Desperately Needing Advice on Virgo Males Signals

I have come on here, because I really need advice.

I have met a Virgo online, and we have been messaging each other for awhile now, and then started talking on skype. I have strong feelings for me, and I thought he did at the beginning.
Now, he seems to have gone cold on me. I can't figure out whether he doesn't want to talk to me, or whether he is masking his feelings.
There is a 10 yr age diff between us, I am older. This is why I can't tell him how I feel about him.
I don't know if I should persist in messaging him - or whether I should completely forget about him (that would break my heart) - or whether I should make known to him how I feel about him.

Is it just Time and Patience, and he does it in his own time and own way?

Also, would a third party help in this situation? eg. asking his friend for advice on what i should do.

btw, I am a Scorpio

Im sorry I meant strong feelings for him. *sigh*

I have never encountered a virgo before, and I don't get Virgo's signals at all?

LovelyTune, He is probably distracted fome something else, or he found someone else online. If you wanna send messages to him, be humorous and uplifting and never give up. Be competitive and make him realise that youre a special one among other women. Virguys are receptive ones, the more you show youre into him, he will give in eventually.
Keep your spirit up all the time when you talk to him. You mentioned that youre older than him, so make him think that youre more mature than him and its hard to get you down. Make him respect you showing that youre more clever than him. If you dont see much energy in yourself to be truly genuine toward him, just give up. Good luck.

I would have to agree with the consensus that online a person can portray themselves to be something they are not in real life, you have no way of really knowing that he is who he types himself to be. Even if he sent you pics, you still don't know if they are him.

Something I find really curious about your post, is that you suggested that the reason why you can't tell him how you feel, and all, is because you are 10 years older than him ..

.. this leads me to believe that you are the one hiding something from him and not the other way around. It leads me to believe that you have portrayed yourself to him to be a different person than you actually are.

why else would you say ...

"There is a 10 yr age diff between us, I am older. This is why I can't tell him how I feel about him."


What does age have to do with feelings?

You told him you were younger, didn't you?

"There is a 10 yr age diff between us, I am older. This is why I can't tell him how I feel about him."


Or, perhaps the age difference is like .... 25 and 15 .. so this is why you can't tell him how you feel.

Thanks for all of that. I so appreciate it.
We have been talking over skype, so I do believe who he says he is. As much as possible I guess.
I felt I couldn't tell him how I feel because I might come across as too pushy, and especially considering my age. I'm not entirely sure why that is, I kinda feel the guy, in this situation should take the initiative. And considering everything said about Virgo that would seem to make sense.
Would a virgo appreciate me telling him how I feel? or would that scare the pants off a him?
I thought I might send him another pm, but I don't know if I should tell him I want to be 'serious' about this relationship, or whether I should be super casual, and not think much of it.
Im 30, he's 20.
I'm a scorp, and when I know someones right, I just know, and I then want to get something started. I don't need to waste time wondering about it. But I get the feeling these virgos are not like that at all. I feel as if I have to do something.... to make it happen, or move it along.
How on earth do you know if they like you? I'm so upfront, I would just say it!
you people are so helpful, thanks so much.

sorry... no he does know how old I am. He knew at the beginning. so I don't know if that is a problem...

yer, I know its hard trying to get to know each other online. But I didn't even mind if there was just some honesty about any shared feelings - even if we couldn't do anything straight away.
I think im hoping for too much. But on the other hand, I don't want to give up when there might be some sort of chance.

You are one cool chic. but hey you are a scorp, and you know stuff 🙂

this is what I worked out. I play it real cool. I do not let my heart get involved at all. I just be his friend, I give him friend signals. I will have this mindset; Under no circumstances will I think that he wants more than just friendship. I will be calm and detached, yet charming - flirty. Im not making 'extra' effort to call or pm.
He's rang me twice... haahaha. but still I am not letting my heart get involved! I'm worth someone chasing me! or at least calling me.
Until he says he wants more from me, I'm just gonna view him as a friend.
I'll keep you posted.

yes, I would love to meet him. Maybe one day.

as well, I'm not too fussed by age. i don't think it matters much anymore. I'm pretty good for my age, and he seems mature.

and for some reason, I want HIM to be the one who says something first. Then I will know for sure if there is something 'happening' or not, and its not one of my crazy fantasies.

thanks again, you are very helpful.

do you go out with a virgo?

Eagle sees everything ahead, but virgo cannot!! Keep this in mind.

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HAHAHAHA
FS: you are cracking me up!

I mean, you seem to have learnt all about virgos..

up as friends is much healthier than starting up as lovers. You will have more chances that he gets to know you better before things change to lovers.
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but, even after years of friendship and then later changing it to "lovers" state, does not gurantee any thing. They can flip at any time.

Always remember, they are "flexible" so they can change at point of time.

thanks.

These guys seem real hard 😢 are they really that tuff to get? Are they scared of something? ... making a mistake?

lol highseas --- touche

thanks all.

hey, HighseasDrifter, you type and sound just like the guy I'm talking about! its amazing. That's just how he talks, and such perfect typing. Yeah, he would have the same attitude too.
But even so, you didn't give me any straight out advice...?
I do kinda agree with stringsattached; he might be scared of falling in love - could this be true?
It gets a little hard talking to him sometimes. I feel as if he wants to say something to me - more than just cas conversation. Is it really difficult for him to say how he is feeling... or are they shy. Once he knows how he really feels would he just say it.

I'm sure her, as well as anyone who chooses to read threads where Virgo's speak ... don't really need to have any more questions answered.

It's obvious that you all just LOVE to fight, even with each other.


None of you can actually "hear" any voice except your own

I have never encountered a virgo before, and I don't get Virgo's signals at all?

I must ask w/out reading this whole thing as i dont have time, if you dont "get" him, or his signals, then what makes you think a relationship w/any depth would work, one worth having, does not take a microscope, JMO


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That was awsome! But I don't know if it was really helpful.

I think I'm in love with HighseasDrifter! but no, are you a guy? cuz you really sound just like the guy I like.
don't worry about the crap you get,

oh yeah, and HighSEas if you are a chic, Im sorry. but still, you sound pretty sexy.

hahaha, thanks

You're not him, are you? ....man, that would be bad....

hehhe, sorry, you have been helpful. I was kinda referring to all the arguing and debating.

please don't take offense 🙂

and yeah, I wouldn't say no to therapy.... any therapy! 🙂


and to add, Im sick of my heart being screwed over. It will not happen - well, as long as I can help it.

I've been reading her posts, and others, like yours, and PAngel seems pretty smart about virgo stuff. She's married to one, she says.

I don't think I need therapy - yet! haaha.

With this virguy Im just thinking we are friends until he says otherwise. Its the only way to save my heart from being broken.
But Highseas said I could let him know I like him, so maybe that involves a third party... maybe dropping a word or something into his ear.

LT, sorry, I'm actually cracking up . . . but, you poor thing . . . I can see you sitting there running across all these guys that sound like your VirGump on web forums and unconsciously wondering, "Is that him? Is that him?"

Makes me think of the story book: "Are You My Daddy?"

yer, thats a worry. But I don't think he would be on this site, he's not really into horoscopes. I don't even think he knows he is a virgo.... haahaha. I don't like to bring up starsigns and all... sometimes I think it makes them suspicious.

Its sad, but I do go for the articulate typer. His voice is great as well. damn, its a pain - I really like him.

yer tell PA to come on here, and talk to me - help me understand.... help me with my, what could turn into, my broken heart.

Oh my f-ing gawd ...

Alright Strings, I just read this. You are right girl, I missed a big blow-out! But I'm happy I wasn't around lol, this was a bit crazy. HAHAHAHAHA!!!! now I understand even more why you stated that to Shaka 😄

Yeah, he does't give much thought to those who defend him 😄 ****** I meant that in good humor by the way 😉

See, I knew what I said on a previous thread was right, just by reading this shows that I was right *slaps the back of her head*

P-Angel got it right off the bat.

If you are hiding your feelings because of the age difference, most likely he detected that and got turned off.

And when I Virgo gets turned off, it's hard to turn back on.

Be DIRECT and STRAIGHTFORWARD. No hiding, no games.

He knows about the age difference, and I didn't think it was that. Unless he's spent along time brooding over it.
I would love to be direct and straightforward, and I usually am, but in this case I'm not going to lay my heart on the table if he's not interested at all. His friendship is more important to me, than him knowing how I feel and then walking away.

yeah, thats what Im thinking - just protect myself. Im getting the feeling you can't really see these signs/guys as anything more than just friends. They have to first give some strong obvious indication they are interested in taking it further.

Yes, thanks for all the advice. I really appreciate it all. We are becoming good friends, and I like that. If nothing else, we will always be friends. well thats what im hoping anyway.

but _ understand from all the posts _ read here that if your virgo is not a passionate type he may wait for ages even if he is in love with u if he cant see an exact signal from u that indicates that u love him. these guys are really hard to deal with.