He disappeared on me. I'm disappearing on him.

How not to credit astrology when such a strange characteristic seem common amongst people from a certain sign?
Im very surprised to find out that the disappearing act is so common in Virgo!

Which is exactly what brought me here..like so many other people it seems 🙂

So, i met a virgo man. We connected immediately. Sexually and mentally.
He took the lead most of the time and chased me very strongly. Even though Im Aries (wild, impulsive, aggressive), i took things very slowly. I kept my guard because I didn't want to get too attached too soon. So he was always the one opening up about himself, his life, etc... I was never sharing too much about myself. But damn, i was enjoying the ride!
Sex was overwhelming and the conversations always very stimulating too! Until one night we were at his place and he was a bit moody and i was a bit emotional. There was a lot of wine available and i started talking about my life and a previous relationship that didn't end well.
To my surprise..by the end of the night he tells me he thinks things are not working well. That was a shock to me as i thought we were at our high!! He gave me some lame excuses and even used some of the things i've shared with him about my past to break things off, which I obviously didn't like. I felt judged. I felt that the first time i shared something important with him, he used that to get out of something that made him uncomfortable.

That said, i respected his wish and left. Sent him an email the next day (short) asking what had happened because i was confused about our conversation.
No reply.

I thought well, nothing to do. I left him alone. Sad of course, but no pointing in insisting. Then 10 days after he emails back. Saying i did nothing wrong and he was just being selfish. I didn't answer. 2 days after he insists, and asks if I'm ok.
So i reply and tell him I'm respecting his decision but i didn't find fair the things he accused me off.
3 days later he replied and apologized.
And i didn't make a big drama. Ok he was moody, i was emotional, we drank a bit...and sometimes we all say things we regret, so i thought we could work things out. And since he was reaching out to me, i proposed for us to meet. Nope. Lame excuse. No meeting.

Ok, so i get the message.
But what upsets me is that he keeps on emailing, asking random things, sharing random information. And i don't play games. If he emails me i answer. But now he feels like a stranger. Takes him a week to reply my

....to reply my emails (when we used to speak everyday). And i don't take the initiative. He emails, i reply, and then if i ask something the reply comes a week after.

I find this rude. We are not dating and we are not friends. Whats the point in sending this vague emails out? Why not to cut it completely?
I don't feel i should be available for his random email chatting when i don't even get a reply back.
So i blocked his number and email address, because i don't want to deal with this behavior and the frustration that comes with it.
If its over its over. I need to move on and this random emails from him dont help me much.
My question is, how does a virgo would take this?
Will he be offended! Will he be relieved I'm gone? Will he actually try to find me?
I ask because i care for him and i feel sorry it is over. But if a guy gives up on me Im not going desperately run after him.. Any thoughts?

Posted by CoolAries

So, i met a virgo man. We connected immediately. Sexually and mentally.

Even though Im Aries (wild, impulsive, aggressive), i took things very slowly.

Which one was it..?

Posted by CoolAries.
If its over its over.

It is. When they walk..they are gone. He's e-mailing you randomly because he realizes you refuse to accept that. Stop e-mailing/texting

Thanks for the reply Letitbe.
I accepted it. I didn't ask him to reconsider. I don't contact him.
I did confront him with the way he ended and with the reasons he gave me, but I accepted it.
He is the one who keeps on emailing me. When he does, I reply.
I do think do he could be emailing me out of guilt, though..

Time for what Raindancer? 🙂
I dint think I got what you meant?

Posted by CoolAries
....to reply my emails (when we used to speak everyday). And i don't take the initiative. He emails, i reply, and then if i ask something the reply comes a week after.

I find this rude. We are not dating and we are not friends. Whats the point in sending this vague emails out? Why not to cut it completely?
I don't feel i should be available for his random email chatting when i don't even get a reply back.
So i blocked his number and email address, because i don't want to deal with this behavior and the frustration that comes with it.If its over its over. I need to move on and this random emails from him dont help me much.
My question is, how does a virgo would take this? Will he be offended! Will he be relieved I'm gone? Will he actually try to find me? I ask because i care for him and i feel sorry it is over. But if a guy gives up on me Im not going desperately run after him.. Any thoughts?

Why do you even care what he thinks or if he's offended. He abruptly stopped communicating with you basically for no reason other than you being the true Aries that you are by being open and honest, so let it go. If he can't accept honesty then he's definitely not a person that you should want to be in a relationship with. You've already blocked his calls and e-mails, so that's his clue. I'm sure it's tough, but woman up and do what you said you would do and not look desperate or chase after him. You'll be just fine.

I care because for a while he made me feel very good.
I was hearing things such: "I haven't been this excited in years about anyone."
And because it was so unexpected...getting to know him was becoming really interesting. And then suddenly....puuufff!

But it is what it is. I mean, I'm sharing my feelings here...not with him.
You right...no point being with someone that at first sign of weakness runs away... nevertheless I was (I am) curious on how he will take the fact he can no longer contact me.

Posted by LIb4Life

If he can't accept honesty then he's definitely not a person that you should want to be in a relationship with.

You've already blocked his calls and e-mails, so that's his clue.

She hasn't accepted anything, so why are you referencing him not being able to accept honesty?

She admitted that she waits for him to text and then replies back
She states that she's sorry and that she cares.

she made this thread in honor of her feelings for him ... that means she is the opposite of accepting it's over ... it means she has herself submerged in dependence upon his approval of her.

I have no clue why people address the guy who isn't even here to speak for himself .... and her perspective of him and events are slanted because she's disgruntled.

yet, people address him, as if what she says about him is bank.


:::: shakes head ::::

In referencing Virgo's, generally speaking ... they actually do NOT disappear EVER on their partners.

that is to say .... a person they trust and are committed to.


Looks like you were searching for reasons to feel validated in making wrong choices for yourself, so you came here to attempt to persuade people that it's not your fault ... that it must be the fault of a Virgo trait.

Typical Aries .... no accountability.

You ARE at fault. You make your own fucking decisions. So, if you don't like it, then act like a mature adult and direct yourself better.

Wow P-Angel...you know it all don't you?

I need to update my operating system because I cannot find the button to push and suddenly stop caring.
I cannot wake up in the morning and say Well, today I will not care. That I cannot control.
I can control my actions though...so I chose to eliminate all forms of contact from him.

If deep down I wanted for him to still want me and that things were good again? Hell, yeah. But thats only a fantasy. The reality is different.
And my perspective of the situation is as valid as your own perception of my situation. Of course it us about my feelings. Or people do come here and post as pairs? I can only speak about my side. He has his version too, but he is not here.
Im not asking if im right or wrong...im only asking how do people think he will react to it.

Posted by CoolAries

P-Angel...you know it all don't you?

I responded to what you posted .... did you post it all?

I see you have nothing of value to counter what I said .... so, like a typical guilty person, you resorted to being a smartass.

And again ..... you made the claim that him disappearing on you is a Virgo trait because that gives you the excuse to not own the fact that what has happened in your relationship is YOUR fault.

so, because you refuse to own yourself in that you fucked up .... you come here to blame the Virgos for having this trait.


when in reality .... Virgos do NOT bail on their partner. In fact, a committed Virgo is one of the most loyal partners.


so, you came here to talk out of your ass ... like most deluded people.

No P-angel, the only smartass here is you. You know, sometimes people tend to judge others by the image they have of themselves.
You are trying to make your point....that I am guilty of something. Maybe I am! I didn't figure out of what though yet. But you are wrong, I have no problems in admitting I failed or I did something wrong.

Instead of dealing with this like a mature adult ... you decided to make him think you disappeared on him ... when in reality, you didn't disappear.


You are playing an attention game with him, trying to make him believe you're gone.


A manipulator !!!!

That pretty much makes you just another cunt.

Posted by VirgoFlirt
I think the part everyone needs to know is, what you told him. You never said what you two talked about with your last relationship.

I told him my ex bf is still trying to come back to me. It was a 5 year relationship.
So he told me Im just rebounding, that I dont care for him.

Posted by CoolAries

... nevertheless I was (I am) curious on how he will take the fact he can no longer contact me.

You could actually be an adult ... but, I see you'd rather play a head game with him.

Posted by CoolAries

I told him my ex bf is still trying to come back to me. It was a 5 year relationship.
So he told me Im just rebounding, that I dont care for him.

It's obvious to all people with a smidgeon of sense that that ^^^^ is you trying to play on his feelings. Trying to make him jealous of you backfired on your stupid ass ... and now you can't handle it, so you come here to try and convince others that it's his bad.


You're the person who is fucked up. YOU are the one who played a game.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by CoolAries

... nevertheless I was (I am) curious on how he will take the fact he can no longer contact me.

You could actually be an adult ... but, I see you'd rather play a head game with him.

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P-angel, try to understand this:

i liked him. For some reason, wether my fault or not, he broke up with my out of the blue.
However, he keeps on contacting me and checking on me. It is difficult for me to deal with that. He broke up with me but still wants to chit chat....and he replies when he wants. That to me feels like a game with very little honesty. Im respecting his decision so he should respect my feelings and keep the distance he said he wanted.

I dealt with that for a while but that hurts me. So i prefer to cut all contact.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by CoolAries

I told him my ex bf is still trying to come back to me. It was a 5 year relationship.
So he told me Im just rebounding, that I dont care for him.

It's obvious to all people with a smidgeon of sense that that ^^^^ is you trying to play on his feelings. Trying to make him jealous of you backfired on your stupid ass ... and now you can't handle it, so you come here to try and convince others that it's his bad.


You're the person who is fucked up. YOU are the one who played a game.

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You are wrong. Again.
He had asked me several times about my previous relationships. I never spoke much about it.
That night he was telling me about his 2 last girlfriends. He was opening up to me so I felt safe in telling him about my ex bf too.
You assume a lot! 🙂

Posted by CoolAries

.... he broke up with my out of the blue.

Only ignorant people say and believe that because the reality is ..... two people tango together.

By you saying that comment, it means ... you weren't paying attention. As a typical Aries, you were probably oblivious to everyone/everything around you.

Two people who are really deep in, like you tried to convey .... are actually aware of each other. And if you weren't aware that he wasn't happy to the point of breaking up ... then that means he was in the relationship by himself.

of course, you told him about other men to try and make him jealous .... so, you made sure to let him know that he's in the relationship by himself.

then you come here to cry about it, and to find excuses for you not having sound judgment.

Posted by CoolAries


However, he keeps on contacting me and checking on me.

He broke up with me but still wants to chit chat....

So i prefer to cut all contact.

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And that is a lie.

You didn't cut all contact .. you said yourself that you reply to him when he contacts you.

Again, you take no responsibility for yourself. you don't HAVE to answer the phone or text .. you choose to respond to him, and then try to blame it on him in saying he still wants to chit chat.


At what point are you going to take responsibility for yourself?

He doesn't make you answer his text/call ... you make yourself do that. But, instead of acknowledging that you make your own choices ... you have decided to put all blame on him, as if it's up to him to direct your life choices.


naw ... not buying any of your bullshit.

your only intention is to play him .... and your actions, as you've stated, proves it.

Posted by VirgoFlirt
"""That night he was telling me about his 2 last girlfriends. He was opening up to me so I felt safe in telling him about my ex bf too."""

Did you ask him this or did he tell you?

No, he started telling me about it.
And to be honest I was not very interested. We all have a past. But I listened, didn't ask much and then told him about my previous relationship, and how my bf still wanted to get back together, and how bad our relationship was for the last year.

By the end of the evening he told me he thought I didn't care for him, that it was him but could be any other...and that I should have listened to what I said about my ex bf..

I couldn't articulate a sentence after I heard that. I didn't know what I said that was so wrong.

Posted by CoolAries

I don't feel i should be available for his random email chatting when i don't even get a reply back.

You can't even honor yourself.

You said yourself that you respond back to him every time he contacts you.

What a fool you are ... and then come here and try to convince people you aren't.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by CoolAries

.... he broke up with my out of the blue.

Only ignorant people say and believe that because the reality is ..... two people tango together.

By you saying that comment, it means ... you weren't paying attention. As a typical Aries, you were probably oblivious to everyone/everything around you.

Two people who are really deep in, like you tried to convey .... are actually aware of each other. And if you weren't aware that he wasn't happy to the point of breaking up ... then that means he was in the relationship by himself.

of course, you told him about other men to try and make him jealous .... so, you made sure to let him know that he's in the relationship by himself.

then you come here to cry about it, and to find excuses for you not having sound judgment.

Posted by CoolAries


However, he keeps on contacting me and checking on me.

He broke up with me but still wants to chit chat....

So i prefer to cut all contact.

And that is a lie.

You didn't cut all contact .. you said yourself that you reply to him when he contacts you.

Again, you take no responsibility for yourself. you don't HAVE to answer the phone or text .. you choose to respond to him, and then try to blame it on him in saying he still wants to chit chat.


At what point are you going to take responsibility for yourself?

He doesn't make you answer his text/call ... you make yourself do that. But, instead of acknowledging that you make your own choices ... you have decided to put all blame on him, as if it's up to him to direct your life choices.


naw ... not buying any of your bullshit.

your only intention is to play him .... and your actions, as you've stated, proves it.

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I dont care about making people jealous..
The block him from contacting me is like chocolate. I know I cant have it in the house because Im going to end up eating it all at once. So I simply dont buy. 🙂

Same with him. I know he is going to send a polite and sometimes sweet email and I will end up replying. It is too recent. So i rather not having any contact from him at all.

Posted by CoolAries

I didn't know what I said that was so wrong.

Of course not .... you are only paying attention to yourself. That fact, according to what you said about your own actions, has already been determined.

Here you say things so paramount that it's break-up worthy ... and you don't even know.

And it's not just Virgos ... anyone would run away from a person who can't be bothered to pay attention.

Posted by capricornmoon
"Never make a man tell you more than ONCE that he doesn't want you"


Yes, you are not a robot, you need time to get over someone you had feelings for, but do just that, GET OVER IT, see love from your perspective, he is not worthy of you. If he was, he would have seen that you are worth it. Reject those who reject you.

Thanks! Reading that helps me feel a bit better.

Posted by CoolAries
How not to credit astrology when such a strange characteristic seem common amongst people from a certain sign?
Im very surprised to find out that the disappearing act is so common in Virgo!

Ok, first thing : No ALL Virgos are same, even though you read topics here, you can't say something like that. I had a bad Relationship with a fire sign he was a motherfucker, but I know that not ALL fire sign are like that, I assume that there is a bad kind of this sun sign and an good kind. Yin&Yang thing huh 😉

And second, when you two talked on the phone, were this a reconciliation kind of phone call ? Let me understand

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Posted by CoolAries
How not to credit astrology when such a strange characteristic seem common amongst people from a certain sign?
Im very surprised to find out that the disappearing act is so common in Virgo!

Ok, first thing : No ALL Virgos are same, even though you read topics here, you can't say something like that. I had a bad Relationship with a fire sign he was a motherfucker, but I know that not ALL fire sign are like that, I assume that there is a bad kind of this sun sign and an good kind. Yin&Yang thing huh 😉

And second, when you two talked on the phone, were this a reconciliation kind of phone call ? Let me understand

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True. I wrote that because I was surprised. I dont know that much about astrology..and then I came here and read a lot of people struggling with the fact that a Virgo partner was disappearing on them. Like he didnt to me after that night. 10 days no contact. But you're right, cant out them all in one basket.

The only phone conversation we had after that night he said he was sorry, that the things he said didnt reflect what he feels. That he had no right or desire to upset me and that he has things on his mind he has to deal with. He didnt say nothing that made me feel he wanted to get back to me again.

Of course it makes you feel better ..... it is telling you that you didn't do anything wrong.

When you did.

You're not really worth anything to him ... but, the quoted post is lying to you by telling you he isn't worthy of you. And that is only in place to appeal to your ego.

You aren't all that to him, so to make an insinuation that you're worth more than him is illogical.


But, I see your ego enjoyed the lie ! And that is because you are looking for validation in making wrong choices. Likely due to having poor judgment skills.

Posted by capricornmoon
Good, it's just something that didn't work out, no sense in having low esteem over it, we as women are guilty of that, whereas men feel more confident after things end. But, for future references,telling another man about another man is using subtle psychology to implant thoughts in his head.

Now he's thinking he has competition, and he decided to end things rather than get played. Don't do that anymore, especially if you really like him. When you are lucky and get another lucky opportunity to meet a good guy and build a good bond off of that, don't ever talk about another man, until the relationship is so lifted, I.e marriage,mane he trusts you as his wife, anything outside of that is asking for troubles, even if you had good intentions in sharing your past.

Im really making a note here. He had no competition at all. Its completely over.
He had asked other times about it. I never told him much. I should have kept silent.
Probably a good advice for the future.

Posted by capricornmoon

.... don't ever talk about another man, until the relationship is so lifted, I.e marriage,mane he trusts you as his wife, anything outside of that is asking for troubles ....

She told him to make him jealous .... according to you, it's ok to do that if two people are married ...


fools everywhere ... and the thing is ... they are too ignorant to realize it

That comment alone should be enough to make CoolAries realize that this bitch is clueless about relatinships.


But, since CoolAries is desperately searching for validation ... she will AGAIN make a bad decision.

Posted by capricornmoon
It has a login name feel free to address me.


Always appeal your ego coolaries, don't let others crush your ego for the sake of crushing it


If you aren't all that to him, that's fine, HE AIN'T ALL THAT TO YOU. AT the end of the day, you have to deal with your feelings, deal with it accordingly. Never let anyone crush you, emotionally or otherwise.

Thank you.

True. I wrote that because I was surprised. I dont know that much about astrology..and then I came here and read a lot of people struggling with the fact that a Virgo partner was disappearing on them. Like he didnt to me after that night. 10 days no contact. But you're right, cant out them all in one basket.

The only phone conversation we had after that night he said he was sorry, that the things he said didnt reflect what he feels. That he had no right or desire to upset me and that he has things on his mind he has to deal with. He didnt say nothing that made me feel he wanted to get back to me again.




Oh.Oh ! You sound like a tough woman ahah, maybe that was the moment when you both needed to sort things out, no ? Anyways, what is done is done but i have read in some of your latter posts that there were alcohol involved, right ? So, let try this point of view : you made a mistake because you were emotional on that day and he reacted badly because he was Moody. So now, if he made excuses for his bad behaviour because "the things he said DIDNT REFLECTS HOW HE FEELS" and that "HE HAD NO RIGHT OR DESIRE TO UPSET YOU" (caps locks because, in my modest opinion, it's clearly a misunderstanding), then Why didn't yu forgave him yet, knowing that you have feelings for him (correct me if I'm wrong)
You are hurting each other
One of my sisters is an Aries and she is also my bestfriend ( I was her bestman at her wedding! 😄 )
We often if not always say things bluntly in each other's face, ok, it's not the same case but wait, I'll get there.
I like the get the truth out of her mouth, even though I know it will hurt me in some ways, but thenn when she does, I feel like dammmn what the fuck did she said ?!! And I always respond in a bad way by being mean and so, we don't talk to each other, not even a visual contact. All I can tell you by my experience with my bestaries (lol, lame of me )is that, I can't not talk to her, because Aries are decisioners, and I as a Virgo like to weight pros and cons before taking a decision, we complete each other. And from this I have the security that she is an honest being and will always said the truth even if I am not courageous enough to hear it sometimes. I just FORGIVE. If think he realized his mistake, so might I ask you to relief your punishment dear Aries? Lol
The Virguy is missing you, and told you that he didn't meant what he said, In my Virgo experience, I admitt that I can

* SAY MEAN THINGS TO PEOPLE WITHOUT EVEN REALIZING because of the high anger rate! But like I always say : nobody's perfect
So now that's up to you, and whatever is your decision, I wish you all the best with or without a Virgo in your life 😉
xx

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Posted by VirgoFlirt
I think the part everyone needs to know is, what you told him. You never said what you two talked about with your last relationship.

I told him my ex bf is still trying to come back to me. It was a 5 year relationship.
So he told me Im just rebounding, that I dont care for him.

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you don't understand why he broke it off? Really?

I'm not a guy, but if someone said that to me. I would really question my relationship with said person and back off. That is all but saying: hey look i'm wanted by said ex, can /or will you compete... Why would you even mention something like this to the person you are currently dating, especially if you guys are newly dating? Except to test him. Virgos don't play that game.

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Posted by CoolAries

Posted by VirgoFlirt
I think the part everyone needs to know is, what you told him. You never said what you two talked about with your last relationship.

I told him my ex bf is still trying to come back to me. It was a 5 year relationship.
So he told me Im just rebounding, that I dont care for him.

you don't understand why he broke it off? Really?

I'm not a guy, but if someone said that to me. I would really question my relationship with said person and back off. That is all but saying: hey look i'm wanted by said ex, can /or will you compete... Why would you even mention something like this to the person you are currently dating, especially if you guys are newly dating? Except to test him. Virgos don't play that game.

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I have to understand that it might sound I was playing a game, or trying to make him jealous.
But im never going to admit to that because that was never my intention. I thought it was a genuine conversation we were having.
He asked at least 3 different times about past relationships and I never told much about it. Not because I have anything to hide, but because it is my past, and I dont think it will add anything to the relationship. I also never asked him much about his previous relationships. I was interested in him now....not in his past. But he started telling me about his past relationships, so I spoke about mine. I was not bragging that it was cool to have my ex bf still after me..
But I get it, maybe he thought so...since a lot of you also think thats what I was doing. I didnt realise that.

@VirgoStivali

i was trying to answer your post, but both times I did, my message doesnt show. Hence those hidden messages from me...

So here it goes again 🙂 I was thanking you for taking the time to reply and to share your story.
I think is is sweet that you make an effort to try to understand your sister. Even if that comes a bit later, but you try.
In my case, I think we were not yet close enough to be able to read each other that way..
I was also not looking at it as me punishing him. Im trying to protect myself from hurting more than to punish him.
It is true he apologized when confronted with his reasons. It is also true that he said later that those words didnt reflect his feelings and how he feels for me. But it is also true that I offered to meet and he rejected that. He is acting very different as well...with his randoms emails and late replies.
He said it was not working for him and he keeps on emailing once a week to see how I am and telling me random stuff about his life, but then if I ask something he doesnt reply. I dont think thats cool. I actually find it a bit rude.. Maybe he is just feeling guilty because he hurt me and he is emailing me out of guilt.

Posted by CoolAries

So, i met a virgo man. We connected immediately. Sexually and mentally.

The really real here is that he got his milk for free, but, because you so naively stupid ... you falsely think he cares.

Here you are, listening to people tell you the same thing over and over and your final paragrapsh is still the same clingy bullshit .... you whining about how you can't handle how he treats you, which completely ignores the fact that a person can only treat you the way you teach him to.

It's all your fault ... and has been the moment you couldn't yourself to your own standards. You said, that you wouldn't be treated that way, then turn around and do it in spite of yourself.

You get what you deserve. And you are deserving what he's giving you because you are answering the goddam phone when he calls in hopes of winning over a guy who only keeps contacting you in hopes you spread your legs for him.


In all seriousness ... you were nothing except his pussy on demand and here you are making a fool out of yourself by telling us that you can't help yourself from wanting a man like that.

Posted by CoolAries
@VirgoStivali

i was trying to answer your post, but both times I did, my message doesnt show. Hence those hidden messages from me...

So here it goes again 🙂 I was thanking you for taking the time to reply and to share your story.
I think is is sweet that you make an effort to try to understand your sister. Even if that comes a bit later, but you try.

Hey, thank you, she is a pain in the ass sometimes but I love her the way she is 😉
Even if you weren't punishing him,to an extern sight, it looked more like a punishment but protecting your heart is something good I must encourage that behaviour, and it's all to your advantage because, by doing it, he now knows he can't treat you the way he did before and I am pretty sure that he will weight his words from now. Just if you make out, tell him that this was not a calculation from you because he will withdraw if he does & you don't want that, right ? 😉
Sure, the communication is weird : he cares for you so he wants to communicate, but he is also now awed by you so to feel like a man again, he tries to control the pace of the communication. He also MIGHT feel that you don't want him anymore --> timidity and fear of being rejected by you ( WHen you were hurt, you were aloof)PLUS, consider the fact that you told him that some guys were around. Remember his Moody reaction ? lol
It might be possible that he is overthinking over and over and over about this ( the reason why he prolly said no to meeting is because his mind is not, as you can see, really collected), and when you will both be ready to meet and talk, keep calm
The only advice I can tell you is to stay yourself and PLEASE don't raise your voice during DA TALK because I know that Aries loose their temper because they have their way of thinking BUT I also know how mature you can be : tell him that you recognize some faults etc, he will appreciate and explin him how you work 😉
PS : Who's "VirgoStivali" ?? LMAO

* IF HE DOES THINK YOU WERE DOING IT ON PURPOSE
SORRY

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Posted by CoolAries
@VirgoStivali

i was trying to answer your post, but both times I did, my message doesnt show. Hence those hidden messages from me...

So here it goes again 🙂 I was thanking you for taking the time to reply and to share your story.
I think is is sweet that you make an effort to try to understand your sister. Even if that comes a bit later, but you try.

Hey, thank you, she is a pain in the ass sometimes but I love her the way she is 😉
Even if you weren't punishing him,to an extern sight, it looked more like a punishment but protecting your heart is something good I must encourage that behaviour, and it's all to your advantage because, by doing it, he now knows he can't treat you the way he did before and I am pretty sure that he will weight his words from now. Just if you make out, tell him that this was not a calculation from you because he will withdraw if he does & you don't want that, right ? 😉
Sure, the communication is weird : he cares for you so he wants to communicate, but he is also now awed by you so to feel like a man again, he tries to control the pace of the communication. He also MIGHT feel that you don't want him anymore --> timidity and fear of being rejected by you ( WHen you were hurt, you were aloof)PLUS, consider the fact that you told him that some guys were around. Remember his Moody reaction ? lol
It might be possible that he is overthinking over and over and over about this ( the reason why he prolly said no to meeting is because his mind is not, as you can see, really collected), and when you will both be ready to meet and talk, keep calm
The only advice I can tell you is to stay yourself and PLEASE don't raise your voice during DA TALK because I know that Aries loose their temper because they have their way of thinking BUT I also know how mature you can be : tell him that you recognize some faults etc, he will appreciate and explin him how you work 😉
PS : Who's "VirgoStivali" ?? LMAO

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VirgoSvengali and not Stivali,
I feel like giving you a hug and a kiss! 🙂
Again, thanks for the insight.
Im afraid im not feeling as positive as you, but if we ever speak again I will take your words into consideration.
With my luck that will only happen if we bump in each other on the street in one of

...on the street in one of those bad hair days!!

If i was going to fantasize a bit in my mind, i could consider the thought of him taking his time to sort his mind out. But even if that was to happen, by the time he decided to come back, i would probably be already too hurt to consider it.
But im not sure, im just creating possible scenarios. One thing it is to try to predict my reaction and the other thing is to actually live it.

Whatever happens I will share with all of you.
Even with P-Angel. 😉

virgo men are a walking contridiction. They can tell you about their exes but the moment you mention your ex guys they get jealous.

That's just how they are so he broke up with you because of his insecurities thinking you might get back with your ex but you were just being honest about your past.

They don't want to be judged but they judge other people like they are saints when in fact they are sinners.

You are right to block him because he is playing mind games move on with your life it is his lost.

Ignore P angel that bitch is on menapause and is up her virgo husbands butt. He probably cheated on her and she turned into this bitter ass wife. She always takes the virgo side even if it is their fault. Lady I'm sure your husband had a few sluts on the side since you think he is such a saint. Fuck off and go bake some cookies or go crawl up your husbands asshole!

good luck Aries girl you are showing this guy that he can't treat you any kind of way keep ignoring and date other guys! Be glad that he showed his true colors early and not years later 🙂

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virgo men are a walking contridiction. They can tell you about their exes but the moment you mention your ex guys they get jealous.

That's just how they are so he broke up with you because of his insecurities thinking you might get back with your ex but you were just being honest about your past.

They don't want to be judged but they judge other people like they are saints when in fact they are sinners.

You are right to block him because he is playing mind games move on with your life it is his lost.

Ignore P angel that bitch is on menapause and is up her virgo husbands butt. He probably cheated on her and she turned into this bitter ass wife. She always takes the virgo side even if it is their fault. Lady I'm sure your husband had a few sluts on the side since you think he is such a saint. Fuck off and go bake some cookies or go crawl up your husbands asshole!

good luck Aries girl you are showing this guy that he can't treat you any kind of way keep ignoring and date other guys! Be glad that he showed his true colors early and not years later 🙂

Thank you for the support Octoberbaby!
I dont know if it is a sign thing or a personality thing....but I don't see myself being ok with that type of behavior for too long. There must be some type of woman out there that can handle it, though. Or are all virgo guys lonely people? Hummm...as I am writing this Im actually realizing the the one I am (was) involved with is a bit of a loner.
I know im repeating myself but what really p... me off is not the fact it is over....it is the fact he feels he has the right to check on me every time he feels like.
But I'm sticking with the blocking thing....although I cant avoid wondering what he might be thinking of that, in case he actually noticed it.

As for P-Angel, I will not lie. You made me laugh! 😄

Actually, now that with time Im becoming more rational and less emotional, the more I think he would never attempt to get back together. Mainly because he knows a little bit about myself, so he knows I will not scream and shout. He knows I will calmly but sharply point out the things that are wrong. And no matter what P-Angel or others might think, he is at fault in the way he broke up and how he is behaving now. So I don't think he will risk listening to that.
It is amazing how this guy shared so much with me about his life, feelings..really private information...and today, he acts like a stranger.
He breaks up and now I have to deal with his random and vague emails and texts that sound like are coming from a different person (well, im not dealing with it anymore since I blocked him).

Humm..hard to figure what you mean.
Could it be, you only submit when she makes you feel you lose your direction? :p

Yes they are loners they are hermits and married to themselves!

They always say shit like "I never felt like this before...BLAH Blah" all bs they are liars and like to charm women also! They tell women what they want to hear.

And yes he knows you won't lost control and go off they like to push people buttons to see if you will react emotionally then try to call you crazy for their flip flop behavior.

That is the shadow side of a virgo. Not all of them are like that but the ones that are you have to teach them how to respect you.

You are doing the right thing 🙂

Glad I can make you laugh about the wicked witch 😉

They fall for you when you set them straight and show that you don't tolerate they got and cold behavior.