Jealousy and “friendship”

Why do some chicks remain (or I guess pretend to be friends with) women who get spoiled by their lovers, if it makes them jealous? Like they’d rather live in jealous misery and spread rumors about you and even try to encourage you to think negative things about your relationship, instead of finding their own happiness.

I don’t get jealous easily or often, but I feel like if I was friends with someone who had a better life than me or who I felt inadequate compared to, I’d just find different friends I can stack up to. But maybe that’s just easy to say since I’ve never been in that position.

Does the phrase “misery loves company” have more power than a personal pursuit of happiness?

Is it snobby to say at this point I feel like I can only be friends with people who get the same luxuries as I do so I can avoid potential backstabbings? Is jealousy a matter of maturity, or is it a personality trait that never goes away?

I guess I’m just asking because I wanna try making new friends where I live but I’m nervous as I keep reflecting on my experience with the chicks who claimed to be my friends while I was working at that hospital Starbucks last year. I’m not sure if I’m ready to get back on the friendship horse.

Posted by Revenge

oh fuck im on the powder room

Better get out before we put some makeup and a wig on you 💛

Smh I hate females like that

That's why you have women faking and rushing to be in relationships just to compete

Part of it is oversharing.

Don't give people full access to you until they prove what they are about. Not all women are petty backstabbing jelly beans. There are genuine supportive females out there. Don't give up hope.

Ya, misery does love company. I be around a lot jealous ass niggas.. Grown ass men do the same shit. I think my friend I just cut off was jealous of me. She was a real bitch in the end. Finally got her out my life.

I think you should be the one unfriending them and walking away. When I was 12, I stumbled upon my friend's diary (it was a random notebook that she left messily in her room... I did not know it was her diary at first) and she had written that she hated me in big letters on a page. I knew she was jealous of me bc she couldn't stand that I received more positive attention than her (she's a leo). But that was... wild. I never did anything bad to her. I gently moonwalked out of that friendship.

Posted by applecherrypie

I think you should be the one unfriending them and walking away. When I was 12, I stumbled upon my friend's diary (it was a random notebook that she left messily in her room... I did not know it was her diary at first) and she had written that she hated me in big letters on a page. I knew she was jealous of me bc she couldn't stand that I received more positive attention than her (she's a leo). But that was... wild. I never did anything bad to her. I gently moonwalked out of that friendship.

Yeah lol I guess the first red flag with one friend I had should’ve been when she said my therapist sounds like a crappy therapist when I finally made a break through on my anxiety attacks. I was literally telling my “friend” the super helpful techniques my therapist taught me and she was like “I don’t like your therapist. She sounds stupid”. But I just figured it was because those tips weren’t helpful to my “friends” situation.

Posted by Bumblebebe

How can you tell someone is jealous? that's always been a challenge to me. I kept the same friends for the majority of my life, I met some great women a long the way but my friends from hs are still in my life. I would be devastated if any one of them was jealous of me I literally give my life for my friends!

I think you can tell they’re jealous if they do things that copy you.

Jealousy and/or envy usually manifests from the individual exhibiting that behavior from insecurity with themself. Rather than focusing on how to improve their life, they would rather bring you lower. And someone else's happiness usually makes them uncomfortable.

No one should invite that into their life.

Hmm. I can't remember the last time I've had a "jealous friend". For women who have been jealous of me, they're usually simple-minded-coworkers who'd NEVER make it to the friend zone lol. The ones I do have as friends, have been supportive, friendly, loving, respectful, engaging, honest, fun, etc. But everyone isn't meant to be my friend because I'm VERY direct, honest and authentic 🤷 A lot of people can't handle that. So, with that, who needs toxic, jealous friends? 🤔 Get rid of their asses. ASAP.

Posted by Arielle83

This type of gossip etc always happens to me in work situations when a bunch of chicks have known each other for a while.

It’s the hierarchy thing. You’re new and you need to prove yourself. Some ppl in the female group will be nice and no drama, but there is always one chick that feels threatened of losing their position. If she feels threatened, and the other girls are nice to you, she will be passive aggressive or fake nice to make you question the whole situation. It creates insecurity and you will either get angry and confront, ignore, or worry about why she does this.

They’re insecure and pathetic. It’s high school mentality.

Anyways, you don’t have to get along with everyone. Just be aware. I find direct confrontation is the best in these petty situations.

Small minds talk about ppl. Ime it’s usually an Aries or Virgo female going all two faced.

But misery does love company.

Bingo! "Small minded", co-workers, insecurity. It's as simple as that.

Posted by Erinelda

Posted by Whorpio I think you can tell they’re jealous if they do things that copy you.

They copy you, they minimize your efforts, they won't support your relationship (because they want your man), they never stand up for you, they talk MASSIVE shit behind your back, they won't compliment you physically or in any other way and they look pissy when someone else does compliment you. They throw hissy fits where they storm out but won't talk about it because they are just pissed someone is paying attention to you.

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This is spot on 👌 I’ll never understand the psychology behind it tho.

Posted by Erinelda

Most of the people I like on here are chicks. Cool women exist.

The jealous ones are quite obvious... and sad.

Damn I thought I was the only one who realized that

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Posted by Bumblebebe

How can you tell someone is jealous? that's always been a challenge to me. I kept the same friends for the majority of my life, I met some great women a long the way but my friends from hs are still in my life. I would be devastated if any one of them was jealous of me I literally give my life for my friends!

I think you can tell they’re jealous if they do things that copy you.

They copy you, they minimize your efforts, they won't support your relationship (because they want your man), they never stand up for you, they talk MASSIVE shit behind your back, they won't compliment you physically or in any other way and they look pissy when someone else does compliment you. They throw hissy fits where they storm out but won't talk about it because they are just pissed someone is paying attention to you.

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Is this a real shit?

What enemies do if friends do THIS?

Posted by ArrogantWanderer

i dont have friends just neighbors and people i play basketball with

Did you wanted to say something hon?

Toxic friendships.

Hopefully you'll become better at picking friends.

Because I believe it totally has to do with you.

I hardly had any girls as friends when I was younger, it was always a catty bitchy mess.

You don't need friends with the same life goals, wins and wants. As long as your values are somewhat similar you'll do fine.

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Posted by Bumblebebe

How can you tell someone is jealous? that's always been a challenge to me. I kept the same friends for the majority of my life, I met some great women a long the way but my friends from hs are still in my life. I would be devastated if any one of them was jealous of me I literally give my life for my friends!

I think you can tell they’re jealous if they do things that copy you.

They copy you, they minimize your efforts, they won't support your relationship (because they want your man), they never stand up for you, they talk MASSIVE shit behind your back, they won't compliment you physically or in any other way and they look pissy when someone else does compliment you. They throw hissy fits where they storm out but won't talk about it because they are just pissed someone is paying attention to you.

Is this a real shit?

What enemies do if friends do THIS?

Girls you shouldn't even bother with. Last one to act this way with me was an Aries girl (they are much different than the men). She copied my make up and got the guy I was going on a date with to buy her stuff because he was like an uncle to her, it was supposed to make me jealous but I thought nothing of it until she tried to embarrass me because he kissed me in front of people.

And then on Facebook she asked: "How long to do give someone your all and not get anything back?".. I replied: "Don't give any adult your all, give only what you want to be happy but not so much as to sew resentment"...

She didn't respond and instead posted a meme of a girl drinking a big glass of wine that said: "The only advice I need"..

BITCH YOU ASKED.

So yeah, she is gone now..

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This shut makes me quizzy...

I don’t deal with people like that...

Easy! Just don’t...

No person - no problem!

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Posted by La_Mariposa

And just to think I was gonna send you a gift! 😢

Omg this wasn’t about you 😅 Also my address changed. Still the same street number but different unit #. I’ll send you info