How to tell if a Virgo Woman only wants to be just friends?

Hi!, first time here, Im a Sag male, and currently madly in love with a Virgo woman, and I'm looking for advice.

So I met this girl about 3 years ago, we got along fine but talk just a few times a year, about 4 months now, we started talking more regular, and she said I was her artistic crush (Im an artist myself), started talking, flirting a bit, and ever since, we've been talking daily.

At first we got a lot of confidence and start talking about very personal stuff, she did open, and I did open.

We have everything in common, very similar experiences, taste, same sense of humour so we get a long fine.

Thing is, some months now, she stopped sharing and has been a lot more defensive in sharing her feelings, experience and everything, we joke around and get to talk a lot, but sometimes she disappears for hours without saying anything and comes back as if nothing happened and keeps the conversation going.

When I disappear, I always get a message of her asking me where am I, or where have I been, but when I ask her he never replies, some days pass and she let me know.

About a month ago I told her I was falling for her, which she replied she needed time, and wouldn't bare to lose my friendship because it has helped her a lot.

As a sag, I try to cheer her up, trying to help to fulfil her dreams, we even forced ourselves to go into a healthy diet and started exercising, and keep sharing results.

When we talk I notice she avoids some issues, which I respect, Once I did let her know I can easily know when she tries to change subtly the subject or persuade me, which she says she does that, but as I respect her privacy I play dumb every time I see one this behaviour so she can still be confortable.

Im heading to visit her for one day next week, I found myself buying stuff I know she would like without me noticing, It's the first time I find myself doing this for another person, which is weird and new to me, we made plans to see each other one day, but as the date comes closer, the more she avoids the subject, which is sort of making me insecure, which is very unusual on me.

Once or twice she has kept the conversation going, and told me she was only replying due politeness, which left me wondering If there is any interest at all.

Can I get some thoughts or advice?

Thanks!

Yes the ending through me for a loop. It's not nice for her to lead you on if she's not that interested in you. She might just be using you. However, she may like you too. I think you should start giving her space to figure out her feelings. Don't talk to her every day anymore. See if she chases you.

Eh..... sometimes sags become an irritant conversation wise it gets exhausting and you just want to tell them shut up.

Do you talk too much—

Shut up and enjoy the time together.

That's all I'm getting otherwise I don't see any issues.

Time will tell where this goes.

I friendzone guys by calling them bro/ dude/ friend.

Wow.

This is the first time I've seen a sag male on this board (I'm relatively new also)

Welcome (:

Pull back a little. Not too much but just enough for her to notice. She'll come running.

I think she's developing a crush for you. And that's made it awkward and now she almost has to skirt around things or think of what to say. And maybe she hasn't fully figured it out herself and is disappearing to try to.

Seeing each other in person will definitely be able to break ice though. See how comfy you two are together.

In love?

As a woman, the only time i switch up, theres another girl in the picture. Any hint of competition i start becoming unpleasant. Any pics youve taken with a young lady? Spoken about any other girls?

Some virgos like to be friends first to really vet ppl.

If not, Ask her very directly if she is interested in pursuing a relationship.

If she stalls, accept her answer.

Lol kinda going through the same thing with a Virgo but I've got Mars in Scorp patience working for me.

OP, how much do you actually pay attention to and understand her? Do you compliment her attention to detail? Things of that nature?

Understand, her thoughts are constantly in motion and she's a mutable like you. This may be hard and it's a 50/50 shot but continue to be that safe haven for her so that she feels safe. Understand that she's going to over think like you. But you have to lead her. Don't be forceful or aggressive but he your natural calm self. She's gonna be hot and cold but don't panic. And yes, make her miss you a little.

Good luck