Dating a Virgo guy but having uncertainty

Hello all,

I've been dating a virgo guy (moon in cancer) for about 3-4 months and we both live in different states. We never talked on the phone before and only communicate through text. Recently we had our first video chat on Skype for about 4 hours. I don't know if I feel about him the same way as before because he doesn't respond to his text as much. He still responds but sometime I would say something and he would not respond back. Perhaps he was busy or just didn't feel like talking but I like conversations that actually go somewhere and not just ending after a few sentences. Maybe I'm overthinking about it too much, I don't know. He has mentioned in the past that he is shy, but we have agreed to not be shy around each other anymore. Unlike many guys, he does not initiate. I guess I'm used to guys being assertive so I can't tell if this virgo guy is really trying or not. Most of the time he would text me out of nowhere that he misses me and I think half the time he was probably drunk when he was saying that. When we were video chatting on Skype, he seemed shy/quiet and most of the time he was just looking at me and smiling, which I thought was cute. I just like it when a guy randomly texts me and tell me about random things like a conversation with friends. I feel like we're not communicating enough and the fact that we live far apart there should be more time spent with texting, but not excessively.

What are your thoughts and inputs? Any suggestions?
Thanks.

Posted by JasonDeluca
It's kinda hard to have a relationship if you've never see eachother and only communicate via text. It's really kinda pointless because you really can't get to know him through a digital world.

I dunno, it seems to be casuing you some discomfort so why continue on this path? It's totally your free will to do what you want but is it realistic? I'm sure you can meet a nice guy that lives near you.

Forgive me if I sound like a downer but I don't get the whole long distance digital dating thing. We are humans and need intimate contact and I don't see how you can get that over an iphone.

sooooo, yeah, that's just my opinion.

Be Well-

It's not digital dating. We've seen each other before and we plan on seeing each other again.

Posted by moongirljj
I really like being a bearer of positive advice, but having had a serious long distance relationship I just can't imagine how you would ever make it work without really good communication, if it isn't there this early that is definite cause for concern.

Maybe he's not taking it that seriously yet because you haven't met or even spoken on the phone. But imho the only way a LDR will ever survive is if the connection is exceptional and even then you're up against massive odds. My long distance guy was actually a Cancer sun/virgo moon, we were pulled together because we just couldn't stop talking constantly, we very nearly made it down the aisle, but fate had other plans.

I do wish you luck though.

Thanks. I forgot to mention that we've seen each other before and do plan on seeing each other again. So that's why he's been confusing me and I'm not sure if I should ask about it because I don't want to scare him away.

Posted by TheMoodyVulcan
You're probably reading too much into it. If he was looking at you and smiling (a genuine smile and not fake anyways) for most of the conversation that's a big positive (sign of attraction). Virgos just don't feel like talking sometimes, or withdraw. You'll find a thousand posts complaining about that around here. The best thing you can do is to kick back, chill, and put your mind to work on something else.

Yeah, I'm probably thinking too much. I want us to be talking more but I don't always want to be the first to initiate the conversation. So I guess I'll just put my mind somewhere else like you said, and let him talk to me when he feels like it? I just hope this problem doesn't last too long otherwise I might lose my feelings for him.