All things not quite right with virgos - help

Hi I have written here before and have been dating a virgo male for 8 months - most of the time it is fine except he doesnt talk too much about how he feels which I guess you take in your stride and try and peel the layers back slowly. I am a cancer and somewhat emotional and like to express how I feel, often.

The thing about my virgo is that there is something not quite right about him and as an intuitive crab know that something lurks below the surface.

Ed the v-guy smokes pot everyday and this I

oops anyway......

Im not sure whether it is the pot of his underlying nature but he doesnt seem that masculine and I wondered if virgos are pre-disposed to being bi-sexual more than any other sign.

The other troubling thing is that he talks about his aversion to paedophilia - OFTEN which gets me thinking is he saying this because he is one or..... sorry it is a difficult subject to bring up but I just wondered why he needs to talk about it so much and what other virgos thought about that.

Thanks for your time -

Troubled crab girl 😢

so on some level you may think your boyfriend could be interested in Paedopillia? theres no real reason you could find out! but im a virgo female and lesbian, i dont think its the same with every sign as it is for virgos your rather gay/bisexual or not dont think it really matters what sign u are.

I don't think any of the major things that you are worried about have anything to do with his sign. If anything, virgos are usually pretty truthful so if you get one that seems to keep shady things away from you be very afraid.

Hi Joelle34,

I would be inclined to think the "pot everyday" is unhinging that brain of his and more of a problem than either you or he will admit to. Now and again if one chooses, that's OK but if he's doing it every single day, then he's addicted and most people know that it changes the chemistry of the brain etc., one may become paranoid...blah blah.....I won't go on.- reality becomes blurred in many areas to say the least!!!

The paedophile thingy I wouldn't be too concerned about just yet. I know a Mr. Virgo who talks almost non-cessantly about Mr. Bush and how much he admires him!!! I know there's no correalation between Bushy and paedophiles!!:-) but they tend to zoom in on one thing at times and talk forever and a day about it, no matter how many times we've all heard it before. I hate it when Mr. Bush appears on TV - at least another hour of Bushyism to listen to!!!!

So before continuing on, I personally would need to have a serious chat with Mr. Virgo as to why he chooses or needs to do pot everyday.

Best wishes J.

Alana x

Joelle34, Here's how I percieve your delimna:

Your man is Virgo, so, as you are realizing, they AREN'T emotionally attached to thier partners. Eight months have gone by and STILL he won't talk about how he feels. That's something you WILL have to take in stride if you choose to continueing see him, because years and years can, and often do, go by without these creatures desiring to have intimacy with thier partners.

Two, there is one thing that does make him feel and this paedophilia that has his brain occupied is with disdain . . what does he do about it? Drowns himself with drugs.

Does this really seem so confusing? Don't we all hide behind something so that we don't have to face a fear? For your guy, it's marijuana, for others, it's alcohol. The substance isn't the problem, it's the wool over his mind, so he doesn't have to face the cold hard facts . . whatever they may be.

Seems apparant to me. Most people who have such strong disdain towards something, have had bad experiences in their lives with the particular issue.

If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't be thinking that he desires children. I would be thinking that something from his own childhood is trying to surface and he has to push it back down through drugs.

But, that's just me . . what do I know?

If I were you and I loved him and I wanted him to have a happy and beautiful life, I would face the problem. However, it's very sensitive . . something that is so intense within him, that he struggles to face it.

I would change the tables around and lie. Deceptions are only bad if the intent is malicious. If it's for a good cause, then in my world it's acceptable. But, that's me, not everyone can decieve.

This is what I would do, in your place . . one day when I know I have his attention and he's NOT stoned yet, I would pretend to be terribly upset about being molested as a child. Pull some tears out and make hiim think that this is wracking you from the inside. Through reverse psychology and him seeing how painful it is for you to accept that you were violated when you were young, will most likely get him to open up and comfort you in your distress by relating to you that a person can have a happy and fulfilling life once they confront the issue.

If he has this inside of him, he will be forced to face himself. Perhaps, he still won't come to full terms with it himself and talk about it . . but, he will see the profound effects of ignoring the issue through with a different perspective.

"then put it down to virgoan curiosity and his need to be able to discuss this with you as his partner."

That last part of your sentence, Roxi, is huge. We all have needs and we search everyday for someone to whom we feel safe. The Virgo having someone to whom they believe they can discuss an issue - no matter the topic - drives them in their search for a partner.

yes they are hard to identify, they seem to be not quite right. everyone is, regardless of their sun sign.

if these people really know what they want, doesn't it mean that when you love someone you really don't get what you always want?

if a person doesn't want a partner who is full of drama, full of superficiality, naivety, full of crap. why is that? because it's intolerable? unacceptable? unfair? or because of what?

doesn' t it clearly mean that these people doesn't really know what they want but a failure to ask this to themselves instead?

my partner doesn't understand me. what makes you think/what makes you sure that they don't? because you see things differently? aren't you being naive, superficial and full of drama yourself that you can't accept that no two people are the same? and truth is that only two different people can be one if there is great love?

and if these people really think they knew what they wanted or rather expect their partners has to be-- they still complain, blame, confuse themselves and wonder if that's what they really wanted instead of being grateful for the person and just loving them as a whole. people always tend to complain/blame/confuse/get bitter not thinking about what they are all saying and doing!

it's a never ending issue that comes around like circles. instead of trying to grow from it and have initiative to discipline/improve our own self by showing more love even if it's not being asked, than trying to discipline/improve other people.