I can't take Virgo men seriously in relationships. (Page 2)

hate to generalize -- yes - so we will put them in the "doosh" basket. Check please...

I do very well with most people - I am a cancer. I do, appreciate and am thankful for every nice thing that is done for me - and tell them so. I am very aware of good deeds, and kindness. Not every virgo is not as "nice" as they think they are. But I dont like to generalize. My "experience" was that he thought his good deeds caused his own detriment,(after he tried to justify his shady actions), when it was his shady actions that caused his own detriments. LOL- I dont think anyone else would think that way... but a virgo.. lol (sept born of cours)..😉

Posted by Let*It*Be
"The only thing I "take" is the natural need to hear some form of appreciation or acknowledgement."


That's why selfish women don't do very well with virgos is that right there. Because a virgo guy is so subtle about their generosity it often gets overlooked. I notice the little things immediately...no matter who it is. You do something nice for me, at the very least you are going to get a big old fashioned THANK YOU 😉 I say old fashioned, because it seems expectations and the me, me, me is what rules in todays society.

In my relationship with a Virgo man, he was really sweet, called me every night. In the beginning months we would go out, nothing expensive or extravagant. But one night, he complained about the price of the movie ticket in front of the ticketer and I was embarrassed. I told him later that he made me feel unappreciated; like I wasnt worth 10 bucks! He did apologize but after that, I was always second guessing our dates. I even took him out on a "date" and paid, would bring dinner over to his place, etc. I was the one doing little things to show I cared, not him. I got tired of being the only one working in the relationship.

Hmm...thanks for that shared experience Lady Sagg. Yes, it does often seem like the female is the only one who does the work in the relationship to keep it going, especially if there's been a tiff between said Virguy & you. I think it's cuz they second guess themselves & wonder if you are going to be super critical of them so they pull back & allow you to do all the leading...they can't help being critical I think: of themselves & of the world too. OP3(I think it was OP3) said he tries extra hard because he knows he will fall short, so hopefully those good deeds will make up for his imperfections...so that could be why they pull out all the stops in the beginning, so they don't have to try to be "perfect" around U all the time when the relationship gets more established?

I dated 2 Virguys. The first one never called ME to go out, & I was always initiating everything...he'd go along & participate, but I too got tired of being the one always trying to keep things going. He said a strange thing to me the night he helped me pick up my brand new Honda @ the dealership: "You won't need me anymore now." Thought that was strange since I NEVER used him for transportation, & was the one always driving to see HIM. I think he felt like since I was "moving up in the world" I wouldn't need him around anymore(??) He totally disappeared after that. I called once to say we should go out and all he said was: "Yeahhh, that would be nice". I decided to let HIM be the one to arrange something, & of course, he never did.

Second Virguy I tried to keep in touch w/after a fun filled festival weekend. We got pretty close & then he disappeared for 4 months w/no contact. I gave up. He re-appeared suddenly & explained he wanted to "start a relationship with me" & apologized profusely for being "an ass" by disappearing like he did. Well, we carried on for 1.5 mos, but then he disappeared again for 2.5 weeks, & I asked him if he was alright, what's he been up to, & nothing...after 2.5 weeks I told him "I gotta go" & a relationship wasn't gonna work. He replied finally by saying "still friends. Right?" I let him have it. Said it takes TWO to keep even a friendship going & I feel like I'm the only one who tries to keep communication regular. I was mad but I wanted him to defend himself so we could have clarity. He explained he'd been away for 2.5 weeks & just "got back", & he lives in the country & doesn't rely on his phone & hardly checks/uses it. So yep, unto themselves they R.

Posted by TheLadySagittarius

Posted by Let*It*Be
"The only thing I "take" is the natural need to hear some form of appreciation or acknowledgement."


That's why selfish women don't do very well with virgos is that right there. Because a virgo guy is so subtle about their generosity it often gets overlooked. I notice the little things immediately...no matter who it is. You do something nice for me, at the very least you are going to get a big old fashioned THANK YOU 😉 I say old fashioned, because it seems expectations and the me, me, me is what rules in todays society.

In my relationship with a Virgo man, he was really sweet, called me every night. In the beginning months we would go out, nothing expensive or extravagant. But one night, he complained about the price of the movie ticket in front of the ticketer and I was embarrassed. I told him later that he made me feel unappreciated; like I wasnt worth 10 bucks! He did apologize but after that, I was always second guessing our dates. I even took him out on a "date" and paid, would bring dinner over to his place, etc. I was the one doing little things to show I cared, not him. I got tired of being the only one working in the relationship.

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I had to lol at this one I have done this before but come on you have to admit the movie prices have been getting out of control. I went to a 3d movie and I had to pay $ 30 for 2 people are u fucking kidding me. Its not that he thinks your not worth the money. Its just that when a virgos know he is getting rip off we can't take it.

@ Decan: Oh yeah, OF COURSE my life goes ON, merrily so even MORE now that I've dropped the two guys who didn't put in & only wanted to get what they could outta the relationship. 'Tis how we learn about behaviors...

I just think the second guy in particular is one-sidedly selfish & can't stand IT if someone ELSE points out shortcomings/disatisfactions...HE has to be the one to admit it & ask forgiveness (as he did earlier) & hoped I'd overlook his strange behavior (which I did out of compassion). But now the tables have turned & he feels slighted by ME for being upset @ his oversight & though I've asked for forgiveness for laying into him w/out knowing his full story (which he coulda shared simply by saying he'd be away for a bit so I wouldn't worry he'd lost interest/died/etc), he can't accept that OTHERS make mistakes too & we can forgive & move on from there & make adjustments to meet meet each others needs to keep a person IN our life...goes both ways. But, although I've heard it's common for Virgos to have a hard time admitting their own faults when pointed out by OTHERS, I think it's a character flaw you can find in ANY sign, depending on how big the ego is...some people are just Narcissists who want you for THEIR SAKE, not because they TRULY care about YOU. If someone truly cares about YOU they will make the adjustments necessary to try & keep you in their life if you have certain needs which they've overlooked by their habitual nature... no two people come into a relationship perfectly adjusted or calibrated to one another...that's why they take work & we learn about each other along the way, & whether or not we want to keep a person in our life...it's a chance we take. Sex & the fire will abate eventually, & then we have the reality of making choices...not many make it through because of unrealistic expectations/selfish motives/too many personal issues/etc.

@ Virgoking: I agree on the movie tix...they're way crazy these days, & I've always thought reasonably whenever a date was in the offing because we all gotta make money & pay bills so I naturally look to be moderate, not extravagant...it's the COMPANY that counts, not how big the event is. Lol. But, I see Lady Sagg's point too....just differing viewpoints & NEEDS...that's why communication is SO important, so we don't wind up with a jaded view on things that upset us...hence this discussion board. 🙂 Helps to speak out & hear both sides. 🙂

^ Will the vendetta ever end? 😛 🙂