Enlighten me Virgo's... (Page 2)

Posted by scorpvixen
I'm not side stepping anything @P-Angel, until reading these responses, I will admit I was clueless to my part in being a dick. i don't get this insinuating business either about the drunk text? I think you are over thinking things. I wasn't putting any blame on him, it was my way of starting conversation (be it a strange way to do so but fuck, I'm not trying to pass the buck here). I'm not trying to be innocent either, if I were I'd be oblivious to my wrong doings and wouldn't even be on this site asking for advise. I don't understand what is wrong with me saying "I like the kid"? What would you rather I say? That's how I genuinly talk.

I believe you. I think you are socially awkward and probably emotionally deep but very reserved, to the point of even being reserved about revealing your true feelings anonymously to a message board of strangers who want to help you. I used to get the line about being hot and intimidating, scary even, odd for a Lib rising. Venus Scorp is the most dominant placement in my chart. I think you two are both shy, so in a way would probably be really nice together.. if you ever manage to get together. I do wish the best for you but I'm afraid you have pushed him away and a Virgo is a complicated yet beautifully simple man, somehow sumultaneously. I dont know how you might be able to fix this. I speak from experience.. even with my husband, I have to spell it out for him, "husband, let's have sex." But at the same time i cant be to direct, that scares him. In the past it's been challenging because I'm naturally so reserved w my emotions that he literally hasn't believed I'm into him. And he's emotionally shy as well. It's taken a long time for us to fully open up to one another. But it's so amazing and so worth it.

Posted by scorpvixen
@duchesslibro - thank you for sharing your relationship story.

It's not that I could take him or leave him, I just don't want to become too invested and find out that after all of this that he's not interested anymore.

Should I give him some time to cool down and just send him a friendly message to let him know he's been on my mind and follow up with him to see how he is or wait till he's ready to talk to me?

I need to think about it and get back to you. 🙂

You are right @duchesslibro I am emotionally reserved. I'm not sure about socially awkward. Face to face I am fine and pretty out going, but through text etc, yes I am awkward. See that's the thing, I read that you have to spell it out to them but on the same token, don't be too forward as it scares them off, so I feel kind of damned if I do and damned if I don't. Thanks for your advise though 🙂

Ok, gotcha. Well honestly you need to be straight up with him. Put your cards on the table. If you just casually text like hey I'm sort of thinking of you but no big deal.. he's going to literally think exactly that. That he's no big deal to you. At this point you'd need to let him know that you've realized how vague you've been and understand how that could be confusing for him. Like previously said, my Virgo at least is very reasonable and gives chances for redemption. Some won't. Maybe you've got one of the nice ones. 🙂

Sorry @P-Angel I didn't see your other responses. That was just nice to hear that he had some kind of feelings towards me, I wasn't sure as he doesn't open up much. I'm not trying to string him along.

@Octoberbaby91 - yeah I can see how my behaviour is wishy washy, But at the time I don't feel like I am being wishy washy. If you want to catch up, great let's catch up. If you're busy then no problem, let me know when you are free! I know it takes two to tango and he shouldn't have to always be the one to initiate catching up but I know he works a lot and away sometimes so I thought it was easier for him to let me know when he was available so I wasn't bothering him

@duchesslibro - thank you. I did text him yesterday about catching up and got no response so I'm not sure if he's lost interest or is just assessing the situation. If I send another message the very next day will I be bothering him? Should I leave it a couple of days?

Hmm.. idk. How long has it been since you've seen eachother in person? Spoken by text or phone call? What are his other placements? Moon, Venus, Mars, Mercury? And what exactly are yours for that matter? Help us understand more. Are you sure you really like this guy? When I got the feels for hubs I went borderline- stalker. It's not really something that I had control over, like I didnt consciously think Oh if I get into it with him there's no going back. We were doing this friend acquaintance thing and then hung out alone one night and BAM, duchesslibro immediate obsession. Thank heavens he wanted to marry me, lol

We saw each other last Thursday so it has been a week. My placements are as follows -
Sun - Scorpio
Rising - Aquarius
moon - scorpio
Mercury - Scorpio
Venus - Sagittarius
Mars - Libra
Jupiter - Cancer
Saturn, Uranus and Neptune - Capricorn
Pluto - Scorpio

His
Sun - Virgo
Rising - Sagittarius
Moon - Libra
Mercury - Libra
Venus - Libra
Mars - Virgo
Jupiter - Cancer
Saturn, Uranus & Neptune - Capricorn
Pluto - Scorpio

See I'm such a realist that I look at it like it is only early days so I mean I like him but its not obsessive. I don't like people often, so to me taking an interest in him is a big deal. Not saying (before P-Angel starts on me) that he should feel grateful that I am taking an interest, just that when I do like someone I'm stuck between wanting to pursue it and thinking that things that are meant to be will happen organically. The part of me that wants to pursue it is the part that awakens in me because I don't find myself interested in someone often so I get a little overwhelmed with the fear and excitement of where things could go.

Posted by scorpvixen
If I wasn't remotely interested in him then I wouldn't have made this thread. I'm trying to get a better understanding of where his head is at but on the same token, I don't want to be chasing him if he's not interested.



@SpinCycle - how long have you and your Virgo been seeing one another? It just seems this constant communication barrier is always up. Neither wants to bother the other and both have a busy schedule that it makes communicating difficult and things to be easily misread.
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The virgo and I are just in the dating stages. He claims I am his girlfriend but that is just him talking..he knows until I say so we are just dating. I mean in some way shape or form he has to know you are interested in order to move to the next level. Then some time there..showing you care want to enhance his life etc...then another level. As P Angel always preaches they need to be lead. So get to leading...stop expecting him to do everything...he won't put up with that for long.

Posted by scorpvixen
We saw each other last Thursday so it has been a week. My placements are as follows -
Sun - Scorpio
Rising - Aquarius
moon - scorpio
Mercury - Scorpio
Venus - Sagittarius
Mars - Libra
Jupiter - Cancer
Saturn, Uranus and Neptune - Capricorn
Pluto - Scorpio

His
Sun - Virgo
Rising - Sagittarius
Moon - Libra
Mercury - Libra
Venus - Libra
Mars - Virgo
Jupiter - Cancer
Saturn, Uranus & Neptune - Capricorn
Pluto - Scorpio

See I'm such a realist that I look at it like it is only early days so I mean I like him but its not obsessive. I don't like people often, so to me taking an interest in him is a big deal. Not saying (before P-Angel starts on me) that he should feel grateful that I am taking an interest, just that when I do like someone I'm stuck between wanting to pursue it and thinking that things that are meant to be will happen organically. The part of me that wants to pursue it is the part that awakens in me because I don't find myself interested in someone often so I get a little overwhelmed with the fear and excitement of where things could go.

Again if your not able to take that risk...then you don't need to date. Your either going to win or lose...but you won't know unless you stop this second guessing yourself.

Very true @SpinCycle

I wrote a whole long thing but my phone glitched and i lost it. Sorry. Basically, i can see why you are attracted to eachother, fun times, good conversation probably. And you are more emotionally detached on the surface than the average Scorp (who is likely just simply reserved) because of Asc Aqu so that makes sense why you seem kind of aloof about the whole thing. My main concern is your moon & mercury. I think with as much Libra as he has in his chart you may eventually find it irritating and disingenuous. Your moons (emotional self) don't particularly enjoy eachothers company. Your Mercurys don't communicate well. It seems like you two could spend ages making simple decisions. I don't see long term potential. I don't think this guy has what it would take to satisfy you emotionally. I think you're right, you should probably move on to someone who things flow more easily with.

Thanks @Duchesslibro. It's funny because the only time things feel organic is when we are in each others company. We just get along, have good conversation, tease each other and joke around but as mentioned before, it is only early days so maybe that would slowly disintegrate as time went on (as you said, due to our moons). Thanks for your advise 🙂

I think you would make awesome friends actually!