He said I don't pick his brain

I was having a conversation with my virgo friend/lover/something, the other day. We live an hr away from each other so we don't see each other too often but when we do we pick up where we left off. So we were talking and he told me his life has been in shambles lately and I asked him why doesn't he come to me when he feels down and he's like I don't know how to talk about certain things and you don't pick my brain enough, you've gotta pick my brain. So after that he was talking about an incident that happened to him and I asked him to go into more detail and he's like "ehh I don't wanna talk about it."

So I'm confused! What does he mean "pick his brain" and how tf do I do that? lol

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If it was me saying that...the message would be "You're quite daft and don't encite anything in me to share with you so I will keep the pleasantries going by asking how the weather is like or other small talk shit..because if I actually delved into what makes me tick and I'd share..I have a feeling you wouldn't get it cuz you're quite daft"

But that's just me.

Posted by Damnata
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Here, hopeless...

*nudges damny in front of you*

... practice on Damnata.

gah human contact!

step away, evil black cat.

Posted by Damnata
gah human contact!

step away, evil black cat.

Heh...

SingASong, thanks for your input! He throws hints all the time and they go right over my head or I choose not to touch on the subject because I know he's going to come back at me with "I don't wanna talk about it." Because usually, it involves tapping into his feelings so I avoid asking because I don't want to seem like I'm prying. But I'm definitely going to use your example the next time he throws a hint at me, that was really helpful! 🙂

Posted by hopelesscapricorn
I was having a conversation with my virgo friend/lover/something, the other day. We live an hr away from each other so we don't see each other too often but when we do we pick up where we left off. So we were talking and he told me his life has been in shambles lately and I asked him why doesn't he come to me when he feels down and he's like I don't know how to talk about certain things and you don't pick my brain enough, you've gotta pick my brain. So after that he was talking about an incident that happened to him and I asked him to go into more detail and he's like "ehh I don't wanna talk about it."

So I'm confused! What does he mean "pick his brain" and how tf do I do that? lol

Im a Virgo and my Cap ex of 3 years also has an Aries moon like yourself...and yes, she didnt pick my brain either 😛 thinking back, I reckon in the long run that was one of the reasons I slowly started to lose interest in her, every time I would try and discuss random idea's with her, she would rarely engage in debate and would just say "thats bullshit" and would change subjects. Virgos need their mental stimulation, we wanna hear your opinion and we like discussing all kinds of topics since we are very very curious about a lot of stuff.

My current Gemini sweetheart TOTALLY fulfills me in this department, I lover her so much 🙂

Thanks for the example with your ex, BoomShakalakaBoom (lol nice name btw)...I will take this into account the next time I speak to my virgo

Posted by hopelesscapricorn
I've been confused for about 2 yrs now. Lol...well maybe not that long. I met him two yrs ago and we started off as friends. hit it off really easy in our a class we had together in college. We never dated but always showed affection towards each other. He'd come over to my dorm sometimes and we'd take naps together, cuddle, all that good friendly innocent stuff. When I met him he had a girlfriend so we couldn't be more than friends.

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/virgo-sends-mixed-signals-5134122/#5134123

The way you say "my Virgo" in this new thread is quite hilarious.
If this Virgo wanted you...he would have made that known two years ago, even when he lets you lay down with him while he has a girlfriend.

....instead figuring out how to pick his brain, get a damn chisel and begin with your own.

I remember some chic talking about napping with a taken man and acting innocent. I didn't read this person's history, so I didn't realize it was her.

Thanks for the research.

So now, according to her, they are lovers ... the amount of cheaters is astounding.

Not only is she a cheater ... she's an abuser. She knowingly, used another woman's feelings to lay with this taken man.

::: shakes head :::