Are Virgo guys usually withdrawn/types that ignore

Are they? even if things just seem to be going well and they seem to like you?
I messaged him on facebook saying 'hey' on thursday, and he read my message at like 3:45am on saturday...still no reply..
He could like other girls pictures but not reply? what the ____...

Maybe he is a lazy texter

Well it didn't really warrant a response, did it?

I've received 'hey' messages before and they really irritate me. At least put something more meaty or something direct that requires a response. Most guys don't talk for the sake of talking. Give him a purpose or reason to talk to you.

Facebook?

-.-

Posted by Emperpux
Are they? even if things just seem to be going well and they seem to like you?
I messaged him on facebook saying 'hey' on thursday, and he read my message at like 3:45am on saturday...still no reply..
He could like other girls pictures but not reply? what the ____...

It sounds like you are the lazy texter! Did you really just write "hey"? How are the convos between you usually? I don't think I'd answer to "hey" , interested or not. Put a little more effort into it and don't come across so boring. Usually it's guys who text "hey". Mostly out of boredom, I would never answer to that.

sometimes "hey" sounds very impersonal to me, like i have a name you know. othertimes it is personal, like we know each other so well that just a "hey" is enough without any other pleasantries.

The reason why I'm trying to text him is because I want to send him a New Years card. I met him for the first time in months last month and we haven't spoken in a while since then.. I've been afraid/paranoid that he might have gotten a girlfriend quickly... But I don't know.. I don't know how to ask him if I can send him a New Years card (a big thing where I'm from) im afraid to write more, that it'll seem weird or clingy or strange.

Posted by ineedspace
sometimes "hey" sounds very impersonal to me, like i have a name you know. othertimes it is personal, like we know each other so well that just a "hey" is enough without any other
pleasantries.

Well I wrote 'hey____ (insert his name here)!'

Posted by Emperpux
The reason why I'm trying to text him is because I want to send him a New Years card. I met him for the first time in months last month and we haven't spoken in a while since then.. I've been afraid/paranoid that he might have gotten a girlfriend quickly... But I don't know.. I don't know how to ask him if I can send him a New Years card (a big thing where I'm from) im afraid to write more, that it'll seem weird or clingy or strange.

do you want to send a card with a special message or just a general happy new year card? why do you want to ask him if you can send him a card? just send it, or if you are already into texting, just text a new year wish? or you want to suggest you like him with a special card?

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Posted by Emperpux
The reason why I'm trying to text him is because I want to send him a New Years card. I met him for the first time in months last month and we haven't spoken in a while since then.. I've been afraid/paranoid that he might have gotten a girlfriend quickly... But I don't know.. I don't know how to ask him if I can send him a New Years card (a big thing where I'm from) im afraid to write more, that it'll seem weird or clingy or strange.

do you want to send a card with a special message or just a general happy new year card? why do you want to ask him if you can send him a card? just send it, or if you are already into texting, just text a new year wish? or you want to suggest you like him with a special card?

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Where I live, Sending New Years cards is actually a very big tradition, and I send them out every year to different people (friends, classmates, teachers, etc) a lot of younger people don't really do it so much, but people who recieve them are usually very happy because, well.. Who doesn't like recieving something in the mail? The custom is that if someone has sent you a card, you have to write back to them as well..
So, in order to send him one, I actually need a physical mailing address.
I remember when he came over to my house at the start of January, he saw that I had a few of those New Year cards from people and he was really intrigued, that I actually sent and recieved them.

But yeah, I don't know what to do, I'm afraid to be too pushy...

Omg send it already! 😄
Sending something-whatever it is- should be a GIFT from you to him.

Who cares what he thinks if it's about giving and not receiving. Give coz you want to without any paranoia/assumptions/expectations
🙂

Posted by AriesGirl74
Omg send it already! 😄
Sending something-whatever it is- should be a GIFT from you to him.

Who cares what he thinks if it's about giving and not receiving. Give coz you want to without any paranoia/assumptions/expectations
🙂

I'm a bit nervous because I need to text him to ask for his address. As I might have said, I met him at the start of the month last month, then close to the end of the month-he changed his profile photo on whatsapp to these two legs chilling on the grass, watching the sunset..one leg looks like it belongs to a girl..I don't know if it's a girlfriend, a friend, or just because he likes the photo.. That's what's been stressing me.. He couldn't have just gotten a girlfriend that fast. I don't understand..

So because of that damn photo, I've been too scared to text him.

I think u are getting in a bit of a panic coz you want a convo with him..

You are concerned that he doesn't respond enough to start a conversation via the texts you are sending.

You have also mentioned that it is tradition where u come from that whoever receives a new year card usually (has to) give/s one back. So the reason u want to send him one is to - like with the texting - get a response from him.

You are also worried that the girls leg in his photo could be a gf although u have no evidence to support this.

This is about you worrying that if you are not "present" in his life somehow then he will forget about you or "replace" you with another girl.

I get all the above coz in weak moments I have been there. The thing is that this guy has NO IDEA you are feeling like this; NONE WHATSOEVER. You are projecting insecurities onto him.

You're best bet is to chill, and view and treat him as if he was one if your regular friends..you will then (1) feel more confident and less angsty about contacting and asking him stuff, and (2) you will feel more "oh well" if you don't get the response you want.
Take the emotions out of it 🙂

Posted by AriesGirl74
I think u are getting in a bit of a panic coz you want a convo with him..

You are concerned that he doesn't respond enough to start a conversation via the texts you are sending.

You have also mentioned that it is tradition where u come from that whoever receives a new year card usually (has to) give/s one back. So the reason u want to send him one is to - like with the texting - get a response from him.

You are also worried that the girls leg in his photo could be a gf although u have no evidence to support this.

This is about you worrying that if you are not "present" in his life somehow then he will forget about you or "replace" you with another girl.

I get all the above coz in weak moments I have been there. The thing is that this guy has NO IDEA you are feeling like this; NONE WHATSOEVER. You are projecting insecurities onto him.

You're best bet is to chill, and view and treat him as if he was one if your regular friends..you will then (1) feel more confident and less angsty about contacting and asking him stuff, and (2) you will feel more "oh well" if you don't get the response you want.
Take the emotions out of it 🙂

Good Advice, but he still hasn't texted me :/ Busy with work probably? I mean..Christmas isn't considered a national holiday here so he had work 😢

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Posted by AriesGirl74
Omg send it already! 😄
Sending something-whatever it is- should be a GIFT from you to him.

Who cares what he thinks if it's about giving and not receiving. Give coz you want to without any paranoia/assumptions/expectations
🙂

I'm a bit nervous because I need to text him to ask for his address. As I might have said, I met him at the start of the month last month, then close to the end of the month-he changed his profile photo on whatsapp to these two legs chilling on the grass, watching the sunset..one leg looks like it belongs to a girl..I don't know if it's a girlfriend, a friend, or just because he likes the photo.. That's what's been stressing me.. He couldn't have just gotten a girlfriend that fast. I don't understand..

So because of that damn photo, I've been too scared to text him.

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your just trying to get him to start talking to you again and make it look like he initiated it. If you really want to send the card just do it, who would consider what he woudl do it but youd just be fine not knowing. just send it already and leave it for him to do what he sees fit for it.

Posted by Virgofem
Virgo here 🙂

I loathe and I mean loathe when someone writes or says hey. I have a name. If you don't want to outright ask for them address just write something else. Using his given name. Virgos don't play them 'who initiated what' game. Thats for others. If I like someone I'm going in and Virgos appreciate them same from others. Ask for them address. He will give it. He might add and btw I'm seeing someone so you send an appropriate card.

That's just it, I wrote him a few days ago saying "Hey (Insert name here) How are you doing? I'm writing new years cards, and is it ok if I send you one too?"

Not like I can just be too forward and be like "I need an address" I saw he read my message and hasn't gotten back to me yet. Either he was super busy with work (no days off for christmas) or he just didn't want to speak to me. I'd like to give him the benefit of the doubt..but I don't know.