Introverted Virgo, Please guys, help me out here!

I have been seing this introverted Virgo man for over 6 months.
I am a Leo, but also introverted and extremley shy.
Anyways, it was me who came to him, that was a BIG struggle for me, since I'm so shy. He works at the gym where I train, (He is 41 I am 34)

After my initial txt, (thats how I first contacted him, found out his #), we started to hang out, I wouldnt make a singel move neither did he, we would have a good time together, Deep talks about Everything and reveling the most personal things abt our selves, which we still do.
After a month I felt that he was uninterested..so I asked, He said he had concerns...
He said that he was emotionally unavailable (he was in a relationship where a girl would cheat a lie, he went to therapy after to deal with all that, when we started to hang out he had been single for 2 years)
,he said he didnt want to hurt me, and also that it prob wouldnt work out between us sexually...him dominant.

Anyhow, we started to have sex, and Everything worked out just fine!
As I am really shy etc I can come across as Cold and distant, (at gym we say Hello but my shyness make me ignore otherwise. I have been keeping my guard up this whole time. After abt 4 months I told him though that I'm starting to get attached, He freaked out, he jumped up, crossed his arms and said, That is out of the blue, I did not see that coming!!!
a week later, I asked if he wanted to hang out, he said Yes,Always says Yes.I was going away for 4 weeks, and he was the one who said, See you when you get back.

We did continue to see each other when I got back, and now after 6 months, I said to him, "Maybe I shouldnt see you anymore, cause I like you

He didnt say a word, He just took my hands in his and started to kiss me and cuddle, for like 20 min...then I left.

So abt 5 Days later, (I was really confused), I txt him and asked him if he still wanted to see me now that he knew that I like him, he answered," YEah Sure ! I Think u r a nice girl."

So than we met up, he made dinner, Another great evening, Deep talks bla bla.

All of a sudden, he blurts out, "Hey, we dont have to have sex anymore, if it makes you shy, awkward" etc. And he said, I didnt Think you would Contact me again after last time. I asked him if he played me, or for the convenience of casuality. He said No and that it ist that he doesnt like me, and that he is so introverted blabla and that he leaves it up to me.

I have nooo idea, is this mission impossible?, I ca

He's just feeling a little self conscious at the moment. Probably saying such things to feel out if you still like sexing it up with him. You could tell Virgo's 26384937382829299X'S that you fancy us, and we'll somehow still question it. Don't read to far into it.

Posted by Lea
I said it to be honest and to protect myself, If he still wasnt ready, then he prob wouldnt like the fact that I like him, right?

You were with him six months and decide to tell him you shouldn't see him anymore. You want to be honest? You were looking for him to fall to your feet and beg mercy to squelch your insecurities. It didn't happen, it backfired. If a Virgo isn't ready, he certainly wouldn't be with a woman for six months. You were looking for the feet kissing, and with Virgos, that crap just doesn't work. Really..it doesn't. Be real, be yourself and lose the drama. He may just stick around another six months.

Posted by LetltB

Posted by Lea
I said it to be honest and to protect myself, If he still wasnt ready, then he prob wouldnt like the fact that I like him, right?

You were with him six months and decide to tell him you shouldn't see him anymore. You want to be honest? You were looking for him to fall to your feet and beg mercy to squelch your insecurities. It didn't happen, it backfired. If a Virgo isn't ready, he certainly wouldn't be with a woman for six months. You were looking for the feet kissing, and with Virgos, that crap just doesn't work. Really..it doesn't. Be real, be yourself and lose the drama. He may just stick around another six months.

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I see your Point!
It has been easy for him to "stick around" for 6 months, I have never asked for anything and really taken it slow, since I knew he was not available emotionally. We have only seen each other once a week, maybe it has more been like "FWB" for him..
Anyways, he said yes to hang out with me even tho I like him, but I still don't understan?? Saying he leaves it up to me, as in, I have to contact to him if we are going to hang out, he seems to be extremly indifferent..

And yeah, I feel a bit embarrassed and haven't contacted him yet... His body language tells me he likes me, but I don't wanna be his toy.. Haha, he did say we dont have to have sex...
I really like this guy, I rarelylike ppl romantically, have been single for 5 years.

Anymore opinions or advise on this?

Thanks 🙂