Does it mean break up?

My Virgo girl has disappeared for more than a week as we had a fight. One day before the fight she still told me she loves me and after that blocked me in all communication apps and I have no way to find her. Does it mean break up or what should I do? I'm so confused.

We live in different countries.
She is really really busy and we don't talk much each day, I am ok with it and be there whenever she is free to talk.
That day she asked me to travel with her to Spain which she has to attend a conference there. But it's somehow weird that she actually cant spare time with me in Spain. So I have to go there, sightseeing on my own and meet her at night time. So I refused.
Then I suggested to visit her in any coming weekend, she said can do in late Oct (she is so packed until Oct).
I was somehow mad as I have been waiting all the time since we have been together. I told her let's meet end of year then.
She was mad as she thought we will meet in Oct then I told her I am tired to fit in her schedule.
She never reply since then.

Possibly? The real question is, if you live in different countries, and won't even see each other until October, how is this relationship even working? Are one of you planning on moving eventually?

I hate long distance relationships. It leaves all this space for doubts and plays into all my tendencies of disappearing when overwhelmed, confused, and angry.

Well anyway to answer your question. The only times I've ever dumped someone by disappearing, and cutting all communications is when I was very young and didn't believe we had an "actual" relationship to officially quit.

As long as she sees this as a proper relationship, she should eventually come out of hiding. Either to act like she didn't disappear for a week or two, or to dump you. I doubt she'll end it with no words said at all though.....

Posted by afson
We live in different countries.
She is really really busy and we don't talk much each day, I am ok with it and be there whenever she is free to talk.
That day she asked me to travel with her to Spain which she has to attend a conference there. But it's somehow weird that she actually cant spare time with me in Spain. So I have to go there, sightseeing on my own and meet her at night time. So I refused.
Then I suggested to visit her in any coming weekend, she said can do in late Oct (she is so packed until Oct).
I was somehow mad as I have been waiting all the time since we have been together. I told her let's meet end of year then.
She was mad as she thought we will meet in Oct then I told her I am tired to fit in her schedule.
She never reply since then.

I don't get it. She's going to spain for work - how can you then expect her to spend the days with you? She is apparently willing to spend the evenings and nights with you. If you don't want to go, that's ofc fine, but... Her suggesting that you meet in spain tells me that she wants to see you...and then telling you that she has no time to see you until october tells me that she was hurt by your refusal.

After only a week, I wouldn't take it as a break-up, just her being mad. But there has to be a limit, ofc, and I personally don't think games like the one she is playing with blocking you everywhere is okay in a LDR(or any other relationship, but especially not in a LDR one.). The key to a successful LDR is, imo, communication and she is screwing that completely. If she wants to break up with you, I think she should friggin tell you. *smh*

Posted by afson
We live in different countries.
which she has to attend a conference there. But it's somehow weird that she actually cant spare time with me in Spain. So I have to go there, sightseeing on my own and meet her at night time. So I refused.

If she has to attend a conference that means her day will be packed and she can only have free time during the evenings because that's how it goes when you attend an event.

If I was in her place and you told me you refuse based on not having time with me through the day I'd be like "Hello? I want to see you, this is the time in which I can see you...I know it won't be much" and then to see the other party have a "Well if you can't forsake the time with this conference for me, then I refuse" mentality/temper tantrum is a red flag. You're coming across as selfish and I'm sure you think she's the one being selfish.

She might be under a lot of stress with time. If one partner has a rough time with many obligations, then it's up to the other partner to be supportive and not have a "oh I can't fit in your schedule" mindset. You'd adapt because if the shoe was on the other foot, you'd want your partner to be understanding of your schedule..you don't seem to care about that maybe because yours isn't packed.

I wouldn't go as far as not reply for days but I would think it through because to not be understanding adds to my plate and it turns you into a liability.

To add, I've never cut communication with a partner unless I reached the point where nothing I say registers to them, I see them as entirely selfish and entitled. That or your tone is always accusatory, always riled up. If you're not supportive the way I am of you...then you're substracting from my life, not adding to it. It really takes a lot for Virgos to walk away so I think she's just walking it off and trying to figure another way to make you see how her schedule is tight.

But she's not I so she might just not give a shit and be a total control freak. That doesn't remove the part you play btw.

It sounds to me that both of you are acting entitled.

You refuse to compromise with her because you can't get your way

She refuses to compromise with you because she can't her way



my advice to you is: break up with her for good, and then grow up before attempting a partnership, which btw, requires you to be considerate of each other