hospital because she was dying. Nurses and doctors are mandated reporters. So police were alerted, he was arrested and the whole thing became known.

My parents were not great, but they did their best within the context of the cult they were raising us in. Luckily my parents were just sheeple ignorant to what was going on. That nurse? My friend's mom. I was telling my mom I would've struggled to forgive her if I was in my friends' shoes. How do you move on in your relationship knowing not only your parent is a hypocrite but also actively covered up abuse for years.

I am the opposite of my parents in that way. Towards the end of his life my father was being scammed by some rando online telling him they could cure his parkinsons. My mom almost gave some rando at the gym cold hard cash to invest for her. Their brains are just primed to be scammed.

My first thought when someone is giving me "free" stuff, advice, etc.... "what are you gaining, what are you selling, how are you profiting off this..." Skeptical to a fault.
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My parents were naive traumatized college kids that got proselytized to and sucked up into a cult. A cult that fell apart when the 2nd and 3rd (me) generations who were born into it started asking questions.

I had a long convo with my mother yesterday about this (we are very close). We were reminiscing about some of the people we know. Part of the reason cult imploded and there was a mass exodus (although cult still exists) is because the leader's son (also a leader) had been beating his wife and daughters for years. There were other things that came to light, pedo shit of course... what cult doesn't have that. But the catalyst of why shit started to become known was because he beat his wife so severely that the nurse in the cult who would be sent out to patch her up routinely actually had to take her to the hospital because she was dying. Nurses and doctors are mandated reporters. So police were alerted, he was arrested and the whole thing became known.

My parents were not great, but they did their best within the context of the cult they were raising us in. Luckily my parents were just sheeple ignorant to what was going on. That nurse? My friend's mom. I was telling my mom I would've struggled to forgive her if I was in my friends' shoes. How do you move on in your relationship knowing not only your parent is a hypocrite but also actively covered up abuse for years.

I am the opposite of my parents in that way. Towards the end of his life my father was being scammed by some rando online telling him they could cure his parkinsons. My mom almost gave some rando at the gym cold hard cash to invest for her. Their brains are just primed to be scammed.

My first thought when someone is giving me "free" stuff, advice, etc.... "what are you gaining, what are you selling, how are you profiting off this..." Skeptical to a fault.


My mother joined a huge cult of 11,000 people because her own mother hater her and was jealous of her first born daughter for whatever reason. The forever family, Stewart traill. By the time he was done enslaving people and paying them only 5 dollars a week for their labor, he amassed the largest antique warehouse in america, called olde good things.

He had a mansion in Princeton, a fake orphanage in Haiti to evade taxes. I was born in to his second cult, the church of Bible understating, which had about 200. People don't understand the pain I've seen, but I don't expect them to. My mother was a cultist who ruined all of my siblings hearts so bad and she doesn't even realize she did it, but I don't judge her for it
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My parents were naive traumatized college kids that got proselytized to and sucked up into a cult. A cult that fell apart when the 2nd and 3rd (me) generations who were born into it started asking questions.

I had a long convo with my mother yesterday about this (we are very close). We were reminiscing about some of the people we know. Part of the reason cult imploded and there was a mass exodus (although cult still exists) is because the leader's son (also a leader) had been beating his wife and daughters for years. There were other things that came to light, pedo shit of course... what cult doesn't have that. But the catalyst of why shit started to become known was because he beat his wife so severely that the nurse in the cult who would be sent out to patch her up routinely actually had to take her to the hospital because she was dying. Nurses and doctors are mandated reporters. So police were alerted, he was arrested and the whole thing became known.

My parents were not great, but they did their best within the context of the cult they were raising us in. Luckily my parents were just sheeple ignorant to what was going on. That nurse? My friend's mom. I was telling my mom I would've struggled to forgive her if I was in my friends' shoes. How do you move on in your relationship knowing not only your parent is a hypocrite but also actively covered up abuse for years.

I am the opposite of my parents in that way. Towards the end of his life my father was being scammed by some rando online telling him they could cure his parkinsons. My mom almost gave some rando at the gym cold hard cash to invest for her. Their brains are just primed to be scammed.

My first thought when someone is giving me "free" stuff, advice, etc.... "what are you gaining, what are you selling, how are you profiting off this..." Skeptical to a fault.


I respect you for even sharing this, it's not something a lot of people can even relate to, or would even give a shit about
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It's kind of fucked up because for many people their parents imbue their own generational demons on their kids. Then that kid has to grow up and either not realize it and do the same, or spend time trying to rewire their mind to work differently. Like I was neglected from both, so as I got older I had a deep need for control over everything, including people. I felt I had to keep people where I could always reach them no matter the manipulation required, because deep rooted fear of isolation and insecurity was intense for me. Then I realized the people I tried to control were also fucked up, so I phased into the desire for isolation as a response of being manipulated myself, and also insecurity. At this point I know all of it. I've seen it, experienced it, observed it, and controlled it. The problem wasn't the need for control, it was where I was directing it. I put the focus on myself, and my own personal turmoil. The truth is the only competition in life is being better then who I was yesterday, which is the way it should be imo. Not better then my parents, not better then other people, but better then myself. I took my life turmoil and directed it inward, then used it as a way to move myself forward without worrying about other people. I also didn't need therapy to tell me that. It was clear as day in my inner self. I just had to truly question my thoughts, then change my mental wiring. On my own terms, and in my own way.
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It's kind of fucked up because for many people their parents imbue their own generational demons on their kids. Then that kid has to grow up and either not realize it and do the same, or spend time trying to rewire their mind to work differently. Like I was neglected from both, so as I got older I had a deep need for control over everything, including people. I felt I had to keep people where I could always reach them no matter the manipulation required, because deep rooted fear of isolation and insecurity was intense for me. Then I realized the people I tried to control were also fucked up, so I phased into the desire for isolation as a response of being manipulated myself, and also insecurity. At this point I know all of it. I've seen it, experienced it, observed it, and controlled it. The problem wasn't the need for control, it was where I was directing it. I put the focus on myself, and my own personal turmoil. The truth is the only competition in life is being better then who I was yesterday, which is the way it should be imo. Not better then my parents, not better then other people, but better then myself. I took my life turmoil and directed it inward, then used it as a way to move myself forward without worrying about other people. I also didn't need therapy to tell me that. It was clear as day in my inner self. I just had to truly question my thoughts, then change my mental wiring. On my own terms, and in my own way.


Don't try to control anything

Your can only control your mind and emotions. Control that. Then the storm you live in manifests you're future
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It's kind of fucked up because for many people their parents imbue their own generational demons on their kids. Then that kid has to grow up and either not realize it and do the same, or spend time trying to rewire their mind to work differently. Like I was neglected from both, so as I got older I had a deep need for control over everything, including people. I felt I had to keep people where I could always reach them no matter the manipulation required, because deep rooted fear of isolation and insecurity was intense for me. Then I realized the people I tried to control were also fucked up, so I phased into the desire for isolation as a response of being manipulated myself, and also insecurity. At this point I know all of it. I've seen it, experienced it, observed it, and controlled it. The problem wasn't the need for control, it was where I was directing it. I put the focus on myself, and my own personal turmoil. The truth is the only competition in life is being better then who I was yesterday, which is the way it should be imo. Not better then my parents, not better then other people, but better then myself. I took my life turmoil and directed it inward, then used it as a way to move myself forward without worrying about other people. I also didn't need therapy to tell me that. It was clear as day in my inner self. I just had to truly question my thoughts, then change my mental wiring. On my own terms, and in my own way.

Don't try to control anything

You can only control your mind and emotions. Control that. Then the storm you live in manifests you're future
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My parents were naive traumatized college kids that got proselytized to and sucked up into a cult. A cult that fell apart when the 2nd and 3rd (me) generations who were born into it started asking questions.

I had a long convo with my mother yesterday about this (we are very close). We were reminiscing about some of the people we know. Part of the reason cult imploded and there was a mass exodus (although cult still exists) is because the leader's son (also a leader) had been beating his wife and daughters for years. There were other things that came to light, pedo shit of course... what cult doesn't have that. But the catalyst of why shit started to become known was because he beat his wife so severely that the nurse in the cult who would be sent out to patch her up routinely actually had to take her to the hospital because she was dying. Nurses and doctors are mandated reporters. So police were alerted, he was arrested and the whole thing became known.

My parents were not great, but they did their best within the context of the cult they were raising us in. Luckily my parents were just sheeple ignorant to what was going on. That nurse? My friend's mom. I was telling my mom I would've struggled to forgive her if I was in my friends' shoes. How do you move on in your relationship knowing not only your parent is a hypocrite but also actively covered up abuse for years.

I am the opposite of my parents in that way. Towards the end of his life my father was being scammed by some rando online telling him they could cure his parkinsons. My mom almost gave some rando at the gym cold hard cash to invest for her. Their brains are just primed to be scammed.

My first thought when someone is giving me "free" stuff, advice, etc.... "what are you gaining, what are you selling, how are you profiting off this..." Skeptical to a fault.

My mother joined a huge cult of 11,000 people because her own mother hater her and was jealous of her first born daughter for whatever reason. The forever family, Stewart traill. By the time he was done enslaving people and paying them only 5 dollars a week for their labor, he amassed the largest antique warehouse in america, called olde good things.

He had a mansion in Princeton, a fake orphanage in Haiti to evade taxes. I was born in to his second cult, the church of Bible understating, which had about 200. People don't understand the pain I've seen, but I don't expect them to. My mother was a cultist who ruined all of my siblings hearts so bad and she doesn't even realize she did it, but I don't judge her for it
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I would also share the cult name but I don't want to dox myself. Especially as there are photos of me online (as a child) that I did not consent to.

I was joking with my sister about how both of us have an almost unhealthy inflated self-worth and self-esteem and don't subscribe to the typical patriarchal standards of beauty or seeking male validation because we weren't exposed to typical media growing up.

Also, as young as 10yrs old we were told by the cult leaders' wife (who unironically was hand selecting the teenage girls he would go on to rape) that we were the "stumbling blocks" for grown men.

Like literal weekly multiple hour-long meetings, I was taught my pre-pubescent body was so alluring that grown ass men don't have self-control. Why would I ever care about seeking male approval in this life? It's the cheapest commodity there is. They will fuck anything that moves, and plenty of things that don't (morticians looking at you).

The unifying tie to cults is exploiting people for labor/money and preying on women and children.

People won't get it unless they were in it. Even my younger brothers can't really relate as parents left when they were still younger.
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my parents were rarely around like ever, we were mostly raised by nannies. which i think is great coz they really need to work on themselves.

i think my mom was traumatized coz she was in her early 20s, dad was always out of the country and my baby brother died and her MIL openly hates her. getting hated by your MIL is apparently a cultural tradition 🤷🤷
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only negative thing i notice is i don't immediately think of space/coldness/distance as the beginning of the end 🤔🤔

hence i got cheated on coz i find it absolutely acceptable to take breaks from each other hell i find some degree of ghosting/disappearing acceptable if there aren't children involved ofc.

in fact, i've always fantasized about being in a relationship for only half a year then the other half i'd like to spend alone so the universe truly has a sense of humor because i end up meeting the clingiest dude and we moved in together after 2 dates🤦🤦 which is literally my opposite 🤷🤷
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My parents were naive traumatized college kids that got proselytized to and sucked up into a cult. A cult that fell apart when the 2nd and 3rd (me) generations who were born into it started asking questions.

I had a long convo with my mother yesterday about this (we are very close). We were reminiscing about some of the people we know. Part of the reason cult imploded and there was a mass exodus (although cult still exists) is because the leader's son (also a leader) had been beating his wife and daughters for years. There were other things that came to light, pedo shit of course... what cult doesn't have that. But the catalyst of why shit started to become known was because he beat his wife so severely that the nurse in the cult who would be sent out to patch her up routinely actually had to take her to the hospital because she was dying. Nurses and doctors are mandated reporters. So police were alerted, he was arrested and the whole thing became known.

My parents were not great, but they did their best within the context of the cult they were raising us in. Luckily my parents were just sheeple ignorant to what was going on. That nurse? My friend's mom. I was telling my mom I would've struggled to forgive her if I was in my friends' shoes. How do you move on in your relationship knowing not only your parent is a hypocrite but also actively covered up abuse for years.

I am the opposite of my parents in that way. Towards the end of his life my father was being scammed by some rando online telling him they could cure his parkinsons. My mom almost gave some rando at the gym cold hard cash to invest for her. Their brains are just primed to be scammed.

My first thought when someone is giving me "free" stuff, advice, etc.... "what are you gaining, what are you selling, how are you profiting off this..." Skeptical to a fault.


My mother joined a huge cult of 11,000 people because her own mother hater her and was jealous of her first born daughter for whatever reason. The forever family, Stewart traill. By the time he was done enslaving people and paying them only 5 dollars a week for their labor, he amassed the largest antique warehouse in america, called olde good things.

He had a mansion in Princeton, a fake orphanage in Haiti to evade taxes. I was born in to his second cult, the church of Bible understating, which had about 200. People don't understand the pain I've seen, but I don't expect them to. My mother was a cultist who ruined all of my siblings hearts so bad and she doesn't even realize she did it, but I don't judge her for itclick to expand

I would also share the cult name but I don't want to dox myself. Especially as there are photos of me online (as a child) that I did not consent to.

I was joking with my sister about how both of us have an almost unhealthy inflated self-worth and self-esteem and don't subscribe to the typical patriarchal standards of beauty or seeking male validation because we weren't exposed to typical media growing up.

Also, as young as 10yrs old we were told by the cult leaders' wife (who unironically was hand selecting the teenage girls he would go on to rape) that we were the "stumbling blocks" for grown men.

Like literal weekly multiple hour-long meetings, I was taught my pre-pubescent body was so alluring that grown ass men don't have self-control. Why would I ever care about seeking male approval in this life? It's the cheapest commodity there is. They will fuck anything that moves, and plenty of things that don't (morticians looking at you).

The unifying tie to cults is exploiting people for labor/money and preying on women and children.

People won't get it unless they were in it. Even my younger brothers can't really relate as parents left when they were still younger.
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Well,they prey on everyone. it's just women and children first, foremost, but in the end they get everyone they can.

That hand-selecting shit, I've seen it, a "man" named tim handing over his three daughters. So sickening

I've seen only one meeting with him,but I saw right through him I was 11. Saw the fact that he was just emotionlessly talking down to the entire room of 100+ people.

I'm looking around the room like "why are they letting him talk down to them like this?" That was my first and last thought about him
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only negative thing i notice is i don't immediately think of space/coldness/distance as the beginning of the end 🤔🤔

hence i got cheated on coz i find it absolutely acceptable to take breaks from each other hell i find some degree of ghosting/disappearing acceptable if there aren't children involved ofc.

in fact, i've always fantasized about being in a relationship for only half a year then the other half i'd like to spend alone


this is a rossrachel situation waiting to happen
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Posted by virgoOPPP
only negative thing i notice is i don't immediately think of space/coldness/distance as the beginning of the end 🤔🤔

hence i got cheated on coz i find it absolutely acceptable to take breaks from each other hell i find some degree of ghosting/disappearing acceptable if there aren't children involved ofc.

in fact, i've always fantasized about being in a relationship for only half a year then the other half i'd like to spend alone

this is a rossrachel situation waiting to happen
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😆😆 i just didn't really think of it as something so awful. my dad's obsessed with my mom the rare times he's around until he died at 50.

must be why