Confused

Been friends with this Virgo guy for a yr talked pretty much every day. we finally got together spent a few weekends together shared a lot of personal info about our lives and past relationships. Had sex it was great he was affectionate and cuddle made me feel amazing. I told him I liked him and he made made me happy just to spend time with him he seemed happy to hear that he said he thought about our lovely time together. But after our last weekend together when came time for me to leave he started to withdraw and now it's been weeks since I heard from him he won't answer my text. I text same ask did before and nothing. Like he don't want to be friends or nothing. He promised if he didn't want to be bothered he would say something. I'm confused his friendship means a lot to me he means a lot

Virgo's don't like to get attached to their feelings. And they don't like others to get attached to feelings for them. I'm not saying they don't feel ... of course they do. But, most people become dependent upon them, and then cannot manage to operate without their feelings being validated.

Just as you here, and many other people who come in here with the same complaint, in where the Virgo backs off, nearly disappearing right when everything seemed fine.

To be with a Virgo, you have to be completely secure with yourself, and have the ability to function in life without depending on them, emotionally. If he senses that you are needy for his approval, or if he thinks that you've become too comfortable in depending on him to validate your feelings for you .... then he'll bail on you ... every time.

And visa versa ... if he feels like he's beginning to become dependent ... same outcome.

It's so confusing for people because ultimately ..... the Virgo wants to serve you and your needs. And that's a stark contrast that they battle within them all the time. How can they make provisions for you if they can't find a way to deal with growing feelings of attached comfort in the other? When he wants to serve you, it's material things, comforts in life .. not emotions.

So, you have to find a way to need him, without it being an emotional need ... or he'll probably never come back fully.

Any updates since it's been 5 days already?

I hear they do this a lot... I think he has feelings for you and scared. back off don't text anymore and leave him be, carrying on with your life and work on forgetting about him though it may be hard. I have a feeling he will come back just not sure when, and when he does, try not to express any feelings for him, keep it casual and keep going. I know it's hard but slow as much as possible if you want to keep him around for the future. For now, try to press forward without him?

I have experienced this with a virgo guy too, we are identical and it would have been a wonderfull relationship but the sucker backed off after I showed a little interesed and told me he isn't looking for anyhting serious now. And I think he is also the player type, I mean some are just after the chase.

I dont know you guy but maybe he doesn't know what he wants and backed off to not hurt your feelings. I think you should just play things lightly, and show him that you are high value without opening this subject. He may change his mind. We that too. Or maybe he has other girls and it's waiting to see which is the best option

(Male) Virgo Sun, Cancer ASC.

I back off for a few reasons... if it's a girl I like I back off as a method of seduction.

If it's a girl I enjoy as a friend and don't see romantically I tend to chat with just for the sake of an outlet to talk to, but I'd avoid putting myself in a sexual situation with. This normally doesn't end well as the girl feels led on. Though some are quite pleased with starting a flirty friendship. In some cases they've falling in love with me... And sexual lusty attraction builds up. Those became a casual sexual relationship that's very brief.

The girls I fall for are typically very attractive and someone that I LOVE talking to. There's a balance between beauty and intellect that I adore. My mind is always racing so I love a girl I can open up to and discuss topics I wouldn't normally divulge; like occult studies, metaphysics, life's purpose etc.

This may be personal but if I'm playing the field and dating different girls I'm transparent about it. When I'm with a SO, I'm not a cheater. Meaningful sex with a SO that keeps me engaged causes me to put my all in the one girl. I still require some alone time, and I can often go days without texting or calling the girl I love. Understanding of this makes me head over heels.

That is so messed up!! So sorry this happened to you. I don't think I would have the strength to endure my friend disappearing, a lover yes...but a friend - no!