LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE

are you in LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was deeply so in love with a virgo. (I am a cancer). It took me a long time to "move on" from him. I think about him everyday. I wonder how he feels sometimes? (not that it matters anymore, but it does cross my mind).

more than Ive ever been and more than I think she believes

That was really, a very sweet posting. I don't know if I'm "in love" but I know something is happening inside my heart. I'm a three time love and loser of the Pisces and once again my new love interest happens to be a Pisces. One would think that I would or should know better? Right? I guess I'm doomed to repeat the same mistakes? Over and over? Actually, this Pisces female is not going anywhere. She loves me. I know that. It's me that is hesitant. Not her. I keep reeling her in and then throwing her back. My normal routine. I'm scared. What would you say about a Virgo and a Pisces loving each other and making it last? It hasn't worked in the past... Someone please help me to set myself straight?

Pisces is the great pretender, secretive. But mybe its the Emotion, and compassionate, sensitive

I can't write her, I can't call her. I can't do anything. She does not want me to be her soulmate. I think that point has been made very clear. What I feel in my heart from here on- is for me. I'm actually very happy about that.

To love someone is to say that you are in their life. True? Or am I just that stupid? To say that if someone walk's away from you there isn't anything left to hold on to? I'd be like duh?

R-E-S-P-E-C-T.

Oh my God!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Respect says it all!

You are not "just that stupid"...if ther is love, there is 'in your life' stuff happening and if it isn't, there is something wrong!

So to have someone in your life? They do need to see you, right? I guess I am that stupid. I don't see her, can she see me? lol

The last posting is also 64-...

I believe in love, but it should be with the right person.

209-244, How do you know it's the right person? What gives it away for you?

My thoughts on focusing that one person who stands out of routine, who has that special ability to chip the ice on your internal psyche, and warm your heart and throw you off kilter........is and in a sense of reverse psychology whom is almost opposite of you..someone who has the other parts the strength that you don't posses. Someone who is weaker in parts where you are strong.A desire to compose a whole of all the little parts. If you cannot learn from someone, if you cannot be inspired by someone than I find it hard to see much meaning in life.....from an loving Aries

WOW! I am speechless. Wow!!

Beautiful!

Hey Aries--that was very well said!

My thoughts (from a Scorpio female): The way I know I am in love with someone is when they are ALL I can think about, and I have NO appetite, and I get butterflies EVERY time I see them or hear their voice, or even think about them...and every other problem I have seems to fall away, and I idolize them and believe that they are THE BEST person I've ever met, and I can't sleep because I'm thinking about them, and I have dreams about them (day & night), and they are the only person I can really cry over.

But, that's just me! : )

phoenix_rising

I just spilled my guts and shared all of my insides to a virgo whom I know was interested in me, and what did he do? He got cold and ran away he pushed me away. Unfair. I hate the end. It hurts. Going through catharsis. I've have realized that when you get to that level when you think you love someone you should always anticipate the equivalent of pain. Always. It is unavoidable. Ultimately, in the dyad one will always come up the victor who is able to be freed. The other was the weaker whom, who didn't attain the desired "last impression" or the glory who will suffer the most, and whom will remain in bondage. Love hurts. I suppose it is I who will suffer now.

What sign are you?

Aries

Well, I am sorry that this has happened to you; I think that it--or something similar--has happened, or will happen to every one of us in our lives. Which makes it not one bit easier, I know. The part about how you should anticipate pain...I actually agree with that to an extent. I think that love can be very fickle, especially for those signs that are *less* comfortable in the emotional realm of the human experience, such as Virgos. The reason why I think it's beneficial to anticipate pain, is that rejection can be very devastating if one is totally unprepared for it. It's devastating even when you ARE prepared for it, but less so when you have lower expectations of how the other person will react.

Aries is a very passionate sign, and Virgo is known for being a little less so. I have had plenty of experience with this difference with Earth signs (which Virgo is); even though I am a Water sign.

All I can tell you is to not get too negative about this: just because he got scared doesn't necessarily mean he wasn't interested in you. Just take a deep breath, and you might find him coming back to tell you what an idiot he was! : )

phoenix_rising

I am a cancer male and went thru the same thing with my virgo ex. It took me about 3 months to feel like a normal person again. Today, however, I feel incredibly strong - and more confident.
It was a very rough road, however. I drove everyone crazy, and if I heard the words "move on", I was going to spit nails. I do think about him sometimes, and now know, that in hindsight, this was a good thing that happened. I am much more focused and fine tuned on what I want and don't want. I am making career changes for the better, and have been dating quality people. But, YES, it is a cathardic experience, one I hope not to relive in the near future. Take care.

so...who is the dyad in your post? Hopefully you!

I think what she meant with the dyad= meaning the two persons involved. I think that is right?

of course....I feel sorry for this person going thru this breakup - sounds like they have been in alot of pain. However, I can assure them, that I have been there, and have risen above even stronger than ever, and they will too. The ex after awhile becomes a memory. However, I am confused about your interpretation of who is still in bondage..you or the one that broke up with you?

It is I whom am in bondage. It my heart and my pride stripped away. Feeling so vulnerable, humbled, relegated to so small in status and stature. I feel exposed. The sparkle in my eye robbed of me in mid daylight. I am an open wound. I never ever share that part of me, I thought I could trust him, I thought he would care. I never thought he would just leave.

attn 64 -
Please get a hold of yourself. I was there less than a year ago. I know exactly how you feel. Trust me, you are not in bondage - you are strong! A virgo did the same to me. Please keep in touch - I want to help you through this!

Attn 166: You are more than wonderful thanks for just listening to me.
It is now day five. I am going through some type of "withdrawl". Unfortunately when I flip on the radio, nothing but sad songs which makes it worth. Days ago I actually "mourned" confronted the pain. Now as I work and go through my daily routine I am ok but even though I am distracted, I still feel this dull ache in my heart. It is the worst at night when I put my head on the pillow I drown myself in sorrow possibly because I cannot distract or "escape" my loss. My only hope now is to try to rationalize all this. Try to explain to myself that he never had the capability inside his heart to love me like I need to be loved. Or maybe he had been burned once in the past to some extent, to where I should feel sensitive to his need for not "wanting to face this pain" or go through this. Like I am. Maybe he was never capable of unconditional love. Maybe I was too passionate for him. Whatever the case we obviously were not meant to be. It just hurts so much because I feel like I have failed.

I went through the same thing - where I would just go home from work, shut the lights off and force myself to go to sleep to escape the pain - for weeks.
It took me about 3 months to feel "normal" again. It sometimes still hurts and it's almost 6 months now. All I could think about was that he was out and about having a great time with "others", and I was sitting in the dark agonizing over this. I questioned myself about alot of things, but when clarity set in, I realized that I am a wonderful person, with a gigantic heart, and someone else, will truly appreciate it and respect and take care of it. I too felt, was too passionate, too nururing, too "nice", too everything. I used to wish I was a jerk, because it wouldn't have ached so much, but I wouldn't change a thing. I have more dates than I could handle, wonderful friends, a great family - focus on the things you have in your life and the blessings, not what you don't. We don't need guys like yours and mine in our lives to make us miserable. It's truly their loss! Hang in there please, I promise it will get better!
Hugs

I runing out of tisus here—