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Older Virgos
Do Older Virgos Become More Serious About Love
Older Virgos tend to become more serious and committed in love as they mature. They often prioritize stability and meaningful relationships over casual dating. Their approach to love evolves with age, especially in their 40s and 50s, whether they are single or seeking to settle down again.
Well, he'll want to play around with some twenty something year olds first, until satisfied that he still has "it", then move onto the logic that a woman more his age is the mature route to settle down with.
hahahaha, we all know that doesn't happen in real life, only in the movies 🙂 Guys mess around with anything lol
hahahaha, we all know that doesn't happen in real life, only in the movies 🙂 Guys mess around with anything lol
^^I should say "virgos & love"
Well ... thats true ...
Hmmm, I wonder would they mess around with a thirty-something like they would a twenty-something lol
Well ... thats true ...
Hmmm, I wonder would they mess around with a thirty-something like they would a twenty-something lol
So older virgo guys like others that are of their own age to settle with? Hmmm, interesting.
First and foremost, intelligence, common sense and a mental compatibility.
Hmmm, okay -- I can see this. Looks seem to matter alot to younger virgo men but you the girl still has to be smart by "their" standards.
Hmmm, okay -- I can see this. Looks seem to matter alot to younger virgo men but you the girl still has to be smart by "their" standards.
From what I went through, I met the virgo when he was in his late thirties and I was in my early thirties. He did not commit for 3 years and now he is in his 40s.
At this point, love and intimacy is not of much importance but status and money is. He cheated on me playing behind my back with other cap who apparently has or shows to have more status than me. After three years I realized he wants to use his better half as a showoff and trophy to the world. I consider myself no body's trophy. To me that idea of him "showing off" his woman sounded very cheap. I have high self value and self respect. I kicked him out of my life.
Answer is , if you have more money and more status it will work. It does not matter if you really love him or if he loves you. He will make it work for status. It will be upto you to not get fooled by his flattery and attention considering it is his love for you. It is not, because he is basically attempting to "buy" someone. Since there emotional needs will not be addressed, it is possible they will have some emotional connection going on your back without you ever knowing. For virgos in 40s, status and money matters more than emotions.
And oh, they may also have some weird fantasies you will not be able to find out until late.
At this point, love and intimacy is not of much importance but status and money is. He cheated on me playing behind my back with other cap who apparently has or shows to have more status than me. After three years I realized he wants to use his better half as a showoff and trophy to the world. I consider myself no body's trophy. To me that idea of him "showing off" his woman sounded very cheap. I have high self value and self respect. I kicked him out of my life.
Answer is , if you have more money and more status it will work. It does not matter if you really love him or if he loves you. He will make it work for status. It will be upto you to not get fooled by his flattery and attention considering it is his love for you. It is not, because he is basically attempting to "buy" someone. Since there emotional needs will not be addressed, it is possible they will have some emotional connection going on your back without you ever knowing. For virgos in 40s, status and money matters more than emotions.
And oh, they may also have some weird fantasies you will not be able to find out until late.
Hi strange!
From what I went through, I met the virgo when he was in his late thirties and I was in my early thirties. He did not commit for 3 years and now he is in his 40s.
At this point, love and intimacy is not of much importance but status and money is. He cheated on me playing behind my back with other cap who apparently has or shows to have more status than me. After three years I realized he wants to use his better half as a showoff and trophy to the world.
OH BOY! Thats horrible! I'm sorry that happen to you 😢 Holy crap, he was an asshole.
From what I went through, I met the virgo when he was in his late thirties and I was in my early thirties. He did not commit for 3 years and now he is in his 40s.
At this point, love and intimacy is not of much importance but status and money is. He cheated on me playing behind my back with other cap who apparently has or shows to have more status than me. After three years I realized he wants to use his better half as a showoff and trophy to the world.
OH BOY! Thats horrible! I'm sorry that happen to you 😢 Holy crap, he was an asshole.
So basically, the older virgos are just as confusing as the younger ones ...
Correct.
I doubt some of them even really know, who they want to share their life with.
I doubt some of them even really know, who they want to share their life with.
I doubt some of them even really know, who they want to share their life with.
Well, you are hurting at the moment so I can see why you would feel this way, I'd would -- I think he was the scum of the earth 😢
Well, you are hurting at the moment so I can see why you would feel this way, I'd would -- I think he was the scum of the earth 😢
If you don't have what it takes on the inside, he'll see it, and he'll move on.
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With me he did not move on, neither did he commit. He wanted to drag me with him as far as he can. Big time player.
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With me he did not move on, neither did he commit. He wanted to drag me with him as far as he can. Big time player.
With me he did not move on, neither did he commit. He wanted to drag me with him as far as he can. Big time player.
Reminds me of a cancer I once dated actually. He was an ass when he was younger but he seemed to have matured and now he seems fairly decent :O
Reminds me of a cancer I once dated actually. He was an ass when he was younger but he seemed to have matured and now he seems fairly decent :O
From an astro point of view:
Many virgos are different I think -- whether they are Leo-Virgo cusp, Virgo I, Virgo II, Virgo III or Virgo-Libra cusp ... also, factor a few plantary elements there and you have yourself a full blown personality there lol
Many virgos are different I think -- whether they are Leo-Virgo cusp, Virgo I, Virgo II, Virgo III or Virgo-Libra cusp ... also, factor a few plantary elements there and you have yourself a full blown personality there lol
I will say that Virgo-Libras seem to be more in touch with sentiments ... only when no one is looking 😛 They seem to get into "things" deeply and theres nothing that can push them back, even an Aqua mooner ice queen 🙂
What about Virgo sun/ Aries moon —
And you allowed him to do so.
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Not exactly allowed him, he gave all subtle hints and signals to trap me into his head games. Some of which I understand just now. He used his charm to the maximum extent.
And just like you argue and prove he was good and it is all my fault, he did that too occasionaly . He would have done that on me when I kicked him out, but this time I did not let him do that. So some of you are very good at arguing and proving your points using best logic and your "intelligence" even though you might be knowing in your heart what wrong you did to others. It is that perception thing, you guys can't believe you are as bad as others, and no superior.
PS: Do not take it personally, when I say you, I am referring to some virgos not all. My father is a virgo too.
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Not exactly allowed him, he gave all subtle hints and signals to trap me into his head games. Some of which I understand just now. He used his charm to the maximum extent.
And just like you argue and prove he was good and it is all my fault, he did that too occasionaly . He would have done that on me when I kicked him out, but this time I did not let him do that. So some of you are very good at arguing and proving your points using best logic and your "intelligence" even though you might be knowing in your heart what wrong you did to others. It is that perception thing, you guys can't believe you are as bad as others, and no superior.
PS: Do not take it personally, when I say you, I am referring to some virgos not all. My father is a virgo too.
Passion most likely in everything they do. Perhaps it will also speed up the analyzing process?? Since Aries want something NOW...but that Virgo analyzer will probably balance things to keep the decision making unhasty.
I can totally see that!
I can totally see that!
Big red flag and a clue he was leading you on.
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OK, it takes time for me too I am slow, It was for 1.5 years we were very good friends that developed into something nice over time. I thought as i am slow he is slow too and I will invest my time in him. Things were perfect till that high status woman entered in his life. What puzzles me is, it meant he has no feelings for me because if he did, he would not have gone after money and status but emotions. If there are not feelings or emotions, based on materialistic match I can not live with someone. It must have the emotional stuff in it, everything else can be bought but the true love. He does not seem to understand it, but I know what I need, I need honestly, no tricks, no games, no manipulation, no deceit and yes I need pure emotions.
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OK, it takes time for me too I am slow, It was for 1.5 years we were very good friends that developed into something nice over time. I thought as i am slow he is slow too and I will invest my time in him. Things were perfect till that high status woman entered in his life. What puzzles me is, it meant he has no feelings for me because if he did, he would not have gone after money and status but emotions. If there are not feelings or emotions, based on materialistic match I can not live with someone. It must have the emotional stuff in it, everything else can be bought but the true love. He does not seem to understand it, but I know what I need, I need honestly, no tricks, no games, no manipulation, no deceit and yes I need pure emotions.
Not every virgo is like that it must be something in his chart. side note i also heard when virgos become older they become more of a player just a thought...
hint at the fact that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with you or wanted to grow old with you or something like that at all?
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Many times. We were about make plans for wedding date!!!
Stupid!
Noone - not even you will know what he "feels" for this woman. Maybe there was something there other than the outside factors.
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You know I thought about it. But what they have going on the facebook, it is apparent that the attraction not100% emotional.
What I noticed is the virgo is finding out things about her on the Internet. He is adding "friends" in the areas of her interests and hobbies. Note that I know so far this virgo did not have any of those hobbies or interests. His interestes are changed over night to match with that of hers. In addition he is also adding high profile people in his friends list. She in return adds yet higher profile people in her friends list. He in turn adds more high profiles, she does the same. So it is an online competition of showing off status and power on facebook.
The point is, by using your friends you are showing how powerful you are, it is not what exatcly who you are interenaly. Are you are basically playing an emotionl game to trick some one in. Does it take you far? How far? If I had to completely to adapt to someone's hobbies for life, one day I will rebel and get bored. My point is, things on facebook that he is showing to her are not completely honest, he is being who he is not. He will screwup her too. I am not sure if the cap is being real, cap is surely showing her status on line.
Nice game is on.
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Many times. We were about make plans for wedding date!!!
Stupid!
Noone - not even you will know what he "feels" for this woman. Maybe there was something there other than the outside factors.
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You know I thought about it. But what they have going on the facebook, it is apparent that the attraction not100% emotional.
What I noticed is the virgo is finding out things about her on the Internet. He is adding "friends" in the areas of her interests and hobbies. Note that I know so far this virgo did not have any of those hobbies or interests. His interestes are changed over night to match with that of hers. In addition he is also adding high profile people in his friends list. She in return adds yet higher profile people in her friends list. He in turn adds more high profiles, she does the same. So it is an online competition of showing off status and power on facebook.
The point is, by using your friends you are showing how powerful you are, it is not what exatcly who you are interenaly. Are you are basically playing an emotionl game to trick some one in. Does it take you far? How far? If I had to completely to adapt to someone's hobbies for life, one day I will rebel and get bored. My point is, things on facebook that he is showing to her are not completely honest, he is being who he is not. He will screwup her too. I am not sure if the cap is being real, cap is surely showing her status on line.
Nice game is on.
Why do people play emotional games with others? It now tells me he played those tricks with me too to trick me in, once he was 100% sure of me, he moved on to trick some one else. He never thought, I would leave him, which I did. He is shocked seeing I am not as weak as he may have thought of me. Thank God, I am saved for life.
It is interesting to see how unreal people can be online, best bet is to deal in person for personal matters. Internet allows one to hide behind the screen, edit it as they want, in person that does not happen much. Although part of me still loves him, I have no respect for him.
It is interesting to see how unreal people can be online, best bet is to deal in person for personal matters. Internet allows one to hide behind the screen, edit it as they want, in person that does not happen much. Although part of me still loves him, I have no respect for him.
Why do you guys never learn..??
Being in love and be passionate about it destroys the very foundation of a great friendship, no matter sign and age!
Question is??_
Do you want a lover or a friend..?
Being in love and be passionate about it destroys the very foundation of a great friendship, no matter sign and age!
Question is??_
Do you want a lover or a friend..?
Do you want a lover or a friend..?
BOTH.
BOTH.
I used to wonder why are they sort of copying, and from what I've heard they do this with people they like - to get closer to them.
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Ok. So the other person feels flattered and if that person is as stupid as I was, falls for them. Question is, copying other is not being your real self. Once you get closer and know all their details, you decide whether you want or do not want them. If you don't then you copy the next victim. Sounds good to me, we should pick up some of these emotional manipulation ways.
Down the road, the reality shows though.
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Ok. So the other person feels flattered and if that person is as stupid as I was, falls for them. Question is, copying other is not being your real self. Once you get closer and know all their details, you decide whether you want or do not want them. If you don't then you copy the next victim. Sounds good to me, we should pick up some of these emotional manipulation ways.
Down the road, the reality shows though.
She looks like his daughter in the picture. I am not sure if she is too young too!! It is not a physically nice match, I hope it does become an emotionally good match.
Damn...
Damn...
Like the saying:
You cannot have cake and eat too.
Seriously, loveship destroy friendship (I've been saying this as long as I remember here in DXP) especially it is tougher to understood by the younger people, when you get older you don't get serious about love thing anymore and it will be replaced by the trust (because you are round enough to tune into the needed frequencies anyway).
However, materialistic person (no matter sign) will always run for the status way (no matter age).
You cannot have cake and eat too.
Seriously, loveship destroy friendship (I've been saying this as long as I remember here in DXP) especially it is tougher to understood by the younger people, when you get older you don't get serious about love thing anymore and it will be replaced by the trust (because you are round enough to tune into the needed frequencies anyway).
However, materialistic person (no matter sign) will always run for the status way (no matter age).
just to run a 360 the other way
Sorry.. correcting 180??_ 360 is the same point he started.
😉
Sorry.. correcting 180??_ 360 is the same point he started.
😉
hmmm, I wonder if older men can take an sensitive and emotional woman. lol, I know some under the age of 40 who have a difficult time with a woman who cries, or who is upset and so on lol
She looks like his daughter in the picture. I am not sure if she is too young too!! It is not a physically nice match, I hope it does become an emotionally good match.
Strange, I don't know your story that well but I would say not to worry about what he's doing. The guy seems like an asshole and is no good for you from the start.
Strange, I don't know your story that well but I would say not to worry about what he's doing. The guy seems like an asshole and is no good for you from the start.
The guy seems like an marker and is no good for you from the start.
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Agree. Stopped totally.
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Agree. Stopped totally.
We are both capricorns you see 🙂 I know what its like when we are hurt, its like, "Hell have no fury" I tell you.
But thats not just with guys, thats with anything really, we don't really wavier that much lol. Hurt is hurt.
But thats not just with guys, thats with anything really, we don't really wavier that much lol. Hurt is hurt.
I wonder if older men can take a sensitive and emotional woman
Of course they do hell even I do. Only DRAMA QUEENS will be totally rejected!
Of course they do hell even I do. Only DRAMA QUEENS will be totally rejected!
Of course they do hell even I do. Only DRAMA QUEENS will be totally rejected!
Well, I'm no drama queen but I have my moments wear I'll cry my eyes out. hahaha, then I'll tell the guy to leave me the HELL ALONE!!!! heheheheehhehe 😉
Well, I'm no drama queen but I have my moments wear I'll cry my eyes out. hahaha, then I'll tell the guy to leave me the HELL ALONE!!!! heheheheehhehe 😉
Well, I'm no drama queen but I have my moments wear I'll cry my eyes out.
It is ok as long as you have a reason for this behaviour, drama queens DON??T!
It is ok as long as you have a reason for this behaviour, drama queens DON??T!
It is ok as long as you have a reason for this behaviour, drama queens DON??T!
Oh yeah 😛 I'm one big softy with it comes to feelings and things like that lol. Good grief, you have no idea.
I'll see what his reaction will be, I may cry tonight, depends on what comes to my mind while talking to him.
Oh yeah 😛 I'm one big softy with it comes to feelings and things like that lol. Good grief, you have no idea.
I'll see what his reaction will be, I may cry tonight, depends on what comes to my mind while talking to him.
You are 48 Qbone, hmmm, thats interesting .... 🙂 Maybe I can ask you more questions lol
Anytime, shoot.. !🙂
Most Men figure out the following - the rest remain Big Boys...
When I was young
I never needed anyone
And makin' love was just for fun
Those days are gone
Livin' alone
I think of all the friends I've known
But when I dial the telephone
Nobody's home
cappy: what point is a virgo man in around his 40s and 50s if he is not already married/divorced etc in his life?
A Virgo Man in his 40's / 50's who's single and has never been married has probably given up the idea of a wife, kids, and a house with a picket fence...
I can imagine such a VG as externally either calm & self-content; or, as remote & cynical. If I hadn't met and married another woman after LibraEX, I could have become a Comfortable Virgo Bachelor, who dates occasionally (a man has needs, after all), but otherwise maintains a quiet, contented, serenely single domestic life - think of James Garner in the movie, Murphy's Romance. [http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0089643/]
VGM: Don't think I know any Virgo/Libra cusps.
A-hem... I'm a September 22nd Virgo / Libra Cusper...
Isn't a virgo/libra cuspian 23rd September? 22nd comes up as virgo for sure..
Wikipedia says that The Virgo/Libra Cusp is approximately from dates September 19 to September 23.
This is true, but Wiki cusp dates are a bit off. Even their dates on decans are a little screwy. Its too complicated to explain.
But Yes, DY is a Virgo-Libra Cusp, actually .... the guy I'l speaking of is born on the 22nd too!!! 😄
Ohhhh, I have another virgo male to ask questions to, yes I do 😛
This is true, but Wiki cusp dates are a bit off. Even their dates on decans are a little screwy. Its too complicated to explain.
But Yes, DY is a Virgo-Libra Cusp, actually .... the guy I'l speaking of is born on the 22nd too!!! 😄
Ohhhh, I have another virgo male to ask questions to, yes I do 😛
A Virgo Man in his 40's / 50's who's single and has never been married has probably given up the idea of a wife, kids, and a house with a picket fence...
Oh no DY, he was ... well, almost married, but he called the engagement off. They were together for 9 years.
Oh no DY, he was ... well, almost married, but he called the engagement off. They were together for 9 years.
Anytime, shoot.. !
Sounds good to me ^_^.
Sounds good to me ^_^.
Most Men figure out the following - the rest remain Big Boys...
When I was young
I never needed anyone
And makin' love was just for fun
Those days are gone
Livin' alone
I think of all the friends I've known
But when I dial the telephone
Nobody's home
DY8, This is some of the best used wording I have seen, boy does it seem to fit.....thanks for sharing it!
When I was young
I never needed anyone
And makin' love was just for fun
Those days are gone
Livin' alone
I think of all the friends I've known
But when I dial the telephone
Nobody's home
DY8, This is some of the best used wording I have seen, boy does it seem to fit.....thanks for sharing it!
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