Cancer Male needs a logical mind

First time poster here and I come humbly before the Virgo forum for advice and counsel. I NEED a logical brain to tell me about my situation. My head and my heart are having a battle right now and right now my Cancer sun/Scorpio moon feelings are clouding my judgement.

So about four months ago I picked up a part time job to save for a new car. The first thing I noticed about this woman was just how beautiful and soulful her eyes are. So, in an unusual move for me I introduced myself, it went well she even gave me a nickname. We set off on the journey of getting to know each other at a slow but steady pace. I couldn’t tell if she like me back until she just started to hover around me. We started having lunch together every day, she would always find me alone just so we can talk and stare into each other’s eyes. Speaking of staring I’ve never met someone who stares as much as I do!!! I can’t count the number of times we’ve caught each other looking and we always smile and laugh about it. I’ve noticed she is shy when there is a crowd around but then she’s her normal self when we are alone.

This went one for a few weeks until one day while we were alone, I decided to just go for it, so I told her I liked her and invited her to dinner at this Italian restaurant we both wanted to try. She smiled and seemed to think about what to say. She said that she liked me and that there is something between us, however she right now is “technically” in a relationship. I told her I can accept that, but I can’t say that I wasn’t disappointed. It was awkward the rest of the night and I wondered if it was going to be awkward moving forward. Things between us haven’t changed we still have lunch, the staring and smiling, the hugs.

I just need a Virgo woman to tell me what they think is going on. I’ve started to talk to other women but I cant help but wonder what’s up with this situation.

What help do you want?

Well, clearly she likes you but you need to understand what this "technically in a relationship" means. And if that doesn't get sorted out fast, as appreciated her honesty is, you'll have to distance yourself because you will get involved in a messy situation. I say talk to her about it, see what's going on because this is kind of vague. And weird..i mean, if she says she likes you and there's something between you two, why hang on to someone else at the same time? You need more info

She is being honest about the situation. Good on her. You will have to have boundries up while getting to know her. No physical intamacy and watch her ques.

I would ask about the nature of the relationship/situation she is in. Just dating? Serious?, How long? Without prying into how she feels about him.

That info is her call and would taint your relationship as it stands if she starts venting about him.

Honestly if she isn't married, not committed/serious, no kids with him, or financial entangled it's her choice and you shouldn't feel guilty unless you press her beyond her comfort zone. She can choose if that later if that becomes a issue.



If you guys want to just stay friends to maintain the relationship, understand you two are curious and have chemistry. So don't get into compromising situations. If she is serious about her boyfriend and still wants you in her life, at some point you have to change your mindset about the nature of the relationship and meet the boy friend. This is a long term goal and requires zero insecurities from all parties or at the very least respect.