gay or straight?

So I was at a cosmetics counter at Macy's playing with make-up and the guy working the counter was super, nice, super helpful, etc. The quick stop turned into an hour long eyeshadow exploration extravaganza with the guy behind the counter 🍹, his friend (J) and myself.

Because they were out of the color I wanted to get, I ended up leaving without buying anything. As I was going, D insisted that I take a bag with a sample and a card that listed the colors I had liked. I look inside my purse this morning and, lo and behold, find that he wrote his home phone number on the card with my colors.

What does this mean?

First of all, he's great and I'm definitely going to give him a call. Before I do, though, I want to figure out if he's gay or straight because that's going to impact the whole mindset I approach the phone call with.

Problem #1: gay or straight?

gay: thinks Maroon 5's Adam Levine is cute, speaks sort of "gay", works at a make-up counter, met his friend J (who is a cross-dresser/performer) at a cross-dressing show

straight: gave me his phone number on a card rather than asking me straight out, kept on staring into my eyes, held up the very long Christmas shopping line to give me a new lipstick to try (a nice thing that most people in retail don't do)

Problem #2: How do I call him? Sorry for being stupid, but I now appreciate a bit more what guys have to go through. I've never called a man after getting his number. How do I start the conversation? Any tips?

You can't just start to get close to a person after you talked to them for an hour. Then you mostly talked about cosmetics. So I would say not to even bother calling. You barely know the guy because it takes a little more than an hour to get to know someone. He's probably metrosexual too. He probably gave you his phone based on your looks and not on your personality.

Problem #2: How do I call him? Sorry for being stupid, but I now appreciate a bit more what guys have to go through. I've never called a man after

Oh thats easy!
Put on your low, sexy, buttery late night voice and say
"Hey baby...what ya wearing...."

If he askes the same of you, respond with
"Nothing..." or "Ice Cream...".

Okokokok in all seriousness, that first phone call is always a fun one. 🙂
When it feels like a good time, just pick up the phone (Don't hesistate), dial the # (Don't second guess yourself), and go with it.

Given scorp's and Ms. P's comments, I think some clarification may be in order... I'm not talking about sleeping with him yet. I'm not talking about dating him. It's just a phone call. I want to get to know him better. That's all. Whatever develops from there will be it's own topic I'm sure.

I'm just asking to get my own head on straight. I feel compelled to categorize. Cut me some slack.

Therein lies the dilemma... Confused gay guy... Super hot metrosexual...

I actually got some good advice from a friend - don't worry about it before the call. Be friendly and chatty. If he's interested, he'll take pains to establish his sexuality. If he wants to become friends, he'll start talking about his ex-boyfriend.

why not just go back there and talk to him again face to face instead of on the phone?

And I wasn't talking about having sex with him either. I was talking about getting close to him emotionally.

It's Wednesday. Time for me to fall in love again.

I think you need to ease off a little on pursing guys. You're pretty much a cheetah chasing down anything that looks like a meal.

"He probably gave you his phone based on your looks and not on your personality."

No, no. It was my personality. You want to trust me on that. 😛

Just because you don't want to be lonely for a long period. Doesn't mean you should push your sense of judgment out of the way. Think about this, you're in the desert searching for water. Then you see what looks like water up ahead of you. You run over with all your willpower. Then fall face first on the water which turns out to be a mirage. You'll just be back to the realization of being parched, your thirst not being quenched, and you got fooled. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

He's probably not gay since he gave his number to you.

Take a chance and discover him? gay or not.. you'll be the only one to find out..

Gays are not dangerous? dam REDNECKS are?!

Primepig and quo vadis was a fine example of rednecks..!

Thank god those bitches are gone!

>Problem #1: gay or straight?

Or Bi-Sexual? Kinsey found, way back in the 1940's, that it's not as simple as GAY or STRAIGHT. He figured it this way, on a scale of 0 - 6, 0 being completely Straight, 6 being completely Homosexual, 3 being completely Bi-Sexual.

He could be a 0, maybe a 1? Hopefully not a 5, heh.

Why not get to know him better? I'd go back to his workplace if I were you. Chat him up a little... and invite him out for coffee after his shift?

perhaps he'll be more comfortable over the phone. I'll bet he's already rehearsed what he's gonna say when you call. Talk about them colors. spin you web....aaaahaa

Argh! He's gay gay gay gay!! So f***ing embarrassing. Thank god I found my happy place inside before I called.

First of all, gay men are completely capable of having crushes on straight women. I have a few close gay male friends and when I go to gay nightclubs with them, the other gay guys there get a little "handsy" sometimes..lol, cuz they can get away with it. Two of my gay male friends had crushes on me at one point. I didn't realize that they were hitting on me when they were because I knew they were gay, but they told me later on. My response was "Wha..?! But you're gay!"

They tell me that gay guys can have crushes on females from time to time, but it's not the same kind of crush as a straight male crush. Straight males will look at a woman and think about banging her, how big her boobs are, etc. For a gay male, it is not about sex but about deeply admiring the woman's beauty, style and personality. One of my gay male friends explained it best when he told me that he once fell in love with a girl because she was the kinda girl that he'd want to be if he was born one. My friends are great guys and they can love the way that I dress, but getting into a relationship with one would be a waste of time...they'd start missing one important thing that I don't have 😉

I wouldn't read too much into this guy putting his number in your bag. Make-up artists and hair dressers do that all the time when they want repeat business or for you to refer your friends to them. If this guy was gay and found you interesting, he wouldn't have had a problem asking you outright for your number and would've expressed interest in wanting to get together to hang out or do more beauty stuff. This guy could be bi-sexual and interested in dating you, but I'd say he's definitely NOT completely straight.

Aww, V-lady I just now saw your other post...

So what was it...did he have the gay guy crush or did he just want repeat business or what?

You haven't considered bisexuality? and besides going after your first post you sound like a frigid woman among whom I hope I never come across. I will tell you this - what I did some years ago, attractive blonde Norweigian girl at the counter - well I had seen her before and was attracted to her we worked in the same mall so I knew where she worked, I didn't know her sign or anything about astrology back then probably Aquarian when I reminisce now. I remember buying something gorgeous I think it was a watch, what I did was I asked her - told her - lied to her that I have a girlfriend that looks similar to her and whether she could recommend something - she did and I bought it and if I remember correctly the next day I think so I took it back to her store gift wrapped and handed it over to one of her coworkers for her, no sex, no love no pussy.

Why is this even a question? The man is clearly gay. Trust me.


I have several gay friends who give the impression that they are madly in love with me. Which, they are...just not in a romantic way. One even wants my babies. lol

1) One hour at the counter.

2) You are wasting his time - he works on commission baby.

3) He leaves his number for you - and you are cold and apprehensive.

4) Reeks of frigidity I hope I never come across a woman like you.

You sound like a stand offish frigid stupid manipulating fuck bitch - and a very PRETENTIOUS one - why would you spend one hour with a worker (hourly wage) that works on commission and doesn't have the product that you need? You are a nightmare. If you don't believe in salesmanship why are you in a mall in the first place?

She must suspect all salesmen as being fags which is why she doesn't wanna fuck around she could just get down on her knees and give her dad some pleasure inbred fuck.

>you gotta be kidding me....he said the guy was "cute" Ive never in my entire life heard a straight male call another guy "cute"

Yeah, that is pretty weird = (

I've never had a problem acknowledging a good looking dude. But I always say "man, that's one hansom son of a bitch, if I were that good lookin, I could have any gal I wanted!". LOL.

But "cute"? or "Hot"? It puzzles me to this day how a man can look at another man and go "whoa, sweet". I just don't get it... but I accept that it's simply how gay dudes feel, so that's the way it is. "shrug"

But its a question about salesmanship and that's a woman right?

Fascinating topic though considering the juxtaposition between a Virgo and a salesperson. Free world baby don't call him if you don't wan't to.

Not at all I'm a Gemini - not unless you put your gun in my head a shoot it, if you don't know about the Gemini sign you don't know capital K anything about astrology - you're here cuz you're bored that's all. That woman will learn her lesson 33 - menopausal in a few years she will learn, she must have spent her whole life being impotently hyper critical about everything - for well nothing. I'm a worker man (I don't know about any of you people who might be affluent bourgouise but I'm a worker) and I will not tolerate an impotent condescending pretentious menopausal skank trying to STEAL my time for absolutely nothing - fuck you bitch.

You fucking guys cracking me up...
gay or straight? Lmao... lmao?

I told you.. goddamn mother fucker rednecks you should be aware of. gay or straight?

lmao.