All I Want Is A Good Woman ... HUH?

All I Want Is A Good Woman ... HUH?

I recently asked my guy friend (and five others)w hat he wanted in a women beside the physical attributes. He named the same clich' qualites that most men list. Afterwards, I asked him would he consider being with a woman with ALL the wonderful qualities he named ... but without most of the physical elements. Taking a few moments to think, he said: "No ... she has to have that body ..."

Really ... WHATEVER!!! In my opinion this totally contradicts his statement about wanting a "Good" woman. Keep in mine, I asked six guys this same exact question and only two out of six said looks didn't matter! LOL, and guys wonder why they end up unhappy in a relationship.

Gentlemen, "What looks stunnning on the outside may be very toxic within." Looks don't make the person.

Like myself some women will not put on a false image!

I've noticed this mentality comes from CERTAIN males of the zodiac (five of them)why do you all have such superficial expectations for women—

why do you all have such superficial expectations for women—

The Media

Virgo 101, that's the truth. I don't watch much t.v. anymore so forget about the media ..

Hi Brahn,

I have to disagree with you 🙂. Some women are more realistic about what they want from a man. The look at things other then the physical attribute. True some women are very shallow, but more from a materialistic standpoint. Men have too many superficial "wants" from women. As a result, only a few will find true happiness in a relationship ...

"Now be this a man's shoes, his eye color, his weight, a woman will disregard them. They will heavily criticise men who have everything about the smallest things, but make excuses for the guy with nothing who makes mistakes everyday."

Now Brahn, there's no need to generalize all women ... that's not fair 😉 I won't dispute but all women are not let this ... there is no way you can prove otherwise because it's just a generalization. I don't what the women are like you have enountered but that statement above doesn't hold true for myself and a few other females I know.

Actually, my initial post was created by analyzing six of my male friends responses to my question. Afterwards, it was very ironic when they all claimed to want a "good" women ... but she had to have "their" physical attributes. I found this absurd and I was bothered by it. I didn't mean to generalize ALL men, but some zodiac signs -- ie taurus, aquarius, scorpio, capricorn and ... virgos ***bites nails ***. I'm not sayiing that you are like this Brahn, but some taurus and virgos want perfect dolls and are very disappointed when they discover that their perfect "doll" is just simply a woman ...

Oh, the ones I spoke to (the ones that angered me) were a two taurus, a scorpio, a sagitt, and a aquarius.

The two friends that said looks didn't count were a virgo and a leo ... YAY!!!!!!!!!!!

LOL @ dyrstr8z

What was that about ... what did Brahn do this time 🙂

i have noticed something for a long time...

Alot of people who you would be considered by sociaties standards as phisically unatractive, much of the time have something we call here "a fat attitude". Confidence is low, self esteem is dwindeled, they are snappy, jelouse people.

My sister is obese, yet she has a fabulouse attitude, an attitude that i wish i had. wherever she goes she is admired and complimented by men she has never even met. even through she is happily married to a husband who loved her like no other.

I am slim, fit, considered very facially attractive... but.... my self esteem is low, im unconfertable with men looking at me and insecure about my looks....also i dont feel like anyone could ever really love me... i havent been asked out once in almost over a year.

thought i would put in my two cents

"....also i dont feel like anyone could ever really love me... "

That's my hidden secret ... now revealed 🙂 😢

Honestly, I don't know if a man will ever really and truly love me. The reason for my concern is that I have REALLY deep emotions and I don't want them toyed with. However, I don't want to constantly be afraid of men just because of my failed relationships ( if you can call them relationships at this point). That's I try to listen to both my head and my heart because both of them commbined will make things easier to understand.

You screw yourself when you separate with your mind from your heart when making decisions such as these. You need them both ....

sb,

"Confidence came to me step by step and I truly learned to value myself alot more than I did before."

Same here sb ... my self esteem use to be extremely low -- this is probably why I kept geting involved with incompatible guys. However, it all came to me slowly ... no I'm not 100% confident but I am at least 70 % -- which is good for someone like me. At all came to me with time. 🙂

"You certainly can't get your confidence from others, as you are simply giving them the right to control you."

Well put Brahn 🙂

EXACTLY!

thankyou Brahn, you understood my point exactly.

Yes,i do indeed have issues with self esteem to work out, others around me have told me that i have come a LONG way to how i used to be.

its so true that you must love yourself before anyone else can love you.... and you dont look for someone else to complete your life, you find someone else to enrich your life.
i honestly have not wanted to get in a relationship with anyone for a long time because i knew i wouldent be a good partner, it resonates from a person when they aernt confident.

and thanks to you too sb & cappysweety i understand exactly what you are both talking about and appreciate your imput 😄

'...You certainly aren't going to be loved by anyone unless you love yourself. If you don't have self love how are you going to detect/receive it from anyone else....'

totally agree... christ taught ' to love our neighbors as OURSELVES'... we gotta love ourself first... if we're gonna treat ourself as trash people will deff. treat us that way.. u gotta noh ur worth...wen i first started yoga.. i had this awesome 'indian guru' who taught me that ' every HUMAN is born perfect.. inferiority is the mistake of the mind, a cloud covering the light... disovle that cloud by obseving healthy habitz.. nourish ur BODY, MIND, and spirit.. connect to ur own innerself n your BEAUTY will ALWAYZ SHINE thru....'
you gotta CELEBRATE ur own MAGNIFICENCE... i dont think itz prideful thing 2 be confident n proud of urself... remember that ur da best.. yes their is always room for improvement but juz coz u aint as good at sum thingz as other people doesnt make u inferior 🙂