Intuitive

Hello, thanks for reading my questions. Hope someone will have some advice on this matter. Without going into a lot of detail, hurt my virgo partner badly thru my own embolism.

he is willing to try again but is being so difficult. it is a dive into murky water, visibility is like 1". getting blasted (tho i blasted first so it could well be retaliation). hanging on.. but i dont know what to think. he is so moody, and his behavior shows something clearly: he wants relationship with children at least. he says one thing, but i see another in his response to a reentering a relationship together at some future point. he has misunderstood anything less than obedience is an excuse, weakness, and it seems to disgust him. this forum seems to show the respect is something requiring perserverence from a partner. he has said in no less words, that we had it once, and tho broken, it is a chance for me. ok so ego aside, what type of action is required? pure obedience doesnt strike me as impressive... but maybe it would soothe his hurt ego? it is a true sacrifice for me to do what he is asking, and i did try sacrificing before, only to feel complete internal desolation. i want his patience for a specific period-less than a year, a yr max. he complains but is silent, and i feel judged as an egotistical, untrue. but the fact remains that he has not abandoned this relationship. that is what speaks volumes. suggestions for (not impressing, but...) earning respect, or making him feel better when it would appear to him that i've become too selfish for his fine sensitivity? i've recently resorted to creating space in the relationship, which helps me deal with my own confusion, but i think he and i both need to communicate. but we seem to get angry when we do. and he wont do counseling at all.. i dont want to but would like to consider it as a tool for better the relationship miscommunication. he is actually saying in less words, if my intuition is correct, he wants to be caught, but in a different way than before, and he wants that to be led by me. when he is so critical it is a total turn off for me tho, and I want to run away from it. Earning more criticism if he sees that. But in no less words he has often opened up to reveal a desire for me to 'take charge.' which is a totally random, concept for me. when i do try this, it seems to create anger in him instead of the desired result, so i get the impression i am doing something wrong, but that i can still do something right

Instead of telling him show him your sorry, and prove to him with your actions instead of words.

I hope you get some insight from the Virgo Men here but In my experience... I've had a few VM in my life in past... Kinda dealing with one know.... For one, he will never ever forget anything you say.. Never. Also VM in my opinion have a hard time collating the wife/lover women the commit to... It seems to be too complex for them to do... On one hand they want this perfect image of how their home life/ children/mother should be. On the other hand they want sociable goal orientated woman...you may have said 1 little thing during this argument and know that's festering in his mind if you are gonna be "the lady" to raise his children, care for his home... Etc....tread lightly and think very hard if you want to be under the microscope the rest of your days... You and I know that Virgo men have some very fine qualities... Obvious or we all who are so entangled with them here on DXP would walk... This is just some negatives to consider...

So, you've hurt your partner badly due to having a blood clot?

Posted by P-Angel

So, you've hurt your partner badly due to having a blood clot?

lol..