Aries male falling for Virgo girl. I need help!

Hi all u amazing virgo girls I really need yr help, input & advice.

Me Japanese: Aries 1985 April 5th Ox almost 30 yrs old
She Japanese/Korean: Virgo/Leo cusp 1983 Aug 24th Rabbit 27 yrs old (More virgo than Leo)

This year mid Feb 15th met a wonderful female virgo at work. I work as a self employed event liaison middleman connecting high profile labels to my studio connections 4 hosting big scale events. She works at the studio as a secretary & assistant engineer. Our first encounter was at a event we were working which lasted 4 days straight. She would often make a cute comment to me and seemed to observe me from afar.
After that I started to mildly flirt with her, like little children. And she would return the same. I confidentially asked 4 her phone number she said yes. So i gave her my iphone, 10 mins later she gave it back to me. Shocked as she sent her full iphone profile contact info included her home address. After that event ended 4 days after we did another event together 4 another 4 days. This time she was sitting next to me as she was needed to push power point to the projectors. We would talk a little, then we started playing hangman. On slow time she then engage me asking me if I knew the mathematical brainy puzzles. This intrigued me. I felt like we were slowly magnetically attracted to each other. Cus she then started to hover around me. Sometimes getting in my space. One time I asked her 2 get me coffee, she came back with less sugar & told me I needed 2 reduce. I brought this DVD from a new band & she wanted to borrow it. So I lend it to her NP. She came back & said it was so cool. I said i'm going 2 there concert this year & invited her. Response was if ticket isn't expensive she go. I said well I'll buy u 1 then. Event ended.

We kept in touch on txt every other day. From start I would use her name or call her "Luv". One time she didn't respond for 5 days, then out of the blue she asked me in txt 2 help her find a replacement iPod touch that recently broke during the event. I said sure I look around. From a friend I was able to find a max latest iPod touch $ 20 cheaper than what she researched. From my knowledge its strange that a virgo would ask someone to help her as I know already she is very independent. And really good at researching deals on the web. I'm wondering if it was a excuse to text me. Anyways, I called her about the good news & said I can bring it to her when I visit the studio for meetings ect ect.

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And asked if she like 2 go to dinner with me after she finished work. She said yes. Talking to her on phone, tone of voice very happy & laugh even when I said no jokes.

I came by the studio on March 20th so it was around 1 month not seeing her. She got off work early. She first thought it was going 2 be like coffee or something cheap. I said I booked a Italian restaurant nearby and she was little surprised. She actually had plans to see 1 of her girlfriends later that night but cancelled it. We had a wonderful meal together & shared a few glasses of wine. It was like I was seeing this whole new girl, but talking felt like we known each other 4 many years. Her smile was genuine, her eyes were sooo soft like I could see a galaxy through them. Tone of voice was feminine like her guard was down & wasn't afraid to be her true self. Because, usually she would act a little tough tomboyish. Talk a little more cool & husky at work. For the first time in my life, I felt like she was my soul mate from all the material I've read. I never had a moment where I stopped to think, it just flowed back & forth like a movie. It was truly romantic. When she had to go home we kept talking all the way to the station & even got lost on a road I've took so many times. I felt fireworks in my heart. Like the feeling when u know u both are having a amazing time together & wish time would stand still in the moment. Before she got on the train I said I got the tour date for that concert on 6/21th. She told me she will open time for it & booked it in her schedule. After I got home the same night I texted her saying that I really enjoyed our dinner together. She responded right away with the same enthusiasm how much she enjoyed it too & thanking me. We exchanged afew more texts then said good night to each other.

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2 days after I texted her again inviting her to a dinner/music event with full course meal on April 11th. She responded a hour later telling me that it sounds awesome, but that she has a schedule on that date so attending would be hard. I texted her back saying I understand, no worries. Take care of yr family & friends they r important to U, so if have schedule don't cancel. We can make time for us on a better date.
After that I haven't got a txt from her for a week. I just texted her today with something simple to check in. Hi good evening (name) I hope u had a awesome week... Rabbit girl.

But I feel like it's all of a sudden gone cold! 😢
Was the karmic romantic time we spent together, too much that it overloaded her wires?
I know that she isn't probably use to having such a perfect date dinner. She is the type a little bit of a loner. Will go watch movies by herself in theaters. Doesn't have many guy friends. Mainly girlfriends from childhood. Closeness to her family. Loves cats and is very well educated and loves to read. lethargic on occasions.

She knows I'm very motivated in my life and my goals. And this year have been very fortunate and my career is taking off. And most likely start my own business and company. But i'm also a renaissance man and can cook make 200 cocktails and have a variety of hobbies. These are some of the things she knows, but there's much much more she don't know yet.

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There is so many things we can both do together that will be fun for both of us. But with this coldness, it gets me worried and my heart is now a roller coaster. Like all of a sudden a monkey wrench. I don't want it to end just when I feel like it's started something new and amazing.

We will definitely meet again in mid april for work and in the future to come as events are booked. But at the current moment it feels uncomfortable for me since she is ignoring my text. Did she get scared off? I don't want to lose this girl. The energy we had on our first date was like as if we were a couple in love. The eye contact, her responses and body language was like as if I was her amazing boyfriend and she felt like the happiest, luckiest girl in the whole world. I don't want her to feel confused or scared that it is wrong to feel, or be happy and enjoy life and the moment.

I need your help Virgo's as i'm now feel stuck in the middle. Also if u have any tips how I can turn down my own personal feelings for her since it's making me crazy. I really need to have my feelings match at her pace since it gets hard for me.

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Thanks Romz. Great to hear input from another Aries Ox.
Actually my clothes on the first date was casual but trendy. Straight fit jeans, tucked black Y-shirt studded belt and a stadium blazer. All new clothes. I smelled very good and fresh, and my hair was properly brushed with some wax. Very asian as we live in Japan. So style smell, also my eating manners are very good. Got those bases covered. Also rapport when i'm with her in person is always good. I'm always confident around her and can make her smile or laugh.
I'm weak the most is texting. Your right like u said how I want more control over the progress.
Would be nice in a timely fashion, but I really need much much more patience. And not care about silly texting. To be honest I actually hate texting as I see it killed old fashion way of asking girls on dates. Also I read texting alot kills attraction. Thanks for your advice.

Oh if it isn't my favorite match here 😄

What is it with Arians and events?

The hovering around you is what we do when we like someone. I really like the silliness with playing hangman and stuff..it's stuff like that where I relax around someone easily.

I would advise you against calling her "Luv" in messages..to me that seems friendly since we aren't dating so I might think you only see me as a friend.

Basically with a Virgo chick..we're pretty clueless beings.

2 ways to go about it:

1) State your interest upfront. Don't be vague.

2) Make a move on her.

^Anything other than the 2 ways above, she will overthink it and second guess it. And trust me, Virgo overthinking will always be slanted towards us assuming people are just friendly because we hate feeling like we intrude in someone's life.

You're an Aries. This should be a walk in the park for her. Ask her out again, figure out a way to see how she responds to touch (we're an earth sign)..not in a pervy way..you know like when you enter a room and hold a door open and guide her with your hand above her waist..see if she moves closer to you or not. And just kiss her.

a walk in the park for you*

Also..

http://sbioak.org/HOROSCOPE2/Linda-Goodman-Love-Signs.pdf<BR>
^pages 120 to 123

@ Layna Thanks for yr advice and insight. I think yr more self aware thou of feelings and the dynamics then the girl of my affection is. 😆
She's japanese but lived overseas for studies. Now mainly Japan. So we get along really well being multi-cultured ppl.
But I think relationships for her on bottom list, but secretly a hopeless romantic.
Atm I know she's ignoring me since we use LINE app for chat. And she uses it for work too. And if she read it, it mark as read.
We did have the consistant exchange of text thou before our first date. And more emotion invested ones right after the date. It got cold afew days after the date. And I think I might be rushing her. Now Im double texted. And its awkward. 😢
I think she now needs space. Because she not use to having such a karmic experience.
In Japan I know how these Japanese guys date. Too many 1 pattern easy/safe boring style. And she isn't use to going out with guys.
She actually don't like the type of places Japanese pubs that normally guys will take girls out on dates.
She quite conservative and speaks 3 languages, is highly intelligent and excels in intelligence level over most Japanese her age. But me don't want her to be alone or just give up and settle for a mediocre guy.
I'm the right guy for her, and yes thats my strong Aries side talking lol

How I view relationships. Want a girl to not only be her girlfriend but also best-friend and wing girl/ sidekick. Getting a girlfriend isn't end of a courtship, but beginning of new era that leads to marriage, in which a new beginning happens. And courtship should never end.

My early mid 20's i've had one nighters, bad match girlfriends, needy girlfriends. Girls with a bombshell body and face, but without chemistry it felt empty after sex. Now I'm soon 30 in april 5th this year. Work and career is great. My strong Aries side helps a lot for work. But I want more life balance and to share my success with the right girl and succeed together.
this girl isn't actually that pretty compared to other girls i've been with. But when I talk to her she is the most beautiful and cutest girl that gets to me. Sigh!

Thank you Damnata, I downloaded the PDF right now. Also gratitude for your point of view and insight.

I love Aries Men.

Update: Got a text! 🙂

She texted me the next day in the morning.
Was happy to hear from me. Layna you were right.
When I looked back from last week double text. I didn't leave much room in the context for her to respond easily.
What I learned was keep it simple and short & intelligent, and leave room for her to pass the ball back.

( After a week of no texting )

Me texted: "(Good evening) in korean, (Her Name) Puzzle is sent u, too easy. I think u need more challenge... Rabbit girl."
Her reply: "Morning, morning. 🙂 Yes the quest u gave me easy. Already figured it out! U have a great day! (My Name)."

I gave her a quiz quest after our first date saying if she solve the puzzle I buy her a ticket to the 6/21 concert. Which was the one she scheduled time for with me.

How I decipher her reply is that, yes she still wants to spend time with me and with a week of space was for her to settle & digest the karmic romantic dinner we had together. And that she is comfortable. And the courtship may continue, and I may proceed to the next adventure.
I gave her the quiz just to test her a little that yes, although i'm financially stable but not interested in making a daddy's girl. So getting her to work a little for it, and put in effort in the courtship.
I'm still old fashioned in like paying for dates as winners should be doing. But I don't mind if she wants to pay some also.

Stop texting, start calling.

Aries and any person they have an interest in:

Posted by magma

Posted by Damnata
Aries and any person they have an interest in:

So what's the problem, no eye contact?

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No problem for me. The less I overthink shit, the better. Rocks in the head help with that.

I know it was funny!

That's funny Damnata. haha

Fortunately with the virgo i'm courting we have very strong eye contact.
I've read something about the power of eye contact & and non-verbal communication. And that it's actually more important than spoken words.
When we both make eye contact, I'm usually very relaxed & feel good. Either I smile or a slight grin with my head slightly tilted.
She usually smiles, laughs & gets really relaxed & naturally open & talkative.
When she's around co-workers her tone of voice is usually masculine & a little cool.
I think Kim11180560 knows what I mean when I point out when a japanese female talks a little husky and cool.
I believe it's because when in public social atmosphere it's the female shield that goes up. The surface personality that protects the true self.
But when I went on our first date, the mask was off. Voice was feminine & relaxed. She never had a moment were she had to think of what to say.
We talked about our families, hobbies, some politics, horoscopes and various topics that superficial girls would find boring.
However, the whole time it was smiles and laughter. 🙂
When we were walking back to the station it was dark. When she turned around & looked into my eyes there was such a soft glimmering sparkle.
The most beautiful eyes I had ever seen. I swear I could see the whole galaxy in her eyes. It was so deep. Felt like were connected with our eyes on a spiritual level.
Some more interesting things is that our first date was on March 20th on the full lunar eclipse.
I'm not to familiar with it, but it's interesting that our schedules just happens to lock together on March 20th and everthing that day was like clock work.

Posted by Damnata
I love Aries Men.

Me too! BUT after awhile they always want things right now which turn me off. Slow burn is more me I guess. Amazingly I find that in my double cancer hubby.

😄

Haha thanks Scorched earth for noticing. She is Born on 1987 year of the rabbit.
If wondering why all the other virgo's probably didn't catch that mistake while they can spot a needle in a haystack. It's called the aries effect. It's how we manage to singe the tips of the virgins wings and her fall into the flames!