How to get back with virgo guy I broke up with

Before long story Short one is we both were on different pace in our relationship.

I was in a LDR and it was very slow but I was sure with time he will open up and get close to me.

Few weeks back something start happening at my end because of which I had to asked him to show seriousness for our relationship so i can intro him to my family but for him it was too soon (in my culture intro to family means getting engaged)

AnywaAnyways he was ready for it and my family was setting me up with a new guy.

So i gave him time and pushed him to answer me.

He did not give me any direct answer other than he Don't know as he is not ready to think on those lines.

So i broke up with him and our communication was very less in last few weeks.

I broke with three times in a row.It was so frustrating.

Last week after breaking up I contacted him four days later as when i broke up even next day he send me his usual morning msg.

we had a nice chat and his idea for my problem was to move to a city near him for a job But still he cant commit.

I asked him he should aglest say that he is sorry and he said that but there was nothing more he gave me.

I have a friend who does reiki and he is very good in it.when I start talking to this guy he told me exactly how this person was and told me to wait for him n give this relationship a chance to grow.

But two days back when I asked him again after his intiution he told me He does not feel that same way about me at this moment at all and just wanna be friends with me.No more feelings.

I was very aggressive in last few weeks and leaving him mile long msgs everyday to make him talk to me properly..

The more serious the msg were the less was his response.

I am a Leo

Anyways after hearing from my friend that this guy does not at the moment feel the same way I lost it and send him msgs asking him that I know his feelings has changed.

When I mentioned that I still wanted to get back together after i get out of this mess he did responds that he is busy and ask me to wait but I know him msging wait means he is not gonna talk soon or simply avoiding as he stays online all the time.

after his this msg I told him we are done n it's over n there is no way we ever gonna bump into each other and unfortunately many more msgs.

by nite time I was done with my rant and last msg i send him that I am sorry and I hope we end on good terms

He did not respond at all

in the morning i send him msg again that all I now want is that we end it on good terms but still he did not respond.

To be honest I do want to things work with him But getting to know he lost his feelings because of past few week mess was a total heart break.

Now my question is How to make him respond

So we can atlest end on good terms (We can still hope for better times this way)

I am an emotional person and I tend to say what ever comes in my mind but one thing is i never said anything bad to him about him or accuse him of anything.

Just one thing we ar3 not on the same page

So before letting me k move on kindly tell me how virgo guy respond in these situation and after how much time later or not at all.

Earthgoddess I am not in a hurry to get married aswell.I am 37 and he is aswell and since i am still single so yea I have to be serious about it.

We both know why we were talking to each other.

We start talking six months back.

I dont wanted him to commit to me right away..just stand by me and take his time.

He is still not over his ex and he was the one who told me he need to get push as he is trying himself aswell.

He broke up with her two years ago.infact she did.

Anyways he still was stuck but start dating in this march again.

Now today I can't even make him respond to me.

He himself said he knows I am in this mess because of him and he is really sorry.

I really like this guy and tomorrow I have to go and meet this other guy.i know i am gonna say but thats not the point.

He could had manage it better but he keep ignoring to ralk on this issue as he was unable to give me the support I needed.

Now I send him three msgs in the morning just asking for a decent break up as I know we can't going on like this but he did not respond

Trust me I am broken heart and i do have strong feelings for him.

You sound volatile.

That is a major tun off with Virgos.

And the control freak part is on another level.

"How to make him.."

Girl, bye.

I am asking how to make it work

that's why here

Not here to get judge.

No I am not volatile and every time when ever he complimented is the same thing that I am calm

But yes this pressure from family and his keeping distance n refusing to talk on this topic was too much.

He use to joke about how he knows here comes the novel

But I am in such a mess and I can't just marry someone just be a use it's time and it does not matter I like that person or not.

You have no idea how much stressout I am.

I first thought will ask him that let's meet n sit and talk but since he live 6 hour drive away so can't have asked him just to come for it.

What was the biggest issue was his lack of response on time.

aslong as talk was about regular life all was fine but never on serious topic

and in last 6 months it was the first time I expressed my feelings for him.

I feel so alone right now and the only person I wanna talk to I had broken up with him myself n now he would not even respond to me.

well he is not crying over me.Trust me.

His argument was why cant we stay friends then.

and that's why I broke up first time.

He wanted to keep in touch but as friends or indirectly told me to check my option as he is not going anywhere and if things don't work out for me i can come back to him

So no stop being so mean in your response

You don't know my life or me in person that's why you have no idea what sort of person I am.

I did not put question over here to be verbally abuse by o5hers

Thanks for your insight but problem is you are not getting my problem

and Yes I do want us to end on good note.

I want us to remember each other in good words not like this

Not all the mess which was created

Posted by magma2
He's had enough of it/you. The best thing you could do IMO is leave him be, give him time to clear his head and miss you, and if that happens (don't hold your breath), he'll make contact, otherwise you'll only drive him further away than he already is.

Yes you are right but a realization just hit me how I did not consider his side in all my messy situation.

earthgoddess was rude but her point was right.I did not consider his position at all.

I should had left him or waited for him to change his pace.



Now i don't know. I did send him few msgs pointed out the excat thing how I did not think of him his side and what he wants.

Posted by Earthgoddess
Sorry if I made u feel bad. I know my bluntness can be hard to handle sometimes. Especially when emotions are involved ( Virgo life 😞)

Thanks for saying sorry )

well this virgo guy I know he is very polite and says sorry when ever he feels he hurt or I told him someone he said was hurtful

Well I talked to him and we had a good talk

I am gonna see the other guy because my previous experience before this virgo guy was a nitemare and I am so scare to wait for some guy who is not clear.

I wish I had meet him soon in life n I still ask him I will say No to this other guy tomorrow if there is something serious from his end.

Since he cant can't make up his mind at the moment i have no choice then to let go

I read "He isn't giving me what I want, WAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH"

keep your pants on guys who can't get it .

Anyways I am thankful to goddess for her insight.

He himself admit he is always uncertain about things in his life.

Oh I wish it can work out but we both want different things So couldn't stay as his friend

So have to let go.

It's life may be get a chance to get back together

So I was suppose to meet this guy my family saw today.

The virgo guy I ended things last nite with I asked him if things don't work out with this proposal for me and i contact him would he still just wanna be friends only ? (He did ask me no matter what the outcome of your meeting will be can we stay friends and I told him No as i am not looking for just a friend.i am looking for a parnter)

His answer was that let's be friends n then see how things go on and I told him No that is not what i want and i cant be just friends with him as I have feelings for him.

So we chatted for a while as I asked him that we should chat one last time.

it went good and i said my bye to him that we ended things on good note (I parted ways as i want a proper relantionship and he just wants friendship)

Now in the morning he send me a morning msg (it was his thing during our 6 month LDR to send me a morning msg)

I was not expecting that at all.Anyways I reply him back that I am sorry but he should not send me morning msg anymore as it's the right way to do things (given the fact we broke up last nite n he knew I broke up for a reason)

He replied back that OK

I am just confuse why he send me morning msg both on whatsapp n text msg when he knew we ended things also that I don't him as a friend at all.

Oh one thing for anyone interested in knowing why sometimes virgo guys back off Well in my own personal experience my lack of handling the siatuation was the major turn off for him.

I dont think so he will contact me again plus it does not matter as contact with out being on same page is nothing.

I did the right thing and I do feel light but I would not lie there is this hope in my heart or more likely a wish that he will come back with a change attitude.