Moving to his city... maybe...?

After ideas on how to broach this subject with a Virgo man.
We grew up together, but haven't seen each other for 10 years until recently.
What we both thought of as a fling was great fun, and we've kept in touch and love flirting away- at a distance.
See here is the thing, I am thinking a relocation is in order for personal growth in my life and the city/ country I'm considering is where he currently resides... I have visited there early this year, have other friends and cousins over there and think the city is fabulous.

But should I tell this Virgo in advance, or would it freak him out? I know you earth types like to take things slow and easy, but I'd feel a bit disrespectful just showing up there without mentioning it to him... I guess at this point I'm still getting my ducks in a row and there is no point saying anything until I have decided but what is your opinion here?? -Cheeky/ casual mention? I'm heading back across -short trip to make up my mind- in another couple of weeks and should I wait until I can see him or is via message a little less intense...

So many questions?! 😛

Oh! and...

Me
Sun Scorpio 28.46 Ascendant Aquarius 12.16
Moon Taurus 9.45
Mercury Scorpio 9.22
Venus Libra 26.09
Mars Sagittarius 29.09

Him
Sun Virgo 28.08
Moon Aquarius 9.40
Mercury Libra 17.15
Venus Leo 14.15
Mars Scorpio 15.09

An Aqua here and I know you want Virgo's opinion, but here's my 2 cents.

I would tell him in passing, casually like. Would work best face to face or over the phone, but text/MSM would still work. Let the conversation flow, when it reaches a natural break, just drop it into conversation.

"Oh, and by the way, I think I might be moving to ".....". I've got some cousins over there and they have recommended me somewhere to say. I could do with a change of scenery and really looking forward to it actually."

Make sure you include the detail, it hides the important fact that you are moving to his city. Make sure whatever the detail is, it's true. Start talking about a park or whatever that you will be moving close to, that you will enjoy spending time in.

Posted by LilliLou

What we both thought of as a fling was great fun, and we've kept in touch and love flirting away- at a distance.

See here is the thing, I am thinking a relocation is in order for personal growth in my life and the city/ country I'm considering is where he currently resides...

In the first sentence above, you said, "What we both thought ...", which makes the insinuation that his thoughts are inline with yours, to mean that both of you were in error of your original thought. And that is a false statement, considering you then proceed to want to know how to break the news to him.

So, in reality ... his thoughts are still the same, while you want to change the terms, which means he is still satisfied with the terms of the relationship, while YOU are lying to him in how you view the terms and therefore wish to change them.

To address the second part above .... there are millions of cities in this world, and you could start a new life in any of them. You choose this one because you want to force your change of terms on the Virgo, but, are too coward to say the truth, much less face it.

I really don't see anything wrong with you catching feelings and wanting more ... I do see it being very wrong that you want to manipulate the situation with deceptive tactics.

Due to the situation in my home town this move- specifically to —his?? city- has been on the cards for a while. In fact it was one of the first things he asked about when we first caught up. I said that I loved the place and he asked if I would ever move there, when I said I had been considering it he told me —several times- that I should.
But that was before the fling happened, hence my uncertainty now.
I am not moving there for him. But as he is there and a very cool cat that I would like to get to know better I really don't want to misstep at this stage.

@whiterebbit- thanks! We both have lots of aqua in our charts and this is definitely along my original line of thought.

@P-Angel, don't really see how I was lying. In the past tense the statement is correct- we did both think of it as a fling. However what it is now, or could be in the future is of interest to me. So what you said about manipulation is spot on. I think that is why I am anxious to avoid being seen to be pulling strings, or appearing too indifferent either.

@Tiz??_ I??ll readily admit to being a little scaredy cat in these matters!!! I always seem to get these things wrong. I guess as it is early days, we are not in a relationship or anything I don't know if he??d feel a bit cornered. I do think having read your comment it is best to discuss in person and definitely without being flippant. Honest and open, and we??ll see what happens??_?

^^^ Thanks! Overarching everything is the need for my own personal growth and what you have said resonates with another interesting thread about the dynamics involved in what you are/ you attract. I think that is my next lesson!