@inside
11 Years
Sex or more?
Erm... Speaking for Myself...
If i just want sex i won't intro you to friends or family or coworkers. Same token i won't want to meet yours.
It will be us having sex and a good time with each other. I won't want to do more.
With me, I start asking to spend more time with my flame. I get clingy. I start spending money. I use the bathroom with the door open.
Posted by SunMoonStars
Erm... Speaking for Myself...If i just want sex i won't intro you to friends or family or coworkers. Same token i won't want to meet yours.
It will be us having sex and a good time with each other. I won't want to do more.
yup. I take my cues from the guy tho. If I feel like he is distant or not calling. I wont press. I will keep it bout the sex. I probably wont even make eye contact.
Posted by SunMoonStars
Erm... Speaking for Myself...If i just want sex i won't intro you to friends or family or coworkers. Same token i won't want to meet yours.
It will be us having sex and a good time with each other. I won't want to do more.
Thank you! )
Soo, apart from hanging out and meeting close people will tenderness outside bedroom (like kissing hands/nose/forehead; caressing), cuddling while watching the movie or looking at stars or just sleeping together in one bed be positive signs?
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Posted by SunMoonStars
Erm... Speaking for Myself...If i just want sex i won't intro you to friends or family or coworkers. Same token i won't want to meet yours.
It will be us having sex and a good time with each other. I won't want to do more.
Thank you! )
Soo, apart from hanging out and meeting close people will tenderness outside bedroom (like kissing hands/nose/forehead; caressing), cuddling while watching the movie or looking at stars or just sleeping together in one bed be positive signs?click to expand
nope those are definite signs hes not interested
Posted by DMV
With me, I start asking to spend more time with my flame. I get clingy. I start spending money. I use the bathroom with the door open.
And what about the bathroom door thing?) Does it represent more intimacy and trust? Was wondering why did he do the same..
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Posted by inside
Posted by SunMoonStars
Erm... Speaking for Myself...If i just want sex i won't intro you to friends or family or coworkers. Same token i won't want to meet yours.
It will be us having sex and a good time with each other. I won't want to do more.
Thank you! )
Soo, apart from hanging out and meeting close people will tenderness outside bedroom (like kissing hands/nose/forehead; caressing), cuddling while watching the movie or looking at stars or just sleeping together in one bed be positive signs?
nope those are definite signs hes not interested
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not interested in what? 🙂
Posted by inside
Posted by DMV
With me, I start asking to spend more time with my flame. I get clingy. I start spending money. I use the bathroom with the door open.
And what about the bathroom door thing?) Does it represent more intimacy and trust? Was wondering why did he do the same..
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Its my upbringing really. I just felt comfortable around him enough to not close the door.
Posted by DMV
Posted by SunMoonStars
Erm... Speaking for Myself...If i just want sex i won't intro you to friends or family or coworkers. Same token i won't want to meet yours.
It will be us having sex and a good time with each other. I won't want to do more.
yup. I take my cues from the guy tho. If I feel like he is distant or not calling. I wont press. I will keep it bout the sex. I probably wont even make eye contact.
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how do you keep from feeling used or weird when the sex is over? its almost impossible for me to separate sex and love idk why. 😢
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Posted by SunMoonStars
Erm... Speaking for Myself...If i just want sex i won't intro you to friends or family or coworkers. Same token i won't want to meet yours.
It will be us having sex and a good time with each other. I won't want to do more.
yup. I take my cues from the guy tho. If I feel like he is distant or not calling. I wont press. I will keep it bout the sex. I probably wont even make eye contact.
how do you keep from feeling used or weird when the sex is over? its almost impossible for me to separate sex and love idk why. 😢
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the same thing...
I test to see if they want something more. If not, I treat them like a blowup doll. A dildo. Whatever. Its like I take the human aspect of it out. I may sleep n the same bed, but I dont cuddle. I don't make eye contact. I only touch you when were having sex. Oh yes, never ever kiss em on the mouth. Ever.
it aint that hard to get me in the sack. Its when men try to use my emotions to better their own sexual experience,, thats where I draw the line.
I need attraction to have sex, not emotional fulfillment.
Posted by exoskeleton
@inside, i think a sag man will tell you straight up what it is or isn't.my sag told his friends and family about me, introduced me to them, flaunted us on facebook, and directly asked me to be official. that's how i knew he was serious.
yeah, I think, you're right. He introduced me to friends, colleagues and the member of his family he keeps contact with (not connecting with parents, difficult situation). But no discussion about our relationship. Like we had everything, but didn't have enough time to know each other really good. Not sure if it's possible to make it long distance. Not sure he's ready for commitment as well.
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d, do you enjoy sex more when there's a mutual intense/emotional connection?
Hmm, I like passionate sex. I had great sex with one night stands and great sex with my ex who I loved. For me, love starts and emotions come into play after the orgasm. I prefer a clear mind when im having sex. Just let me get lost in my fantasies. Dont confuse me with how you feel. I start over analyzing and going through my mental files trying to determine if youre full of shit or not. Reality sets in and my fantasy is all messed up.
Its tricky to get me to stay in bed after sex or to keep my interest. Im so used to fucking. Talking about emotions is not the norm.
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@inside, i think a sag man will tell you straight up what it is or isn't.my sag told his friends and family about me, introduced me to them, flaunted us on facebook, and directly asked me to be official. that's how i knew he was serious.
yes! I need a guy to be direct like that.
Things work out so much better for me when the man takes the lead. I dont like to guess. It just creates internal issues for me and I lash out. Create drama just to get an answer.
Ugh, my cancer rising is showing.
Posted by DMV
Things work out so much better for me when the man takes the lead. I dont like to guess. It just creates internal issues for me and I lash out. Create drama just to get an answer.Ugh, my cancer rising is showing.
The man must take the lead. Unfortunately, even this doesn't guarantee anything. Past experience made me a bit callous and alert.
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Posted by DMV
Things work out so much better for me when the man takes the lead. I dont like to guess. It just creates internal issues for me and I lash out. Create drama just to get an answer.Ugh, my cancer rising is showing.
The man must take the lead. Unfortunately, even this doesn't guarantee anything. Past experience made me a bit callous and alert.
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same here sister. The signs and actions your sag is giving is promising to me. Is it your past that gives you pause or him?
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Things work out so much better for me when the man takes the lead. I dont like to guess. It just creates internal issues for me and I lash out. Create drama just to get an answer.Ugh, my cancer rising is showing.
The man must take the lead. Unfortunately, even this doesn't guarantee anything. Past experience made me a bit callous and alert.
same here sister. The signs and actions your sag is giving is promising to me. Is it your past that gives you pause or him?
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It's both I think. We're far from each other, he only told he wants me to come back, but nothing concrete. Why would he wait if he can get a girl over there? We know each other just for one month, but spent together only one week. So I'm not sure how to treat him yet. At first I considered him to be a player, now I think, that he has a heart of gold. It felt good and natural being together. But nothing's clear.
4 month ago I broke up with Taurus guy, been dating for 2,5 years. He showed affection immediately, everything was clear and concrete ("I love you", "You will be my wife"). Still things went wrong. Now he seems to want to come back. But a lot changed. And I can't trust him anymore, that's why I'm even more careful now.
So maybe for him it was just having a good time, a short adventure with foreign girl.
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Posted by SunMoonStars
Erm... Speaking for Myself...If i just want sex i won't intro you to friends or family or coworkers. Same token i won't want to meet yours.
It will be us having sex and a good time with each other. I won't want to do more.
Thank you! )
Soo, apart from hanging out and meeting close people will tenderness outside bedroom (like kissing hands/nose/forehead; caressing), cuddling while watching the movie or looking at stars or just sleeping together in one bed be positive signs?click to expand
For me, no.
I am affectionate with my lover. Sometimes I wonder how I can almost totally separate feelings and sex. Ie. I can have sex with him when mad, sad, etc.
I don't feel used because it's what I want. He actually wants a lot more for us.
If a Sag only wants you for sex, you'll know. They are pretty straight up about it imo. For example my Cap/Aqua lover has wanted more since we met 13 months ago. Through a series of things that have happened..that he orchestrated (he kind of quilted me into meeting almost his entire family), I agreed to date him for real next summer. It's really hard to see someone who says they love you as just a fwb after you've traveled with them to meet and stay at their family member's house.
Well we had a talk as our "1 year anniversary" came up in September. He said wow we've been together for a year. I said not really, I'm just starting to see you in a bf way now. It didn't really count before.
Yeah..I actually said that to him. He didn't seem too pleased. Sometimes I face palm myself.
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Posted by SunMoonStars
Erm... Speaking for Myself...If i just want sex i won't intro you to friends or family or coworkers. Same token i won't want to meet yours.
It will be us having sex and a good time with each other. I won't want to do more.
Thank you! )
Soo, apart from hanging out and meeting close people will tenderness outside bedroom (like kissing hands/nose/forehead; caressing), cuddling while watching the movie or looking at stars or just sleeping together in one bed be positive signs?
For me, no.
I am affectionate with my lover. Sometimes I wonder how I can almost totally separate feelings and sex. Ie. I can have sex with him when mad, sad, etc.
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I still don't completely get this, guys..
How does it prove a man being uninterested? You do have sex, it's full of passion and intense. You see clearly his reaction to you, so no doubt that you turn him on. But when you're not in bedroom, not one-on-one or have already had sex for several hours before what's bad in him being tender to you? Not just "*uck you, turn away and start snorting" (unless both of you are so tired after the love session, that you fall asleep still embracing each other). For me those always were the signs of emotional involvement. Why would you kiss lady's fingers, neck or sth, saying you wanna eat her without having any interest or attraction?
Posted by SunMoonStarsIt's really hard to see someone who says they love you as just a fwb after you've traveled with them to meet and stay at their family member's house.
Agree! Unless it's a usual thing in a family. But in what kind of family can bringing girls you only had sex for sometime be a usual thing?)
Posted by SunMoonStars
I don't feel used because it's what I want. He actually wants a lot more for us.If a Sag only wants you for sex, you'll know. They are pretty straight up about it imo. For example my Cap/Aqua lover has wanted more since we met 13 months ago. Through a series of things that have happened..that he orchestrated (he kind of quilted me into meeting almost his entire family), I agreed to date him for real next summer. It's really hard to see someone who says they love you as just a fwb after you've traveled with them to meet and stay at their family member's house.
Well we had a talk as our "1 year anniversary" came up in September. He said wow we've been together for a year. I said not really, I'm just starting to see you in a bf way now. It didn't really count before.
Yeah..I actually said that to him. He didn't seem too pleased. Sometimes I face palm myself.
SunMoonStars, so you're in a long-distance relationship now or you already live together?
"I still don't completely get this, guys..
How does it prove a man being uninterested? You do have sex, it's full of passion and intense. You see clearly his reaction to you, so no doubt that you turn him on. But when you're not in bedroom, not one-on-one or have already had sex for several hours before what's bad in him being tender to you? Not just "*uck you, turn away and start snorting" (unless both of you are so tired after the love session, that you fall asleep still embracing each other). For me those always were the signs of emotional involvement. Why would you kiss lady's fingers, neck or sth, saying you wanna eat her without having any interest or attraction?"
Sorry, I would like to clarify your question.
No, we are not in an official relationship yet, nor living together.
Posted by SunMoonStars
No, we are not in an official relationship yet, nor living together.
And what will make you call this relationship official?
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d, do you enjoy sex more when there's a mutual intense/emotional connection?
Hmm, I like passionate sex. I had great sex with one night stands and great sex with my ex who I loved. For me, love starts and emotions come into play after the orgasm. I prefer a clear mind when im having sex. Just let me get lost in my fantasies. Dont confuse me with how you feel. I start over analyzing and going through my mental files trying to determine if youre full of shit or not. Reality sets in and my fantasy is all messed up.
Its tricky to get me to stay in bed after sex or to keep my interest. Im so used to fucking. Talking about emotions is not the norm.
would you say you like the fantasy/dream of love rather than the real thing?
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nope
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Posted by SunMoonStars
Erm... Speaking for Myself...If i just want sex i won't intro you to friends or family or coworkers. Same token i won't want to meet yours.
It will be us having sex and a good time with each other. I won't want to do more.
Thank you! )
Soo, apart from hanging out and meeting close people will tenderness outside bedroom (like kissing hands/nose/forehead; caressing), cuddling while watching the movie or looking at stars or just sleeping together in one bed be positive signs?
^ This is how he is acting? And you are confused if he is intersted? What more would he have to do to show it!??
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It's his silence confusing me, no words about how he feels. I left him, we're texting now, but still nothing, just like buddies🙂
Sorry if I missed it but what are his Venus and Moon signs? I mean maybe he is not a people of big words. Or fast commitment.
I hate this but I have noticed that many men are scared/hurt if we do not value the NOW with them. I think they really want to know if we would love them under any circumstances. Even without children, or marriage or whatever.
Some girls can wait a long time. The others see that as a sign of his opportunism. Or that they are being used.
I am impatient. The only man I wished to be married with was a Leo/Cancer cusp. Monkey in chinese. Very interesting man. I asked and he said he is too young. And we did break up.
Posted by DwellingOnMove
Sorry if I missed it but what are his Venus and Moon signs? I mean maybe he is not a people of big words. Or fast commitment.
Yes, maybe it has its influence. I don't know the exact time of his birth. So his Moon is Cap/Aqua and Venus in Scorpio 🙂
"Moon is Cap/Aqua and Venus in Scorpio"
well at least he is serious about your Connection. While Cap and Scorpio would wait for the appropriate time to go one step further, Aqua-Scorp is not that good of a combination.
I think if it were Aqua-Scorp and even a square he would be more aloof and also inconsistent.
Posted by DwellingOnMove
"Moon is Cap/Aqua and Venus in Scorpio"well at least he is serious about your Connection. While Cap and Scorpio would wait for the appropriate time to go one step further, Aqua-Scorp is not that good of a combination.
I think if it were Aqua-Scorp and even a square he would be more aloof and also inconsistent.
Oh, thank you!
If he has his Moon in Cap, having the same placement, I can tell, that it takes a lot for me to convey my feelings. So it's a friendly combination for me.
Posted by YellowSubmarine
what about moon in Pisces and venus in Scorpio? I'm kinda going through the same thing as you...
I think Pisces moon should make him quite sensitive.
Would you mind telling me your story? 🙂
While, I don't agree that if a Sag only wants sex, he'll tell you, but I do agree with SunMoonStars, you will definitely know.
If it's just sex, I don't want to kiss, I don't want to cuddle afterwards, and I will not bring you around my fam and friends. Those are all more intimate than sex (for me), and only reserved for someone I have actual feelings for.
You can check this:
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/moon-signs/moon-signs-in-love-by-gender-5146108/?p=3
For my Scorp with Moon in Pisces I could acknowledge these Points:
Pisces Moon Man
emotionally down to earth.
He readily understands pain and sorrow, and wishes to take care of those who are in need.
difficult to accept all men.
The aggressive masculine energy is actually too harsh for him to stand.
impacted by the surrounding people.
romantic Partner
He does not want her to be too pushy about it though. He can easily get scared of bold moves being thrown at him. So the initiation must include a soft friendship.
Posted by saggyrl
While, I don't agree that if a Sag only wants sex, he'll tell you, but I do agree with SunMoonStars, you will definitely know.If it's just sex, I don't want to kiss, I don't want to cuddle afterwards, and I will not bring you around my fam and friends. Those are all more intimate than sex (for me), and only reserved for someone I have actual feelings for.
Thank you. It makes me think, there could be any potential!
I will say this, I have never had a guy tell me that it was just sex, even if it was. Most will never tell you, it's up to you to see the signs. With a Sag, you will know. I have been cuddled, kissed and introduced to family and friends even when it's casual (for the guy), but never with a Sag.
Where is his Mars? That will help explain his love style .
Posted by saggyrl
I will say this, I have never had a guy tell me that it was just sex, even if it was. Most will never tell you, it's up to you to see the signs. With a Sag, you will know. I have been cuddled, kissed and introduced to family and friends even when it's casual (for the guy), but never with a Sag.Where is his Mars? That will help explain his love style .
Mars in Pisces. What does it mean?
My friend's Mars is in Pisces as well...
Men born with Mars in Pisces are often introverted and dreamy. They have a highly romantic nature. They are very emotional and there is always a bit of a storm in their hearts.
They can be very romantic in pursuing a love interest. When they like someone, they fall completely in love, head over heals. They will go to the depths for someone they are interested in. They are not the types to do conventional expressions of love like sending flowers or buying expensive gifts. They will show what is exactly in their heart. They will learn what their love interest loves and they will give that to them, do that for them. They will create something beautiful for them, nurture them, take care of them. They are incredibly sweet, caring, affectionate, and gentile.
They are natural born lovers. They are deeply passionate and sensual in sex. They like to go to another world when they have sex.
A man born with Mars in Libra will be one of the coolest people you will ever meet. He will be calm, charming, funny, and usually handsome.
When they like someone they usually let them know by charming the hell out of them. These are the Jay Gatsby over the top extravagant types. These people are all about the flowers, the surprises, the expensive gifts, the overnight flights to Spain if they can afford it. They love to charm and impress their love interest and they will stop at nothing to show how fancy they can be.
They have an impeccable way with words. They know just the right things to say to sweep you off your feet.
They usually love being in relationships. They feel best when they have a steady that can go out with and relax with. But they can also be very fickle. They may seem totally in love with someone but then one day they just change their mind and they're out the door. Usually it's because someone else has come along. These types usually don't like being single and they won't leave a good relationship unless someone else has piqued their interest. They usually will date someone who is the complete opposite of the one they dated before.
Posted by DwellingOnMove
"Moon is Cap/Aqua and Venus in Scorpio"well at least he is serious about your Connection. While Cap and Scorpio would wait for the appropriate time to go one step further, Aqua-Scorp is not that good of a combination.
I think if it were Aqua-Scorp and even a square he would be more aloof and also inconsistent.
Do you think, that a feeling of lack of perspective could be a problem here? The only way we can keep relationship now is long distant, keeping it online only, at least for half a year. His friend told me to say Sag that I don't wanna go home and stay with him, cause to this friends opinion Sag could be in love with me. I considered it to be a joke. I didn't say anything of course, I'm really good in hiding my feelings. But it's him, to my mind, who had to say such things. But for him as a Sag it would mean making a commitment, that would be uncomfortable for his free-spirited nature.
1. Commitments are made step by step. They take years.
2. Long distance? I have no experience with it.
3. Can a Sag love from a distance? yes. It is our competence. With loyalty gurantee.
4. "adventure with foreign girl"? Actually this is a big turn-on for a Sag. "foreigner". If other facts aren't hindering him, that would be a plus for you.
5. You have power over your own mind to decide if you sleep with a man or no.
You don't have any power over 1000 other facts which play their roles and maybe keep you both apart. For example what his mother thinks and allows. How old he is and if he thinks he is old enough for a family. Or if he knows enough about you to want to be with you for a long time.
6. We, here, can really not help you. Just talking and distraction.
7. In the older days grandmothers and mothers told us how men would get sex and leave without regret. So nothing has changed. Just because we have Internet, Astrology or technology is no reason that men are fairer than before. Quite the contrary. They think we would do it anway and with anyone so why should they care for our feelings.
8. And if we are sensitive we have to go through years of abstinence.
If we are not sensitive, we should accept that sex is sex, short romance is short romance. It is not love. In that case we have to delete a man from our mind immediately if he pushed/compelled/seduced us to sex in the early stages of dating.
9. Maybe with Pluto in Cap we will have this abstinence more and more but little by littel.
10. I know a Pisces girl with Aries placements who fell in love with a man on her vacation. She flied to him a second time. They got pregnant. He moved to her and they raised the child together. It worked for her. I don't try such things cause I am not strong enough.
Posted by DwellingOnMove
1. Commitments are made step by step. They take years.
2. Long distance? I have no experience with it.
3. Can a Sag love from a distance? yes. It is our competence. With loyalty gurantee.
4. "adventure with foreign girl"? Actually this is a big turn-on for a Sag. "foreigner". If other facts aren't hindering him, that would be a plus for you.5. You have power over your own mind to decide if you sleep with a man or no.
You don't have any power over 1000 other facts which play their roles and maybe keep you both apart. For example what his mother thinks and allows. How old he is and if he thinks he is old enough for a family. Or if he knows enough about you to want to be with you for a long time.6. We, here, can really not help you. Just talking and distraction.
7. In the older days grandmothers and mothers told us how men would get sex and leave without regret. So nothing has changed. Just because we have Internet, Astrology or technology is no reason that men are fairer than before. Quite the contrary. They think we would do it anway and with anyone so why should they care for our feelings.
8. And if we are sensitive we have to go through years of abstinence.
If we are not sensitive, we should accept that sex is sex, short romance is short romance. It is not love. In that case we have to delete a man from our mind immediately if he pushed/compelled/seduced us to sex in the early stages of dating.9. Maybe with Pluto in Cap we will have this abstinence more and more but little by littel.
10. I know a Pisces girl with Aries placements who fell in love with a man on her vacation. She flied to him a second time. They got pregnant. He moved to her and they raised the child together. It worked for her. I don't try such things cause I am not strong enough.
Thank you, DwellingOnMove!
Of course, commitment to be made needs a lot of time and getting to know each other.
As for long distance relationship, I see no problem here for myself, I'm not tied to my place, so once we decide we need each other, I'm ready to move. But it needs time again. A foreigner is a huge turn-on for me as well.
As for the sex matter, I didn't regret it even for a second. No one was pushed to that, it was just the electricity between us from the first moment we've seen each other. So we found each other sharing a bed quite fast, but everyt
So we found each other sharing a bed quite fast, but everything was fast, we didn't have much time. I'm at the age when I don't wear pink glasses and don't take everything for love. Luckily I'm able to think more sober about such things. It surprises me though.
Of course, all this is just theorising and I don't expect anyone to give me exact answers or help. The time will show.
I just like chatting here with you, guys🙂
So, this Sag man is still in my thoughts. Can't say I'm loosing my mind or fallen madly in love with him. But thinking about him all the time🙂
It's been a month since we last met. We don't message too much and he's not really into messaging or virtual communication. I rarely initiate as well. But this doesn't mean I forgot him. I miss him and it's easier for me to keep silence as I don't know where we're going. We exchanged messages about missing each other only once. And no words from him about his attitude. And I won't tell anything about how I feel for sure! We're far from each other and we both know that it's not possible to meet sooner than in 4-5 months. Maybe he's losing interest in me. Maybe he's not interested in long-distance relationship. I won't ask anything, cause it was me myself calling him "a friend". We didn't discuss our relationship, when we were together. So I don't know who I am for him.
I've sent him bday wishes. He seemed to be glad to get it. But will he call "my darling" and send "kisses" to just any girl or a friend or someone he's not interested in? It gives me hope, but maybe he's just being polite?
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Hey, guys!
I've been thinking about the signs showing you that a Sagittarius wants just sex only or there's sth more. Is there any difference in their behaviour, in the way they treat you? Any feedback's welcome! 🙂