...I'm still surfing the posts but...

Have nothing to add....and feel like my contributions would be fruitless since this Virgo thing has not panned out for me. But I am reading everyones posts.

The last I spoke to Virgo guy was almost a week and half when he called me for a last minute date but I had to work. Then a few days later called but I had plans and he had a hockey game. Told me "I'll call you next week"

No word since.

Yes, have been to the bar, he has not been there. I am not changing my routine because of him...my life continues as normal where I hang out, etc.

I'm still posting because I love all of you and feed off of all this great information!

Branh~
I am not even asking the question anymore. I was used I'm sure...he was a player the whole time. I am seeing reality. What sucks is how stupid is he to have done this in my own back yard...where we all know the same people.

No questions because I dont want the answer. I'm done.

Hi Branh~
Why am I still thinking about him?
Because I like him...period. Dont know why...I am a tuff nut to crack, and do not open myself up to this type of vulnerability..I dont date much havnt in 2 years.

No...we never had any conversation about expectations, etc. I played it cool, he played it cool. I was hoping we could have another date so I can approach this subject...I've been waiting for the call....

Hi Branh~

The reason why I like him is our very deep conversations, we are so much alike in personality, work ethics, we challenge each others mind and stimulate great debates...I love that in a man. We like the same things, we both have the same "family issues" (addicts in the family), we both work out of our house so he has helped me to get started and advise. Our conversations are "deep" and I like him because this is the first guy who has just "been himself" around me and I have "been myself" around him. Playing it "cool"...meaning we were just letting it happen.

He was very very shy at first then started to open up and talk about stuff "future" stuff. He is not a very affectionate person in public but the last time we went out he put his arm around my chair and was touching my knee at the bar...he had never done that before. So no...I do not agree he is "not" into me.

Sophie68.

He tested you. He failed with you. Leave him.

What do you mean Haffo? Tested me? Who failed what?

He failed to find your string on which he could play and manipulate on. Since he failed, he lost interest. Leave him.

Yeah Branh0913.

Honestly, you Virgos are very easy to figure out.

"Is that a fact haffo?"

Virgo method:

Today is hot here Branh0913. How about the place you live on?

Great!

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Next!

Sophie68,

I've been doing a lot of reading on DXP about Virgos because I have a friend who is one. I wanted to get some insight into how they tick. With my friend who is a Virgo, I have learnt a lot on DXP on how to handle him. I've also found that Virgos disappear to just reappear when you've forgotten about them. It's like they don't won't you to forget them even though they disappeared. My friend told me he always comes back. I found this very strange but it looks like it's true. I would think your Virgo guy will be back just when you've moved on. Then you'll be able to decide if you want to continue on with him or not.

Mystical

"I don't think you were played at all really. I think you were just expecting more from him, and he just gave you what he thought he had to. He didn't feel any obligation to you. I doubt very much that you told him what you were looking for, what you wanted, and what you were really expecting the relationship to go. This is the problem sometimes with women, they don't always make it clear where they want to take things, and they become victims to their own thought process. The guy wasn't being a player, he was simply having fun. Maybe he is not ready for a relationship, and that is fine, but from your post it doesn't appear that you had this conversation. Personally I think you fell victim to your own passion. In either case, just get over him. I know you probably would like to settle down, but maybe you need to work on communication."

-- Branh I would just like to say that reading this gave me a lot of good insight. Definitely something I wasn't quite clear on, it was up there but not quite in words yet lol I read it and a lightbulb went off, almost literally ha ha ha

Not that I'd use it to excuse anyones actions but it is a piece of information that I will retain... hmmm and probably build upon.

After calling you twice and not getting another date, I would just assume your not interested and move on. If you were really interested in going out, you would suggest a time or call me back later and ask me out. But that's just me.

Well All...

I made the call.

"Hey You! Calling to see how you are doing, hoping you had a great Easter and good time in NY. I'm now on my way to drop my dog off at my parents house, sadly enough she is more excited when I leave than when I come home...hmmm....anyways, hopefully we can get together soon...give me a call"

So the balls in his court.....

What would bug me most of all would be him not answering the calls...

Right arounddddd this time I'd turn into his worst nightmare!

Hi Sophie, when you get a chance check your E-Mail

Hi guys...he called me back 10 minutes later of course, he ALWAYS calls back....and he asked to come by and say Hi and offered to drive me to the airport in the AM. So I did....please ready My night with Player Virgo....

Hi Johnny...thanks!!