@VirgoSquirrel
10 Years
Obsessive
Posted by VirgoSquirrel
dear virgals and virguys i need your help:I wanted to know, do you ever get obsessed when you have feelings for someone (even small ones ?)
Do you have any tips or personal techniques on how to stop obsessing ? I catch myself having feelings for a guy re surface recently and i am starting to obsess about him again but i dont want to because the relationship is not meant to be. Can anyone please help me ? I m tired of my brain making me think about him all the time, it's draining.
Nothing comes to mind except lobotomy.
But get second opinion. I am not a doctor.
Though i am suffering from this illness for almost a decade now.
So there is not going to be any solution.
Enjoy the ride. ;(
Posted by BadBoy
Find a hobby?
That IS the hobby. Don't you get it?
We love to suffer.
It's the best long lasting hobby that doesn't drain your bank account unless you buy him Lamborghini...
Posted by BadBoy
Find a hobby?
Worked for a too short while.
Posted by yupvirgoo
@VirgoSquirrelOh definitely.
I think Virgos are pretty obsessive.
You just have to find a way to distract yourself with other things.
That's what i do, but you know from time to time i get lost in my thoughts and boum i start obsessing all over again. Even when i'm surrounded by friends, especially if i have been drinking.
Posted by bubbythewhale1
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by VirgoSquirrel
dear virgals and virguys i need your help:I wanted to know, do you ever get obsessed when you have feelings for someone (even small ones ?)
Do you have any tips or personal techniques on how to stop obsessing ? I catch myself having feelings for a guy re surface recently and i am starting to obsess about him again but i dont want to because the relationship is not meant to be. Can anyone please help me ? I m tired of my brain making me think about him all the time, it's draining.
Nothing comes to mind except lobotomy.
But get second opinion. I am not a doctor.
Though i am suffering from this illness for almost a decade now.
So there is not going to be any solution.
Enjoy the ride. ;(
I was just telling a friend that a lobotomy might be a solution because my brain is tired
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Does your insurance cover it? LOL
Posted by bubbythewhale1
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by bubbythewhale1
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by VirgoSquirrel
dear virgals and virguys i need your help:I wanted to know, do you ever get obsessed when you have feelings for someone (even small ones ?)
Do you have any tips or personal techniques on how to stop obsessing ? I catch myself having feelings for a guy re surface recently and i am starting to obsess about him again but i dont want to because the relationship is not meant to be. Can anyone please help me ? I m tired of my brain making me think about him all the time, it's draining.
Nothing comes to mind except lobotomy.
But get second opinion. I am not a doctor.
Though i am suffering from this illness for almost a decade now.
So there is not going to be any solution.
Enjoy the ride. ;(
I was just telling a friend that a lobotomy might be a solution because my brain is tired
Does your insurance cover it? LOL
We won't find out until Jan 1, cross your fingers!
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Are we gonna make it? LOL
Posted by bubbythewhale1
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by bubbythewhale1
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by bubbythewhale1
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by VirgoSquirrel
dear virgals and virguys i need your help:I wanted to know, do you ever get obsessed when you have feelings for someone (even small ones ?)
Do you have any tips or personal techniques on how to stop obsessing ? I catch myself having feelings for a guy re surface recently and i am starting to obsess about him again but i dont want to because the relationship is not meant to be. Can anyone please help me ? I m tired of my brain making me think about him all the time, it's draining.
Nothing comes to mind except lobotomy.
But get second opinion. I am not a doctor.
Though i am suffering from this illness for almost a decade now.
So there is not going to be any solution.
Enjoy the ride. ;(
I was just telling a friend that a lobotomy might be a solution because my brain is tired
Does your insurance cover it? LOL
We won't find out until Jan 1, cross your fingers!
Are we gonna make it? LOL
Its a 50/50 chance at this point 😱
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Its good we have 50% ...but its sucks we don't have 50% EITHER...
Its like +50 - 50 = 0! OMG!
Posted by Trifle
Posted by VirgoSquirrel
dear virgals and virguys i need your help:I wanted to know, do you ever get obsessed when you have feelings for someone (even small ones ?)
Do you have any tips or personal techniques on how to stop obsessing ? I catch myself having feelings for a guy re surface recently and i am starting to obsess about him again but i dont want to because the relationship is not meant to be. Can anyone please help me ? I m tired of my brain making me think about him all the time, it's draining.
No, I don't get obssessed mainly because I know how to compartmentalize my priorities mentally and view obssession as unhealthy.
Instead of thinking about that person 24/7, try to think about other things that you still have/want to do, hang out with your friends, travel alone or with your family/friends, read a book, practice meditation/yoga, take a run, exercise etc. anything to help you and your mind get pre-occupied with other things.
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I definitely should start runing again yep, thanks
To fix this I try to obsess over different things and then I have double the things to obsess with. Virgo problems I suppose?
Virgos in general are really obsessive. About anything.
We wanna know how things work, why they work, when, where, what.
Everything, so we do research until we're satisfied which may be for quite some time.
... I may be a tad bit obsessive about whoever I'm dating but I mean ? ... I just want to understand them so
What do you mean by the relationship is not meant to be?
If you're referring to obsessing over a person, I make a mental list of everything for why it would not work with said person per your 'not meant to be.' Then I make a mental note of why my feelings are silly per said list.
Also listen to music without lyrics ie. Classical or tech-drowns out your thoughts.
Posted by Virgorean
@VirgoSquirrelWhat do you mean by the relationship is not meant to be?
If you're referring to obsessing over a person, I make a mental list of everything for why it would not work with said person per your 'not meant to be.' Then I make a mental note of why my feelings are silly per said list.
Also listen to music without lyrics ie. Classical or tech-drowns out your thoughts.
He hurt my feelings in the past in an awful way and well it's an old story so feelings are probably unrequited. I think the problem is i am just remembering good stuff. Thanks for the advice, you are right, the lyrics hurt the most.
They say that scorpio get obessive but .. I'm a virgo and I'm obsessive . Even with people I don't necessarily like or don't even know . I see myself as very passionate . When I love something I LOVE IT . I can't stop talking about it , thinking about it .
When in romantic relationship , I'm going to be obsessed with the guy but not in a negative way . I would want to know everything I can about him - so social media stalking '' sorta'' . And I would think about him when I wake and when I go to bed . To be honest it can be quite exhausting to do this , but I can't help it . However I never make it obvious to the guy , they have never guessed it .
Maybe it's because I have my venus in leo ^^.
Posted by Already-use
They say that scorpio get obessive but .. I'm a virgo and I'm obsessive . Even with people I don't necessarily like or don't even know . I see myself as very passionate . When I love something I LOVE IT . I can't stop talking about it , thinking about it .When in romantic relationship , I'm going to be obsessed with the guy but not in a negative way . I would want to know everything I can about him - so social media stalking '' sorta'' . And I would think about him when I wake and when I go to bed . To be honest it can be quite exhausting to do this , but I can't help it . However I never make it obvious to the guy , they have never guessed it .
Maybe it's because I have my venus in leo ^^.
Same heeeeeere, venus in Libra though. Wondering if my scorpio moon combined to my virgo sun is making me obsessing 24/7 ugh
Posted by starwars
Idk if this is going to help but why not let yourself obsess over whoever that is? I feel like telling yourself not to will make you wanna obsess even more.I only wonder and think about exs if we ended on 'blurry' terms, get closure if that's the case
Exactly... Well since then the person i am obsessing over called me and wants to see me, but i still don't know what to do ugh on the one hand yes i am craving closure on the other hand it scares the hell out of me to see him again.
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dear virgals and virguys i need your help:
I wanted to know, do you ever get obsessed when you have feelings for someone (even small ones ?)
Do you have any tips or personal techniques on how to stop obsessing ? I catch myself having feelings for a guy re surface recently and i am starting to obsess about him again but i dont want to because the relationship is not meant to be. Can anyone please help me ? I m tired of my brain making me think about him all the time, it's draining.