Controlling - normal or too much? (Page 2)

So an update:

He emailed me today saying "Miss you babe".

I didn't reply nor do I intend to.

Maybe he just means he misses not getting the chance to insult me.

and lol, to all those taunting me on how I am "desperate to be in a relationship" and yadda yadda.

Yes, you have the right to judge whatever you want on the basis of the posts.

Afterall, posting on a forum to hear a stranger's perspective is an act of desperation by itself so I don't blame you.

I have a pretty old phone. It shuts down randomly, gets hung up, storage problems -you name it. I have been repairing it for over 5 years now. Anyone, absolutely anyone, would have had discarded it and purchased a new phone a long time ago. But I didn't. I don't have financial problems, I can easily buy a new phone anytime but I always think "It's great majority of the times. I'll use it till its ultimate end of life". Same goes for my laptop. It's over a decade old and has many problems but I am a computer engineer so I have been repairing it myself and it works great 80% of the time and this is how it will be until it completely shuts down and nothing can restart it. Most of ya'll in my shoes would have brought a new laptop and a new phone long back when you'd have encountered some major issues. Some of ya'll would have not even given it for repair and would have straightaway discarded it.

My ability to love something till it's 100% exhausted is not my weakness or character of "desperation" but its understandable to come across that way in today's times where discarding something as opposed to giving your 100% to make it work is more common and more preferred because it saves time and energy and that's the easiest route.

Posted by gia

So an update:

He emailed me today saying "Miss you babe".

I didn't reply nor do I intend to.

Maybe he just means he misses not getting the chance to insult me.

Fuck that, he should try harder

lol. Neither are ya'll obligated to reply me here nor do I not have the right to post here if I am going through something. Thus, instead of lashing out at someone going through an emotionally tough time, ya'll could have simply ignored my post 🙂

PS- Apologies for wasting your precious time.

@emeraldgem, coming to your question. Ofcourse I do love myself. Which is why I haven't responded to his 2 emails which he sent to me today saying that he misses me.

Maybe you've not been through this or maybe you have. Even the strongest, most educated women can tend to lose sight of things when they go wrong.

I did see it eventually. Nowhere did i portray any sort of denial or defend his actions calling it normal.

Yes what i did ask for are ways to tackle an immature stubborn virgo who is otherwise a good guy.

That's all I had asked for.

But again, feel free to ignore and hop out. Absolutely no obligation.

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by gia

So an update:

He emailed me today saying "Miss you babe".

I didn't reply nor do I intend to.

Maybe he just means he misses not getting the chance to insult me.

You’re being aware of motivations.

Keep it strong

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yeah. He just emailed me again. 3 emails in less than 24 hours.

Funny how virgos treat you like crap when you're all over them but cling on you bad when you ignore and dgaf.

Not replying to this one too.

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by gia

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by gia

So an update:

He emailed me today saying "Miss you babe".

I didn't reply nor do I intend to.

Maybe he just means he misses not getting the chance to insult me.

You’re being aware of motivations.

Keep it strong

yeah. He just emailed me again. 3 emails in less than 24 hours.

Funny how virgos treat you like crap when you're all over them but cling on you bad when you ignore and dgaf.

Not replying to this one too.

He sounds like he’s not liking you being at his beck and call.

Controlling and losing it so buttering it up

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Yeah its funny. Funny how he sent the 4th email a minute ago.

1st email (24hrs ago) - miss you babe

2nd email(12 hours ago) - can't wait to see you soon (because he knows i'd come home for december break)

3rd email (an hour ago) - sent a sexy photo of me saying "come soon and hug your photographer" (he clicked that pic)

4th email (a minute ago) - sent another sexy photo of me saying "my sexy girlfriend "

I am so happy feeling total control of my emotions as opposed to jumping at his 1st email with excitement and replying him lovey dovey just like how I used to.

So he sent me 8 more emails last night.

5 emails of my photos which he had clicked. 2 emails of our photos.

Then in the 8th email he said - "please reply me else I'll think that you found someone else and you aren't coming back to me"

Then 4 hours later he created a fake gmail account and emailed me from that saying - "Can we please talk? Please talk to me love."

I replied an hour ago. I wrote a detailed email saying all the good things he has done for me and how I still love him but I dont like him anymore for who he has become with me listing out all the treetrunking crap he has pulled on me and so I am leaving him. I told him how he has been just manipulating me to control me just to satisfy his ego. I also confronted that him emailing me being all nice and sweet is again just manipulation to make me love him so that he can insult and pull crap on me again. I ended saying I wanted a mature healthy relationship but he makes me feel like I am involved with some spoilt teen and that he's not ready for a relationship.

He hasn't replied yet. I dont know if he'll reply or what he'll say but I feel light saying it to him.