Where's the compromise? (Page 2)

Posted by allrounder

Posted by Walk_on_by
I think you should support this man in his ambitious insanity, there isn't enough men like this any more and they're what make the world interesting.

You're certainly right. It's like supporting my own Albert Einstein.

These extreme treks are one thing, but he also wants to own a garage where he can place his 12 classic dream cars in. Like his own personal car show.

And one dream I really like the sound of is him wanting to have a Japanese style conservatory room (which I called the Zen room) where the floor is filled with water, there's wooden paths near the edge of the room, then there's a giant tree, or a few bonsai trees in the middle of the room. And placed around the room are different exotic plants or Japanese plants like the Japanese Acer plant (I brought up wanting the Acer plant 😂). Might have koi fish swimming in the water too.

And we both individually want a lot of pets, so we essentially realised we're gonna have a farm in our dream home 😂 axolotls are cute, ok.

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That's nice that you care about the things he likes.

Posted by allrounder
Also, what counts as satisfying for adrenaline junkies then? If not an extreme trek.

Nothing does. I used to ski and it never ended, I just wanted more and more. That's what took me to Japan, seriously the skiing is amazing there. There is a lot of satisfaction in improving the craft of what I'm doing. He does sound like he wants to jump from one thing to another, I'm the opposite I like to dive in deep into something for years and then I just get over it and don't care because I'm not able to go that deep into it then I don't care, it sounds shallow actually when I look at it objectively lol.

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88
I have the same issues with my Scorpio, but he thinks I will stay anywhere and he actually is the one who prefers luxury. I can do both.

He knows now that if he starts saying we are gonna go on a trip, I will start planning it, so he's choosing his words carefully.

He has big ideas of what he wants to do, but reality is way different.

Sometimes I think all that talking is a way to avoid going. It's so out there that you can't plan it because it goes against how a regular person travels.

I've just started ignoring what he says and letting him know what the budget is and what is within reason.

That's what we compromise on.

Mutuable and Fixed energy is so different!

You’re a very patient Sag! 😃
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Half the time, I could care less about how difficult he is trying to make things.

As long as he's on board when it's go time.

The struggle to get there is a lot though, I wish he wasn't so stubborn about his ideas of things he doesn't even know about.

He thinks one way and then needs time to adjust his original thinking, where mutables adapt fast, we don't need days.

His need to be the one in control is fine when I'm in his presence, I can go with the flow.

He's starting to notice that I will do things on my own, without him, when he doesn't want to do some of the things I like doing.

We like different hobbies, and so I fit in what I want to do on my own time.

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So it is universal then. All Scorpios love making everything as difficult and extreme as possible as a personal challenge to their limits 😂 the problem is them believing everyone will follow what they want as it is.


Yeah, that's actually one of the things I don't like about Scorpio people. Is they have these stubborn tight opinions of things that they've never been to or experienced yet. Or simply because they read a few articles lol but they forget first hand experiences will always be so different for each person.


Hahaha same! The ideal is doing it together, but I'm as easy to let it go and just go do it on my own 😂

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I don't understand it, but I call him out on it and give him a chance to change his mind. How can he have such a strong opinion about something he has never done, but his friend or someone else told him it wasn't fun and I have experienced it and told him it was?! lol Just 🙄

I was trying to go to a particular restaurant for like 3 weeks straight with him and he didn't want to go, when I went with a friend, he said I always do stuff without him! smh

I had to tell him, I've been trying to go for weeks now and you didn't want to. Not my fault!

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Posted by allrounder

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88
I have the same issues with my Scorpio, but he thinks I will stay anywhere and he actually is the one who prefers luxury. I can do both.

He knows now that if he starts saying we are gonna go on a trip, I will start planning it, so he's choosing his words carefully.

He has big ideas of what he wants to do, but reality is way different.

Sometimes I think all that talking is a way to avoid going. It's so out there that you can't plan it because it goes against how a regular person travels.

I've just started ignoring what he says and letting him know what the budget is and what is within reason.

That's what we compromise on.

Mutuable and Fixed energy is so different!

You’re a very patient Sag! 😃
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Half the time, I could care less about how difficult he is trying to make things.

As long as he's on board when it's go time.

The struggle to get there is a lot though, I wish he wasn't so stubborn about his ideas of things he doesn't even know about.

He thinks one way and then needs time to adjust his original thinking, where mutables adapt fast, we don't need days.

His need to be the one in control is fine when I'm in his presence, I can go with the flow.

He's starting to notice that I will do things on my own, without him, when he doesn't want to do some of the things I like doing.

We like different hobbies, and so I fit in what I want to do on my own time.

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So it is universal then. All Scorpios love making everything as difficult and extreme as possible as a personal challenge to their limits 😂 the problem is them believing everyone will follow what they want as it is.

Yeah, that's actually one of the things I don't like about Scorpio people. Is they have these stubborn tight opinions of things that they've never been to or experienced yet. Or simply because they read a few articles lol but they forget first hand experiences will always be so different for each person.

Hahaha same! The ideal is doing it together, but I'm as easy to let it go and just go do it on my own 😂
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I don't understand it, but I call him out on it and give him a chance to change his mind. How can he have such a strong opinion about something he has never done, but his friend or someone else told him it wasn't fun and I have experienced it and told him it was?! lol Just 🙄


I was trying to go to a particular restaurant for like 3 weeks straight with him and he didn't want to go, when I went with a friend, he said I always do stuff without him! smh


I had to tell him, I've been trying to go for weeks now and you didn't want to. Not my fault!

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Oh that's not on, yeah, call him out for it. In those times, you just need to drag his ass out of the couch/bed and into your car to go to the place you wanted to go together 😂 it's the only way. Is it the narcissistic tendencies of a Scorpio person, I'm not sure 😂

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Posted by allrounder
Also, what counts as satisfying for adrenaline junkies then? If not an extreme trek.

Nothing does. I used to ski and it never ended, I just wanted more and more. That's what took me to Japan, seriously the skiing is amazing there. There is a lot of satisfaction in improving the craft of what I'm doing. He does sound like he wants to jump from one thing to another, I'm the opposite I like to dive in deep into something for years and then I just get over it and don't care because I'm not able to go that deep into it then I don't care, it sounds shallow actually when I look at it objectively lol.

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Are you an adrenaline junkie? Then I'm eager for us to visit Japan one day! ☺️ what else would you recommend to do in Japan?

And where else have you liked to visit as an adrenaline junkie?

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Posted by saggurl88

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by saggurl88
I have the same issues with my Scorpio, but he thinks I will stay anywhere and he actually is the one who prefers luxury. I can do both.

He knows now that if he starts saying we are gonna go on a trip, I will start planning it, so he's choosing his words carefully.

He has big ideas of what he wants to do, but reality is way different.

Sometimes I think all that talking is a way to avoid going. It's so out there that you can't plan it because it goes against how a regular person travels.

I've just started ignoring what he says and letting him know what the budget is and what is within reason.

That's what we compromise on.

Mutuable and Fixed energy is so different!

You’re a very patient Sag! 😃
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Half the time, I could care less about how difficult he is trying to make things.

As long as he's on board when it's go time.

The struggle to get there is a lot though, I wish he wasn't so stubborn about his ideas of things he doesn't even know about.

He thinks one way and then needs time to adjust his original thinking, where mutables adapt fast, we don't need days.

His need to be the one in control is fine when I'm in his presence, I can go with the flow.

He's starting to notice that I will do things on my own, without him, when he doesn't want to do some of the things I like doing.

We like different hobbies, and so I fit in what I want to do on my own time.

click to expand

So it is universal then. All Scorpios love making everything as difficult and extreme as possible as a personal challenge to their limits 😂 the problem is them believing everyone will follow what they want as it is.

Yeah, that's actually one of the things I don't like about Scorpio people. Is they have these stubborn tight opinions of things that they've never been to or experienced yet. Or simply because they read a few articles lol but they forget first hand experiences will always be so different for each person.

Hahaha same! The ideal is doing it together, but I'm as easy to let it go and just go do it on my own 😂
click to expand

I don't understand it, but I call him out on it and give him a chance to change his mind. How can he have such a strong opinion about something he has never done, but his friend or someone else told him it wasn't fun and I have experienced it and told him it was?! lol Just 🙄

I was trying to go to a particular restaurant for like 3 weeks straight with him and he didn't want to go, when I went with a friend, he said I always do stuff without him! smh

I had to tell him, I've been trying to go for weeks now and you didn't want to. Not my fault!
click to expand

Oh that's not on, yeah, call him out for it. In those times, you just need to drag his ass out of the couch/bed and into your car to go to the place you wanted to go together 😂 it's the only way. Is it the narcissistic tendencies of a Scorpio person, I'm not sure 😂

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I wouldn't call it "narcissistic tendencies" since that seems to be more catered to being selfish, but they are stubborn and fixed. I think they just try to see what they can get away with and what you will let slide. I let some tings slide and stand firm on others.

The controlling parts are funny, I don't even think he believes what he he saying, half the time. It's like he says stuff just to see if I will do it.

“Compromise is overrated

It can rob one of their freedom

And can often end up being one sided”