Hola Virgals......Remember me.

Wutup good folks. Its been a while. Remember that Virgal I was stooooopid about? (still am) well, she moved out of state. I told her I was in love with her and she told me how she felt which I totally respect (more on that later) So anyways, long story short, we're still good friends and we've stayed in contact since the day she left. I ll email her and she responds usually the same day and if not usually within 2 days. She left in october so thats a decent amount of contact. She even began to open up to me like she used to and was letting me in, which I couldnt be happier about, then...all of a sudden.....No response to an email for about 3 weeks now. Whats the deal? Im sure she's ok (I hope so),but whats up with that beginning to open up and then totally disappering? Just looking for insight because I feel sick at this point.

Hola clueless. Thanks for the input. The thing is I hope she is having the time of her life. I'm not upset at all and my intentions are never to get even(depending on the situation...like hurting my family or something). Thats very negative and I dont allow negativity to exist in my world (as much as I can help it) as negativity only breeds negativity. I just want more insight into why it is that they begin to let u in and get closer and then dissapear. I've read about it in some other post, so as I stated, just looking for more insight and more of an understanding. Its very interesting to me as well. Human behavior and why people do what they do is intriguing. Especialky when its a beautiful woman.

Maybe she's busy?

Yea, I guess VD. Thanks.

Yea. She's definately my personal Pandoras box. Theres such a twisted beauty in the way she works though. Im hooked. Totally f**ked...lol. She's worth it though. As far as the negativity thing, No, I havent always been that way. It took a while to reach the level of understanding that I've come to (and I've got alot to learn still), but basically. You create how it is u want to exist. After all, this is YOUR existance and nobody elses. So if u choose not to aknowledge negativity and stay positive in your thoughts and actions, then that becomes your reality. Find the good in every situation because it there.

Posted by virgodreamz
Maybe she's busy?

SERIOUSLY,STOP SAYING THAT you are busy guys 3 weeks and you cant afford one minute to text him back or call him THEN TELL ME YOU ARE TOO BUSY THAT YOU CANT SLEEP WTF SAYS SOMETHING MORE REALISTIC

and what are you going to do if I don't, use bold font?
Thinking that you can decide to have another person change to suit your preference is dumb. What someone else says or does is not up to you. The only person you can control is yourself. If you choose to surround yourself with individuals that treat you in a way that's not up to your standards then you only have yourself to blame when it causes you to feel bad. You can't make someone change but you can change who you interact with.

Posted by virgodreamz
and what are you going to do if I don't, use bold font?
Thinking that you can decide to have another person change to suit your preference is dumb. What someone else says or does is not up to you. The only person you can control is yourself. If you choose to surround yourself with individuals that treat you in a way that's not up to your standards then you only have yourself to blame when it causes you to feel bad. You can't make someone change but you can change who you interact with.

Yeah if you tell me what's wrong with me i will try to fix it,maybe you are a person that dosent like to change herself just to suit others but if a person really cares about other is feeling then he will do some changes to be a better person .
Life is a pain if you can't adapt yourself to your environment you will have a serious issue
And if you think you virgo people are solving the problem by telling him that you'are busy, then good job

@LS Just because someone thinks you should change that doesn't necessarily mean it is a change that will make you a better person. Some people have a need to control others for their own selfish benefit. Also what's going on with your other post? Who told you they are too busy that they can't sleep lol

Finally I do not think I'm solving anyone's problem by vaguely speculating on someone else who I do not know based on 2 or 3 sentences concerning them.
I personally would think if I hadn't heard from someone for a while that they might be busy with other things if all our contact prior to that was positive.

@Josh if not hearing back from the Virgo is always on your mind, why don't you send a message saying you haven't heard from her and wonder what she's up to or how she's doing.
(If she doesn't answer the second time I'd just leave it at that.)

Posted by virgodreamz
@LS Just because someone thinks you should change that doesn't necessarily mean it is a change that will make you a better person. Some people have a need to control others for their own selfish benefit. Also what's going on with your other post? Who told you they are too busy that they can't sleep lol

Finally I do not think I'm solving anyone's problem by vaguely speculating on someone else who I do not know based on 2 or 3 sentences concerning them.
I personally would think if I hadn't heard from someone for a while that they might be busy with other things if all our contact prior to that was positive.

@Josh if not hearing back from the Virgo is always on your mind, why don't you send a message saying you haven't heard from her and wonder what she's up to or how she's doing.
(If she doesn't answer the second time I'd just leave it at that.)

looool. i mean you are not working 24/24 7/7 😆

Posted by LoveSeeker

looool. i mean you are not working 24/24 7/7 😆

Oh hahaha

Hey ladies. Sorry it took so long to respond, been super busy today. And disregard my typos as I am responding from my phone...so typing shyt is hard enough, let alone mispelling something. Anyway.

@Cluelesscancer-If I could stop feeling the way I do about her, it would've happened already. Trust me, I've tried. Its like a 3 year old who only wants macoroni n cheese and u cant understand why when there's like 30 other delicious mouth watering things that u could have. Lol....yea...I know...weird, but u get it.

@Virgodreamz-I did email her after she didnt respond. Twice. So I decided to leave her alone and give her space. It sucks because I really care about her, so I dont want to f**k things up by smothering her. She always comes back though. Thoughout the course of our relationship (even when my feelings werent so strong), she would somehow dissapear but always came back.

She finally responded.

What did she say?

Sorry neurotic. She said she was busy with work and going out. Im gonna leave her aline fir a while. Let her come to me. It may take some time,but Im sure she will.

Yea. They're wired totally different from us as far as communication and things of that nature are concered. Its so weird,but as soon as u begin to pull away, they come running back. I really dont think they realize it. I believe its just how they are. Like I said, Im gonna fall back for a while and let her come to me. Im already in her head. She told me a long time ago that I was good at pulling info out of her and therefore able to get inside and get a close look at the mystery that is the virgo mind. The eye thing is definately the give away. Her feelings just pours out of them. I would just leave him alone for a minute. Let him come to u.

I'm on your team Joshmoe. I'm in a Cancer/Virgo relationship.

Im that typical hard to get virgo girl too. Unlike anyone I've ever met, he helped me open up emotionally. And I can tell he loves every bit of it. I let very few people see my vulnerable side. Once he did that & he didn't make me feel embarrassed or ashamed, I showered him with affection. I never keep my hands to myself. I see him as perfect. If your feelings are this strong for her, i know she feels the same! Us virgals can think about u cancer guys all day & night. Even if we don't contact u all the time. Good luck 🙂

Thanks Rapunzel. She's definately that special. The connection I feel with her is stronger than anything I've felt before (as far as love is considered). Found out not too long ago that she's a hopeless romantic, so I know the things I've said to her and even our current situation are intriguingto her. Its some straight out of a romance novel/hallmark type of shyt. She loves it. Like I said...It may take a while, but she's mine. And my god, I havent dven touched her yet. When that time comes she's really gonna be stuck ;-p.

Patience Clueless......it'll happen. Just gotta be patient.

The connection! Omg! Its like a magnetic pull. Lol. My cancer also filled my head up with romantic words too haha. It worked! Make sure u sneak looks at her too... In a shy way. I catch my guy staring at me all the time...even after 3 yrs lol. We virgals secretly think its sexy when the guy we like does that. We wont tell you though. He's also very respectful like you are. I use to turn him down a lot... Even our first kiss! I told him to not give up on me & he didn't. Im much more confident now than I was back then. Eventually shes going to be a mix of an innocent angel with bad girl aggressiveness....It's in her. But you build this excitement up in her by being totally into her & creating a little distance like you do...its like a give & take mechanism.

The pairing is peaceful. You forget any ex you ever had lol. Plus It's a good sign that she keeps coming back. You are doing good 🙂

That's right CluessCancer, patience 🙂

Yea Rapunzel. Its definately magnetic. Its insane. She's turned me down sooooooo many times as well, but thats one of the things I really love and respect about her is the fact that its not easy...as it shouldnt be. Unfortunately she moved out of state a couple months ago though, so cant shoot her those cute look and stares. Used to happen all the time when she was here though. She'll be back and I'll get my chance. I'm sure of it.

One more point Joshmoe, We virgals can be secretly in love with you cancer guys & have the hardest time admitting it. It's a burning feeling inside but we hold it in. I had to literally work on NOT being so hard to get with him. I just started saying yes more & trusting his lead. Takes time....But watching a story unfold sure is better than rushing to the end. You miss out on the little details. 🙂

Haha we sent messages at the same time. Thats CancerVirgo for ya lol

Fooo shooooooo.

But yea Rapunzel, its definately better to wait. It makes it so much more special. The way she fells about me is evident to me. Its that ridiculous magnetism and those eyes. My god they totally give her away. Her eyes are like looking into an ocean of emotions. Its truly one of the most beautiful things to witness. I told her about her eyes. Dont think she responded. Its cute how she totally ignores the intimate things like that. I know she's scared. I know the emotions Im stirring up in her are scary to her, but the eyes cant lie.

YES It's very scary! But i love it. I also love how you handle our emotions....with care & concern. Stuff like that is foreign to us! I'm sure she gets nervous around you.... I still do around mine. I try my best to hide it. I try to look away until I relax my nerves lol. Then I'm good to go. Our nervousness is that noticable ??!! Darn lol.
But yes, our eyes can get us into trouble. I know lol

Yea. She used to be super nervous and I understand, but the thing is she didnt or doesnt need to fill that way around me because I know who "she" is. I always accepted her for who she was because thats who I was in love with...her.......that simple. I guess thats hard to understand for a virgo or anybody since self esteem issuies have no boundries.

"feels"

Sent her a "no need to respond" email saying " Its 1:17 a.m and I woke up with you on my mind.........Damn girl"......thats it........F*kk this girl is incredible. *looooong sigh*.............................*long sigh again*

Awwww seriously that put a smile on my face. So sweet Joshmoe ! I'm going to be honest. The messages right around 1 AM OR between 5 & 8:30 AM are a favorite for me. The words are important but soon as I notice the time it makes the heart MELTS. Just let it be that single message for a while. Allow her to think about it.
Stay sweet & continue to not push it like you are doing. She will get back to you. Well, You've made Two Virgals happy today haha. You are toooooo good. Well done my friend 🙂

Thanks Rapunzel. I know I said I wasnt gonna send anything for a while....but I couldnt resist. Im done now....lol....nothing for at least a week. Unless its a response.

You're welcome. Since she's into you, continue with little nice sweet gestures & follow them with mystery. Give and take, give and take. If that does not work we will find something else. Lol. Teamwork 🙂

And yes, no more this week lol

Posted by Rapunzel
Awwww seriously that put a smile on my face. So sweet Joshmoe ! I'm going to be honest. The messages right around 1 AM OR between 5 & 8:30 AM are a favorite for me. The words are important but soon as I notice the time it makes the heart MELTS. Just let it be that single message for a while. Allow her to think about it.
Stay sweet & continue to not push it like you are doing. She will get back to you. Well, You've made Two Virgals happy today haha. You are toooooo good. Well done my friend 🙂

This is sooo true! When my SO sends me a text or VM in the wee hours of the morning it let's me know that I was the last thing on his mind before he went to sleep. I don't even respond to the messages (typical Virgo) but it just makes me giddy. The next time I see him I'm all over him and he has no idea what he's done to get so much affection. I love it

Sweet. Thanks ladies. Lol....teamwork huh Rapunzel....I ca dig it.

Hi Neuroticvirgo those hours really are the best ! Lol
A guy that does not understand us can take the things we do (such as not responding back) too personally...When in actuality we are soaking up all that love. I'm glad you are all over your SO the next time u see him. I do that too! He gets no personal space & he loves it that way haha

Yep, that's Joshmoe, teamwork !!! Lol.

*Right

Posted by Rapunzel
Hi Neuroticvirgo those hours really are the best ! Lol
A guy that does not understand us can take the things we do (such as not responding back) too personally...When in actuality we are soaking up all that love. I'm glad you are all over your SO the next time u see him. I do that too! He gets no personal space & he loves it that way haha

Yea he can really take my lack of response the terribly; and begin to think the feeling is not mutual. But when I see him and jump in his lap I can tell that the worry goes away. One day he will realize it has nothing to do with the way I feel about him. Usually I spend the next hour reading all of his sweet texts over and over again grinning like an idiot, while telling myself to calm down and go back to sleep. Oh if only he new that side of me...lol

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Hi Neuroticvirgo those hours really are the best ! Lol
A guy that does not understand us can take the things we do (such as not responding back) too personally...When in actuality we are soaking up all that love. I'm glad you are all over your SO the next time u see him. I do that too! He gets no personal space & he loves it that way haha

Yea he can really take my lack of response the terribly; and begin to think the feeling is not mutual. But when I see him and jump in his lap I can tell that the worry goes away. One day he will realize it has nothing to do with the way I feel about him. Usually I spend the next hour reading all of his sweet texts over and over again grinning like an idiot, while telling myself to calm down and go back to sleep. Oh if only he new that side of me...lol

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You are absolutely right. At first he's tense or quiet until you sit on his lap. Then its like he's cured...You can visibly see all the worry & doubt go away. My guy cant resist when i slowly kiss his entire face lol. And yea I read the texts he sends over and over too. Those late/early texts make me lose sleep but i don't care. Sooo funny. Like you said, Only if he knew that side lol

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Hi Neuroticvirgo those hours really are the best ! Lol
A guy that does not understand us can take the things we do (such as not responding back) too personally...When in actuality we are soaking up all that love. I'm glad you are all over your SO the next time u see him. I do that too! He gets no personal space & he loves it that way haha

Yea he can really take my lack of response the terribly; and begin to think the feeling is not mutual. But when I see him and jump in his lap I can tell that the worry goes away. One day he will realize it has nothing to do with the way I feel about him. Usually I spend the next hour reading all of his sweet texts over and over again grinning like an idiot, while telling myself to calm down and go back to sleep. Oh if only he new that side of me...lol

You are absolutely right. At first he's tense or quiet until you sit on his lap. Then its like he's cured...You can visibly see all the worry & doubt go away. My guy cant resist when i slowly kiss his entire face lol. And yea I read the texts he sends over and over too. Those late/early texts make me lose sleep but i don't care. Sooo funny. Like you said, Only if he knew that side lol

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hahaha it's soo great to know I'm not the only one! The other day when got together I just grabbed his face and kissed him all over his face which turned into us making out at the stop light and holding up traffic. When we finally did come up for air he literally morphed into a shy school boy. All blushing and smiles; I watched him visibly relax and secretly loved every moment of it. Sometimes I can't figure out how they don't know how we feel. It's like can't you see me? I'm a total wreck of emotions over you you nut! What's your guys sign?

^^^^^^ Haha that's funny you held up traffic. Lol lol. And You're right they sometimes don't think we love them as much. Poor babies. I guess we have to yell out our feelings on top of a mountain for them to see we love them ! Joking 🙂 My guy is a cancer, what's yours??

HA! Picture me A VIRGO yelling my feelings for someone out into the open! Not gonna happen, even though I sometimes want to I'm just to cautious for that. He would literally have to declare his undying love for me over the PA system at the next footketball game before I felt safe enough and sure enough to do that. Til then I'll stick to subtle comments and grand gestures of affection...lol

Lol EXACTLY ! Lol Announcements that grand are definitely not gonna happen.... I am the same way. The PA system at a football game isn't good enough . He will have to broadcast his love for me on CNN before I yell anything. Lol Im like you, very subtle & very cautious.

Posted by Rapunzel
Lol EXACTLY ! Lol Announcements that grand are definitely not gonna happen.... I am the same way. The PA system at a football game isn't good enough . He will have to broadcast his love for me on CNN before I yell anything. Lol Im like you, very subtle & very cautious.

Ha CNN I like it; perhaps I'm thinking too small. He'll need to yell it from space then plant a flag bearing a photo of the 2 of us kissing on the moon...THEN maybe I'll yell something about love...probably not though. lol He's a Taurus by the way.

I go back and read our email convos too.

Haha I just laughed so loud. That was a very good one! Love Virgo humor. An outer-space announcement will end up getting the guy married honey lol
Awww a Taurus fellow. I only have Taurus female friends. We get along sooooo good. The guys seem kinda shy & innocent.
Im sure u two get along well 🙂

Posted by Rapunzel
Haha I just laughed so loud. That was a very good one! Love Virgo humor. An outer-space announcement will end up getting the guy married honey lol
Awww a Taurus fellow. I only have Taurus female friends. We get along sooooo good. The guys seem kinda shy & innocent.
Im sure u two get along well 🙂

True true there is very little doubting a space announcement! He could pretty much get whatever he wants at that point...lol He has both an innocent and dirty quality to him which both attracts me and scares me. But we get along in a way I didn't know was possible with someone you've only known a few months. We just seem to get each other.

Awww Joshmoe You go back & read your convos too ? So nice to see a guy confess that ! 🙂